Outstrip:

26 year old only child that is female and Nigerian to boot Finish your studies and get a job far far away somewhere like Alaska where they[b] have to take 7 planes and 2 boats to get to you[/b]

andyanders:

I think you must have over stayed yourself at the age of 26. For you to live like cat and dog with your parents goes to show that there is that character of yours that must have been the course of the problem with them. We Africans tend to tolerate their children more than their foreign counterpart, no mater their age. Unless you say your mother and father were brought up in the United States or their likes whereby at the age of eighteen, you should be talking of trying to be independent.

At 26, age is not by your side. You must at this point in your live be with a man and planning towards settling down no mater your education. If your parents has seen you with serious relationship, they will still not be a problem to you, rather to encourage you to stand and by advising you.

Cat and dog issue with your parents at that age, goes to show that you have a funny character which you never stated. Expose your other side of life because as an African, we tolerate and your parents can tolerate you. I wait for you to come up so that you can get a positive response.

prince3342:

I think, there should be some reasons beyond what you said that your parents might not want to tell you because they might feel, you will find a way to falsely defend yourself. But, I believe they want the best for you.

This is my present situation,  I am residing in the States. I have this lady I want to marry, shes 27 but we always fought because she wants to be by herself of which I opposed,  I have been to her parents, and I have let them know I dont want her to be alone. Up till now, we are still fighting over the issue, shes presently staying with her Mum. Everybody is telling her that you dont need it but she wouldnt listen and thats is a red flag to me,  So, am still taking my time to see if she is the right person I can bring here or not before I proceed with the marriage.

But the truth is that, allowing her to secure a personal place will triggered many unfaithful attitudes but I never told her that because I know she will find a way to falsely defend herself. When, the pressure was too much I sent her to London for 2 weeks visit after like 5 months she started again with this issue of personal place,  I finally agreed and I secured her a place @ Maryland in Lagos BUT AT THIS POINT IF SHES NOT CAREFUL SHE WILL LOSE ME because I am watching her seriously to the extend that all her cell phones, laptop are tapped,  If I discover any small unpleasant attitude, Trust me THATS GAME OVER. I made her understand that I feel more secured with her parents than her living alone but you wouldnt listen.  Right now, as I am talking to you guys here,  Am ready to lose with any small mistake.

mimi234:


ah ha what kind rubbish, you taped her cell and laptop!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WTFFFFFFFFF, you are acting like you own her, your a very very strange guy. I will admit most women would be thrilled to move in with their hubby however everyone is different. She probably just wants to gain some independence which is understandable. Imagine living with your parents your whole life and then you move straight into marriage (especially with someone like you , most probably be controlling her like a maid).

In my opinion let her move in an apartment just make sure its not too far from her parents so at least their is some watchful eyes around simple!

, tbh I don't even understand why people do this long distance relationship for longgg, what relationship is that where your living in the states and shes in Nigeria , #complications things like this i run away from looool, anyway sha its your calling. Good luck

Tatian:

I Thank every one of you for contributing to this topic. To the question of why we live like cat n dog , if I must be sincere I think its because I do not have a job now . But I pray to secure one soonest to the glory of God

Outstrip: 26 year old only child that is female and Nigerian to boot Finish your studies and get a job far far away somewhere like Alaska where they have to take 7 planes and 2 boats to get to you

Outstrip: 26 year old only child that is female and Nigerian to boot Finish your studies and get a job far far away somewhere like Alaska where they have to take 7 planes and 2 boats to get to you

james1: @tatian.
They want the very best for you but at 26,you are a fully grown woman.
Don't you have a b/f?

james1: @tatian.
They want the very best for you but at 26,you are a fully grown woman.
Don't you have a b/f?

2shuz:

hehehehehe!!! im blushing. everybody is failing to address the reason 4 d cat & dog relationship. but wetin i talk na true. I lived wit my parents till I got married. Except if the ppl advising her are not Nigerians or not living in Nigeria. This is small o! Marriage is worse that this o! Ur huz go make u vex finish & u will still service him @ night, lol, as Cja sexy said, u will b longing to see them later in future o! U won't bliv how much I spend wen so as to visit my parents @ least 3x a year as we don't liv in the same state. Kai!!!! Last time I visited I was completely useless, @ d blink of an eye, food is on tthe table, my kids are all clean and playing, clothes washed, kai!!! I was THE QUEEN. See hw me & my sisters compete to visit dem.

2shuz:

hehehehehe!!! im blushing. everybody is failing to address the reason 4 d cat & dog relationship. but wetin i talk na true. I lived wit my parents till I got married. Except if the ppl advising her are not Nigerians or not living in Nigeria. This is small o! Marriage is worse that this o! Ur huz go make u vex finish & u will still service him @ night, lol, as Cja sexy said, u will b longing to see them later in future o! U won't bliv how much I spend wen so as to visit my parents @ least 3x a year as we don't liv in the same state. Kai!!!! Last time I visited I was completely useless, @ d blink of an eye, food is on tthe table, my kids are all clean and playing, clothes washed, kai!!! I was THE QUEEN. See hw me & my sisters compete to visit dem.