1. Miscommunication: The absence of effective communication can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts within a marriage, making it appear complex.

2. Unresolved issues: Past hurts, unresolved conflicts, childhood traumas, emotional baggage and unaddressed problems can create tension and complexity in a marriage.

3. Unrealistic expectations: Unrealistic expectations about marriage, roles, and responsibilities of a partner can lead to disappointment and frustration, making the relationship feel more complex than it needs to be.

4. Financial problems: Money issues such as how it is made, spent, saved , invested and multiplied can be a major source of stress and strain in a marriage, creating complexity and tension between partners.

5. Lack of intimacy: Physical intimacy (sex) for the man and emotional intimacy (affection) for the woman are essential for a healthy marriage, and their absence can make the relationship feel distant and complex.

6. External pressures: The manner in which family members, friends, or external influences get involved can add stress and complexity to a marriage, causing tension between partners.

7. Differences in values and beliefs: Misalignment of core values, belief systems, core concepts and aspirations can create conflicts and challenges in a marriage, making it appear more complex than it needs to be.

8. Non-complimentary Temperaments: Overlapping of human temperaments can really make marriage appear complex. When two talkative (Sanguine), or two idealists ( Melancholy ) , two quiet people ( Phlegmatic ), two strong - willed people ( Choleric ) get married. Things can get really messed up.

9. Superiority Complex: Marriage is team work with each team member bringing in his/her own peculiar and usually different charm ( i.e. strength ). A man is not superior to a woman, we are just different with diverse functions to undertake within the scope of marriage

10. Pride: Pride can be very subtle. Indeed, pride can really make marriage appear complex. For the man, it is ego and for the woman, it is in-submissiveness. For the woman to be submissive, the man must surrender his ego and vice-versa.
Marriage on its own is not complex, but human beings are. However, if we pay attention to the above listed and many more that didn’t make this list, marriage will be as simple as a,b,c.

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