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My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Meektunz: 12:52pm On Nov 11, 2024
I've been married for over 8years now with three kids. I've always doubted the paternity of my first son right from day one. Then last year December, 2023 i decided to run a DNA test and behold i found out that i wasn't the father of my first son as I've always suspected. After confronting my wife, she begged and begged that she's sorry when she got pregnant she went to tell the real father about the pregnancy but he rejected and denied being responsible that was why she pinned it on me.

She got pregnant after our engagement and that forced me to take her in even before the marriage due to pressure from he family.

The truth is i've forgiven her since i found out about the paternity and I've been taking care of the child equally with my other kids, though anytime i remember about the paternity of the kid, i feel like a f00l, my spirit goes down and also feels angry about everything etc. Right now I'm planning to tell her to take the kid back to the father because i cannot continue taking care of someone's child while his Dad is still very much alive and perhaps doing better than me financially.

Pls guys what do you think about my plans?

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by h0pze3: 1:01pm On Nov 11, 2024
God will be with you
No need to send the innocent baby to his original father.
Once the baby don mature small tell him about his real father and let the baby decide.

We must make it a habit to request DNA before supporting the new borns brothers, coz yooh ku rough 😁.. imagine finding out after 25 yrs and you already invested about millions into the child's life from newborn to 25yrs. The very same child you cared about he will look for his biological father and buy him a brand new BMW or Vito Brabus with your expenses. And tells you that you are not his father

But for me ooo
DNA as soon as she conceived the baby
I can't pay bills for child that ain't mine

🤣🤣🤣

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by NoahHadNoArk: 1:32pm On Nov 11, 2024
That boy calls you father

Disregard that DNA test

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by RealityKings: 1:36pm On Nov 11, 2024
The boy already knows you as his father, just count him as an adopted kid. He is a gift to you.

The only problem is if the actual father knows he has a son with you, which I am sure your wife would have hint the dude. You can still win in court tho, since the child was had after being lawfully wedded. I think that's the English grin

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Rtk4: 2:04pm On Nov 11, 2024
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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Pochettino(f): 2:14pm On Nov 11, 2024
We women are really terrible when it comes to staying with one man. I wonder why we just love sleeping around. This is sad.

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by NonsenseRubbish: 3:12pm On Nov 11, 2024
Great words from Don baba J “ DNA test is more important than naming ceremony”
Might sound harsh but it is straightforward and simple in these times we find ourselves.

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by AllBlack: 3:45pm On Nov 11, 2024
Meektunz:

The truth is i've forgiven her

All the times the woman must have nagged and disrespected you and complained just because you delayed in paying A BILL OR MORE for that particular child all the years before you spent your own hard money to discover the fraud.

Women are the best walahi.

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Meektunz: 4:10pm On Nov 11, 2024
AllBlack:


All the times the woman must have nagged and disrespected you and complained just because you delayed in paying A BILL OR MORE for that particular child all the years before you spent your own hard money to discover the fraud.

Women are the best walahi.
broke my phone and television one time sef cos i didn't have money to buy diapers which caused an argument then fight
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by ValCon888: 7:10pm On Nov 11, 2024
I cannot believe the trash advice I'm seeing here.

That woman you call wife was ready to take the truth to the grave while allowing you raise another man's child. You need to deliver that child back to the rightful father.

Your wife is not remorseful for what she did. She's only remorseful because she got caught.

If I was you, I'd send her packing because the foundation of your marriage is fundamentally
flawed as it was built on a bedrock of lies and deceit.

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by biggy00000(m): 7:45pm On Nov 11, 2024
Details matter Sir/Ma.
In all you do never forget that.
@op, this was you in 2022

Here you said - she told you the child isn't yours.
Now you said you discovered in 2023 via DNA that the child isn't yours.
Get your story straight brother.

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by tanigororo: 8:12pm On Nov 11, 2024
Fake boring storyline
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Vergovert: 8:56pm On Nov 11, 2024
NoahHadNoArk:
That boy calls you father

Disregard that DNA test


Rubbish Igbo baby factory culture use to celebrate promiscuity among females.

DNA is about extending the family lines. By accepting the bastard, and toil day and night to extend another man's lineage is foolishness.

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Karleb(m): 9:16pm On Nov 11, 2024
You are a fool for accepting the child and forgiving her.

You mumu die. grin grin
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by rickleye: 2:03am On Nov 12, 2024
biggy00000:
Details matter Sir/Ma.
In all you do never forget that.
@op, this was you in 2022

Here you said - she told you the child isn't yours.
Now you said you discovered in 2023 via DNA that the child isn't yours.
Get your story straight brother.

The story keeps shifting sigh 😔
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by galantjoe(m): 3:36am On Nov 12, 2024
Return the child now or he will return himself when he is of age.

Why taking DNA paternity test when you know you can't act on it. If the child is a daughter I can take it but where he is a male. No no for me where I get other make child of my own. Except he is not my first son.

In African culture first son or child occupies important position in your family when you died. So by leaving your family upon a bastard as a head where you have your legit sons or daughters are wickedness against your own real children,past generation and posterity.

Return the child now before he will publicly disgrace you by then every body will know your family secret

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Baronthecelebri: 5:30am On Nov 12, 2024
God punish you, for accepting that child and the mother. God punish you again
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Dawn91(m): 9:46am On Nov 12, 2024
biggy00000:
Details matter Sir/Ma.
In all you do never forget that.
@op, this was you in 2022

Here you said - she told you the child isn't yours.
Now you said you discovered in 2023 via DNA that the child isn't yours.
Get your story straight brother.

The OP @ meektunz is mentally unstable. Like most people on this forum they are jobless, idle adn haunted by evil spirits. They wake up and make up fake stories just to seek attention to fill their empty souls. These sort of people are deeply depressed. He is likely going mad slowly and doesn't know it.

What normal man wakes up on Tuesday to type a fake story year after year? Is that not madness? undecided
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by EmperorCaesar(m): 10:03am On Nov 12, 2024
NoahHadNoArk:
That boy calls you father

Disregard that DNA test

h0pze3:
God will be with you
No need to send the innocent baby to his original father.
Once the baby don mature small tell him about his real father and let the baby decide.


🤣🤣🤣

You people should stop giving nonsense advice

I've seen this happened to a family member, and when the child was in her final year in school, she started disturbing everyone about how she wants to go with her father and thats because the real father and his people kept coming close and after many psyching, she believes its best for her to go with them


Girl graduate, do change of name join, still move commot for house

I know not every child in that case would act that way, but its an unreasonable risk to take

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Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by atoliman: 10:12am On Nov 12, 2024
Divorce sharply and mandatory dna for the rest. Trust has been broken - there are women who would not cheat and are out there looking for husband.
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Uchenna10(m): 11:07am On Nov 12, 2024
How sure are you that you own the rest of the kids?.
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Allotrope69(m): 12:35pm On Nov 12, 2024
rickleye:


The story keeps shifting sigh 😔


Greetings to u Sir. How are you doing?
Hope all is well?

It's been a while. Have a good day Sir
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by rickleye: 9:15pm On Nov 12, 2024
Allotrope69:



Greetings to u Sir. How are you doing?
Hope all is well?

It's been a while. Have a good day Sir

Doing alright ! Trust kids keeping you busy
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Nonexisting: 9:33pm On Nov 12, 2024
A fool knows he's a fool but can't help himself. I refuse to come in between you and your lovely foolishness. I won't be that enemy of "progress". I'm out of here.

Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Exceed15: 9:36pm On Nov 12, 2024
But the woman will never accept the man's son from another woman .She will treat him differently from her own kids. They give what they can take and expect u to accept. Tell her to return the boy to the biological father else u will continue living with bitterness

Those advising you otherwise won't even imagine the shit happening to them.
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Allotrope69(m): 9:44pm On Nov 12, 2024
rickleye:


Doing alright ! Trust kids keeping you busy

Your WhatsApp ain't connecting sir
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by Padipadi: 5:22am On Nov 13, 2024
NoahHadNoArk:
That boy calls you father

Disregard that DNA test
Meektunz, no gree. Send the boy back to his father as condition for the marriage to work.
Ya wife fit go create issues later or make the papa come dey use noise disturb you. It's crazy to forgive a DNA issue. Cheating can be tolerated but the seed is a trauma to forgive.
Re: My Experience Is Really A Sad One by nasbiafra(m): 6:04am On Nov 13, 2024
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