~Killz~:

Simple matter! Never ever disrespect your mother. You dey hear me so? Look here. If she don arrange the girl, accept say you go assess am. Never you make her believe you will marry the girl. Then if true true you no like the girl, FIND a fault with her. Any fault will do. But it's on record that you "obeyed" your mother. When you don find fault, approach your mama with the fault and use reverse psychology on her. e.g. Tell your mama say you no want girl wey go disrespect am, as your mama wey she be. Once she knows you have her interest at heart, you've won her over!

Swit up:

KILLZ ARE HERE SERIOUSLY IF U ARE SHOW FACE ABEGI. I NEVER KNEW U'RE MA BRO IN SOM WAYANYWHO HAW U DEY NAW

Yes i am. How are you?

Temi 23:

OMG!!!! i love this. Nice advise dude

~Killz~:

Yes i am. How are you?

Swit up:

cooooouuuuul.

Mail me sometime. . . We need to catch up!

lilly

~Killz~:

Mail me sometime. . . We need to catch up!

Swit up:

hmmmm,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, lilly i meant really

~Killz~:

Yeah really! It's only natural dont you think?

deniyor:

"What one is not going to eat, one should not even smell it"
It's best to stop the mum in her tracks and put her in her place as soon as possible. I disagree with sexkillz here -  Do Not Play Along.
When you play along, the next thing is she tries to force you into marrying the girl she has chosen. After marriage, she tries to control your marriage. It gets to a point, you do not even feel your life is yours anymore. You can be rest assured your mom will try choosing a lady she can control or have quite a bit of influence on.

Don't even consider falling in love with such girl or agreeing to it. It's a time bomb waiting to explode later in future.

This is the time to call the shots and hv a talk with your mom.  With as much respect as you can muster, Tell her you will choose your wife - whoever she turns out to be. If she interferes, you may not even get married and just keep living your life or you cut her from your future family. It won't mean you don't love her but you want your freedom and privacy. That should keep her at bay well enough for you to find a wife.

Unless you are a robot, NO ONE forces you to do anything. If you marry the girl your mom chose, that's because you wanted to. You could have as well said no, but you said yes. Mums only make suggestions, it's left for you to choose! No forcing! BTW, the advise i gave was on how to be balanced! Stopping your mom in her tracks will start a war and your solution is[b] "If she interferes, you may not even get married and just keep living your life or you cut her from your future family."[/b]

You are man enough to stop your mom in her tracks, but you are not man enough to get married? Cut your mom from your future family, because she suggested a wife for you? I'm complicatedly obfuscated!

What if both parents are in support of finding you a wife? Cut them both off?

deniyor:

You think only robots are pressured in marriage or wrong patners? C'mon son!!!
Even considering a woman your mama chose is only the beginning of the influence she will attempt to wield over you. If you can say no to whoever she 'suggests', you might as well say no to it before it even starts.

Getting married has nothing to do with being man enough. It could be a life choice or it can be a case of not hving found what you are looking for.

A man who can not put his mother in her place has no right to get married. How will such man be a head of his home when his mom and wife have disagreement? or when they gang up against him in pressuring him into other family matters?

Now, i'm waiting for you to also tell me that a lady whom you chose for yourself cannot team up with your mama! You have been obeying your mother diligently all your life, and then it gets to marriage and you choose to disobey? They are humans and are bound to disagree, i'm not ruling that out. If you are not matured enough to realize that disagreements as such can take place, then dont get married! So an emotionally immature man who puts his mom in her place should be allowed to/has the right to get married? BTW, no two situations are the same. Mothers dont act alike. Wives dont act alike. Maturity entails knowing the different angles fracas may decide to descend from, and being ready to tackle it!

Sexkillz, your advice is too dangerous to be followed. And it makes more enemies outside your family than is necessary.

chuksikem:

i wrote P.U.N.A.N.I, WTF is kitten??

Swit up:

eh hen killz, where were we?!*

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dozymars:

Hello Everyone, I am a living experience to this matter. My mother insisted on getting a wife for me, though i was in a relationship but wasn't convinced it will lead to marriage. So i accepted my mum's moves and fortunately i loved the lady she got and now we are married with a child.

Few weeks after our marriage my parents always try to exert their control over my marriage, dictating to us on what should happen in the marriage which we tried resisting and this caused a lot of rift, hatred, bitterness and quarrel towards myself and my wife up till this moment of nearly 3yrs of marriage.

So my advice to the poster, you have to be very careful with this because it can bring division in the family which i am experiencing now. Talk to your mum and convince her that u can get a wife of your own but if by chance you get to love your mum's candidate then let your mum know she should take the blame for any eventual disagreement between you and the family that may arise during the marriage because your mum will try to exert her control especially if she resides in the same town with you.