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I Am Eager To Hear Your Thoughts by Rubyjade: 1:03pm On Feb 25

From DM

I am seeking your guidance on a complex and sensitive matter. Four years ago, my wife separated from me due to my financial struggles, despite my pleas and the interventions of our family and friends. Her decision was influenced by a colleague, a widow, who worked with her.

After the separation, I was devastated and heard rumors of her involvement with other men. However, I have since moved on and rebuilt my life. With the help of a new partner, a single mother whom I met a year and a half ago, I have established a successful business and improved my financial situation. I am now blessed with a good car and a nearly completed house.

As I prepare to marry my new partner in a month's time, my former wife has suddenly reappeared, claiming that we were not officially divorced. She is desperate to rekindle our relationship, and I believe her motivation is driven by my improved financial situation.

I am torn between my church's teachings on reconciliation and my current commitment to my new partner. I have no feelings left for my former wife and am concerned about the potential consequences of taking her back. I am also worried about the impact this could have on my relationship with my new partner, who has been instrumental in my personal and financial growth.

I would appreciate your guidance on this matter. Must I take my former wife back, or can I move forward with my new partner? I am eager to hear your thoughts and advice.

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Re: I Am Eager To Hear Your Thoughts by TheFreshVanilla: 1:07pm On Feb 25

Food don land for jobless Nigerians. This should keep you engaged for awhile.

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Re: I Am Eager To Hear Your Thoughts by Pojomojo: 2:47pm On Feb 25

I commend you on your remarkable resilience and determination in rebuilding your life. Your recent success and happiness with your current partner are a testament to your hard work and dedication.

Regarding your former wife's sudden reappearance, it is essential to prioritize clarity and honesty. To better understand your obligations and options, I recommend verifying the status of your previous marriage through official channels.

From a moral and spiritual perspective, while Christian teachings emphasize reconciliation and forgiveness, it is crucial to consider the context and motivations involved. In this case, your former wife's interest in rekindling the relationship appears to be driven by your improved financial situation rather than a genuine desire for reconciliation.

Given your lack of feelings for your former wife and your commitment to your current partner, who has been instrumental in your personal and financial growth, I advise against taking your former wife back. Instead, focus on nurturing your relationship with your current partner and prioritize building a strong, healthy connection.

Forgiveness and reconciliation are not always synonymous with rekindling a romantic relationship. You can choose to forgive your former wife and release any negative emotions associated with the past without feeling obligated to reengage with her romantically.

Ultimately, the decision is yours. I encourage you to seek guidance from your church leaders, trusted friends, and family members. May you find peace, clarity, and wisdom as you navigate this challenging situation.

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Re: I Am Eager To Hear Your Thoughts by Exceed15: 2:57pm On Feb 25

If you go back to her you are completely finished without remedy.

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Re: I Am Eager To Hear Your Thoughts by Oyindamolah: 4:29pm On Feb 25

Exceed15:
If you go back to her you are completely finished without remedy.

Re: I Am Eager To Hear Your Thoughts by Afolue(m): 11:55am On Feb 26

Rubyjade:
From DM

so why have you not made the move to separate officially from your wife before deciding to go for another.? That wasn’t responsible enough! As a Man, You’re still on the right track all the same. Marry this 2nd woman in addition to the wife who left you earlier when things weren’t funny. If the first wife is fine with it, then, good and fine but if she isn’t, she should know what to do. You don’t need stress yourself on separation process. Allow her do it instead. I believe your 2nd woman won’t have a problem with that.

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Re: I Am Eager To Hear Your Thoughts by EmperorCaesar(m): 12:38pm On Feb 26

I detest men with zero sound judgement. I dislike indecisive men

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Re: I Am Eager To Hear Your Thoughts by Rubyjade: 4:16pm On Feb 26

Afolue:
so why have you not made the move to separate officially from your wife before deciding to go for another.? That wasn’t responsible enough! As a Man, You’re still on the right track all the same. Marry this 2nd woman in addition to the wife who left you earlier when things weren’t funny. If the first wife is fine with it, then, good and fine but if she isn’t, she should know what to do. You don’t need stress yourself on separation process. Allow her do it instead. I believe your 2nd woman won’t have a problem with that.

Which kind advice be this?

Re: I Am Eager To Hear Your Thoughts by Rubyjade: 4:16pm On Feb 26

EmperorCaesar:

I detest men with zero sound judgement. I dislike indecisive men

Most women hate such men.

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Re: I Am Eager To Hear Your Thoughts by Afolue(m): 9:15pm On Feb 26

Rubyjade:
Which kind advice be this?

yes, e get as e be.
E done already get as e b

all advice are not meant to be generally acceptable

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Re: I Am Eager To Hear Your Thoughts by Rubyjade: 7:24am On Feb 27

Afolue:
yes, e get as e be.
E done already get as e b

all advice are not meant to be generally acceptable

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