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Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by jonex70(m): 11:21pm On Jan 02, 2012
@Deemain, am poor according to my own stardard because I don't have enough to help everybody.I can afford 3 meals per day but with this fuel subdiy I can manage 2 which is still okay according to Nigeria standard. Mind you am in support of the fuel subsidy just a pity our president not intelligent enough to explain to people why he has to do it. I wish it was obama.I pity people if I want to and if I detect u are taken advantage of me I will stop it and will never pity u again even if you need it for real again.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by laidback(m): 11:22pm On Jan 02, 2012
Jenifa_:

@laidback,
yes it really is all relative.

so I am wondering how you are when you are with your girlfriends. who is usually the more introverted one? who is usually the more extroverted one?
when you say you are more attracted to introverts, does that mean that you prefer to be the extrovert in the relationship? or do you prefer yourself to be the more introverted one in the relationship.

if you want an extrovert,find one who is just a little bit more extroverted than you. so you can cope with each other.
if you want an introvert, I think you should be fine. you just have to be a little bit more extroverted than her.
there has to be a balance.


kinda like identical twins, one is usually more extroverted compared to the other. even though they both might be introverts.
or a married couple.
or any relationship in general.
it's all about balance really


Yeah, I guess you're right. But I'd really prefer a lady more extroverted than I am since I'd rather listen more often than talk.

By the way Jenifa, you introvert? cool
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Nobody: 11:36pm On Jan 02, 2012
Took time out to read the whole thread. Something i rarely do. Thanks to this OP at least i now see fellow introverts and know am normal. When am forced to get out and socialise,i actually do fairly well but i'd rather be locked away in my room with my laptop than be in a birthday party or visit a friend. Infact i remember being dragged to my own sendforth party after NYSC! Relationship wise it also affects me,only going out with girls who 'show interest'. My guys think am sick for not utilising my looks better. Its just january but this is thread of the year for me already!!
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by maclatunji: 11:38pm On Jan 02, 2012
lagcity:

I am definitely an introvert. The most annoying question you can ask an introvert is "what are u thinking right now?" u really wanna know? undecided undecided fuuuck off!

One of the advantages of being an introvert is that I never get bored. My mind is so rich that I can just sit alone and entertain myself with my own thoughts. An extrovert would probably drop dead without social stimulation cheesy tongue.

Yes! An extrovert would probably drop dead without social stimulation!
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Jenifa1: 12:00am On Jan 03, 2012
laidback:

Yeah, I guess you're right. But I'd really prefer a lady more extroverted than I am since I'd rather listen more often than talk.

By the way Jenifa, you introvert? cool

haha that's cool. you just have to find a lady who is a bit more extroverted than you.
men tend to be generally more introverted than women anyway.

introvert of course
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by laidback(m): 12:18am On Jan 03, 2012
Jenifa_:

haha that's cool. you just have to find a lady who is a bit more extroverted than you.
men tend to be generally more introverted than women anyway.

introvert of course

Of course. Well you seem like you'll make a nice friend, introvert or extrovert (and everything in between). But I'm really worried if you'll be able to fuel my car as and at when due. @fuel price hike. That's the only condition. cool
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by rman: 12:23am On Jan 03, 2012
Deemain, you raised some serious points in your post below. I can relate personaly to all the traits u explained
Will u please explain the possible solution for someone that exhibits almost all the traits u described below?

DeeMain:

@Jonex70, you belong to the extreme part of the introversion continuum which I say have serious issues that need to be dealt with (see my earlier post in this thread). From the bolded part of your statement, what u describe is textbook low self-esteem for the introverted personality. Your self-image ( the image you have of yourself) is probably poor. You probably dao not value yourself much. My guess is that you come from a dysfunctional home or that you had bad experiences in your childhood or adolescence that conditioned you that way. How was your relationship between you and your parents? What was your upbringing like? From the answers you give to these, u will find the root cause of your self-image issues. You do not love yourself enough to take care of yourself but feel compelled to take care of others. You cannot give what u do not have. To give love, u must have it in yourself in abundance.
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Playing the martyr, by sacrificing your needs and desires in order to satisfy others is a recipe for a lot of pain and frustration in the long term,   Secondly, you seem to have a rigid boundary, not wanting anybody to invade your privacy is symptomatic of self-image issues. Normal people have boundaries that are a bit flexible,  I'll need a feedback from u on my comment before I can proffer solutions.
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Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Jenifa1: 12:24am On Jan 03, 2012
@laid back,
me i'm not a sugar mommy.  olorun maje.
but I feel u on the price hike. wonder how ppl are surviving that.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Kc3000: 12:29am On Jan 03, 2012
My name is Kc3000, and I am an introvert. . . .I embrace it! However, I love to party as much as my extroverted friends, but I'll easily get bored and leave, if the party is not live. . . .my friends would ride it out, simply enjoying the experience of being out in public. It certainly drains me and I can't wait to get rid of everyone afterwards. For me, time spent alone is a necessity, this is the only time I feel productive, and I feel most alive when in deep thought.  I suspect many of our heavy posters here on NL could be introverts, given the amount of time and thought process they dedicate to their posts.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by laidback(m): 12:38am On Jan 03, 2012
@Jenifa

No way! Anyway lets not derail the topic. Cheers!
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by laidback(m): 12:42am On Jan 03, 2012
Guess its time to sleep. This beautiful thread now seems so much like IA (Introverts Anonymous). grin
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by ngolieze22: 12:52am On Jan 03, 2012
Wow! I'm sooo loving this thread! Glad 2 know I'm NORMAL afterall? My frnds must see this, so they can atleast cut me some slack and allow me 2 be ME.
@op and everyone, thanks 4 sharing!
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by tpia5: 1:43am On Jan 03, 2012
I was referring to the ones that are almost online 24hrs and even have multiple ID's sef.

i seriously doubt having a high number of posts exclusively means someone is an introvert.

rather a general statement.

extroverts will gravitate to wherever they can have fun, and get stimulated. If they can find that stimulation on the web, then they'll spend time there.

i assume you mean an extrovert cant sit down long enough in one place therefore they wouldnt have a high post count.

you fail to consider other factors like business people [looking for customers or contacts], sports, relationship seekers [yahoo yahoo or otherwise], trolls, people who have to stay online monitoring and influencing public opinion, SSS, EFCC, CIA etc agents, and so on.    P.orn addiction is another factor.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by tpia5: 1:45am On Jan 03, 2012
I'm also an introvert, as my large number of posts on NL indicate according to oyb

debosky can obviously type long research papers and epistles on the internet, but i seriously doubt he's an introvert.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by kbdrim(m): 1:50am On Jan 03, 2012
I dont why when i am quiet when lots of people are talking, people think i am shy or that i am an introvert, the truth is I just dont give a Zap about what anybody is saying, i truly done
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by justfree1(m): 3:22am On Jan 03, 2012
i think mine worst cuz it also affects me online, to type na wahala cheesy but no lele am enjoying it that way.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by georgesylva(m): 3:43am On Jan 03, 2012
being introverted made me a very shy person when i was much younger bt after i challenged myself 2 b outspoken, i discovered i could be bold. My secret? Deciding 2 teach kids 4 a while, which of cos i still do in church. D second was working as a sales rep 4 a while. Dis both made me get 2 have conversation with people both old and young. I could b bold and outspoken but a lot of times still like keeping 2 myself. Im really loving dis topic. A lot of d points made about introverts are 100% correct.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Nobody: 4:35am On Jan 03, 2012
Am very happy 4 all said and written. I must confess dat i so much love this particular post cos itz like a bloat wich i haven't found a consistent explanations 2. Leeme start wid d fact dat am naturally very shy when i mean very very shy but d people around me can never know cos i camouflage by being a chronic talkative only my inner caucus friends know about dat. Like my gf likes 2 show off wid d kind of dress she puts on, I avoid her when she does dat, when she noticed cos i never wanted 2 tell her cos i don't know how 2 talk 2 people about their personal life cos i normally hit d bitter side while trying 2 do dat, am just saying dat i hate attracting attention 2 mysef when in d public, den my cousin got me some nyz spookes den from yankee but i never wore any of dem especially d timberland shoe cos people wil be staring at it. My friends find it weird wen i ignore or just casually wave hi 2 dem wen they ar in d mist of other people dat i don't know. I avoid people and i hate making or lemme say find it very stressful making new ones, i can come back from school and stay indoors for 2 weeks without any of my friends knowing am back. i have very few friends but the bond is very strong. Am very curious and can do anything 2 make sure i get 2 d root of every answer i get, my gf hates dat cos she feels i don't trust her wid d kind of questions i ask her and how i ask them. Yea if itz 4 thinking, i daydream alot when alone, when i said i was a talkative, actually ie wen joking, yabbing or teasing som1, apart from dat i think alot, weighing and comparing before talking just 2 avoid any question dat wil come out of what i've said dat I've not anticipated. I can never feel relaxed in d crowd, i monitor and observe everytn both living an dead in a new environment where i find myself, I don't trust or believe people easily just occasionally, i avoid public gathering like parties, church or anytn but it doesn't mean i don't go there but i try at first 2 avoid them. I pretend 2 understand som1 wen i just want want 2 eliminate d person. I feel som1 is using me or deceiving me easily den cos i use 2 misunderstand my friends then, they normally don't like telling me 2 join dem wen they ar goin out 2 drink cos they know I'l say No, i normally feel depressed den but i later knew it was why they do omit me from their invitation, these ar d few i can remember now, But am i an introvert or just a weird creature?
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by koruji(m): 5:04am On Jan 03, 2012
@Kobojunkie: I just saw this post. Thanks for posting, very informative.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Nobody: 7:40am On Jan 03, 2012
WOW!!!. This post carefully defines the kinda person i truly am,

I am an introvert to the core and most people don't understand me when i just want to be alone. I'm the kind of person that could stay home all alone for a full week without stepping outside, I love this part of me but my friends tend to see me as weird.

I'm sure going to save this topic and show it to anyone who questions me again.

I am who i am and i love it, Although i could dabble into the extroverted lifestyle from time to time, All depends on my mood.

Thanks for this enlightening post.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Oluschenco(m): 7:41am On Jan 03, 2012
An ex-girl once told me to visit a psycho hospital al because i am an introvert and too gentle for her likeness.
My landlord would ask my whereabout for a week whereas i was at home during the week. But i love who i am.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by jaybee3(m): 7:46am On Jan 03, 2012
How I wish ain't extremely introverted
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Nobody: 7:56am On Jan 03, 2012
@Zeddicus. We are the same with the issue of "going out with girls who only show interest and not utilising looks better" . I hardly do any form of visiting too.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Nobody: 7:58am On Jan 03, 2012
Nice Topic
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Samunosuke(m): 8:11am On Jan 03, 2012
As someone who stutters(/stammers) and also grew up with acne,you can imagine how introverted I'd be. Also constantly moving around didn't help(I haven't finished any level of school in 1 place).But despite all that,I think I actually came out quite balanced.I don't always relish parties but I went to 4 over the holidays and met plenty of people at the carnival.

I was once invited to a party where truth or dare featured heavily and I was quiet throughout.People even coined a mode 4 me due to the silence.Later on I got to gisting with one of the girls and I could see the shock on her face.Later on she told all her friends and they didn't believe that I could be so funny and expressive.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Nobody: 8:40am On Jan 03, 2012
Am such an introvert.several pple often fink sth's wrong wif me n sadly enuf,i began 2 accept their idea of me.this did no small harm in damaging ma self esteem.i guess i gotta learn 2 luv maself n accept who i am.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by bobbyL(m): 8:57am On Jan 03, 2012
I'm also introverted. I once stayed at home during a 4-month summer holiday without going anywhere or visiting anyone except going to church and wherever my family had to go. The only period I was going out was for 2 weeks before resumption to shop and do other preparations. God help me. My mum usually says I'm antisocial but I think I'm okay.
BTW, NICEST THREAD IN A WHILE.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Pi0neer: 9:57am On Jan 03, 2012
See people calling themselves introverts like it was some sort of cool label.
This modern world and self-obsession sha undecided
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by ashavic: 10:02am On Jan 03, 2012
Thank you very much for this topic coz out of misconception,people think,introverts are weird.At times for reasons not so clear, i find it difficult mixing with people in my immediate environment though i feel @ ease outside.Too quiet,Very shy but a delight to chat with especially when people come close to me.I believe that Introverts are very good team players in the workplace coz they prefer to work backstage contributing much but refusing to be the centre of attention.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by Hope4pple: 10:22am On Jan 03, 2012
"In nigeria, being introverted isnt necessarily seen as an anomaly, unlike what obtains in western countries like the US. Back home, its not uncommon within the same family for some to be extroverts while others are introverts. So, people grow up knowing everyone does not have the same type of temperament. However, this doesnt seem to be the case overseas- america in particular."

tpia, you're assumption that in the U.S people do not recognize differences in personality is incorrect. I believe I came across this article on its original source several months ago and it's definitely a U.S source.

In fact, I believe people here understand differences in personality more than they do in Nigeria. You're conclusion was a gross generalization.
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by wesley80(m): 10:49am On Jan 03, 2012
Weird_Me:

@Zeddicus. We are the same with the issue of "going out with girls who only show interest and not utilising looks better" . I hardly do any form of visiting too.

Same with me, but I seem to have been so blessed to have the very best looking my way, dont know how i would have managed if it hadnt been so!

A hardcore introvert here, my Pops called a family meeting on my account over my perceived 'anti-social' behaviour esp at a time i decided to switch careers. I felt so angry i thot of packing my bags and moving back home to spend my holidays alone. If only they could read this. They keep mumbling behind my back and analysing my every move that i cant help but feel self conscious even within my home. They love hearing me speak and appreciate my deep insight, how they also cant appreciate my personality beats me. So glad the hols are over!
Re: 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts by firestar(f): 10:54am On Jan 03, 2012
Rolling in the Deep. . . .
Is an apt title for this thread.

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