So, i was thinking, i would have a low-key marriage, registry + a lil party*me, wife, parents and siblings*, all on friday. Sunday next week, bump into a good friend, who is sore he was not informed, i explain and apologise. Ditto for wifey's friends, family friends' wifey and i, office mates and so on. Wont it be a helluva days after wedding + honeymoon to start explaining and apologising?
Would love to read your opinions for or against closed ( very low-key) marriages.
Enjoy!

Your list plus a few important friends and family though, a low-key wedding for me anyday anytime.less trouble,less spending.
One line should do for explanation.here it goes-we just wanted something low-key.simples!

@slimyem Thats right and i agree with you but not when spouse's friend tell some also special friends. That line is good but you will still apologise to senior family friends.

@iice thats what you do! Thats brave, but why is it the norm?

It is your wedding do not let anyone pressure you into anything. If you want you can still sent an announcement but not an invitation. Something more like just letting them know that a wedding has taken place or will take place.

My guys just go ahead and do ur wedding the way u want it - low key. The most important thing is a successful married life not necessarily world publicized wedding.
I encourage u to kip it low.

In as much as I'd like a low keyed wedding,I think I want my besty and about 3 other special friends to be present.

love is only between 2 pple. Therefore you should have a low key event and put everything into God's hand.

lots of people will keep saying; i want a low key wedding but look at the streets, halls, hotels and churches every Saturday, what do you see? your guess is as good as mine.
lots of ladies are hypocritical about this issue.

Marriage is marriage.
We should not marry to throw a party to impress the society and when the party is over, life goes on as usual.

Only fools borrow to wed.

When one of the very few pastors I respect in Nigeria got married, there were only four people at his VERY PRIVATE WEDDING and till date he is still happily married to his beautiful wife and mother of his lovely children.

What matters most in marriage is not even the ceremony, but the sanctity.
Marriage is sacred.

No amount of money spent on a wedding can make a wrong marriage right.

A wrong marriage is when the wrong couples wed.

Like the recent marriage between a popular Nollywood actress which started from adultery, because she was already sleeping with the man before he "divorced" his estranged wife.
How can you marry a man when his home is on fire?
Because he is rich?
If he were a poor truck pusher, would she have married him?

Any marriage based on lust or greed is a wrong marriage.

You can deceive the society with a glamourous wedding, but God knows that it is an adulterous marriage.

Many men and women lie about their past to deceive ignorant lovers into marriage. But the consequences are often grave in the end.

Fake pastors or fake ministers of God also conduct adulterous marriages and no marriage ceremony can hide the truth.

What is the foundation of the marriage?

Wise decision but you have to inform your family members beyond your siblings even if it means that they won't attend. Something like 20 people from your side and maximum of 20 from your spouse too should be okay. By the time you listed 20 people, you'll discover that most important people will have been listed. That's what I'm planning to do too, very soon.

To my greatest surprise, this is the first time I would see females giving in for low key wedding. All the females I have come accros never liked the term low-key, they like taking aso ebi a lot, they like calling their friends and members of the clubs and societies their parents belong to, just because of the money they would get on that day,

I give Kudos to the ladies that have responded positively on this type of wedding,


I also like it, lol, cos it is more economical, LMAO

Low key wedding is very much appropriate but make sure you are able to convince your wife having her confidence in the process as this is very important.

MARRIAGE IS A TWO WAY THING.

Mine will be high key marriage o. I no dey form for that one.

iice what does your signature mean?

@ Abbott - been there, done it, have no regrets. Our families didn't have a problem with it though some would have liked us to change location.  

As for the people who asked afterwards, I simply said it was what we wanted and it was less complicated.  No one questioned me and I didn't feel the need to justify what we did. One big advantage I can tell you about was that we had NO STRESS whatsoever.

If you feel the need to tell everyone who's bank-rolled/financed your life then you won't be having a low-keyed ceremony. If you are adults and your parents respect your decision, it's up to you and your Fiancee to get married the way you want to.

exactly what i'll be doing this december.

as a matter of fact it will be on a wednesday, late morning

when half of the guests (probably 20) will be at work.

to hell with bridal train, and all that crap.

money is not the issue. Just the way i want it to be.

A friend of mine, some years back did same. His uncle then was a governor.

so money wasn't the issue here at all.

I got to know about the wedding that evening. He just called and said sorry oh, this is what happened.

I wanted it that way. make you no vex. Period

if marriage is going to be a low key marriage, there should be agreement between the couples. Afterall, not all cash should be spent on the d-day only to be broke, looking for money to maintain home

people saying low-key are not honest

girls are competing when it comes to weddings, they wanna out do each other with effizzy.

whether low or high key, none is a crime. Let's not try to cast aspersions on any,. Christ himself attended a wedding feast. Just cut your cloak according to your size. Marriage is no competition. The world is looking at the marriage, not the ceremony.

@poster. Do whatever is u and ur fiancee are comfortable with. Believe me, no matter how big ur wedding is, some pple will still complain dt they were not informed. At ur planning stage u'll need to be careful and firm cos some pple will advise you based on their selfish interest and what they stand to benefit. Got married few months ago and I tell u, even though we had about 300 guests, complaints were flying here and there that we did selective invitation. Some old friends/classmates that we've lost contact with for donkey years claimed to be left out. Infact, one of them advised that I should have made my wedding a re-union for alumni, not a bad idea but since she conceived it, I wonder why she didnt make hers alumni-get together . So no matter how hard u try, some might still feel offended. So why not to it your own way and be happy

iice:

Means you can't get blood from a stone

Lol, nice Japanese proverb. Recently began learning Japanese.

<Abeg, make una ignore my off topic comment )

Why do you have to apologise for doing what you wished? You married your wife in a style you both wanted. If they can't appreciate your choice, let them eat ice cream and wallow. I plan on having a small wedding myself. I don't think my parents will even be invited. Just three guests. Myself, fiance, and the person performing the wedding lol. I don't like noise and all that stress that comes with living up to people's expectations. It's not their marriage. I'm glad you did it how you wanted.

clementcro:

To my greatest surprise, this is the first time I would see females giving in for low key wedding. All the females I have come accros never liked the term low-key, they like taking aso ebi a lot, they like calling their friends and members of the clubs and societies their parents belong to, just because of the money they would get on that day,

I give Kudos to the ladies that have responded positively on this type of wedding,


I also like it, lol, cos it is more economical, LMAO

no b small ting bro.i no fit shout sef

It depends.if d couple can afford a high class weddin.y nt?bt a low key wedding isnt so bad esp if finances r low.as 4 me i've always dreamed of a beautiful weddin.nt extremely extravagant bt at least i'd be a cinderella for just dat day.

Low key wedding can be Classsy, Simple and Stressfree, It's no bad idea.

wedding is more or less a business venture this days and just to show off for people who are going for a high-key marriage ceremony, life after the ceremony is what matters,weather low or high,a marriage that is not destined by the word God will fail,