I am a 34 year old male banker residing in Abuja. I also run a side hustle and I am doing very well for myself.
So I got into a new relationship lately after breaking up with my ex because she wasn’t invested enough in the relationship. This new relationship is going well, we are both intentional about what we want and I can feel the energy and the conscious efforts she is making already.
A couple of weeks ago she said she wanted to go hangout at a male’s friend place in Gwagwalada and she would be spending the night. I immediately lashed out on her and told her never to think of that again.
We were having a conversation few days back and I told her my dealbreakers is cheating . I told her even if I discovered she cheated on me after 10 years, I am going to act on it and I will call off whatever we have going on.
She started going back and forth with me telling me how my love is conditional and that I am unforgiving and she can’t be in a relationship with the thought that she will be sent packing anytime.
Is my standard for loyalty and transparency too high? or Am I unnecessarily being strict?
BTW, since I entered this relationship, I have cut off every female I would potentially cheat with because I think It would be hypocritical to expect what I can’t give from someone else and also because I respect her enough to not cheat on her.

Where she even see the liver to tell you she wants to spend the night in her male bestie's house sef? Which kind men we dy read their stories these days. See as she's manipulating you boldly kai.

Na fake story

Exceptional300:
I am a 34 year old male banker residing in Abuja. I also run a side hustle and I am doing very well for myself.
So I got into a new relationship lately after breaking up with my ex because she wasn’t invested enough in the relationship. This new relationship is going well, we are both intentional about what we want and I can feel the energy and the conscious efforts she is making already.
A couple of weeks ago she said she wanted to go hangout at a male’s friend place in Gwagwalada and she would be spending the night. I immediately lashed out her and told her never to think of that again.
We were having a conversation few days back and I told her my dealbreakers is cheating . I told her even if I discovered she cheated on me after 10 years, I am going to act in it and I will call off whatever we have going on.
She started going back and forth with me telling me how my love is conditional and that I am unforgiving and she can’t be in a relationship with the thought that she will be sent packing anytime.
Is my standard for loyalty and transparency too high? or Am I unnecessarily being strict?
BTW, since I entered this relationship, I have cut off every female I have would potentially cheated with because I think It would be hypocritical to expect what I can’t give from someone else and I also because I respect her enough to not cheat on her.

Look for another girl. This one has skeletons in her closet. Fukk around & find out

she said she wanted to go hangout at a male’s friend place in Gwagwalada and she would be spending the night.

And you're still calling her 'my girlfriend '?


IMO, I think you're still single. Stop calling community investment your girlfriend.

Stop investing in the relationship.

Exceptional300:
she can’t be in a relationship with the thought that she will be sent packing anytime.

This means that she will definitely cheat in the relationship

@Exceptional300, you already have your answer.

You're not being strict. She's lacking in discipline I must say to be telling you those things and you should know what to do now before it's late.

super story

You are good to go. You are a man and make decisions for self, for the sake of your mental health.

As man i don't get close to other ladies except for business sake, so i don't know what my girlfriend or wife will be doing with another man, i find it difficult to believe whenever i come cross such topic.
What i understand about this issue is that most men take the decision very lately making it difficult for the girl to change because the character has sink into her blood and many of such ladies are either secret or public olosho..

Don't wait to discover, your babe is running hkup. Break up with her before you go too far into the relationship.

What most men don't understand is that a lady going to see a man she is not dating overnight is not normal, it's either she is planning to convert the guy to bf anytime soon or she is there for a gig.

Exceptional300:
I am a 34 year old male banker residing in Abuja. I also run a side hustle and I am doing very well for myself.
So I got into a new relationship lately after breaking up with my ex because she wasn’t invested enough in the relationship. This new relationship is going well, we are both intentional about what we want and I can feel the energy and the conscious efforts she is making already.
A couple of weeks ago she said she wanted to go hangout at a male’s friend place in Gwagwalada and she would be spending the night. I immediately lashed out on her and told her never to think of that again.
We were having a conversation few days back and I told her my dealbreakers is cheating . I told her even if I discovered she cheated on me after 10 years, I am going to act on it and I will call off whatever we have going on.
She started going back and forth with me telling me how my love is conditional and that I am unforgiving and she can’t be in a relationship with the thought that she will be sent packing anytime.
Is my standard for loyalty and transparency too high? or Am I unnecessarily being strict?
BTW, since I entered this relationship, I have cut off every female I would potentially cheat with because I think It would be hypocritical to expect what I can’t give from someone else and also because I respect her enough to not cheat on her.

What did I just read??😐😐 I just hope dis is a fiction.... She wnt to go sleepova at a male friend's place? I guess na Kerosene dy flow for de male friend veins abi? U don Eva knack person babe befor?

Do u knw how it feels to knack babe wey get boyfriend? Na rough ND wicked knacking o so u go try win de pussy.... So anytime u put her on call to com or touch her she go wet sharp sharp👽

Some of these small girls so dumb. If you want to keep a roster of guys do so without letting any of them know.

If you ain’t married to a guy you ain’t committed to any of them. You don’t owe no of em loyalty.

Being somebody girlfriend is nothing but a damn scam smart women knows to keep a roster and May best man wins.

But these small kids nowadays smh. Any never move in or give wife benefit to any of these niggas until they’ve put a ring on it.

Smh these women standards so low nowadays the bar is in hell.

He hasn't enjoyed her olosho phase to the fullest. send her away.

Never compromise on your standards as long as it's reasonable. Anyone who can't fit in should leave.

Why would a girlfriend go and spend the night in another man's house who is not a relative? There are certain things I can never understand.

Exceptional300:
I am a 34 year old male banker residing in Abuja. I also run a side hustle and I am doing very well for myself.
So I got into a new relationship lately after breaking up with my ex because she wasn’t invested enough in the relationship. This new relationship is going well, we are both intentional about what we want and I can feel the energy and the conscious efforts she is making already.
A couple of weeks ago she said she wanted to go hangout at a male’s friend place in Gwagwalada and she would be spending the night. I immediately lashed out on her and told her never to think of that again.
We were having a conversation few days back and I told her my dealbreakers is cheating . I told her even if I discovered she cheated on me after 10 years, I am going to act on it and I will call off whatever we have going on.
She started going back and forth with me telling me how my love is conditional and that I am unforgiving and she can’t be in a relationship with the thought that she will be sent packing anytime.
Is my standard for loyalty and transparency too high? or Am I unnecessarily being strict?
BTW, since I entered this relationship, I have cut off every female I would potentially cheat with because I think It would be hypocritical to expect what I can’t give from someone else and also because I respect her enough to not cheat on her.

Break up with her. Her eyes still dey street

First, you did well for staying away from cheating. Na man you be.

Second. Run, I repeat, Run.

What's the point of having a forgiving partner in terms of cheating when you don't have the mindset to?

I don't think she's ready to stick to one person.

Maybe you should investigate, perhaps you'll find the proof you need.

Fake

Ona dey date o

Exceptional300:
I am a 34 year old male banker residing in Abuja. I also run a side hustle and I am doing very well for myself.
So I got into a new relationship lately after breaking up with my ex because she wasn’t invested enough in the relationship. This new relationship is going well, we are both intentional about what we want and I can feel the energy and the conscious efforts she is making already.
A couple of weeks ago she said she wanted to go hangout at a male’s friend place in Gwagwalada and she would be spending the night. I immediately lashed out on her and told her never to think of that again.
We were having a conversation few days back and I told her my dealbreakers is cheating . I told her even if I discovered she cheated on me after 10 years, I am going to act on it and I will call off whatever we have going on.
She started going back and forth with me telling me how my love is conditional and that I am unforgiving and she can’t be in a relationship with the thought that she will be sent packing anytime.
Is my standard for loyalty and transparency too high? or Am I unnecessarily being strict?
BTW, since I entered this relationship, I have cut off every female I would potentially cheat with because I think It would be hypocritical to expect what I can’t give from someone else and also because I respect her enough to not cheat on her.

As much as your concern seems valid, it would not be fair to draw conclusions over perceived infidelity from your partner. You have stated your pet peeve. Trust that she would not tow that path. You just have to trust her so the devil doesn't ruin what you share. All the best!

You already know what your deal breaker is, just act on it....

I sell herbs for sexual enhancement tho

Unless it's a fake story. The kind mind she has to tell you she's sleeping at a niggas place. A big blood red flag.

Tales by daylight...

Trizyd:
Unless it's a fake story. The kind mind she has to tell you she's sleeping at a niggas place. A big blood red flag.

It happens in all almost all relationship in different ways of course...

women will consciously or unconsciously test ur tolerance for bulshiit......once u simp in the name of being understanding, mature, and not jealous...

Otilor... U lose control and be the mumu of the relationship..

Exceptional300:
I am a 34 year old male banker residing in Abuja. I also run a side hustle and I am doing very well for myself.
So I got into a new relationship lately after breaking up with my ex because she wasn’t invested enough in the relationship. This new relationship is going well, we are both intentional about what we want and I can feel the energy and the conscious efforts she is making already.
A couple of weeks ago she said she wanted to go hangout at a male’s friend place in Gwagwalada and she would be spending the night. I immediately lashed out on her and told her never to think of that again.
We were having a conversation few days back and I told her my dealbreakers is cheating . I told her even if I discovered she cheated on me after 10 years, I am going to act on it and I will call off whatever we have going on.
She started going back and forth with me telling me how my love is conditional and that I am unforgiving and she can’t be in a relationship with the thought that she will be sent packing anytime.
Is my standard for loyalty and transparency too high? or Am I unnecessarily being strict?
BTW, since I entered this relationship, I have cut off every female I would potentially cheat with because I think It would be hypocritical to expect what I can’t give from someone else and also because I respect her enough to not cheat on her.

you are not strict but setting boundaries that must not be crossed,if a man has the self control and virtue to remain faithful these days he must expect such standards from whomsoever he is dating,moreover it is downright ridiculous to think a woman will visit her ex boyfriend ,spend the night in his bed doing prayer and worship ,you better think again because only the pussy will be blessed and delivered,even to still be in contact with her ex is a red flag showing she is still Infected by the okafors law virus

This is why you should FEAR women.

This dude got gaslit so hard he's questioning himself.

Imagine a woman in a serious relationship with a responsible man asking to go spend the night with another man.

Incredible! Just imagine that kind of buffoonery!

It's also LAUGHABLE the bitch got offended that OP said he'd NEVER tolerate a cheating bitch no matter how long it takes to discover the infidelity.

OP, you are dealing with a witch. Run for your life.

She has demonstrated TWICE that she's going to cheat on you. And they say when people show you who they are, BELIEVE them.

She has shown you that she's a LovePeddler, believer her. Move on!

Getting offended because a potential spouse says they'll NEVER tolerate cheating is another level of BITCHERY! What an absolute piece of shit she is!

Run!

If she sees your standard for a relationship as too strict and conditional then she's not a loyal girl and would cheat on you. that is why she finds it difficult to agree to your dos and don'ts
.
Why would anyone envisage being sent away anytime if she doesn't have the tendency/motive to cheat .? Abeg free her now let her go because she has already made it clear to you that she can't live by your conditions.

NPFLADMIN:
First, you did well for staying away from cheating. Na man you be.

Second. Run, I repeat, Run.

What's the point of having a forgiving partner in terms of cheating when you don't have the mindset to?

I don't think she's ready to stick to one person.

Maybe you should investigate, perhaps you'll find the proof you need.

exactly what I am
Going to do. I am going to investigate by checking her phone. I usually don’t do this but she has given me reason to

Rokiat:
Some of these small girls so dumb. If you want to keep a roster of guys do so without letting any of them know.

If you ain’t married to a guy you ain’t committed to any of them. You don’t owe no of em loyalty.

Being somebody girlfriend is nothing but a damn scam smart women knows to keep a roster and May best man wins.

But these small kids nowadays smh. Any never move in or give wife benefit to any of these niggas until they’ve put a ring on it.

Smh these women standards so low nowadays the bar is in hell.

Na why them never marry you. Roster woman. Keep it up na. You go keep rooster till you enter 75 y/o

Exceptional300:
I am a 34 year old male banker residing in Abuja. I also run a side hustle and I am doing very well for myself.
So I got into a new relationship lately after breaking up with my ex because she wasn’t invested enough in the relationship. This new relationship is going well, we are both intentional about what we want and I can feel the energy and the conscious efforts she is making already.
A couple of weeks ago she said she wanted to go hangout at a male’s friend place in Gwagwalada and she would be spending the night. I immediately lashed out on her and told her never to think of that again.
We were having a conversation few days back and I told her my dealbreakers is cheating . I told her even if I discovered she cheated on me after 10 years, I am going to act on it and I will call off whatever we have going on.
She started going back and forth with me telling me how my love is conditional and that I am unforgiving and she can’t be in a relationship with the thought that she will be sent packing anytime.
Is my standard for loyalty and transparency too high? or Am I unnecessarily being strict?
BTW, since I entered this relationship, I have cut off every female I would potentially cheat with because I think It would be hypocritical to expect what I can’t give from someone else and also because I respect her enough to not cheat on her.

You are not strict at all, It is just common sense.


You deserve to be strip naked and wire koboko by 1000 men for thinking you are strict.

No sensible man will tolerate his girl sleeping at another man's house that is not her family member.

You suppose to break up with her for even having the gut to say something like that to you, she mustn't really rate you at all.

Rokiat:
Some of these small girls so dumb. If you want to keep a roster of guys do so without letting any of them know.

If you ain’t married to a guy you ain’t committed to any of them. You don’t owe no of em loyalty.

Being somebody girlfriend is nothing but a damn scam smart women knows to keep a roster and May best man wins.

But these small kids nowadays smh. Any never move in or give wife benefit to any of these niggas until they’ve put a ring on it.

Smh these women standards so low nowadays the bar is in hell.

That strategy is counterproductive

It will be the thing that will be destroying all your relationships with every valuable men you will get.

They are going to smell it and figure it out eventually because those men should be intelligent to some extent unless you are going after only the daft ones. When they figure out your half ass commitment they are going to put you at the back burner or dump you so you are never really going to get what you are looking for, but who knows you may be lucky to get a simp that don't know his value and will take any shits but even simps can still wake up if you feed them with too much shit.

Rokiat:
Some of these small girls so dumb. If you want to keep a roster of guys do so without letting any of them know.

If you ain’t married to a guy you ain’t committed to any of them. You don’t owe no of em loyalty.

Being somebody girlfriend is nothing but a damn scam smart women knows to keep a roster and May best man wins.

But these small kids nowadays smh. Any never move in or give wife benefit to any of these niggas until they’ve put a ring on it.

Smh these women standards so low nowadays the bar is in hell.

little wonder you won't marry.