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| Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Animegirl(f): 8:59pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
I have a burning passion to become a wealthy and successful woman, but I'm worried that getting married and having children might force me to put my dreams on hold. I'm concerned that I won't be able to balance family life with my personal ambitions. Furthermore, the societal pressures in Nigeria, combined with the constraints of time and age, are making me feel like I'm already at a disadvantage. My desire for success is strong, but I'm fearful that having a family might mean sacrificing my dreams. I'm really scared. 30 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by VinnyBaba: 9:04pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Hehehehe, OP. This Life, sometimes You have to sacrifice one thing to get Another.  Look at Oprah Winfrey, she Acquired Billions and International Fame, But didn't Marry up till her 50's (don't think she is even married).  Since you want Wealth, Pursue it. A Man/Husband will still come but remain Trim and maintain your Figure like those Kate Henshaw and Genevieve kind of ladies.   56 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Omoawoke(m): 9:04pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Animegirl: Life is sometimes like chess.. When you play chess, you will understand that for you to achieve a particular goal, you must give up something for something. The word is “Sacrifice” you want to be very successful and powerful and wealthy and have a loving successful husband and a beautiful family with kids? Then live happily ever after like the movies, well you can! Every one wishes the same, so how powerful is your mind to make it happen? But from my own perspective, if I were to choose between a woman who is so obsessed with becoming powerful and a woman who’s so obsessed with family , kids and supporting her husband, I will choose the family oriented woman 129 Likes 9 Shares |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Namaster: 9:08pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Marriage and children are EXCUSES used by rat-minded women to justify their MEDIOCRITY. Choose a spouse whose ambitions and expectations ALIGN with yours. DON'T marry a man who's interested in a homemaker and turn around to bitch about it. FOLLOW the footsteps of the Venerable Madam Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala. 84 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by arkad139: 9:12pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
What if you sacrifice the marriage and u still fail to make the money? Double wahala  your chances of becoming rich in Nigeria is very slim55 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by richmond500: 9:18pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
You just need to have a man that have big dream as u do, it is easier when u have a guy who is supportive and understands u. Tell him children should come later as u want to focus on ur career for now. Marriage is supportive but children can delay progress especially in their first 4yrs when they need the most attention, this is the time they learn to put their hands in fire, fall from the balcony, cry all night so u can't rest, pick sharp objects and put in their mouth. Except u have someone to watch over them, don't have children in the earlier stage of ur career 112 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by VinnyBaba: 9:19pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
arkad139: Yeah, Dat's a possibility. But It is BETTER to Attempt to achieve something and Fail Than Not Try to and be Regretting for the rest of your Life. One of my Female coursemates once posted that as a Young Girl, she had so many BIG DREAMS. That now even with a Husband and 2 kids, sometimes she wished she could have had time to Pursue them. 22 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Exceed15: 9:21pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Marriage is not an achievement. It is a responsibility. If you are not set to combine your dream and the responsibility of marriage then choose the one that matter most to u. 16 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Solofresh2: 9:24pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Animegirl:Your dreams are valid, and you can balance family life with your ambitions. Success doesn’t have to be either-or; prioritize your goals, plan strategically, and find supportive partnerships. Remember, there’s no fixed timeline for success, so focus on building your path at your pace. Seek inspiration from role models and believe in your ability to create a fulfilling life that aligns with your vision. 12 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Animegirl(f): 9:26pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Omoawoke: How powerful is my mind, hmm. You see, what you men want vs what I want is quite different. I'm unlucky meeting guys who don't align with mine. Moreover I'm not obsess with power, I just want to be successful and wealthy. 14 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Animegirl(f): 9:29pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Namaster: 2 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Omoawoke(m): 9:30pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Animegirl: Family is a team work, not individual success. The way you desire success for yourself “I want to be wealthy!” What happens to “I want me and my husband to be wealthy “ Afterall, your family wealth is for you, your husband and children… I sense a kind of selfish ambition (pardon my judgment) But I as a man, will avoid someone like you… nothing personal, but I rather prefer to be with a woman that knows that when it’s time to make sacrifices, she won’t hesitate when necessary for the overall good of the family. 25 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Animegirl(f): 9:48pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Omoawoke: Honestly, that's why I'm hesitant to start a family at this point in my life - I don't want to compromise my emotional focus. For me, achieving personal success is distinct from ensuring the success of my future family. If I become successful, my family will naturally benefit from the fruits of my labor. 19 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Omoawoke(m): 9:51pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Animegirl: That’s good, nothing wrong with your ambitions.. I hope you find what you seek. All the best 13 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by dkidd: 10:09pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Animegirl:Yes for most women. But if U are well grounded in character and still maintain Ur true feminine nature, believing Ur man is head above U, not letting ur success get into Ur head, putting family and God above all u can overcome it. Otherwise na sexxtoys and angry bitter left wing men haters in disguise as feminists go surround U and it will eventually be Ur way of life. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Shokoloko(f): 10:25pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
VinnyBaba:Oprah has been with her common law partner since 1986. They live together. They just did not have a marriage ceremony 6 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Shokoloko(f): 10:33pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Animegirl:Getting married to an open minded man will not truncate or delay your dreams but having children will. Please note that regardless of what you see on social media men love wealthy successful women. Not the traditional ones with good character. No, the wealthy women. So pursue your dreams. Look for an open minded young man (He does not have to be Nigerian or African). If you know you want children strategize to ensure you have them before 44. Good luck! 10 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Animegirl(f): 10:41pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Shokoloko: Thank you. 3 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by SuperOnyi: 10:50pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
 Everything comes with a price,but if i can meet someone who aligns with my goals and dream in life, I'll certainly eat my cake and still eat it again and again. Money isn't what pushes me to succeed but the thought of being unable to provide for my loved ones and the people around me, and achieve my dreams (of proving that the "black man" can create something out of nothing) is one of the most important motivations. If only, I can find such a woman... I'm handsome... blablablabla. The point is: once you find that kind of person, you wouldn't have to sacrifice something important to you all because of your ambition. Not when you're not a nun. I have a lot to write right now but... 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Sp1ritHusband(m): 11:07pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Animegirl:I will give you free advice as someone with lots of experience. 1. Fvuck societal or family expectations. In the end, you will be alone in the marriage, and if it does not work for you, you bear the consequences alone so if you think you may not be ready, never go into a marriage. This is 2024, the age of information and artificial intelligence and man has come a long way. We need to begin to re-evaluate all these social norms and expectations such as marriage and determining our place in the world, and how we fit in. You do not have to be married if you don't want to but, you will have prices to pay as a Nigerian living in Nigeria such as; Social Stigma: You may face judgment and societal pressure due to cultural expectations of marriage and motherhood. Family Pressure: Relatives might pressure or criticize you for not conforming to traditional family roles. Economic Dependency in Old Age: Without children, alternative plans are needed for financial and emotional support in later years. Religious Criticism: Religious communities may interpret your decision as going against teachings, leading to potential judgment. Relationship Challenges: Romantic options might be limited, as many men see marriage and children as non-negotiable. Isolation in Friendships: Married or parenting friends might drift apart, leaving you feeling isolated. Mental Health Impact: Societal pressures and loneliness may affect self-esteem and emotional well-being. Reduced Community Respect: Leadership roles and influence in traditional settings may be tied to marital or parental status. Missed Networking Opportunities: Many social and professional connections in Nigeria are built around family-related events, which you might miss. You must be ready to live with the above. Now, when It comes to relationships, it is not always black and white, you may be single and still not be successful, You may marry and be miserable so as a lady, there is a third alternative, Pursue your career and when successful, strike an arrangement with a partner for pregnancy like Linda Ikeji and continue enjoying your life absent of the restrictions of marriage. I will stop here. 11 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by SeniorGee(m): 11:17pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Pray for man that will support your dreams. |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by pongwa(m): 11:42pm On Dec 19, 2024 |
Animegirl:do what suits but remember, you have to sacrifice something to achieve something. 6 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by purples25(f): 12:52am On Dec 20, 2024 |
Do what you want to do now, some men will not allow women to even go back to school once the woman enters their house. Some men are envious, the things you want to do, fragile ego won't let them allow you to achieve them within the marriage. So do what you want to do first. Then get a partner. 17 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by chatinent: 1:48am On Dec 20, 2024 |
Simple advice: marry and rest. 1 Like |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by ednut1(m): 3:02am On Dec 20, 2024 |
Okonjo Iweala is not married Dora Akunyili didn’t marry? Make una dey calm down abeg8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by papyjaypaul: 3:14am On Dec 20, 2024 |
I see some people quoting Professors, whose husband are already intelligent people and have some sense. What about Funke Akindele Folorunso Alakija Tiwa Savage etc I am just giving you the flip side of the coin. Men like to provide and whether you like it or not, it takes a self confident man not to be intimidated by your wealth. It's just the way the game is, except you want to be a second wife or something like that where you will not be in his life too much. Women in the past used to do this but that was because the extended family system was strong and they wanted to preserve the family. I am not discouraging you, I encourage you to go for what you want but this is human nature and reality. Women are not inspired by men who are not up to their standards. Women marry up for a reason. It is in their nature to have a man who can provide security and if the woman is already doing it, it will cause problems. Women want that confidence from men and if unfortunately, his work does not pay off, it will affect him and the house. Today women are earning more than men and we are seeing the results. If the man is okay with being a home dad, please accept it that way and don't complain but many times, we see that once women can do what men do, they don't see your worth anymore and it is usually difficult for that woman to respect the man. What does he bring to the table? You are already the table. 23 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by papyjaypaul: 3:37am On Dec 20, 2024 |
Should I tell you the worst thing? Once a man has seen that there is no need to provide, he stops hustling. He becomes mentally lazy, not totally his fault but because of the conditioning. He doesn't see the need anymore. There is already security and this thing pisses women off because they still expect him to work hard and make money. They call him deadbeat and write him off. This same man will see a poor girl and work hard to elevate her. When the man is beneath her, she does not see his worth even if he is trying his best. She also starts seeing the man as a leech not because he is, but because she is performing the role of provider. Men can provide without attaching too much emotions to it. Women are cunning in their finances. They don't mind taking care of their family members and other emotional stuff but it makes her crazy when she is doing the work of provider and caregiver. A woman would rather bea single mom and know that she is the only one taking care of the family than to have a man who is around and not doing anything. That's the nature of men. I just want you to ask yourself if you are very sure you can live with it. Don't think when I am giving you these examples, I am talking about poor men. I am talking about men who are millionaires and their wives are millionaires too. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x5xY-o_Gs8E https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZyUXBmboj1E It takes a wise woman to manage her ego and her household when she outearns him and before you get married, discuss with the guy you want to marry and check their family if they are confident people or they are small minded. 8 Likes 4 Shares
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| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by idahme(m): 4:27am On Dec 20, 2024 |
richmond500: Children will come later , Nkonjo iweala was having children in addition to her career and blossomed. Millions of ladies have done this and became successful. No man who has his senses on will ever agree to this views of yours but majority Wil agree she gives birth to fewer children and then squarely face her dreams.Child birthing won't hold you down, even for those who work in big corporations there are opportunities for women to birth children without any consequences so what is the fuse about child birth hindering your goals. If she thinks it will it's better not to get married or tell the man she is involved with about her intentions not to get pregnant so he makes his decisions appropriately. 3 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Urgent1Million: 5:11am On Dec 20, 2024 |
Animegirl:First of all, getting married doesn't solve the problem of loneliness. Getting a man who understands partnership does. Be careful the kind of advice you take - offline and online. You can be wealthy and have a family, but most of the time, one has to be compromised (not entirely abandoned) for the other. In the end, everyone must live the emptiness of something - genuine love or genuine wealth. I'm not saying there's no possibility of getting the two. It's just a case of ½ in a million at best. Good luck with whatever you decide to pursue. 5 Likes |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by imagrg(m): 5:17am On Dec 20, 2024 |
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| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by Wealthoptulent(m): 5:28am On Dec 20, 2024 |
Animegirl:wetin u want? be a business woman with pyjamas 80k + ur body at delivery = TOTAL package 300k and 3 years in to business u go connect pass Google MAP or other wise CorrectionFLuid:Ni orúkọ ti a n'pe Baba rẹ! 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Is Loneliness The Price I Will Pay To Become A Successful Woman? by drstranged: 5:30am On Dec 20, 2024 |
Omoawoke:Gbam!!! You've hut it exactly as it is! 2 Likes |
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