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Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by uche87(m): 4:35pm On Jun 09
If there is any society that is designed to make you feel lonely and at the same time keep you single, it is the United Kingdom. Even if you come in married, you might lose your spouse if care isn’t taken. Over 100,000 marriages crash in a year in the UK, about 44% of marriages will always crash annually. The cost of living also puts so much pressure on you that your workplace might become your salvation. Every other thing takes a secondary position except for very religious people. Mind you, Nigerians mostly become less religious once they cross international borders.

It is not strange for people to get involved in office/workplace romance in the UK since this is where people spend most of their time. But this route could be a very disastrous one. Gist spreads easily in work environments. No lady wants to be the talk of any organisation simply because she spread her legs for a big-mouthed man. Financial demands from people back home could drive anybody insane. It prompts you to pick extra shifts to meet different endless requests. For every extra shift you pick, you have robbed yourself of good moments or any chance of recuperation over the next 12 hours.
The implication of being too busy is that it denies you any full commitment to a serious relationship. You might end up seeking the opposite sex’s attention only when you are Hot. In the UK, there is an abundance of men who desperately want to fill that sexual void. Marriage is never on the table for them, but when it comes to the ‘mid-section’ contests, they are always on top like Manchester City.

So how can the challenge of being single be resolved? The approach below might be of help:

The State of Emergency Approach

If you are a single lady in your 30s in the UK, you must first declare a state of emergency (SOE) in your love life. The security level needs to be raised to the highest point. This entails treating any adult male close to you with utmost priority except if the person is a blood relation. It should be noted that without humility, the SOE can’t get the desired results. That smiling neighbour approaching you to discuss boring issues needs the brightest green light to encourage him to speak up with his full chest. That course-mate assisting with your assignments needs to be ‘grilled’ like a corrupt politician to know his deep desires. I know this is a bit dicey and against my principles, but that colleague sharing food with you at work needs to be handed a starting shirt like Kobbie Mainoo of Manchester United. That shy prayer warrior in church, hovering around you like a drone, needs to be asked if he could ‘pray harder’ behind closed doors. Those random Direct Messages you get after commenting on microblogs on Instagram, Facebook and X need urgent attention. When you meet classy people, jokingly tell them you are single and would like to meet their single friends. Like-minds attract each other.

In a nutshell, every available avenue needs to be explored. People might call it desperation but the end will justify the means. Stop waiting for those in high-end occupation lists like medicine, nursing, tech, engineering, law, accounting and the like to come for you. Wishful thinking and pride amongst Nigerians in the UK have created a large pool of singles who believe they don’t need each other.

Being single in the UK is tantamount to being stranded at sea. Also, the market is wired against immigrants. The Oyinbos will hardly give you a chance because of ethnic considerations. The majority of Nigerians also come in married (both fake, partially original and truly original). The singles market is so microscopic. Most of the partners some people settle for are either stolen or ‘fairly used’ like clothes from charity shops. When the chances of success are low, an all-inclusive approach becomes ideal.

Osahon George Osayimwen is a UK-based Nigerian journalist

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by Dehinde24: 4:52pm On Jun 09
I heard from a female friend that Nigeria ladies in UK care less about marriage and the men too are not ready for it

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by eazzzy1(m): 5:34pm On Jun 09
A lot of women plan to get married, a lot of men stumble upon marriage. Most men are married to women they planned to just sleep with. They got in and could not come out.

Women in their 30’s don’t have time for the trial and error, they have it all planned out. Before you get their number, you have to commit, before they visit you, they have to make sure you are willing to get married in 6 months.

Desperation is one of the biggest turnoffs ever. When you are not sure whether a woman likes you or she just likes the idea of marriage. Trying to avoid ‘time wasters’ is one of the main reasons there are a lot of single women. You see a woman leave her boyfriend of two years because he’s wasting her time, 3 years later he’s getting married and she’s still single.

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by Domaining101: 10:15pm On Jun 09
Lolzz. One reason i can never relocate abroad to stay. How i wan take dey fûck 5 days a week for abroad? grin My love for sex and women (Nigerian women especially) No go gree me. Here you no need guide or fine too much, just hold small money and package yourself well, na toto go dey find you come. But the abroad wey you dey go, the money wey you get na him everybody for there get too, if not more. Not like their girls don't like money too ohh, but the kind money you need to dey fûck their girls steady, you gats be millionaire in dollars, dey drive the least Lamborghini SVJ grin That's why i pray every day for Nigeria to remain like this because if this country better, toto go expensive and to fornicate regularly will become difficult.

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by remsonik(f): 10:16pm On Jun 09
Hmm,even in naija it's hard to find. All over the world true love is hard to find this days. We're already in the endtimes

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by eepeepook: 10:16pm On Jun 09
Useless topic. As useless as Nairaland is when looking for information.

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by Macdeey: 10:16pm On Jun 09
grin

Try and Find Love in Pounds Starling that's all 😚💞😚💞

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by dapsoneh: 10:16pm On Jun 09
Na by force to find love

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by omooba969(m): 10:17pm On Jun 09
Who says finding love in the UK is difficult? undecided

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by whytediamond(m): 10:17pm On Jun 09
cheesy

Most people don't get married out of love, they do it to satisfy societal expectations.

Bolder ladies just get pregnant for unidentifiable men and keep the child to herself.

Do what you feel is right and live with the consequences, good or bad. Time no too dey.


livebullet:


The word isn't "bolder". The correct word is "loose" or "olosho" people who glorify immorality. There's no boldness in stupidity. A child without a father?

Read the last paragraph with more understanding.

It's still not enough having a father. Many single mothers have raised global heroes without the presence of a father/husband.

I hope you understand the last paragraph.

Shalom!

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by tiswell(m): 10:17pm On Jun 09
No go find love near naija ladies abroad or black girls.

Na suicide mission!

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by MaziObinnaokija: 10:17pm On Jun 09
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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by obicoolnino: 10:17pm On Jun 09
When you reason like a normal human and put aside pride, love will surely find you.

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by MajorOvakporaye(f): 10:17pm On Jun 09
I'd rather stay in the UK and be single than stay in Nigeria and be in a relationship that is characterized by fakeness and that is hunger-inspired.

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by KnowledgePower7: 10:17pm On Jun 09
Ever since I was a child, for some weird reason I have always disliked UK

Like if I'm given Free Visa to UK
I will not go 1000% serious

And even if I must go, once I enter London
After 10 minutes I will go back to Airport

To me, UK has a gloomy dark vibe that I can't really explain.
Maybe in my past life I was involved with an event in UK, which made me dislike that place..

Just the thought of me going to UK
Gives me Anxiety... I just can't explain why

I rather go to Japan, South Korea than UK angry

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by nepapole(m): 10:18pm On Jun 09
There is no secret...

There is no love in the uk.

The love for dogs supercedes that for humans.

Everybody is crazy here...

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by Raalsalghul: 10:19pm On Jun 09
eazzzy1:
A lot of women plan to get married, a lot of men stumble upon marriage. Most men are married to women they planned to just sleep with. They got in and could not come out.

Women in their 30’s don’t have time for the trial and error, they have it all planned out. Before you get their number, you have to commit, before they visit you, they have to make sure you are willing to get married in 6 months.

Desperation is one of the biggest turnoffs ever. When you are not sure whether a woman likes you or she just likes the idea of marriage. Trying to avoid ‘time wasters’ is one of the main reasons there are a lot of single women. You see a woman leave her boyfriend of two years because he’s wasting her time, 3 years later he’s getting married and she’s still single.

Touche!

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by AirBay: 10:19pm On Jun 09
Everybody too dy fucck around. 0.01% chance of real relationship
Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by givedemwotowoto: 10:20pm On Jun 09
cool
Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by Aremu01(m): 10:20pm On Jun 09
It's hard, really hard to keep up being religious when you cross the border indeed.
The church here self isn't so helping. This is my second year and I am still not used to there church system here.
Talk of dancing and singing and praying..for where...and without that church community it could be hard for many to keep up the spirituality.
They sung and pray don't get me wrong o. But na worship alone and prayer that pastor will just pray and everyone say amen. That's all.
I have to talk to myself to start joining Nigeria services online. Lol... I know the kind of background I came from
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Imagine going to a church and getting served doughnut and coffee even before service starts. Someone will now be sleeping in service chai..oyinbo...
Go

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by correctguy101(m): 10:20pm On Jun 09
Humans...
Wetin be love sef?

Is not just being responsible for another?


What do i even know? I better go relax.. smh

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by Globad(f): 10:20pm On Jun 09
Japa has no provision for love

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by Otulented: 10:20pm On Jun 09
Its well.
Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by ednut1(m): 10:20pm On Jun 09
Nigerian never get tired of relationship matters. Those in uk without citizenship/ ILR are not looking for love but soft landing that will lead to permanent papers. The guys with papers are having a field day nacking 😭

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by virginboy1(m): 10:21pm On Jun 09
If i japa enter UK wetin concern me with love...When i supposed dey find Money.

Make the money come first plenty plenty....I can always love myself...na that one sure pass grin

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by Lincton: 10:21pm On Jun 09
Love across the bridge
Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by SomeoneTalkToMe: 10:22pm On Jun 09
Lol @ declaring a state of emergency grin grin grin

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by Antoeni(m): 10:22pm On Jun 09
Ladies "Until a Man Has Married you, He is Not Obligated to be Responsible For You. Whatever He Does is Out of the Generosity of His Heart , So Ladies you should Never Feel Entitled to His Money

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by optimusprime2(m): 10:22pm On Jun 09
There's no secret... because theres no love period...
it's all about "Knack & Move" no strings attached.

If you need to find love, do it in Naija.

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by Always82: 10:23pm On Jun 09
This life no Ballance atall.

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by xtianchris(m): 10:23pm On Jun 09
remsonik:
Hmm,even in naija it's hard to find. All over the world true love is hard to find this days. We're already in the endtimes
The love of many shall wax cold

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Re: Finding Love In The UK Is Hard, But There's A Secret by Franzinni: 10:24pm On Jun 09
Guys if you dear marry an African girl in Europe .. you will be emasculated, if you bring a lady from Nigeria to UK/Europe the already infected ones will infect her with the feminism mindset and in no time you wilk be emasculated ... If you marry those ones with PhD and masters ... If you like be a brain surgeon ... You will be emasculated.



These things I have seen firsthand ... I have been in the same room with a husband in one European country who was rejoicing to the point of celebrating that his wife who kicked him out and turned an importer exporter into a homeless guy has finally decided to give him chance to come back home ... He was happy like he won a visa lottery.

Wetin concern me self

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