A Lagos-based woman, Ada, has publicly accused Sophia Egbueje of ruining her marriage and turning her husband against their children. Ada, who married in 2018 and has two kids, claims Sophia manipulated her husband, leading to the collapse of their home.

In an emotional social media post, Ada shared her pain, detailing how her once-loving husband became a stranger due to Sophia’s influence. She alleged that Sophia deliberately worked to push her out of the marriage and even mocked her by flaunting a bracelet her husband had originally bought for her.

Her Post Reads:

“I got married in 2018 and have two kids, a boy (4 years old) and a girl (3 years old). My life changed the day Sophia Egbueje met my husband and turned him against his own family.

She did everything to push me out and ensure my husband abandoned his children. I tried to save my home, but their wickedness kept breaking me. I heal, they pull me back. I heal again, they break me again. Despite moving on, they continued tormenting me. I never confronted her, but this needs to be said—Sophia manipulates men into hating their own kids.

I will rise from this because I am strong. If your husband is involved with her, don’t ignore it. If she is determined to destroy your home, she will. I am no longer married and do not want to be associated with any certain individual again. I am proud to say I’m a hot single mum of two.

Women who destroy marriages don’t realize the damage they cause to young kids by separating them from the family they believed would always be together.”

Ada also alleged that Sophia flaunted a bracelet her husband had originally bought for her, further mocking her pain.

But I don't get it, why is it that whenever I man cheats, we blame the side chick?

Is it not the responsibility of the man to do away with other women in order to keep his marriage intact? I mean he's the married one here and not the side chick... The wife should deal with the husband head on because he's the root of the problem.

Typical Nollywood movie and Nollywood real-life scenario.

Its gon play out like this

Sophia wanna trend. And booom she's trending.

Thats what she wants.

Used Burna's platform to do that.

Now dem Dino Melaye and Akpabio and Some Alhajis have seen food. And when they call, she'll answer.

In few months times. She'll fade off, get pregnant and snap baby bump and post lots of baby picture when baby arrives. With no picture of the father ever to be seen.

Check out Nollywood. Same story.

A very good example of --"He who laughs last laughs best"

Truly that man deserve spit for him face,WTF man!!..Look at his wife and look at side chick men this shit is damn glaring..You have a beautiful wife..Abeg spit again for him face,Tuuuueeeeeeehhhhh.

It is well with her.

Sophia is obviously a better fuccker than you madam. She understands your husband's sexual psychology better and use it on him while you think she's using juju on him. Whenever a side chick turns the man against his wife and family, na because she fvcks the man better. While the wife at home doesn't even care to dress hot nor explore the man's sexual fantasies, the side chick drives him crazy with her dressing and sexiness. A man may want femdom bd$m which only the side chick knows and gives him while the wife is at home doing missionary style. So, the side chick holds the key to the man's sexual fantasies and gives him all the excitements he craves, that is why she can easily turn the man away from his wife and children.
So madam, go and beg Sophia to tell you your husband's darkest sexual fantasies which he cannot disclose to you but to Sophia.

Samantha125:
But I don't get it, why is it that whenever I man cheats, we blame the side chick?

Is it not the responsibility of the man to do away with other women in order to keep his marriage intact? I mean he's the married one here and not the side chick... The wife should deal with the husband head on because he's the root of the problem.

Good point. It doesn’t sound like she’s sparing him, though—she called both of them out.

Why do women get upset with the side chick while letting their husband off the hook? Let’s look at it this way: Imagine a business has a very valuable employee who generates huge profits, and other businesses naturally try to poach him. When that employee is successfully poached by another company, wouldn’t we expect the original business to be more upset with their competitor, the poacher, than the poached? The employee is still potentially valuable and they wouldn't want to risk permanently alienating him, the competition is still the competition and remains a real threat, worthy of attack.

Madam you have won already. When the man is done uselessing himself, he would come back kneeling down for your forgiveness. Then, your kids would decide either to accept him as their dad or not.
For the other useless lady, you need not waste your time and resources revenging. Karma is real and in due time she will receive double folds all she did to you and other women.
Congrats once again for winning this battle and ask God for his grace to stay strong for your kids

This is why most of you men of this generation will continue to be held in bondage.
If Samson fell, who una be? Una never see anything.

pussyphilia:
Sophia is obviously a better fuccker than you madam. She understands your husband's sexual psychology better and use it on him while you think she's using juju on him. Whenever a side chick turns the man against his wife and family, na because she fvcks the man better. While the wife at home doesn't even care to dress hot nor explore the man's sexual fantasies, the side chick drives him crazy with her dressing and sexiness. A man may want femdom bd$m which only the side chick knows and gives him while the wife is at home doing missionary style. So, the side chick holds the key to the man's sexual fantasies and gives him all the excitements he craves, that is why she can easily turn the man away from his wife and children.
So madam, go and beg Sophia to tell you your husband's darkest sexual fantasies which he cannot disclose to you but to Sophia.

Natbrowny:
Typical Nollywood movie and Nollywood real-life scenario.

Its gon play out like this

Sophia wanna trend. And booom she's trending.

Thats what she wants.

Used Burna's platform to do that.

Now dem Dino Melaye and Akpabio and Some Alhajis have seen food. And when they call, she'll answer.

In few months times. She'll fade off, get pregnant and snap baby bump and post lots of baby picture when baby arrives. With no picture of the father ever to be seen.

Check out Nollywood. Same story.

Exactly!

So this Sophia of a gurl is now a celebrity in Nigeria? Tueeeh!!

It’s rare to see a man leave his marriage because of a side chick. It’s possible she caught him cheating and left him. If he left because of the side chick, he would have married her.

Life goes on. You are a hot mom of two, he’s a hot dad of two. Nobody will regret anything, relationships end everyday. Life is not a Nollywood movie and God is not from your village.

I didn’t read. ROFLMAO.

It's like we women tend to be in denial whenever our relationship or marriage hits the rocks... Instead of facing the root of the problem, we'll look for a scapegoat instead and in instances like this one, the side chick is always the scapegoat, when the husband was the one who decided to chase after another woman knowing very well that he was married.

Even if she managed to chase the side chick away, he was still going to get another one since she'd have not addressed the root of the problem.

DemonSlayer:


Good point. It doesn’t sound like she’s sparing him, though—she called both of them out.

Why do women get upset with the side chick while letting their husband off the hook? Let’s look at it this way: Imagine a business has a very valuable employee who generates huge profits, and other businesses naturally try to poach him. When that employee is successfully poached by another company, wouldn’t we expect the original business to be more upset with their competitor, the poacher, than the poached? The employee is still potentially valuable and they wouldn't want to risk permanently alienating him, the competition is still the competition and remains a real threat, worthy of attack.

Just to ask though, madam, now that you are a 'hot' single mother, are you not fuccking other people's husband?

Samantha125:
It's like we women tend to be in denial whenever our relationship or marriage hits the rocks... Instead of facing the root of the problem, we'll look for a scapegoat instead and in instances like this one, the side chick is always the scapegoat, when the husband was the one who decided to chase after another woman knowing very well that he was married.

Even if she managed to chase the side chick away, he was still going to get another one since she'd have not addressed the root of the problem.

Yes, but why is that? Why the preference to confront the side piece instead of the husband? Share your perspective on what the reason could be.

To my mind, it all comes down to resource guarding. What the husband supplies is what gives him value. When an outsider is perceived as a threat to that source of resource—whether she arrived through seduction or entirely by the man's initiative—the instinctive response is to fight off the intruder and secure what is yours. Turning against the source of resources could risk pushing him farther out of your territory, which is why the focus remains on eliminating the perceived competition.

I don’t think women fight over men because of any genuine, deep love for their partners, but rather due to a primal, territorial instinct tied to resource protection; to remain the sole beneficiary of all that the man can supply. Did you notice how fixated the wife is on the jewelry her husband gave the side piece that she felt was supposed to be hers? That is possibly more painful to her than all the intercourse the two must of had. At the end of the day, why fight the supplier and risk completely losing what he supplies if you can secure it for yourself alone? Which you're not likely to achieve by simply sitting your husband down and giving him a piece of your mind.

That’s my take—what’s yours?

There are some women who have the same or more resources than the husband, but would still choose to fight the side chick instead of the husband.

We tend to be in denial of the fact that the marriage has hit rock bottom because we want to continue having that picture perfect of our marriage in our head... And again we're trying to avoid the stigmatization that comes with being a divorced woman, the society alone can be cruel towards female divorcees... Now instead of addressing the elephant in the room, we'll look for a scapegoat.

But yes, some women would choose to fight the side chick in an attempt to guard their resources even though it hardly ends well... Imagine fighting the side chick, only for your husband to end up leaving you for the same side chick...

DemonSlayer:


Yes, but why is that? Why the preference to confront the side piece instead of the husband? Share your perspective on what the reason could be.

To my mind, it all comes down to resource guarding. What the husband supplies is what gives him value. When an outsider is perceived as a threat to that source of resource—whether she arrived through seduction or entirely by the man's initiative—the instinctive response is to fight off the intruder and secure what is yours. Turning against the source of resources could risk pushing him further out of your territory, which is why the focus remains on eliminating the perceived competition.

I don’t think women fight over men because of any genuine, deep love for their partners, but rather due to a primal, territorial instinct tied to resource protection; to remain the sole beneficiary of all that the man can supply. So why fight the supplier and risk completely losing what he supplies?

That’s my take—what’s yours?

The "hot single mum of two" will still end up dating other women's husbands.

Cycle continues...

Samantha125:
There are some women who have the same or more resources than the husband, but would still choose to fight the side chick instead of the husband.

We tend to be in denial of the fact that the marriage has hit rock bottom because we want to continue having that picture perfect of our marriage in our head... And again we're trying to avoid the stigmatization that comes with being a divorced woman, the society alone can be cruel towards female divorcees... Now instead of addressing the elephant in the room, we'll look for a scapegoat.

But yes, some women would choose to fight the side chick in an attempt to guard their resources even though it hardly ends well... Imagine fighting the side chick, only for your husband to end up leaving you for the same side chick...

That makes sense, and it’s an interesting perspective. I can see how a woman who has become addicted to the validation and admiration that comes from projecting an image of marital bliss—being every lady's "couple goals"—would fight to preserve that. I think many tie the apparent success of their relationship to their self-worth and desirability, so when it falls apart, it can feel like a personal failure.

That said, a woman who gets cheated on often has the world's sympathy. In her best interest, she could choose to throw her husband and his "small chops" under the bus of public opinion, further eliciting pity for herself. It doesn't even matter who she's calling out, as long as she's the victim. That’s the strategy I think is at play here. The side piece is trending? Perfect—let me use the opportunity to get my 15 minutes of fame by crying foul while posting the hottest picture in my gallery. I’m a survivor.

Then your husband is a fool , to pick a public toilet over a private toilet.


Real Niggas can keep side chicks but will never disrespect the wife with it.

Cause when push turn to shove , na the wife go be by him side . The Lambo piece of shit would be sucking another dick then.

Well, experience taught me to never ever fight the side chick if one day it reaches that level, because they'll dump you like a hot potato and make you feel worthless... Some men are not for the faint hearted...

If he keeps cheating despite talking to him about it and trying to find a way forward, then take your bags and leave in silence instead of wasting your energy fighting over someone who doesn't care about you, it's not the end of the world... People will talk, but with time they'll forget.

DemonSlayer:


That makes sense, and it’s an interesting perspective. I can see how a woman who has become addicted to the validation and admiration that comes from projecting an image of marital bliss—being every lady's "couple goals"—would fight to preserve that. I think many tie the apparent success of their relationship to their self-worth and desirability, so when it falls apart, it can feel like a personal failure.

That said, a woman who gets cheated on often has the world's sympathy. In her best interest, she could choose to throw her husband and his "small chops" under the bus of public opinion, further eliciting pity for herself. It doesn't even matter who she's calling out, as long as she's the victim. That’s the strategy I think is at play here. The side piece is trending? Perfect—let me use the opportunity to get my 15 minutes of fame by crying foul while posting the hottest picture in my gallery. I’m a survivor.

I thought they said this Sophia lady is just 20years old

How can someone aquire a reputation for waywardness and uselessness at such a young age?

Samantha125:
But I don't get it, why is it that whenever I man cheats, we blame the side chick?

Is it not the responsibility of the man to do away with other women in order to keep his marriage intact? I mean he's the married one here and not the side chick... The wife should deal with the husband head on because he's the root of the problem.

Nothing but the truth.


Most times, it is men that went after the girl cum side chick.


Most women lack common sense anyway, reason they put all blame on their husband's side chick and not their randy horsebands



But the lady I am seeing in the picture look more like a born mistress, I doubt the man married her with clear eyes when he did, which made it easy for him to forget her so easily.

RealNiggaDee:
Then your husband is a fool , to pick a public toilet over a private toilet.


Real Niggas can keep side chicks but will never disrespect the wife with it.

Cause when push turn to shove , na the wife go be by him side . The Lambo piece of shit would be sucking another dick then.

The so called wife herself look like a born mistress, maybe she was a mistake wife or by-force wife.



But a man forgetting his own biological children for any reason beats my imagination, I find it hard to even imagine

And some of these side chicks also tried to resist these men upon finding out that they were married, but the men wouldn't take a no for an answer... They chased after them until they gave in.


So because she's beautiful and takes good care of herself, she now looks like a born mistress?🤦🤦🤦

franchasng:
Nothing but the truth.


Most times, it is men that went after the girl cum side chick.


Most women lack common sense anyway, reason they put all blame on their husband's side chick and not their randy horsebands



But the lady I am seeing in the picture look more like a born mistress, I doubt the man married her with clear eyes when he did, which made it easy for him to forget her so easily.

Samantha125:
And some of these side chicks also tried to resist these men upon finding out that they were married, but the men wouldn't take a no for an answer... They chased after them until they gave in.


So because she's beautiful and takes good care of herself, she now looks like a born mistress?🤦🤦🤦

packing your boobs to make it forcefully puff up for cheap boys to see and to entice them is not same as looking beautiful.


She doesn't appear responsible and cool-headed, she seems to be forcing sexiness on herself, thereby choking herself and making her look tacky and whorish


Fyi, I assumed the lady on traditional wear and the one sitting with a man is the Ada complaining, hope I am right?


You are very correct about married men and their side chicks wahala lol

DemonSlayer, I'm enjoying your exchange.

Never judge a book by its cover... There are some church ladies who stay covered, but cheat like nobody's business.

franchasng:
packing your boobs to make it forcefully puff up for cheap boys to see and to entice them is not same as looking beautiful.


She doesn't appear responsible and cool-headed, she seems to be forcing sexiness on herself, thereby choking herself and making her look tacky and whorish


You are very correct about married men and their side chicks wahala lol

Samantha125:
Never judge a book by its cover... There are some church ladies who stay covered, but cheat like nobody's business.

lol, you could be right, but classy ladies dress classy. Dressing half covered doesn't attract quality men. Real men can measure your beauty, sexiness and hotness even if you are putting on a coverall


Most quality men don't fancy ladies in half clad clothes unless she is performing at a club or something.