Emeskhalifa:
Sometimes fear of all this kind of thing makes me pray silently to have male children. Nna raising female kids ain't no joke at all. So many predators, pedophiles just brekete full everywhere.

May God protect every girl child out there

And u think male kids re not molested too?
Am a living witness and mine occured for more than 3 years and always on daily basis.
May God help all kids out there irrespective of the gender.

Fineman2:

Nollywood actress, Iyabo Ojo, also known as Queen Mother has opened up about some personal and traumatic experiences from her childhood.

In a conversation with her colleague Biola Bayo on the talk show, Talk to B, which was shared on Friday, Ojo revealed that she had been raped five times.

She highlighted the prevalence of rape apologists in society and stated that she would hold anyone, even her own son, accountable if accused of such a crime.

“I was raped five times in my life. I discovered we have a lot of rape apologists. I don’t care who the person is; if that person is my son, I am going to come for him unapologetically,” she declared.

Iyabo also revealed that her father disowned her when she insisted on marrying her late husband.

“The only time I lacked was when I insisted this was the man I was going to get married to because, at that time, my dad and I disowned each other.

She spoke about how her father struggled with alcohol and drug addiction, which ultimately led to his death at the young age of 40.

“My dad did everything, alcohol and drugs, so it messed him up at a young age. He died at 40,” she added.

Reflecting on her early years, Iyabo disclosed that she was raised by her grandmother and only met her mother when she was around seven years old.

“I grew up with my grandmother, who is half Delta and half Igbo. I think I was seven before I knew my mother,” she added.
https://punchng.com/video-i-was-raped-five-times-iyabo-ojo-opens-up-about-abuse/

Iyabo has told this painful story over and over again (with one involving armed robbers in her then Ikeja residence) and it's very clear she hasn't fully healed mentally and emotionally because she lashes out at people sometimes off and on social media. She can go for NLP sessions and more advanced therapy combos with professionals such as Lanre Olusola and no doubt, she'll be able to to resolve some of her past and live a fulfilling life. There's a need for chemical castration for any rape offender worldwide and if death results from that heinous crime, then the electric chair or lethal injections should take care of capital punishments as stipulated by the courts.

For those asking, this is where she spoke of the unfortunate incidents.

https://www.nairaland.com/6457781/iyabo-ojo-armed-robber-raped

Best not to condemn others if you don't know what they passed through.

GloriousGbola:


I have had a talk with my daughter more than once where I have told her you cannot trust anyone
It does not matter if the guy was a family friend from childhood.

It is also why I cannot leave her alone in the house with lesson teachers.

If you sit and talk with guys a large number of their sexual escapades are rape. Usually because a girl made the mistake of seeing them as responsible human beings.

Now as I am writing this I realise I have to talk to my daughter about being wary also of older so called authority figures.

You just made me remember a man who belonged to the same religious organization with us, way back then. We called him 'uncle' even though he was in no way related to us.

Anytime I and my sister were with this man in his house, he had no qualms about undressing around us, two pre-teen girls, under the guise of "you are my children." One particular day, he exposed his underpants to us when he was adjusting his wrapper and we saw something that looked like a pestle at 90 degrees in that area. We were too young to understand what we just saw, and it was many years later that we realized he deliberately exposed his erection to us. Someone like that could have raped either my sister or I if we were ever alone with him. Thank God, my sister, who is older felt very uncomfortable with this particular last display. She didn't know why, but she just felt creeped out and after that day we never stepped our legs there again.

And we never told our mum. Why? I have no idea. I guess we never quite understood the danger we were in. I was about 9 or 10 when this was happening.

When we told our mum, years later, she was shocked and furious and said the man was lucky she didn't have his contact details again, otherwise she would have given him the disgrace of his life.

Thunder sha will faya you wherever you are, Uncle Udoh.

I'm narrating this because you mentioned the several conversations you have had with your girl child about predators. I never had such a conversation with my parents, which is why I and my sister did not recognize our so-called 'uncle' for what he was. Thank God he never got the chance to molest us.

Dyke15:
And u think male kids re not molested too?
Am a living witness and mine occured for more than 3 years and always on daily basis.
May God help all kids out there irrespective of the gender.

Sorry about that

Liar. You were raped 5 times and you didn't do anything about it. Olosho

immortalcrown:
It is a pity that you found yourself in the midst of rapists.

She is pathetic Liar.

Christ4ever:
No wonder she's always bitter.

I pray you find healing Iyabo. That's if you are not lying.

She is a pathetic Liar. One of my boy dey macl am for London those days then , nah for my restaurant most of the artists dey come advertised themselves. She is so dirty .

Umuinyioku:
Why abusing her. For confessing of her ordeal as a growing child?

You lack empathy!

She is a pathetic Liar.

altteemy:
For those asking, this is where she spoke of the unfortunate incidents.

https://www.nairaland.com/6457781/iyabo-ojo-armed-robber-raped

Best not to condemn others if you don't know what they passed through.

It's impressive that you brought up the link to that story in your post. When I first read that thread interview by Iyabo 4 years ago, it shook my being as a man because her first husband was right in the house when these armed robbers and criminals chose to humiliate her through rape. For a man, hearing the cries of your wife in a helpless state like that can be very jarring to the senses and emasculating.

This is why I have advocated for years now for chemical castrations (OR outright castrations) to be meted out to these rapists anywhere they are to deter others.

What about the people she raped?

MamaOghenero:
Shameless woman

r@p!sts and their flying monkeys are getting triggered

If you dont fall onto this category, why you come dey vex

Ishilove:

You just made me remember a man who belonged to the same religious organization with us, way back then. We called him 'uncle' even though he was in no way related to us.

Anytime I and my sister were with this man in his house, he had no qualms about undressing around us, two pre-teen girls, under the guise of "you are my children." One particular day, he exposed his underpants to us when he was adjusting his wrapper and we saw something that looked like a pestle at 90 degrees in that area. We were too young to understand what we just saw, and it was many years later that we realized he deliberately exposed his erection to us. Someone like that could have raped either my sister or I if we were ever alone with him. Thank God, my sister, who is older felt very uncomfortable with this particular last display. She didn't know why, but she just felt creeped out and after that day we never stepped our legs there again.

And we never told our mum. Why? I have no idea. I guess we never quite understood the danger we were in. I was about 9 or 10 when this was happening.

When we told our mum, years later, she was shocked and furious and said the man was lucky she didn't have his contact details again, otherwise she would have given him the disgrace of his life.

Thunder sha will faya you wherever you are, Uncle Udoh.

I'm narrating this because you mentioned the several conversations you have had with your girl child about predators. I never had such a conversation with my parents, which is why I and my sister did not recognize our so-called 'uncle' for what he was. Thank God he never got the chance to molest us.

thank God for you and your sister

Sheistoopretty:
I'm not surprised

What else are Nigerian men known for, aside gambling, r@ping, k!dnapping, stealing, doing drugs and rituals?

Nigerian men are very us€less.. to be honest, all of them

Them don serve this one hot breakfast

Konquest:

Iyabo has told this painful story over and over again (with one involving armed robbers in her then Ikeda residence) and it's very clear she hasn't fully healed mentally and emotionally because she lashes out at people sometimes off and on social media. She can go for NLP sessions and more advanced combos with professionals such as Lanre Olusola and no doubt, she'll be able to to resolve some of her past and live a fulfilling life. There's a need for chemical castration for any rape offender worldwide and if death results from that heinous crime, then the electric chair or lethal injections should take care of capital punishments as stipulated by the courts.

Sir, whilst a touchy subject, we must face up to the fact that there are different levels of rape.

I don't expect you to agree with me and I know our professional bra burning victims will come for me, that's OK.

When interacting in an "intimate" setting with some one you know, not giving (or refusing) consent explicitly, withdrawing consent at the "last minute" , withdrawing consent during the act. These are all wrong but different to stranger danger rape situations and Iyabọ Ojo is trying to hide under the umbrella of the latter.

It happened 5 times apparently, don't you think she should have put herself in more circumspect mode after the first time?

My take sha

Christ4ever:
No wonder she's always bitter.

I pray you find healing Iyabo. That's if you are not lying.

Thank you... I like your power of discernment. I'm glad that I'm NOT the only one who has noticed this fact in the years past and some others have intelligently decoded as well.

I had earlier suggestion on this thread that she can see Lanre Olusola who is one of the greatest NLP professionals worldwide right in Lagos. There is help to resolve all that bottled up anger in her. Iyabo will indeed be able to calmly resolve that bitterness from her past including her father's drug abuse experience till he passed on at the age 40 years, and her own failed marriage which she got into at the age of just 20. Her father too came from a wealthy family based off of an interview she granted back in the 2000s, but the drug abuse issue contributed to his early demise. I truly empathize with Iyabo and wish her well.

Knack 5 times or rape 5 times

aswani:


Sir, whilst a touchy subject, we must face up to the fact that there are different levels of rape.

I don't expect you to agree with me and I know our professional bra burning victims will come for me, that's OK.

When interacting in an "intimate" setting with some one you know, not giving consent explicitly, withdrawing consent at the "last minute" , withdrawing consent during the act. These are all wrong but different to stranger danger rape situations and Iyabọ Ojo is trying to hide under the umbrella of the latter.

It happened 5 times apparently, don't you think she should have put herself in more circumspect mode after the first time?

My take sha

@aswani

Happy New Year to you.

I'm largely on the same page with you here.

You indeed gave valid reasons here in cases where some insidious females can seek vendetta by accusing a man of rape. These scenarios are prevalent in documented human history.

However, Iyabo had her first rape experience at just 14 years of age, then a bigger one occurred when armed robbers came to her then Ikeja residence. Her ex-husband and young family were in the house when this horrendous rape event took place. A significant number of those rapes occurred when she was below 20 and naive like most teenage girl's are and this is why girls need a "daddy figure" in their lives to protect and mould them up in terms of self-worth right into adulthood. It could ALSO be an older biological brother or a maternal or paternal uncle taking over the role of her biological father here.

For a lot of men, it's always important to have CCTVs and other recorded audio and video evidence when with a new woman especially (or one who is just an acquaintance) to show proof of consent to come visit you at home or the office, etc.

I thoroughly enjoyed your insights here as it looked at all angles like attorneys and all "criminal investigators" do to unravel crimes.

She said her father died at 49 not 40, it's the blogger that made the mistake

Basic123:
Attention seeker.

Your dad died at 40...yet he also fought you for marrying your first husband.

During the fight between you and your father,how old was your father?...Assuming your father had you at 20yro,you were probably around 17 or 18 when you insisted you wanted to marry a particular somebody.

Who were those 5 people that raped you 5 times and in what circumstances?

I see Iyabo Ojo as an attention seeker..VERY HISTRIONIC!

Fineman2:
thank God for you and your sister

Thank God

Same thing happened to Mia Khalifa.

She keeps getting raped on cam.

Your father that disown you when you wanted to marry your late husband, died at 40
What age was he when he gave birth to you?

Lori irọ lie lie na only you dem dey rape haba?

Now it all makes sense. Sorry for Ur life experiences

She need to go pour that Wike 40 year old whisky for her Papa grave with serious apology to cure her from Munchausen syndrome.
Take it or leave it.

Useless woman.....awon roadside feminist wannabe....

.
You deserve worse..

Basic123:
Attention seeker.

Your dad died at 40...yet he also fought you for marrying your first husband.

During the fight between you and your father,how old was your father?...Assuming your father had you at 20yro,you were probably around 17 or 18 when you insisted you wanted to marry a particular somebody.

Who were those 5 people that raped you 5 times and in what circumstances?

I see Iyabo Ojo as an attention seeker..VERY HISTRIONIC!

You even remembered you were raped by five people. Nah now you dey talk...call their names....this Jennyclay and Saidaboj gender will do and say anything to seek attention.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bzy9hhG0wM4

Hmmmmm2024:
I have issues with adults who will have sex in 2001 and when they become famous by 2015, they will refer to that sex as rape...

Now you get it. She probably had sex with someone she is having an intimate or partial intimate relationship with, then later on, got exposed to SM and the likes, with rape now having a robust meaning, and the slogan No means No, she come dey travel back in time, claiming rape. Bet she can't mention name

Konquest:

@aswani

Happy New Year to you.

I'm largely on the same page with you here.

You indeed gave valid reasons here in cases where some insidious females can seek vendetta by accusing a man of rape. These scenarios are prevalent in documented human history.

However, Iyabo had her first rape experience at just 14 years of age, then a bigger one occurred when armed robbers came to her then Ikeja residence. Her ex-husband and young family was in the house when this horrendous event took place. A significant number of those rapes occurred when she was below 20 and naive like most teenage girl's are and this is why girls need a "daddy figure" in their lives to protect and mould them up in terms of self-worth right into adulthood. It could ALSO be an older biological brother or a maternal or paternal uncle taking over the role of her biological father here.

For a lot of men, it's always important to have CCTVs and other recorded audio and video evidence when with a new woman especially (or one who is just an acquaintance) to show proof of consent to come visit you at home or the office, etc.

I thoroughly enjoyed your insights here as it looked at all angles like attorneys and all "criminal investigators" do to unravel crimes.

Please forgive my manners, happy new year.

As it happens, your (as usual) thought provoking response has done just that and adjusted my thoughts somewhat on the topic at hand.

Thanks.

No wonder her kitten is as wide as PACIFIC OCEAN AND VERY DEEP

Iyabo Ojo , Olosho , How far about That Apostle wey u dey Supply Babes for now , The same wey dey Bleep U