I will make it brief.

Today is our six years wedding anniversary and my wife (a very good wife) decided to surprise me with a gift. She bought a material for me to sew native attire. Of course, she said I would have to settle the tailor charges when I get it made. No qualms. I was so excited and thankful. Then it came, she told me that she also bought exactly the same materials for her two elder brothers. My wife knows that I don't do anko (asoebi). Now I feel belittled and the gift looks more like a slap. I strongly feel that mine should not be the same with anyone else 's. That difference is key to me (even if mine is cheaper and of lower quality). I am her husband and the family of her child, not just any man. She has been my sole responsibility for the past six years and her first ever anniversary gift should not equate me to her brothers in the village.

I gently told her to at least change the color of mine, but she has been moody since. God knows that I don't intend to use that material. I might just give it to her younger brother next time he visits.

For the matured men (my elders in marriage), please am I on the wrong here. I am open to honest responses.

I just feel that mine should be different, the price doesn't matter. The value for me is rooted in mine being different. I do things for my sister too, but never on the same level with my wife. Her's is always different to reflect her unique place in my life.

Sorry, not so brief after all.