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Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Saviola86: 2:41pm On Aug 19
A lady I met online came to visit me and after eating what I prepared she pleaded I gave her some to take home for her family to eat.

Luckily I cooked enough and gave her all to take to them.

She was grateful. Next time she came, my fiancée was around, we stayed and gisted, after eating I thought she wasn't going to ask because of my fiancée's presence but she jokingly pleaded and my fiancée dished some for her to take home.

I loved her courage and originality. She is a brave girl

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Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:45pm On Aug 19
Saviola86:
A lady I met online came to visit me and after eating what I prepared she pleaded I gave her some to take home for her family to eat.

Luckily I cooked enough and gave her all to take to them.

She was grateful. Next time she came, my fiancée was around, we stayed and gisted, after eating I thought she wasn't going to ask because of my fiancée's presence but she jokingly pleaded and my fiancée dished some for her to take home.

I loved her courage and originality. She is a brave girl

why do you invite strangers you meet online for dates at your home, if you have a fiancee?! it sounds like this babe is only coming to your place for the free food giveaway.

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Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Munzy14(m): 3:01pm On Aug 19
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
Na wife material be that ...

Next thing na to put "for sale" gallon untop my keke make I rush do small traditional marriage for her head ASAP....No time

But unfortunately, we can hardly find that kind of bannies these days...cuz the ones God has been moulding of recent are always hungry........very yeye set of people angry
😂😂😂
Smh..
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by lomprico(m): 3:30pm On Aug 19
uncleck:
You took her out on the 1st date and she refused to order anything, She asked you to give her the money instead so she could buy food as there is no food at home, What will you do?

Take her to the market to buy the food stuff and then we go to her place for her cook the dinner that we will both sit together and eat.
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by dalitigator(m): 3:31pm On Aug 19
uncleck:
You took her out on the 1st date and she refused to order anything, She asked you to give her the money instead so she could buy food as there is no food at home, What will you do?


This is the exact example of the woman that was my first friend. I remember those days when she used to frown at me taking her to fast food joints. She would rather ask that I bring the money so we buy food and cook at home. Well! That was until shit happened. She caught me pants down. And I ended up singing Shaggy's " I wasn't me".
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by donbuchi1(m): 3:41pm On Aug 19
Order her dinner so as not to ruin the evening, but also offer her cash so she can purchase food at home.

Only a reasonable girl will make such a demand, but it depends how she made it.
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Inyaky(f): 3:44pm On Aug 19
There's nothing wrong but i don't think it's proper on a first date , even second or third date, I won't do it, begging is demeaning.
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by francotunsco: 4:25pm On Aug 19
She is not anything close to a wife material. She has demonstrated that she can be so desperate and throw decorum to the air at any giving opportunity. This one will do the same to stranger one day neglecting how the husband will feel. Imagine telling me on our wedding day that she prefer I use the money for wedding ring to buy her sewing machine or hair dryer!
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Psoul(m): 4:28pm On Aug 19
uncleck:
You took her out on the 1st date and she refused to order anything, She asked you to give her the money instead so she could buy food as there is no food at home, What will you do?

I will still buy her that food and also give her money to buy food stuff for house.
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Psoul(m): 4:31pm On Aug 19
MrBrownJay1:
I will simply explain to her that the reason we are going on a date is to get to know each other, and the little i was gonna spend on that date (aka drink/snack or chop something) is for her to be comfortable as we get to know one another and discuss life and see if i want to see her again (or not) etc.... if she solely came to that date because of hunger (with stomach making hungry noise) and she is only looking to get out of there with my money so that she can go feed her family, then whats the point of her coming to the date (apart from my money)?! she is missing the whole point about what "A DATE" is.

i would just say:"HELL THE FUKC NO!" then get up and walk away!

How old are you?
U see, always trying to display this mentality of an alpha male will make you not reason well.
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Dpaulie(m): 4:31pm On Aug 19
Give her some cash and never want to see her again.. na dem dey put their family matter for your head if u eventually get married to them

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Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by okoroemeka(m): 4:34pm On Aug 19
uncleck:
You took her out on the 1st date and she refused to order anything, She asked you to give her the money instead so she could buy food as there is no food at home, What will you do?
I will take her to the market give her money to buy foodstuffs,follow her back to the house,knack her one round in the kitchen,after eating the obviously delicious food finish up the remaining rounds
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by EdimaEka: 5:13pm On Aug 19
[quote author=Sonnobax15 post=131576886] lipsrsealed
Na wife material be that ...

Next thing na to put "for sale" gallon untop my keke make I rush do small traditional marriage for her head ASAP....No time

But unfortunately, we can hardly find that kind of bannies these days...cuz the ones God has been moulding of recent are always hungry........very yeye set of people


Omor guy. Laugh wan wound me
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Mom007(f): 5:13pm On Aug 19
MrBrownJay1:


...and i would gladly accept the offer, because compared to what that above babe did, you stil found a way for us to get to know one another. whether we go on a date in a fancy restaurant or at your house cooking a homemade meal, because at the end of the day, the result is the same... aka we will be comfortable and get to know one another.



here is something to never forget...if we go on a date and you are not hungry, i am NOT obliged to give you that money i was ready to spend on that date. that money is not for "you", its SOLELY for the pleasure of me and you on that date, and nothing else. the minute you decide that you want that money, but to go and spend/enjoy it with someone else, then you have missed the concept of what "a date" is.
i think you are mistaking being frank with being desperate... thats a complete waste of time IMHO. if thats how she felt, then she shouldnt have gone to that date, and instead use the small money she had to feed her family, rather than waste that money on transport to come see me. it shows misplaced priorities and/or failed intention IMHO.
now here is the important question any man in that situation should ask themselves: did she come to the date because she wanted to get to know me OR solely for the money handout (she is expecting me to give her)?


I see your point. What can I say. I guess the current economic crisis is bringing out the worst in people.

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Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:25pm On Aug 19
Psoul:
How old are you?
U see, always trying to display this mentality of an alpha male will make you not reason well.

the above has absolutely NOTHING to do with alpha male, and all to do with "common sense"... when a man goes on a date, he doesnt spend money on a woman, he spends money on THE DATE for them being comfortable and having a great time to know one another. that money is not "for her", its for the date. the minute any person believes that all the money that will be spent on a date is "for her" to spend how she pleases (with whom she pleases), thats when this woman has lost the damn plot.

so you think its ok that a man brings money to enjoy a date... and then he should give it to this stranger so that she can go and enjoy that money with her family?!?! some of you brothas make very little sense.... no wonder some women will pull the above yeye trick on foolish men!

whats next? if we go on a date and only buy water, i will now owe this woman money for a meal? BWAAAAHAAHAHAHAHA
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by dkidd: 5:36pm On Aug 19
Lol crazy comments.. She's just being honest with her present situation and seeking assistance and that doesn't make her wife material. There's more to being a wife and a mother of ur future. No wonder most of U guys get scammed into marriages today and then after few years of taking loads of bs u begin to look miserable with sour faces grin

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Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Crafteck1: 5:51pm On Aug 19
DeGods007:


You're real bro!

Experience plenty like mad
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Crafteck1: 5:52pm On Aug 19
dkidd:
Lol crazy comments.. She's just being honest with her present situation and seeking assistance and that doesn't make her wife material. There's more to being a wife and a mother of ur future. No wonder most of U guys get scammed into marriages today and then after few years of taking loads of bs u begin to look miserable with sour faces grin

Make she find person in same situation make dem dey manage.. Make everyone find hin mate.
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by femi4: 5:52pm On Aug 19
uncleck:
You took her out on the 1st date and she refused to order anything, She asked you to give her the money instead so she could buy food as there is no food at home, What will you do?
Give her, there are more important things to look out for as red flag
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Crafteck1: 5:55pm On Aug 19
Mom007:



I see your point. What can I say. I guess the current economic crisis is bringing out the worst in people.


Everyone should find person in similar condition, a woman no go settle for less make man no settle for who her family no fit care for
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Awesome01(m): 5:57pm On Aug 19
MrBrownJay1:
I will simply explain to her that the reason we are going on a date is to get to know each other, and the little i was gonna spend on that date (aka drink/snack or chop something) is for her to be comfortable as we get to know one another and discuss life and see if i want to see her again (or not) etc.... if she solely came to that date because of hunger (with stomach making hungry noise) and she is only looking to get out of there with my money so that she can go feed her family, then whats the point of her coming to the date (apart from my money)?! she is missing the whole point about what "A DATE" is.

i would just say:"HELL THE FUKC NO!" then get up and walk away!

So you'll prefer a pretender? She's worried at the moment about hunger and how to feed and survive. You are worried about assessing her.

Elders say "Hunger no dey enter belle and allow another word enter".

So, asking her to order was your way to bribe her on the date or for you to show off. If she had ordered, is she not the one to consume it ? If you give her the money, is she not the same person to consume it? So what's the big deal here.

What she did is actually a green flag to me. She will always be the type of wife that will always put her family ahead of herself if she gets married.

But in your case that's a bad thing. You prefer a woman who is self-centered, buying expensive party clothes and accessories just to belong instead of helping you with any family bills.

No wonder some guys regret some years after marriage. Because they pretend and the spouse also pretend all through the courtship.
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:57pm On Aug 19
Awesome01:
So you'll prefer a pretender? She's worried at the moment about hunger and how to feed and survive. You are worried about assessing her.Elders say "Hunger no dey enter belle and allow another word enter".

so someone who petends to come on a date to get to know me, but instead comes there solely to get money handouts, is NOT a pretender?!?!? if that babe has hunger issues in her life then she should not accept to go on dates with anybody and instead she should focus on fixing the priorities in her life, aka to get 3 square meals daily!

So, asking her to order was your way to bribe her on the date or for you to show off. If she had ordered, is she not the one to consume it ? If you give her the money, is she not the same person to consume it? So what's the big deal here.

inviting someone on a date and/or accepting to go on a date with someone has absolutely NOTHING to do with receiving free money. that money is solely meant for the date. if the focus of that woman is NOT the date (aka getting to know that person), then why accept to go on a date with that person, to begin with?! dating is NOT a poverty/hunger alleviation scheme. so YES, i will pay for the snacks ONLY if there is an interest to get to know me. but if the interest is solely the money then why waste time with that yeye woman? just because a man decides to spend some money on a date, doesnt mean that this money belongs to that woman, what the hell are you people talking about?!

What she did is actually a green flag to me. She will always be the type of wife that will always put her family ahead of herself if she gets married.

if you believe that a woman spending the little money she has, to pay for transport to go on dates (to thereafter beg for handouts), is a great woman... then we certainly have different opinion about what a great woman is. this woman is a lot of thing imho (deceitful/foolish/swindler etc) but great she certainly isnt.

But in your case that's a bad thing. You prefer a woman who is self-centered, buying expensive party clothes and accessories just to belong instead of helping you with any family bills.

i prefer a woman who takes care of the priorities of her life without begging total strangers for handouts (after accepting to go on dates with them).

No wonder some guys regret some years after marriage. Because they pretend and the spouse also pretend all through the courtship.

so a woman going on dates pretending to be interested in the guy, while all along her sole interest is the money, is NOT a pretender?!?!?!
so i guess what you are saying is that, when you will marry the type of yeye woman as this one, if/when in the future you have money issues, you will be ok with her accepting to go on dates with strangers to thereafter beg them for handouts (to help your family), abi?!?!?!
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Saviola86: 6:58pm On Aug 19
MrBrownJay1:


why do you invite strangers you meet online for dates at your home, if you have a fiancee?! it sounds like this babe is only coming to your place for the free food giveaway.

First she is the only online friend have met with in person

Secondly, I invited her over because we've been talking for long and she is no stranger to my fiancee who trust what I can do

Thirdly, some friendship goes beyond sex, I saw no reason hiding anything or going out secretly when I didn't have anything special with her

Lastly, no she wasn't coming to my house for food alone because she has never begged for anything before like some ladies do. I do not want to go into details but they had it tough then because of some issues on ground
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Psoul(m): 7:51pm On Aug 19
MrBrownJay1:


the above has absolutely NOTHING to do with alpha male, and all to do with "common sense"... when a man goes on a date, he doesnt spend money on a woman, he spends money on THE DATE for them being comfortable and having a great time to know one another. that money is not "for her", its for the date. the minute any person believes that all the money that will be spent on a date is "for her" to spend how she pleases (with whom she pleases), thats when this woman has lost the damn plot.

so you think its ok that a man brings money to enjoy a date... and then he should give it to this stranger so that she can go and enjoy that money with her family?!?! some of you brothas make very little sense.... no wonder some women will pull the above yeye trick on foolish men!

whats next? if we go on a date and only buy water, i will now owe this woman money for a meal? BWAAAAHAAHAHAHAHA

Oga, this thing you are saying is not related to that question the OP asked.
The girl never asked you to buy her anything when you took her out.

You made an offer to buy her food which may be about 3k or 5k.
She told you not to buy that food but give her the money to cook cos she does not have food at home.

If not for the alpha male gene in you, you should have empathy and understand her condition.
To me, I will buy that girl that food and also give her money to cook at home.

From your comment I can draw some inference.
1. Seems like girls you take for a date are those you have the intention to smash and go your way.
If you meet a girl you intend to have healthy relationship with, you'll think beyond what you wrote up there.

2. There are some friends that can buy you breweries of drinks but can never give you cash of 1k

3. You lack empathy.

4. You are still a very young boy that want to show your guys that women don't tell u what to do. You like calling other men that don't behave like you SIMPS.
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Awesome01(m): 8:13pm On Aug 19
MrBrownJay1:


so someone who petends to come on a date to get to know me, but instead comes there solely to get money handouts, is NOT a pretender?!?!? if that babe has hunger issues in her life then she should not accept to go on dates with anybody and instead she should focus on fixing the priorities in her life, aka to get 3 square meals daily!



inviting someone on a date and/or accepting to go on a date with someone has absolutely NOTHING to do with receiving free money. that money is solely meant for the date. if the focus of that woman is NOT the date (aka getting to know that person), then why accept to go on a date with that person, to begin with?! dating is NOT a poverty/hunger alleviation scheme. so YES, i will pay for the snacks ONLY if there is an interest to get to know me. but if the interest is solely the money then why waste time with that yeye woman? just because a man decides to spend some money on a date, doesnt mean that this money belongs to that woman, what the hell are you people talking about?!



if you believe that a woman spending the little money she has, to pay for transport to go on dates (to thereafter beg for handouts), is a great woman... then we certainly have different opinion about what a great woman is. this woman is a lot of thing imho (deceitful/foolish/swindler etc) but great she certainly isnt.



i prefer a woman who takes care of the priorities of her life without begging total strangers for handouts (after accepting to go on dates with them).



so a woman going on dates pretending to be interested in the guy, while all along her sole interest is the money, is NOT a pretender?!?!?!
so i guess what you are saying is that, when you will marry the type of yeye woman as this one, if/when in the future you have money issues, you will be ok with her accepting to go on dates with strangers to thereafter beg them for handouts (to help your family), abi?!?!?!

From your response I understand where you submission is coming from. You have good points there, but we may not agree. So I leave you to your opinion which you have a right to. And based on the deceptive ways of girls nowadays, you may be right or wrong.

But I will take a truthful woman to one that will pretend just to act classy.
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by MrBrownJay1(m): 8:24pm On Aug 19
Awesome01:
From your response I understand where you submission is coming from. You have good points there, but we may not agree. So I leave you to your opinion which you have a right to. And based on the deceptive ways of girls nowadays, you may be right.

But I will take a truthful woman to one that will pretend just to act classy.

you are welcome my brotha.... but remember, being truthful doesnt make anyone holy, it just makes them "truthful". just because a woman is honest about who she is, doesnt automatically make her great. you guys should stop making whats normal in r/ship seem abnormal. a woman being honest is THE NORM.

BTW if a woman told you on the 1st date that she is actually an undercover olosho (OR that she has 5 different BFs looking for a 6th one), would that suddenly make you see her as wife material (because she is honest about who she is)? i dont judge women because of how deceitful some women may be, i judge them for who they truly are.

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Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:00pm On Aug 19
Psoul:
Oga, this thing you are saying is not related to that question the OP asked.

what the hell are you talking about...?1st you claim some irrelevant Alpha male issues, and now change to the above...ok let me educate you some more:

The girl never asked you to buy her anything when you took her out.

WRONG!!!! if that girl expects me to give her the money i was about to spend on that date, then OF COURSE she is asking me for money! the foolishness of it all is that, she is asking for money i have no even spent yet, as if she is entitled to it. FAIL #1

You made an offer to buy her food which may be about 3k or 5k.She told you not to buy that food but give her the money to cook cos she does not have food at home.

WRONG AGAIN!!!! in a date, a man invites a girl out so that they can enjoy themselves together and get to know one another, aka have a nice experience together to see if you want to see each other again.... thats the only reason why that man is willing to send that money. what kind of yeye bait and switch is this that i should just collect all the money i am about to spend, and hand it ove to this stranger so that they can go enjoy their own life with my money?!?!?
- if that woman doesnt want to be comfortable with that man in that date then she shouldnt be there.
- if that woman doesnt want to eat during that date, then the offer of buying her food is no more valid (the minute we leave that date). she can/should only enjoy the food while spending time with me, and certainly not without me. what you wrote is as foolish as saying that because i invite someone to the cinema, if they dont want to watch that movie with me, i should give her the money so that she can go enjoy watching that movie with someone else, BWAAAAAAAAAAA! FAIL #2

If not for the alpha male gene in you, you should have empathy and understand her condition.
To me, I will buy that girl that food and also give her money to cook at home.
3. You lack empathy.

we are all different and you are entitled to your opinion... i will NEVER have empathy for someone who is trying to use a date as a hunger/poverty alleviation scheme. if that woman doesnt want to spend time with me and/or get to know me, then why the hell should i waste money on her? am i father xmas OR mumu #1?!?!? FAIL #3

From your comment I can draw some inference.
1. Seems like girls you take for a date are those you have the intention to smash and go your way.
If you meet a girl you intend to have healthy relationship with, you'll think beyond what you wrote up there.

WRONG!!! a date is solely to get to know someone, enjoy a great time together and see if you desire to see them again. how can you start a healthy r/ship with someone who is only there to get a handout from you so that they could go feed their family?!? you cant possibly start a healthy r/ship with someone who doesnt have their life's priorities fixed. what the hell are you talking about?!
this woman should fix her life before thinking on going on date with anyone.

2. There are some friends that can buy you breweries of drinks but can never give you cash of 1k

what a man does with his money, is his choice. who the hell do you thinkk you are trying to dictate what another man does with his money?!? if you have financial issues in your life, then you certainly shouldnt be hanging out with your buddies at the drinking den, and instead you should sort your life out. people like you, who believe that because you have problems in your life, then all your friends (that worked hard in their own lives) shouldnt enjoy a night of drinking, are living in LA LA LAND! regardless of your money issues, your friend will go out and enjoy life (with or without you). stop foolishly believe that the life of your friends should stop because "you" have money problems.

4. You are still a very young boy that want to show your guys that women don't tell u what to do. You like calling other men that don't behave like you SIMPS.

so now i would be a simp for not allowing a woman (not interested in knowing me) to get a free handout from mney that is not even hers to begin with?! in what yeye world do you live where women can just show up on a date and ask you to give her the money you were about to spend on that date, so that they can go do something else with that money?! in what yeye world is that nonsense even possible? only a deluded simp would give her the damn money! whats next? if i am taking a Uber to the date, i should just not show up and send her the Uber money too?! or better yet, i should not eat as well and just give her the money i would have spent on "my food" too.... BWAAAAAAH you people are really making NO DAMN SENSE!
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Lilboots(m): 9:02pm On Aug 19
shortgun:
That's definitely a red flag a man should not take lightly.
Girls from lower economic backgrounds tend to do things only for survival.
She will date men she don't love as long as he provides for her, she will pretend to tolerate all his excesses patiently waiting until he takes her abroad then she will join the league of Nigerian wives in diaspora (aka foreign witches) and show her true colours


This👆🏿
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Bankowner: 11:05pm On Aug 19
haphizz57:

Wot if dey no invite u? U av started showing ursef on a first date
I'm guessing you didn't read the topic, the girl was taken out on a date.
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by Amuroba: 11:11pm On Aug 19
uncleck:
You took her out on the 1st date and she refused to order anything, She asked you to give her the money instead so she could buy food as there is no food at home, What will you do?

If she don't know my place yet, I'm blocking her.

If she does, I'll tell her I got back with my ex, and she isn't comfortable with me keeping friends of the opposite sex.

I'll make sure she ate to satisfaction though(on the date).
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by smugmanuel(m): 1:57am On Aug 20
I guess you’ve been listening to Vybz fm 94.5.
Re: Guys, You Took Her Out On The First Date And She Did This. by ObalendeCMS: 2:36am On Aug 20
4mat!!

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