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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Ikpunnegi01: 1:52pm On Oct 03, 2023
Kriss216:
What's the essence of struggling to attend to school when you can just get an Oluwole certificate and become the president of Nigeria.
They gonna come for your head 😂
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Kakamorufu(m): 1:52pm On Oct 03, 2023
Kobojunkie:
They will probably get back to him with excuses as to how they used it for something other than the kids school fees. lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Then OYO is their case. The OP has tried
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by PaperWorld: 1:52pm On Oct 03, 2023
cool embarassed embarassed
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by omoredia: 1:53pm On Oct 03, 2023
What i can decode is

1. He is an apc member

2. He is waiting for Tinubu settlement

3. Avoid him or he will bring u down as well
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by AbujaLagos: 1:53pm On Oct 03, 2023
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
It is well bro...

Sometimes when I look at my dad,I only wonder how he managed to do it....As in,how he managed to take care of my brothers and I after the death of my mom despite being jobless..............There was never a time we went hungry...We were even privileged to attend one of the best private school in town...Tho there were challenges along the line but it really helped shaped us into being what and who we are becoming....



Op, it's never been easy...........But trust me, there's no wicked father anywhere who would fold his hands and watch his children lack when he has the ability to solve their problem....

May we become fathers and not only fathers but the type that will be able to provide eveey basic need of our wards and our parents and every loved one 🙏
amen

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by isabi2lof: 1:53pm On Oct 03, 2023
Your mom is an enbler , so many parents are fond of that , especially in Nigeria, they'll train just one person in order for the person to train 5 or 6 of his or her siblings, depending on the number of siblings that particular person has.

It's high time you take your stand , if not your enemy will go back to square 1 ,and later on , same people will laugh at you.

Assist when you have , and also learn to say no .

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by FreeStuffsNG: 1:53pm On Oct 03, 2023
victooman:
Since l was born, since l got to know my father it has been one complain to the other..
There was never anytime he have money or have the financial strength to Carry out any family responsibility .
After struggling to finish University with no any job l started Pos business were l am managing myself,, the constant demand is killing my business ..
Today my mother called me that my sister is about to be enrolled into secondary school and the total amount for registration is 25k, l called my dad and told him that l will try raising 15k and they should complete the remaining 10k, he started complaining on how he doesn't have money and haven't eaten since yesterday,, in fact l am tired dear Nairalanders,
Reminds me of Okonkwo's father in "Things Fall Apart ". I think his name is Unoka or so. Just manage am like that my Bro. If he doesn't have money doesn't mean he is irresponsible o. Let him not make you offend God.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by AbujaLagos: 1:53pm On Oct 03, 2023
omoredia:
What i can decode is

1. He is an apc member

2. He is waiting for Tinubu settlement

3. Avoid him or he will bring u down as well
sorry bro
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Truthshotcrazy: 1:54pm On Oct 03, 2023
victooman:
Since l was born, since l got to know my father it has been one complain to the other..
There was never anytime he have money or have the financial strength to Carry out any family responsibility .
After struggling to finish University with no any job l started Pos business were l am managing myself,, the constant demand is killing my business ..
Today my mother called me that my sister is about to be enrolled into secondary school and the total amount for registration is 25k, l called my dad and told him that l will try raising 15k and they should complete the remaining 10k, he started complaining on how he doesn't have money and haven't eaten since yesterday,, in fact l am tired dear Nairalanders,
Must she attend private school? Education is free in government school. Since 25k is big deal. Get her enrolled in government secondary school

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Ubanz: 1:54pm On Oct 03, 2023
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
It is well bro...

Sometimes when I look at my dad,I only wonder how he managed to do it....As in,how he managed to take care of my brothers and I after the death of my mom despite being jobless..............There was never a time we went hungry...We were even privileged to attend one of the best private school in town...Tho there were challenges along the line but it really helped shaped us into being what and who we are becoming....



Op, it's never been easy...........But trust me, there's no wicked father anywhere who would fold his hands and watch his children lack when he has the ability to solve their problem....

May we become fathers and not only fathers but the type that will be able to provide eveey basic need of our wards and our parents and every loved one 🙏

So there are some same people in Nairaland.
Remain blessed Bro.

About the OP , your father is not irresponsible. It's just that he is a victim of the Nigerian process.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by elbukaze(m): 1:55pm On Oct 03, 2023
Oga, I don't just want to abuse you, but it's very foolish of you to sound this way, you that's complaining that your father couldn't raise the money, but he has raised you and send you to the university, what's your contribution to the family, why don't you have all the money, your Dad told you that he has not eaten since yesterday, your sympathy to him is coming to Naira land and call him irresponsible, do you even care to know what he's passing through. Between you and your father, you are the irresponsible person here.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Toonice(m): 1:55pm On Oct 03, 2023
My own dad is even fair, but he Bleep up in some area, he retired as assistant director of DSS and he didn't take care of us as a children. Not even fixing some of us into federal job. Am struggling to survive. Sometimes I feel like taken my life because it's not easy.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by spiSeyi: 1:56pm On Oct 03, 2023
Take care of him because nothing can justify otherwise against him, and be responsible to your kids
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by dododawa1: 1:56pm On Oct 03, 2023
NIGERIA leaders caused it
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by plsdisvirginme: 1:57pm On Oct 03, 2023
victooman:
Since l was born, since l got to know my father it has been one complain to the other..
There was never anytime he have money or have the financial strength to Carry out any family responsibility .
After struggling to finish University with no any job l started Pos business were l am managing myself,, the constant demand is killing my business ..
Today my mother called me that my sister is about to be enrolled into secondary school and the total amount for registration is 25k, l called my dad and told him that l will try raising 15k and they should complete the remaining 10k, he started complaining on how he doesn't have money and haven't eaten since yesterday,, in fact l am tired dear Nairalanders,
..
How old are you?

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by isabi2lof: 1:57pm On Oct 03, 2023
julybaba:



😀😀
The old man is trying to live long by avoiding family problems like billing.

He is just smart by half, because the life of a man is only meaningful if he has a sense of responsibility towards his family.

It is not easy, but it is a joyful burden.

You called that smart , no wonder we've so many of them out there .

After you born pikin finish , na another person go help you train them , if women dey do jacky work upandan , I no no the excuse wey man wan give apart from sickness.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by AZControversial(m): 1:57pm On Oct 03, 2023
Kriss216:
What's the essence of struggling to attend to school when you can just get an Oluwole certificate and become the president of Nigeria.
wink

Because being the president of Nigeria is not the only thing to look forward to in life......
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by CooldipoMPS: 1:58pm On Oct 03, 2023
shocked
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by elbukaze(m): 1:59pm On Oct 03, 2023
plsdisvirginme:
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How old are you?

He's tata, let him come and suck breast, what an irresponsible child.
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by project8(m): 1:59pm On Oct 03, 2023
One day u will also become a father maybe then u will understand life better.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by kevwemike: 1:59pm On Oct 03, 2023
U are not a good child. For calling ur father that name
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by casualobserver: 2:00pm On Oct 03, 2023
victooman:
Since l was born, since l got to know my father it has been one complain to the other..
There was never anytime he have money or have the financial strength to Carry out any family responsibility .
After struggling to finish University with no any job l started Pos business were l am managing myself,, the constant demand is killing my business ..
Today my mother called me that my sister is about to be enrolled into secondary school and the total amount for registration is 25k, l called my dad and told him that l will try raising 15k and they should complete the remaining 10k, he started complaining on how he doesn't have money and haven't eaten since yesterday,, in fact l am tired dear Nairalanders,

Maybe you should ask your mother why she had at least 2 children with an “irresponsible” man.

Sounds to me your father is not the only irresponsible person in this story. The quicker you acknowledge your mothers failings in this, the quicker you understand not to make the same errors yourself.

Everybody carries a cross in life, this is yours, the quicker you accept your parents are flawed without disrespecting them and moving on with your life the better for you. You do what you can and leave the rest to God.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Kobojunkie: 2:01pm On Oct 03, 2023
babamadiba:
In all you do, never disrespect him.
:Na this mentality make Nigeria the way it is today. undecided

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Niceessien(m): 2:02pm On Oct 03, 2023
Kriss216:
What's the essence of struggling to attend to school when you can just get an Oluwole certificate and become the president of Nigeria.

Orr he can even go to Chicago and hustle
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by plsdisvirginme: 2:02pm On Oct 03, 2023
elbukaze:


He's tata, let him come and suck breast, what an irresponsible child.
..
You can breastfeed him please madam
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by sulaak(m): 2:03pm On Oct 03, 2023
victooman:
Since l was born, since l got to know my father it has been one complain to the other..
There was never anytime he have money or have the financial strength to Carry out any family responsibility .
After struggling to finish University with no any job l started Pos business were l am managing myself,, the constant demand is killing my business ..
Today my mother called me that my sister is about to be enrolled into secondary school and the total amount for registration is 25k, l called my dad and told him that l will try raising 15k and they should complete the remaining 10k, he started complaining on how he doesn't have money and haven't eaten since yesterday,, in fact l am tired dear Nairalanders,

Why is your mother asking you to fund your sister's education?

If the father is not providing, they should kick him out of the house and between you and your mother fund your sister's education. Irresponsible men should be kicked out of the house.
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Nobody: 2:03pm On Oct 03, 2023
Leave him for God.
What else do you wanna do? If accidentally anything wrong happens to the man now, they'll say it was you who killed him.

Just keep talking to him in a calm way since he's your father. Don't forget to stand in the gap for him too. I mean, intercessory prayers.
He's your only father, last last. wink

Good luck
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Ezekiel2122(m): 2:03pm On Oct 03, 2023
Sorry about that, but if I may ask, did he has and doesn't want to give or has none at all?
He's working and still complaining to have nothing or not working at all?
Though, being irresponsible has no other word than that but it's always a good ideal to analyze problems from grassroot and find solution.
If he's working and still complaining, a review of financial status is highly required by calling all the family together and have a discussion and if he has no work, I think getting one will help....
My opinion though...
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Jydo2000: 2:03pm On Oct 03, 2023
Please, leave that man alone, you can't change him. And mind you, he will live very long cos people like him live long on earth.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by 1x2x3: 2:04pm On Oct 03, 2023
Your mama no fit raise 10K also?

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Flier: 2:04pm On Oct 03, 2023
You have finished university and you still have sister who just finished primary school? Your father didn’t try at all and I am sure you are up to 6 in your family
Anyway it’s your cross you must carry it
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by 1x2x3: 2:05pm On Oct 03, 2023
sulaak:


Why is your mother asking you to fund your sister's education?

If the father is not providing, they should kick him out of the house and between you and your mother fund your sister's education. Irresponsible men should be kicked out of the house.

The mother sef seem irresponsible as well if she can't raise 10K.

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