queensmith:

Its very obvious none of you are actually that succesful otherwise you wouldnt be surrounded by women that are soo poor the idea of sharing cyber irks you.

And dont even come here talking about kobe bryant im fed up of that nonsense.

Never have i heard that as an excuse not to be married, then again what is nl for if its not to hear such nonsense! Carry on!

queensmith:

Its very obvious none of you are actually that succesful otherwise you wouldnt be surrounded by women that are soo poor the idea of sharing cyber irks you.

And dont even come here talking about kobe bryant im fed up of that nonsense.

Never have i heard that as an excuse not to be married, then again what is nl for if its not to hear such nonsense! Carry on!

moremi2008:

Spoken like a true golddigger!  

Unfortunately, most of the "successful" women around me aren't Nigerian. Marrying a foreigner is a no-go for me.

queensmith:

Its very obvious none of you are actually that succesful otherwise you wouldnt be surrounded by women that are soo poor the idea of sharing cyber irks you.

And dont even come here talking about kobe bryant im fed up of that nonsense.

Never have i heard that as an excuse not to be married, then again what is nl for if its not to hear such nonsense! Carry on!

armyofone:

true, no try am o. the foreign ones won't take your bull@s@h@it.

You are in the wrong place. Move to Missisippi or Oklahoma and stop roaming around Broklyn.

Marriage is not a word. It is a sentence - a life sentence.

Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor's Degree and the woman gets her Masters.

Love is blind but marriage is an eye-opener.

Marriage is a three ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, suffering.

There are two times a man does'nt understand a woman, before marriage and after marriage!

A successful husband is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man!

Man is incomplete until he is married. Then he is finished.

A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about his future until he gets a wife!

When a newly married couple smiles, everyone knows why. When a ten-year married couple smiles, everyone wonders why.

A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he does'nt. A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change and she does.

When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: either the car is new or the wife.

Man is incomplete until he is married. Then he is finished.

A woman has the last word in any argument. Anything a man says after that is the begining of a new argument.

When a newly married couple smiles, everyone knows why. When a ten-year married couple smiles, everyone wonders why.

A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he does'nt. A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change and she does.

Men wake up as good looking as they went to bed. Women somewhat deteriorate during the night.

Because she may have been the FIRST LADY, but she won't be the LAST!

In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the neighbours listen.

coogar:

my friend, stop being an alarmist - don't ruin it for us(yet to be husbands)

yes - it is still worth it to have someone you love and grow old with.
it's a personal choice you will have to make by listening to yourself and not from others.

you have absolute and total control over what a marriage will be for you.
if you want a marriage like your grandparents (loving, best friend, whom to raise children with, who you know like your favourite pair of jeans, who you feel as if she is home to you) that's what your marriage will be.

if you want your marriage to end up like dumbass celebrities - married today, separated tomorrow, that's exactly what it would be for you as well.
life is what you make it.

what a marriage will be to you is entirely up to you and what you consciously want to create. it's like a garden, a marriage can be colourful, beautiful, full of butterflies and hummingbirds - but only if you cultivate it to be so. if you neglect it, like a garden, it will wither and die, and be a barren dry waste of dirt.

the $64,000 question is not "is marriage worth it"?
just like a garden, you can't really ask, is gardening worth it? well,  i think it depends on the gardener.

marriage can be a deeply satisfying, fulfilling way to express love and generate love for yourself and for others. but only if you are willing to cultivate it as such.
like joy and happiness, it is not a destination to be reached and you can say: "ok, i'm here!" it's a path to be walked.

and it is a glorious path! sure, you may have to deal with fungus/stubborn/elephant grass on your lawn, or the occasional spider mite. . . .but like a garden, under the right conditions, it will flourish unless you don't have interest in gardening!

davidylan:

i have not said there are good women out there . . . only that there are millions out there who are willing to lie their way into a man's life for the sole purpose of living a life they would never ordinarily be able to build for themselves. Its getting harder these days to find any serious chics.

when a relationship is becomin a turn in the flesh, scram!

opribo:

In my opinion, marriage nowadays is not worth it, it has lost its significance and meaning. A situation you call a woman your wife yet she goes about showing her Unclothedness to other men is that the sanctity of marriage. In every 5 marriages today at least four have been unfaithful to their spouses. At the end of the day marriage today has become money for stay, no money for go.

It is not even a matter of poverty because even the so called working class women are high on the infidelity list. the problem here now is that when these women cheat and get sick they carry their 'wahala' to the husband in the house he is the one to carry the headache.

So to answer to the poster if you can have children out their like Tuface all well and good and you bring them up to your taste and in the way of the Lord, get a nanny to handle that for you.

There are no more good women out there all of them are too materialistic, they lack the fear of God and they are worldly. Thay have sold their souls to the devil and therefore luring more and more men to hell just as Eve did to Adam. If you doubt me take a look at their dressing nowadays it is targeted to seduce any man. Some ladies today will just meet you on the road and the next thing they are in your bed without any qualms tell me are those not agents sent to destroy.

So now some unsuspecting guy will now go and marry them into the house after destroying their bodies with men who wont marry them, and these same women will have the guts to give you trouble even in your own home all in the name of marriage.
its just not worth it any more. Just have kids and move ahead, the women dont have any love in their hearts no more.

They are just after money, money and more money.
It was never like this in the past, it has become very bad mow and dangerous. Guy beware of the modern day women out there.

chaircover:

Here we go again. . . .  . my money, my car, my house, my rolex, my Gucci 

Some of you will end up lonley old men sleeping with your wads of money & your pet cat on your bed with no one to even ask you if your feet are warm enough. Dem plenti for ASDA with their small shopping baskets containing one onion, one bottle of wine, one loaf of bread, one carrot and one tin of baked beans 

I know of men who have le le too o! or you think that mens market too doesnt go stale? what kind of correct all round babe will a 50 year old man pull? A bimbo who is clearly only toleratng you for your money or a woman your age who has tons and tons of baggage. Na excess luggage charge go kill una 

Better make hay while the sun shines. I don talk my own

chika98:

What exactly does this bit mean in plain terms? You've got a good career and she's gonna sit at home whilst you work and pay her bills without the woman contributing a dime? She goes to the bank to rob you?

chika98:

I wonder the same. It is almost always about my money, what I have to offer her etc. One would think we've got a bunch of millionaires here.

armyofone:

puzzle me too. i don't know where they got the impression that ladies are automatically milker. we can make our own money too.
even uneducated ladies in niger do trade and make money.

i won't sign any pre nuptial, no way.

a man with head on his shoulder is what we pray for abeg . one who can bring in huge bacon without crying of some pennies you took from his wallet  
Saga, cheers  

y me:

Its a tough world out there no doubt, I'm a woman myself and most times I feel irritated with the way most of these girls parade themselves around
The attitude is vile, the personality is classless, etc (I'm not saying i am a saint tho )

chika98:

I think you and I will both agree that good men/women are hard to find. Often times, people don't exactly know what it is they're looking for in a mate. Sure everyone likes a good looking woman/ man but not when there isn't a balance. If she's lazy then you can most certainly tell after hanging around her. I strongly believe that people can NEVER hide who they truly are for a long time. Intuition is there for a reason.

People see the warning signs early on but they choose to ignore it. Most importantly, if you truly know within your heart what will make you happy and what is essential in a prospective partner then you certainly are on the right path.

This is also why i believe mental compatibility is a must. You have be with someone who shares the same core values as yourself. You've worked hard to better yourself and so has she. Put that together and things will always come good. This way you raise responsible adults in the future( assuming you want children)
and live a peaceful happy life (ups and downs included)

queensmith:

Its very obvious none of you are actually that succesful otherwise you wouldnt be surrounded by women that are soo poor the idea of sharing cyber irks you.

nagoma:

Sahih Muslim: Volume 8, Book 'Kitab Al-Nikah', Number 3231]

Allah's Messenger (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) said:

"0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes from casting (evil [b glances). and preserves one from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting for it is a means of controlling intimate desire."

Claus:

Awon boys have wisened up and are no longer ready to settle for just a pretty face.

From what I'm seeing, the guys on here aren't really saying marriage isn't worth it. They just want the standard of the babe to be much higher than average. Boys are getting very picky, just like women have been for centuries.

stayreal:

Marriage has become a scam in the states. For many men, getting married is one of the biggest mistakes they have ever made in their life. Men are crippled financially in many instances after marriage and treated as criminals if they cannot afford to pay child support and in some cases alimony.

pro01:

Well, to each their own, but in all honesty, marriage favours women much more than men.

opribo:

In my opinion, marriage nowadays is not worth it, it has lost its significance and meaning. A situation you call a woman your wife yet she goes about showing her Unclothedness to other men is that the sanctity of marriage. In every 5 marriages today at least four have been unfaithful to their spouses. At the end of the day marriage today has become money for stay, no money for go.

ssemire:

if you are true to yourself, you get someone that will be true to you.

get it out of your head that its all about what a woman wants from you. u should ask what u av to offer as well. can u inspire trust, can u be faithful, can u defend her, can u respect her?

don't let your 'success' do the speaking for you. there are many women i know that will rather not get married than marry your cocky self-seeking type.

and these women are properly educated, achieving women who work hard for their own money and are very confident of the person and gender. the question is are you smart enough to find one of them? the bible says you have to find the wife (he who finds a wife, proverbs).