Mr, Cork:

Sweeery Pendo. The only sugar in my Milk!!

pendo89:

This is for the guys.I  know most of you criticise spending but the moment you meet a beautiful lady the first thing you want to do is show her how much you are worth to woe her. You do this because you lack in 'impressing skills' and therefore use the wallet as a shortcut to impress. And gals know that very well.

If you are creative, original,complimentary,casual,straightforward,able to teach you can impress and win over a lady without going bankrupt.
Most of you guys fail here no wonder the many cries from guys with broken hearts.

And dont get me wrong.Spending is inevitable but using it to woe and keep a girl is death.
Please don't narrow it down to a particular region.Think worlwide,  A gal is a gal and we all want to be loved not bought.

so can u impress without spending and if so how do u do it?  

pendo89:

I  know most of you criticise spending but the moment you meet a beautiful lady the first thing you want to do is show her how much you are worth to woe her. You do this because you lack in 'impressing skills' and therefore use the wallet as a shortcut to impress.

coogar:

they want to show off to their less-fortunate friends who have losers as boyfriends.

coogar:

my friend, action speaks louder than words!

you cannot really have a nice time with a newly-met babe without spending!
there will be dates, someone has to pay for those dates. even if we go dutch on the bill on the first date, the subsequent dates would still put the man in a position to spend more.

besides, babes want their men to pet them. they want to show off to their less-fortunate friends who have losers as boyfriends. so the issue of spending is very vital. it's not like men go out of their way to spend just to impress. for many of us, it's a routine to enjoy life. if i take pendo89 to paris now to shop, i am not trying to impress you. that is where i shop normally.

pendo89:

but when you have a thick wallet and empty brain then what.

pendo89:

@ Babe what now?

I see come good conversation skills there as well.Keep up.
But here is the deal. I said spending is inevitable but when you have a thick wallet and empty brain then what.
What keeps the girl's heart beating is not the the paris tour.Its the Its your persona. If you dont impress me in those other areas I can tell u to travel alone because what you spend on me will either fatten me up or make me feel comfortable but not satisfied.
There will always be a craving for other things.

coogar:

it's the easiest task for the average nigerian male

pendo89:

@ Babe what now?

BABE!:


Non'. Just shining my teeth.

coogar:

i can impress any woman without money. it's the easiest task for the average nigerian male but on the other hand, i am not foolish - i know money talks!  

Mr, Cork:

Mrs Chima. Do guys really try to impress you or they just ignore you? Don’t lie!

Mrs, Chima:

Men impress with their wallet and women impress with their colorful words.  

Mrs, Chima:

99% of Nairaland threads bearing my name are created by MALE CHATTERS including YOU. 

You tell me.   

ok you win. I like you but YOU AINT GETTING ME!!!  

Mr, Cork:

ok you win. I like you but [b]YOU AINT GETTING ME!!!  [/b]

pendo89:

Then what. what if the wallet is no more. Theres a thread here about a dude complaining of lost love cz hes got no more cash to spend.
Am like cz thats what u used to woe her in the first place. some things dont die like persona.
Any guy that cant woe a lady without flashing wallet has dead brain cells. Its possible. let her dump you later cz you r broke but u tried to impress meaning you are smart enough and deserve a pat on the back.
you are not a loser in other words.

Mr, Cork:

hang on there.  Dont celebrate coz you still owe me puuuny from 28 of march 2009!!

tpacalipse:

Let us stop deceiving ourselves " when poverty knocks at the door, love jumps out at the window" 

Floxyluv:

Without money, words are empty. Love is good and money is important, very important.

BABE!:

Where do you get your "stories" from? Impressing without money is the hardest task for an average Nigerian male.

dabrake:

Me wey no get swit mouth nko? As i no come get dat kain money(at my present phase) to troway nko? Wel, i thank baba God sey im deposit some kain things inside mi wey allow babes dey look me.

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
this is a double edge sword issue:
A) any lively/cheerful man can get closer to a woman, regardless of his financial status. the catch is that NOT all men are equal. so most will use whatever they have to try and impress women. if they have NO qualities and entice women with money then the joke is on both of them.

B) most men who criticize stoopid spending while in dating, do so because they ultimately know that these spenders are spoiling the field. these women get used to such brainless spending and when we (real men) meet these babes later on down the line, we have to do a complete brainwash/reboot to get this babes back to the real world.

C) we cant really blame men who do such silly spending because its their money, and thats the kind of r/ship they want to be in. some men WANT/NEED to have women depending on them, it makes them feel desired, important etc. therefore to THESE guys, spending is the ONLY way and not viewed as wrong. These are the guys who transform into abusive partners later bcz they become controlling.

D) sadly, the way to "SOME" ladie's heart IS via Mr Biggs/BB and gifts etc. we have to be honest about what kind of women are out there. some SINCERELY believe that the perfect man needs to be generous therefore they cant really get close to a poor guy. i dont blame these gals, i blame society for such way of thinking. if we all had the same financial status then life would be better but it aint like that. some  aint got nothing and dont want to date someone as destitute as they are. yep though a bit risky cz u end up receiving care but not love

E) as for you saying that spending IS necessary in dating, i will say yes so long as women understand that spending is a two way street. ANY women who think that only men should spend in dating, is the reason why we have this problem today.
- many frown when a man say: "let's go dutch? I read here that its immoral for a lady to say utter this phrase. That it demeans the man.
- many are thought from a very young age that men should pay for dinner. blame society
- many believe that dating us is a favor TO US, and therefore spending money is the compensation for that privilege. if she doesnt know what she wants
- many men/women lack basic communication skills and therefore men need to get them to places where their mouth will be full, and less talking will be required/involved. lol true dat. The reason I said some dates fatten u up only.

there are many way to impress women without spending, it all depends on what kind of women you are trying to discover, but having her laugh, and making her feel comfortable enough to open up, will get you half way there. Now that is what.

pendo89:

gosh will u kindly interpret?

pendo89:

These are the guys who transform into abusive partners later bcz they become controlling.

yep though a bit risky cz u end up receiving care but not love

I read here that its immoral for a lady to say utter this phrase. That it demeans the man.

blame society