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Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by eepeepook: 4:05pm On Dec 07, 2023
Reddit posts are written from a 21st century mindset. Nairaland runs off an 8th century mindset. There is no way to convince people who utilize grinding stones to mash fruits that a blender is the better option. In the same vein, children on Nairaland cannot relate to Reddit entries. Guy, take your time before I swear for you.

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Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by cococandy(f): 4:32pm On Dec 07, 2023
This open marriage thing always sounds good to the men who suggest it at first. Probably because they’ve grown to believe the lie that women are undesirable after marriage and child birth. For their mind they’d really be roaming about town with various different women and their wives would be pining away at home because no one wants her.

Reddit is full of stories of regretful husbands whose wives are living it up in their open marriages meanwhile the men can’t even get a date. Any girl who even wants to look at them must insist they pay up. But the women are getting free dates and are even being spoiled financially on top of it all. It’s almost as if them married dudes are the ones who are actually undesirable unless they have money to buy a little affection.

Little do they know how many men would actually jump in and take their place when they slip.

Keep suggesting open marriages when you know you can’t take what you dished.

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Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by achimendy(m): 4:58pm On Dec 07, 2023
ProtonX:
“I made the mistake of asking my wife for an open marriage and I regret it.”

As a married man, I think the solution to the no spark would have been to see a therapist, not ask for an open marriage. What is this world turning into?

Married folks, please share your thoughts.




What do you mean by open marriage??
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by Ofadaman(m): 5:04pm On Dec 07, 2023
lol, she's always been seeing other men, yu just gave her the permission to do so, meanwhile, its always easy for women to find mate, unlike men unless u have money to spend
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by Ofadaman(m): 5:06pm On Dec 07, 2023
cococandy:
This open marriage thing always sounds good to the men who suggest it at first. Probably because they’ve grown to believe the lie that women are undesirable after marriage and child birth. For their mind they’d really be roaming about town with various different women and their wives would be pining away at home because no one wants her.

Reddit is full of stories of regretful husbands whose wives are living it up in their open marriages meanwhile the men can’t even get a date. Any girl who even wants to look at them must insist they pay up. But the women are getting free dates and are even being spoiled financially on top of it all. It’s almost as if them married dudes are the ones who are actually undesirable unless they have money to buy a little affection.

Little do they know how many men would actually jump in and take their place when they slip.

Keep suggesting open marriages when you know you can’t take what you dished.

Most men have high libido and will Bleep anything, if a woman wants sex tonight ,she can have even an acquaintance come.to her house for it, its that easy. So not bout attractiveness, its just sex
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by Image123(m): 5:10pm On Dec 07, 2023
What a foolish and godless thing to do. Indeed the fool has said there's no God. How on earth does one approve adultery for his wife? It means he doesn't even know the meaning of marriage. It's easy for the married woman because obviously the adulterer partner has "nothing" to lose, it's "free" experienced meal as it were. No responsibility attached, just use and go. It's like using someone's car for free, as against buying and maintaining yours. Quite dumb.
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by madone: 5:32pm On Dec 07, 2023
ProtonX:
See the Reddit post here:

"I feel like a complete idiot here. My wife and I have been married for 19 years. We have one child. Our daughter moved out this summer after she enlisted in the armed forces. I love my wife but I felt like the spark was gone from our lives. I didn't want to divorce her so I proposed an open marriage. She was upset initially but eventually she agreed.

Like I said in the title of my post I made a mistake. I have learned that just because I wasn't as attracted to my wife as I was when we got married it doesn't mean other men would feel the same. My wife has so many men and dates she doesn't know what to do with them all. Meanwhile it's the opposite for me. Not only that but after my wife agreed to an open marriage I asked a woman who was a colleague of mine out on a date. I was a manager at my job but I wasn't her manager. We worked in completely different divisions and our work had nothing to do with each other's jobs. But even though I wasn't her manager and I am in an open marriage she complained to her manager and showed HR my messages. I lost my job.

I told my wife I want to close our marriage again because I was an idiot for suggesting it in the first place. She said no, she's happy with how things are. It's killing me when I know she is with other men. My brother called me a slowpoke when I told him and said expecting my wife to look like she did when she got married made me a dunce. He even went so far as to say she takes good care of herself and is in great shape for 44, she just doesn't look 20. He had the nerve to say my wife looks better than me and I could stand to lose some weight.

I love my wife and I don't want a divorce. I never wanted a divorce which is why I proposed this in the first place. But she doesn't want to close the marriage. I'm not worried about money because we both work but I do not want a divorce. I'm just glad my daughter enlisted in the RCAF and isn't here to see our marriage falling apart."
your problem is you give up too quick . Wait how did you marry this your wife in the first place.
You just woke up one day saw that she is not attractive to ou anymore you then asked for open marriage. Know you came again with closed marriage lol. You will be a bigger eeeediot if you just give up too quick on this stage.. my friend run after your wife and win her back. Do you think she will just agree for a close marriage after your silly open marriage.
If I were you I start treating her well and wooing her again. Mad man
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by cococandy(f): 5:39pm On Dec 07, 2023
Ofadaman:


Most men have high libido and will Bleep anything, if a woman wants sex tonight ,she can have even an acquaintance come.to her house for it, its that easy. So not bout attractiveness, its just sex


Most men will bang anything? Okay.

So your woman has more options than you. How does that go against my point?

People that like to suggest open marriage should be mentally prepared for that
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by REGINALD001(m): 6:43pm On Dec 07, 2023
ProtonX:
See the Reddit post here:

"I feel like a complete idiot here. My wife and I have been married for 19 years. We have one child. Our daughter moved out this summer after she enlisted in the armed forces. I love my wife but I felt like the spark was gone from our lives. I didn't want to divorce her so I proposed an open marriage. She was upset initially but eventually she agreed.

Like I said in the title of my post I made a mistake. I have learned that just because I wasn't as attracted to my wife as I was when we got married it doesn't mean other men would feel the same. My wife has so many men and dates she doesn't know what to do with them all. Meanwhile it's the opposite for me. Not only that but after my wife agreed to an open marriage I asked a woman who was a colleague of mine out on a date. I was a manager at my job but I wasn't her manager. We worked in completely different divisions and our work had nothing to do with each other's jobs. But even though I wasn't her manager and I am in an open marriage she complained to her manager and showed HR my messages. I lost my job.

I told my wife I want to close our marriage again because I was an idiot for suggesting it in the first place. She said no, she's happy with how things are. It's killing me when I know she is with other men. My brother called me a slowpoke when I told him and said expecting my wife to look like she did when she got married made me a dunce. He even went so far as to say she takes good care of herself and is in great shape for 44, she just doesn't look 20. He had the nerve to say my wife looks better than me and I could stand to lose some weight.

I love my wife and I don't want a divorce. I never wanted a divorce which is why I proposed this in the first place. But she doesn't want to close the marriage. I'm not worried about money because we both work but I do not want a divorce. I'm just glad my daughter enlisted in the RCAF and isn't here to see our marriage falling apart."



ONYE ERIRI ERI
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by abbasajao(m): 6:47pm On Dec 07, 2023
I am hearing open marriage for the first time.
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by maasoap(m): 8:12pm On Dec 07, 2023
Jeon:
Open Marriage is very good.
It is better than cheating and expecting faithfulness from your partner..

Mr man ,you have lost. Just divorce her .

The grass ain't always greener on the other side.

😉

Lol. See dem dem. If it were to be other way round, they would be pleading with the man to reconsider. grin grin grin Hypocrites
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by maasoap(m): 8:17pm On Dec 07, 2023
cococandy:
This open marriage thing always sounds good to the men who suggest it at first. Probably because they’ve grown to believe the lie that women are undesirable after marriage and child birth. For their mind they’d really be roaming about town with various different women and their wives would be pining away at home because no one wants her.

Reddit is full of stories of regretful husbands whose wives are living it up in their open marriages meanwhile the men can’t even get a date. Any girl who even wants to look at them must insist they pay up. But the women are getting free dates and are even being spoiled financially on top of it all. It’s almost as if them married dudes are the ones who are actually undesirable unless they have money to buy a little affection.

Little do they know how many men would actually jump in and take their place when they slip.

Keep suggesting open marriages when you know you can’t take what you dished.

Husbands with sense would only do "shakara" with their wives in their homes but never act on it. Men would always go after anything "woman" as long as they are just setting eyes on her for the first time.
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by maasoap(m): 8:20pm On Dec 07, 2023
achimendy:


What do you mean by open marriage??
Marriage where husband and wife are free to have affairs outside, even to the knowledge of the other partner grin grin grin
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by maasoap(m): 8:27pm On Dec 07, 2023
Countersam:


Why bring this oyinbo questionnaire here. What do you want to hear from us in the form of advice. Their lifestyle is different from ours in Africa. Which one is open marriage , have you heard of that in Africa talk less of Nigeria? Who will marry and both couples would still be bleeping outside but still together because you have a kid together..that's living in bondage because one person must eventually get reorientation that will bring issues in the initial agreement

ableguy:
Every day una go just dey introduce one evil after another as if we haven't had enough, open kee una there.
And maybe very soon this nonsense go creep into Africa, make una continue. Ndi ara

You sure say there are no open marriages in Nigeria or Africa already? I wouldn't bet it with all those rich couples with boring marriages
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by ableguy(m): 8:32pm On Dec 07, 2023
maasoap:




You sure say there are no open marriages in Nigeria or Africa already? I wouldn't bet it with all those rich couples with boring marriages
That's their business though, I know a lot couples are into it involuntarily.
Many wife knows their husband is cheating but don't mind since dey themselves do their own as well.

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Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by ableguy(m): 8:33pm On Dec 07, 2023
NOwazobia:
That is if not here already.

They know how to copy everything that is wrong with the white man, but their development and industrialization, we willfully neglect.

Stupid black race.

E choke, we go dey alright las las
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by Babangidapikin: 8:47pm On Dec 07, 2023
Jeon:
Open Marriage is very good.
It is better than cheating and expecting faithfulness from your partner..




Mr man ,you have lost. Just divorce her .



The grass ain't always greener on the other side.

😉

Na wa o ..just came about this world today , allowing husband and wife to date other people ...is the Ozza room involve too ..and can it be close afterwards..
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by MuslimIgbo: 10:02pm On Dec 07, 2023
ProtonX:
“I made the mistake of asking my wife for an open marriage and I regret it.”

As a married man, I think the solution to the no spark would have been to see a therapist, not ask for an open marriage. What is this world turning into?

Married folks, please share your thoughts.

Bottom line
Your wife has no moral boundaries, SHE SLEPT WITH LOTS OF MEN... THE SCARS WILL REMAIN FOREVER

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Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by Countersam(m): 11:29pm On Dec 07, 2023
maasoap:




You sure say there are no open marriages in Nigeria or Africa already? I wouldn't bet it with all those rich couples with boring marriages

Those in boring marriages do their stuff in secret, open marriage is open and glaring. You for don hear if it actually happens in Nigeria, not mere speculation..
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by Nmeri17: 3:29am On Dec 08, 2023
ProtonX:
See the Reddit post here:

"I feel like a complete idiot here. My wife and I have been married for 19 years. We have one child. Our daughter moved out this summer after she enlisted in the armed forces. I love my wife but I felt like the spark was gone from our lives. I didn't want to divorce her so I proposed an open marriage. She was upset initially but eventually she agreed.

Like I said in the title of my post I made a mistake. I have learned that just because I wasn't as attracted to my wife as I was when we got married it doesn't mean other men would feel the same. My wife has so many men and dates she doesn't know what to do with them all. Meanwhile it's the opposite for me. Not only that but after my wife agreed to an open marriage I asked a woman who was a colleague of mine out on a date. I was a manager at my job but I wasn't her manager. We worked in completely different divisions and our work had nothing to do with each other's jobs. But even though I wasn't her manager and I am in an open marriage she complained to her manager and showed HR my messages. I lost my job.

I told my wife I want to close our marriage again because I was an idiot for suggesting it in the first place. She said no, she's happy with how things are. It's killing me when I know she is with other men. My brother called me a slowpoke when I told him and said expecting my wife to look like she did when she got married made me a dunce. He even went so far as to say she takes good care of herself and is in great shape for 44, she just doesn't look 20. He had the nerve to say my wife looks better than me and I could stand to lose some weight.

I love my wife and I don't want a divorce. I never wanted a divorce which is why I proposed this in the first place. But she doesn't want to close the marriage. I'm not worried about money because we both work but I do not want a divorce. I'm just glad my daughter enlisted in the RCAF and isn't here to see our marriage falling apart."

grin cheesy grin cheesy
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by jaxxy(m): 6:20am On Dec 08, 2023
Jeon:
Open Marriage is very good.
It is better than cheating and expecting faithfulness from your partner..




Mr man ,you have lost. Just divorce her .



The grass ain't always greener on the other side.

😉

that's the problem with women they take undue advantage about everything and if they have the upper hand they loose their basic home training.

He lost now bt will eventually win if he gets himself back on track and learn how to handle women by then they wife will come back begging.

she at a disadvantage than him. the man never wanted to take advantage of the situation but make if fair for both that's why he's in this situation.

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Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by Wetlands22: 6:23am On Dec 08, 2023
ProtonX:
“I made the mistake of asking my wife for an open marriage and I regret it.”

As a married man, I think the solution to the no spark would have been to see a therapist, not ask for an open marriage. What is this world turning into?

Married folks, please share your thoughts.

Are you a phool ??
Open marriage/relationship affects the man more.
Why not do your thing coded
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by Ofadaman(m): 8:21am On Dec 08, 2023
cococandy:



Most men will bang anything? Okay.

So your woman has more options than you. How does that go against my point?

People that like to suggest open marriage should be mentally prepared for that

Yea she does , even a 70yr old mad woman, still has men that sneak in to take one or two, it has nothing to do with her but the men, in the end. Its superficial, the same men still go after other women irrespective, it doesn't make her special , she's just a plug for temporary satisfaction

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Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by achimendy(m): 12:01pm On Dec 08, 2023
maasoap:

Marriage where husband and wife are free to have affairs outside, even to the knowledge of the other partner grin grin grin


Ok.
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by cococandy(f): 1:50pm On Dec 08, 2023
Ofadaman:


Yea she does , even a 70yr old mad woman, still has men that sneak in to take one or two, it has nothing to do with her but the men, in the end. Its superficial, the same men still go after other women irrespective, it doesn't make her special , she's just a plug for temporary satisfaction

Sounds really special to me if at 70 y’all still can’t stay away

BTW that comment “men will fvck anything” is not the flex you think it is. Bit embarrassing for y’all actually
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by Ofadaman(m): 3:09pm On Dec 08, 2023
cococandy:


Sounds really special to me if at 70 y’all still can’t stay away

BTW that comment “men will fvck anything” is not the flex you think it is. Bit embarrassing for y’all actually

Depends on who is losing , he's not losing as his demands are met

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Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by cococandy(f): 4:28pm On Dec 08, 2023
Ofadaman:


Depends on who is losing , he's not losing as his demands are met
if her demands are being fulfilled as well. Then who’s losing?
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by Ofadaman(m): 9:20am On Dec 09, 2023
cococandy:
if her demands are being fulfilled as well. Then who’s losing?

No one is, its just trade, as long as both are satisfied.
My point made is, dont conflate attention for interest, peoole can pay attention to you for their selfish reasons, it doesn't mean they are interested or want anything lasting or beneficial. If in thr process you achieve your own aim then its good but again, its not about the women. Even flies are attracted to shit..
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by cococandy(f): 9:44am On Dec 09, 2023
Ofadaman:


No one is, its just trade, as long as both are satisfied.
My point made is, dont conflate attention for interest, peoole can pay attention to you for their selfish reasons, it doesn't mean they are interested or want anything lasting or beneficial. If in thr process you achieve your own aim then its good but again, its not about the women. Even flies are attracted to shit..

Said all that to say nothing
Re: I Made A Mistake For Asking My Wife For An Open Marriage (story For The TL) by Ofadaman(m): 2:43pm On Dec 09, 2023
cococandy:


Said all that to say nothing

Truth is bitter, but must be said,

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