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Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by samology2000: 10:12pm On Dec 01, 2023
Bringing up child(ren) is the responsibility of both parents. But atime unpleasant situation ( rape, death, divorce) might come up which may lead to single parents taking responsibility in bringing up child/children.

Considering the situation mention above which of the parents is better in bringing up responsible child/children

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by CoronaVirusPro: 10:15pm On Dec 01, 2023
Their shouldn't be a debate here!

Single fathers raise the best kids!

Point out a prostitute/thug raised by a man and I will show you a thousand of them raised by a woman.

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Kingozymandias(m): 10:26pm On Dec 01, 2023
The home is not meant to be single however single father's do better.

Single mothers raise criminals, rapists, fraudsters and armed robbers
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Kobojunkie: 10:26pm On Dec 01, 2023
samology2000:
Bringing up child(ren) is the responsibility of both parents. But atime unpleasant situation ( rape, death, divorce) might come up which may lead to single parents taking responsibility in bringing up child/children.
Considering the situation mention above which of the parents is better in bringing up responsible child/children
Gender has nothing to do with raising responsible children. It takes an emotionally, and socially intelligent parent to raise a responsible human being. undecided

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by sexy74(m): 11:01pm On Dec 01, 2023
The better person to raise up a child is normally the one that is more responsible between the parents.
It the father is stable naturally want to raise the children to turn out well not wanting them to make mistakes he did.

Most single mothers always rais3 their children with hatred for the man been built into the kids.

When you see kids raised up by a single mother no matter how responsible she is tends to bring the kids up 2ith hatred for their father.
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by kkins25(m): 11:38pm On Dec 01, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Gender has nothing to do with raising responsible children. It takes an emotionally, and socially intelligent parent to raise a responsible human being. undecided

Does that mean, considering the stats, that single mothers, more often than single fathers, are less "emotionally and socially intelligent?"

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Kobojunkie: 11:40pm On Dec 01, 2023
kkins25:
■ Does that mean, considering the stats, that single mothers, more often than single fathers, are less "emotionally and socially intelligent?"
How many single fathers --- actually caring fulltime for their kids--- are out there compared to single mothers ? undecided

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by CoronaVirusPro: 11:45pm On Dec 01, 2023
sexy74:
The better person to raise up a child is normally the one that is more responsible between the parents.
It the father is stable naturally want to raise the children to turn out well not wanting them to make mistakes he did.

Most single mothers always rais3 their children with hatred for the man been built into the kids.

When you see kids raised up by a single mother no matter how responsible she is tends to bring the kids up 2ith hatred for their father.

Case closed!

You nailed it!
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by kkins25(m): 11:47pm On Dec 01, 2023
samology2000:
Bringing up child(ren) is the responsibility of both parents. But atime unpleasant situation ( rape, death, divorce) might come up which may lead to single parents taking responsibility in bringing up child/children.

Considering the situation mentioned above which of the parents is better in bringing up responsible child/children


There are many "but" to your last statement. The data shows that single mothers are often less financially capable and unavailable to be a part of the children's lives because they take on more hours at work. In some cases, it's mental exhaustion from having to raise the kid alone, finance-wise and emotion-wise. Other times, it more of the demographic of the affected single mother. non-whites often fall into the categories above than white women.


Kobojunkie:
How many single fathers --- actually carrying fulltime for their kids--- are out there compared to single mothers ? undecided

That's like saying, there are more people in USA than they are in Nigeria, so the standard of living of two countries are not comparable. We have statistical methods, which take care of that. So, that argument is an L.
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Kobojunkie: 11:48pm On Dec 01, 2023
kkins25:
There are many "but" to your last statement. The data shows that single mothers are often less financially capable and unavailable to be a part of the children's lives because they take on more hours at work. In some cases, it's mental exhaustion from having to raise the kid alone, finance-wise and emotion-wise. Other times, it more of the demographic of the affected single mother. non-whites often fall into the categories above than white women.
■ That's like saying, there are more people in USA, so the standard of living of two countries are not comparable. We have statistical methods, which take care of that. So, that argument is an L
.
Again, How many single fathers --- caring fulltime for their kids--- are out there compared to single mothers? undecided

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by ERCROSS(m): 11:59pm On Dec 01, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Again, How many single fathers --- caring fulltime for their kids--- are out there compared to single mothers? undecided

What do you mean by a fulltime care?
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Kobojunkie: 12:05am On Dec 02, 2023
ERCROSS:
■ What do you mean by a fulltime care?
Most single Nigerian mothers do not have the child on a part-time basis — shared custody—, right? So, how many single —unattached— Nigerian fathers are out there compared to single mothers? undecided

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by kkins25(m): 12:41am On Dec 02, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Again, How many single fathers --- caring fulltime for their kids--- are out there compared to single mothers? undecided
And again, we can use a variety of statistical analyses to balance the equation. There's no such thing as "many single fathers...?"

There are single fathers and there are single mothers. One demographic produces "bad" kids than the other. That's what the data says.

Again, your argument is an L. The difference in the number of Single Fathers and mothers is irrelevant.

Instead, the main factor that gives the "single mothers are bad mothers" some reparation is that:
1) Single mothers are more likely to be on the lower income side of the spectrum.
2) Single mothers are more likely to isolate the father from the child's life. Don't argue this, please, less I demand for your moniker. SINGLE MOTHERS ENSURE THEIR FATHERS DON'T COME IN CONTACT WITH THE KIDS, EVEN IF THE FATHER WANT TO REMAIN IN THE CHILD'S LIFE. Some go to the extent as painting the Father evil just to poison the mind of the kids. (Tells you a lot about women doesn't it)
3) it's easier for single Fathers to get the influence of another woman(new girlfriend or new wife) than it is for women to find new fathers for their kids. There's a biological aspect to this, too.
4) Single mothers are more vulnerable to emotional stress than men. This always robs off on the kids.
5) Single mothers are very "strict" with parenting and are more likely to drive the children into depression. This again is due to emotional fortitude.
6) Single Fathers are only lucky to get custody of their children if their mother is demonstrably incapable of raising the kids. That means, to support your claim, the single fathers out there are actually the "best men" society has to offer. Compared to the pool of women who aren't so much better people.

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by kkins25(m): 12:42am On Dec 02, 2023
ERCROSS:


What do you mean by a fulltime care?
kobo's arguments are irrelevant. See my post above.
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Kobojunkie: 12:45am On Dec 02, 2023
kkins25:
■ And again, we can use a variety of statistical analyses to balance the equation. There's no such thing as "many single fathers...?"
What is the percentage of single— non-cohabitating —Nigerian fathers out there compared to single Nigerian mothers? undecided

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by kkins25(m): 12:51am On Dec 02, 2023
Kobojunkie:
What is the percentage of single Nigerian fathers out there compared to single Nigerian mothers? undecided

ohhhhh!!!!!! Why are you so sturbbon? grin grin grin grin grin

chi-square test,
t-test,
Z-test,
anova test ,
binomial test,
one sample median test etc.

We encounter this problem all the time and we use any of the above to handle statitica differences. Forget about Nigeria, it's the same every where. And I've given you what studies suggest make single fathers better compared to single mothers. cheesy cheesy KOBO 0: KKINs 2.
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Kobojunkie: 12:53am On Dec 02, 2023
ERCross, as far as families in the USA, there is no established data that suggests children raised by single fathers turn out better than those raised by single mothers. undecided
5. While the research on single fathers is limited, studies show that children in single-father families fare about as well as children in single-mother families on many outcomes, although there are differences. In a literature review of research on single-fathers dating from the 1970s through 2015, Roberta Coles concluded that compared to children in single-mother families,

With a few possible exceptions, the children of single fathers do about as well in terms of internalizing behavior and academic performance (sometimes better)… However, the children of single fathers appear to be more likely to participate in externalizing behavior and substance use … As of yet, the few studies of young adults (as opposed to adolescents) do not seem to indicate significant long-term differences, as related to marriage, teen birth, and divorce, between those reared in single-father versus single-mother homes.
Five Facts About Today’s Single Fathers
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There are some notable differences between single mothers and single fathers. Single fathers are more likely than single mothers to be living with a cohabiting partner (41% versus 16%). Single fathers, on average, have higher incomes than single mothers and are far less likely to be living at or below the poverty line—24% versus 43%. Single fathers are also somewhat less educated than single mothers, older and more likely to be white.

Compared with fathers heading households with two married parents, single dads are younger, less educated, less financially well-off, and less likely to be white.
The Rise of Single Fathers
Also, be aware that this report applies to fathers in America and not Nigerian single mothers and single fathers alone. undecided
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Kobojunkie: 1:32am On Dec 02, 2023
kkins25:
ohhhhh!!!!!! Why are you so sturbbon? grin grin grin grin grin chi-square test, t-test,
Z-test, anova test , binomial test, one sample median test etc. We encounter this problem all the time and we use any of the above to handle statitica differences. Forget about Nigeria, it's the same every where. And I've given you what studies suggest make single fathers better compared to single mothers. cheesy cheesy KOBO 0: KKINs 2.
Opinion pieces aren't meant to be confused with actual Studies abeg! undecided
Single-mother families have long faced criticism, not least because of a long-lasting assumption about the perceived ‘need’ of children for a father [3]. Further, concerns are often raised about children’s adjustment, and parents’ ability to cope with single parenthood, particularly after parental separation or divorce [3]. Research over the past few decades has indicated that the drop in well-being amongst both mothers and children found in some studies is often attributable to factors associated with divorce rather than single parenthood per se, and in particular, the financial difficulties that may follow divorce or separation [4]. Difficulties among children in single-parent families have additionally been found to be related to parental mental health, rather than single parenthood in itself [5]. It is also important to note the significant impact of parental conflict, especially sustained conflict, on child adjustment [6,7]. Longitudinal studies have shown that raised difficulties among children following parental relationship breakdown often lessen over time [8]. Nevertheless, it has also been shown that single-parent families tend to receive less social support than two-parent families [9]. Importantly, the challenging circumstances sometimes experienced following divorce are not experienced by all single-parent families. The route to single parenthood may play a role in the level of social support received, in experiences of financial strain, and in parent and child adjustment.
Solo Fathers and Mothers: An Exploration of Well-Being, Social Support and Social Approval

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Foodqueen(f): 6:08am On Dec 02, 2023
My problem with single father's is that most of them will later start seeing their daughter as wife...

It's common

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by cococandy(f): 6:56am On Dec 02, 2023
CoronaVirusPro:
Their shouldn't be a debate here!

Single fathers raise the best kids!

Point out a prostitute/thug raised by a man and I will show you a thousand of them raised by a woman.


Kingozymandias:
The home is not meant to be single however single father's do better.

Single mothers raise criminals, rapists, fraudsters and armed robbers

What I’m hearing is that more moms need to leave the fathers to take care of the children after a break up.

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Kingozymandias(m): 7:01am On Dec 02, 2023
cococandy:



What I’m hearing is that more moms need to leave the father to take care of the children after a break up.

Interpret it however you want to . That is entirely your prerogative

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by cococandy(f): 7:29am On Dec 02, 2023
Kingozymandias:


Interpret it however you want to . That is entirely your prerogative

That sounds like the common sense conclusion

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Dtruthspeaker: 7:32am On Dec 02, 2023
99% None.

1% it depends!
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by money121(m): 7:39am On Dec 02, 2023
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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by ERCROSS(m): 9:18am On Dec 02, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Most single Nigerian mothers do not have the child on a part-time basis — shared custody—, right? So, how many single —unattached— Nigerian fathers are out there compared to single mothers? undecided

Right, the statistical data may be skewed because there might not be enough unbiased-sample/population to represent the fulltime fathers.
I've come across only one fulltime father and more than 10 full time mothers. So I'd say the ratio is about 95% (fulltime mother) : 5% (fulltime fathers), based on my encounters in Nigeria
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Kobojunkie: 9:20am On Dec 02, 2023
ERCROSS:
■ Right, the statistical data may be skewed because there might not be enough unbiased-sample/population to represent the fulltime fathers.
I've come across only one fulltime father and more than 10 full time mothers. So I'd say the ratio is about 95% (fulltime mother) : 5% (fulltime fathers), based on my encounters in Nigeria
Glad you see my point! undecided
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by ERCROSS(m): 9:27am On Dec 02, 2023
Kobojunkie:
ERCross, as far as families in the USA, there is no established data that suggests children raised by single fathers turn out better than those raised by single mothers. undecided
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Also, be aware that this report applies to fathers in America and not Nigerian single mothers and single fathers alone. undecided

Based on personal experience and intuition, I'd say a single father is more likely to raise responsible children than a single mother due to the following reasons:

1. Masculinity and Teenagers: The teenage is one of the most critical period of a child's life when it comes to shaping the child. I can say a child that would turn out to be irresponsible would most likely start this lifestyle during their teenage. The presence of a responsible masculine figure in their life would go a long way in correcting a wayward child as men are more aggressive, dominant, and less emotional

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Mindlog: 9:40am On Dec 02, 2023
There are children living under the same roof with both parents who are emotionally unavailable for their children, who have normalized neglect and abuse of different forms and those children turn out to become dysfunctional adults.

The more responsible and balanced of the two parents, will have a higher chance of raising a wholesome child ....it is not a single father vs single mother debate, it is about the personhood of the parent not the gender.

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Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Mindlog: 9:44am On Dec 02, 2023
ERCROSS:


Based on personal experience and intuition, I'd say a single father is more likely to raise responsible children than a single mother due to the following reasons:

1. Masculinity and Teenagers: The teenage is one of the most critical period of a child's life when it comes to shaping the child. I can say a child that would turn out to be irresponsible would most likely start this lifestyle during their teenage. The presence of a responsible masculine figure in their life would go a long way in correcting a wayward child as men are more aggressive, dominant, and less emotional.

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Those negatives are not "correctives" but used to instill fear and repression in adolescents as not values that would wholesomely mould the young person and positively help them sail through life better.
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by Kingozymandias(m): 9:49am On Dec 02, 2023
cococandy:


That sounds like the common sense conclusion

Looks like you want to have the last word ,don't you?
Re: Single Mother/single Father Which Is Better In Bringing Up Responsible Children by CHRISTFUCKER: 9:50am On Dec 02, 2023
Most children raised by both father and mother have ended up as bad eggs, take a look at murder cases , rapists, fahgots


They were all raised by mom and dad


Dad and mom doesn't guarantee a good childhood


I rather be with a single mother than a dad and mom

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