La Parisienne:

^^^You are not needed here.

Flashaldrin:

@op, i feel you jare, i really empathise with women and i respect them a lot
although believe me, men also have their own challenges, lots of them!

Flashaldrin:

@op, i feel you jare, i really empathise with women and i respect them a lot
although believe me, men also have their own challenges, lots of them!

Mynd_44:

@OP, why must you obey the laws set by society?
Someone here said girls do what their mothers tell them, Ladies do what society tells them and women do what they want. So who are you? Will you continue to let people decide how to live your life or you gonna do your own thing?

Flashaldrin:

@op, i feel you jare, i really empathise with women and i respect them a lot
although believe me, men also have their own challenges, lots of them!

La Parisienne:

I'm a woman. At the same time, I can't alienate myself from the society. Whether we accept it or not, the society plays a big role in our lives.

   

La Parisienne:

-We have to choose between having a high flying career and having a family.

-We have to choose between marrying a rich man aka bad boy, and marrying a nice guy who might not be so rich.

-We are expected to be mothers, wives, lovers, sisters, housekeepers, career and business women etc.

-We are expected to be awesome in the sack.

And men are supposed to be what? Dull in the sack? I laugh in pidgin! Once there's a mutual loving caring aura surrounding a man and a woman, especially if they are married, selfishness is relegated to the barest minimum, and all they'll think of is how to give effectively to their partners! It's got to be mutual! You are not "expected" to be awesome in the sack, you "should" be awesome in the sack, just as the man "should" be awesome in the sack as well! There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving ! When you and your man concentrate on giving simultaneously, you'll receive simultaneously! It's that simple, but it requires simple effort not to allow selfishness becloud your sense of reasoning on such matters as to who should give or not!

-We have to accept that our men will always cheat(mostly nigerian men). I really really hate this!!!

-We are paid a lot less than our male colleagues in the same positions.

Like seriously?

-And ofcourse the pressure to get married early is there.
I spoke with one of my aunts today and she asked me if I'm getting married soon. This same woman has a son who's 5 yrs older than me and he's single. He's doing his Phd now and he's busy travelling around the world, having fun. Marriage is not even in his mind.
When I asked her why her son isn't married yet, she said he's a man, he can marry anytime.

This got me thinking. Men are really having it easy, I'd love to be a man. All men do is bleep around and make money, they don't have to make tough choices in life. I'm sad

Like seriously, this comment should be the what tha fcck comment of the day! Men having it easy? How? Where? Are such men really on Earth? All men do is bleep around? Where have you been meeting such dumb arses disgracing manhood? They dont have tough choices to make? Jeeeeeesus Christ! The toughest decisions in a mans life are as regards women! If that is not tough enough, nothing else is tough! Blimey!

All man for himself! I haff talketh mine!

-We have to choose between having a high flying career and having a family.

-We have to choose between marrying a rich man aka bad boy, and marrying a nice guy who might not be so rich.

-We are expected to be mothers, wives, lovers, sisters, housekeepers, career and business women etc.

-We are expected to be awesome in the sack.

-We have to accept that our men will always cheat(mostly nigerian men). I really really hate this!!!

-We are paid a lot less than our male colleagues in the same positions.

-And ofcourse the pressure to get married early is there.

I spoke with one of my aunts today and she asked me if I'm getting married soon. This same woman has a son who's 5 yrs older than me and he's single. He's doing his Phd now and he's busy travelling around the world, having fun. Marriage is not even in his mind. When I asked her why her son isn't married yet, she said he's a man, he can marry anytime.

TisaBone:

Well I'm from Indiana. I was raised by my grandfather, and he told me women could do anything that a man could do. only that they drove too fast. and some of the smartest women he knew (career wise) were dumb when it came to men. and he warned me not to be that way. he told me never to take no ish off a a man. so i dont think that women have it worse than men. Life is what you make it.  Besides, the easiest thing a woman could do is lie and say that a man hit her, and he would immediately go to jail.[size=14pt] if a man hits you, women you dont have to take that. if he hits you, all you have to do is wait until  he is watching tv or playing ps3, then you sneak up behind him and hit him upside the head with something. (preferably a pot or pan, until he is unsconscious)i bet he will never hit you again! And if he cheats on you, you can always take him to the cleaners and leave him with nothing but the drawers on his butt.[/size] So actually, i dont think life is all that unfair to women at all.

If you are in Nigeria, I really dont know what to tell you, because I dont know how things work over there. But there has got to be something you can do to a man who doesn't treat you right. [size=14pt]If a man mistreated me in nigeria, i would probably poison him, or piss in his food. At least that way I would get some sort of satisfaction.

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This is serious!

MRbrownJAY:

@OP
is it really THAT difficult to have a high flying career and family?

rich man being a bad boy?! nice guys being poor? woah what a preconception!? have you ever thought about marrying a poor guy and building a fortune TOGETHER, or is that not within your options?

shouldnt men be awesome too, or will you really settle for a men who aint shiit in bed?!

if you have already accepted that fact then NO WONDER most do! you do NOT have to accept anything you dont want in life, the fact that you do is down to YOU and your low self esteem desperate insecure self.

i am safe to say that if you were working at Mc Ds, you would get the same salary as your workmates, lol!
it should be all down to merit, and if you are underpaid at work then take it up with your superiors and sue them until you get the right compensation. et voila!

La Parisienne:

@Killz
-Do I have to choose between having a high flying career and having a family? I believe I can have both, it'll take a lot of stress. But a man can easily have both.

-Yeah rich aren't necessary bad. Truth is, it takes a agression and strong will power to make a lot of money. Nice guys don't have the guts to do it.

What is more important to you? Money or Happiness? life is all about choices. You cant have it all, and you know it. Most of the big shots with lots of money are crooks and they made their money from fraudulent means. Tell me why i should get aggressive & fraudulent to make money just to impress a lady? Fcck NO! I wont do that. If my being nice and not too rich is not ok with you, please always feel free to bounce. . . Choices my dear, Choices!

-It's generally accepted in Nigeria that men will always cheat. Even on Nairaland, I hear it a lot. To be honest, I think 80& of married Nigerian men cheat on their wives.

It's not generally accepted. Who's feeding you these fables? Cheating is a vice, and will remain so. Thankfully, you made your statistics 80 percent, which means that the remaining 20% wont cheat on their wives. Not all men cheat! Seriously, you want a super rich nice guy that doesnt cheat? Heee Haw! Set your priorities straight first, then when you have known what you want, it would be easier for you to go about them.

-Argue all you want. In reality, life is a lot easier for men. I'll like to get advanced degrees, build a good career, make good money, bleep responsibly as much as I want, and then get married at 30. This is certainly easier for men.

pendo89:

^^ LMAO!!  



That post made me forget what I wanted to post!

Tisa,you made my day!bye

LOL! I completely forgot myself, and the only words i could come up with was "This is serious" That lady needs to have a "Caveat" on her forehead! Chei!

~Killz~:

Smh@ bleep responsibly! I never knew wanton gallivanting and promiscuity were now desirable traits! Do you have values at all? You want to expose yourself to premeditated risks and then get married at 30 and start living with the consequences? Forget the hype! There's always a consequence for every action taken! So what is stopping you from doing all that? Whatever it is that is stopping you is only telling you that you cant eat your cake and have it!

You probably didn't understand what I said or maybe I wasn't clear enough. Those are things men do and nobody raises an eyebrow, not things I want to do. Lol
Ofcourse I have values and principles, there's no atom of irresponsiblity in me