What can I do

Your guy is the right person to help you overcome it cz other people will only tell u their own experiences and expect you to face the same.
I know your fear is based on these tales we hear about day in and out.
Hope your guy is knowledgeable.

poster
how old are you? why dont you want to wait till marriage?

It's ok to be apprehensive about this. Many people go through this same phase. You should consider booking an appointment with a Counsellor. A pro would help you get over the initial anxiety. Cheers!!!

U can only get over the fear by facing the fear itself.

Another virgin? Be like them go begin do test to know virginity status as evry bodi dey claim am so

@ this stage of ur life, keep ur virginity intact till d vow is cast i.e.marriage. It is ur pride, dont lose it anyhow.

@ this stage of ur life, keep ur virginity intact till d vow is cast i.e.marriage. It is ur pride, dont lose it anyhow.

Very soon you will come back and complain of being dumped. Why cant you wait till that guy will have no excuse of abandoning you on flimsy reasons and opt for another girl- MARRIAGE.

scaredy:

I dnt knw if my fear is rational bt I'm a virgin n I'm scared stiff of sex.pls wat can I do to get over des fear cos I want to Be Intimate with my guy.I'm so eager to

How old are you ?

Don't do it.

Olowojègúrè:

Very soon you will come back and complain of being dumped. Why cant you wait till that guy will have no excuse of abandoning you on flimsy reasons and opt for another girl- MARRIAGE.

GBAM!

@Poster, don't worry it ain't rocket science. Just make sure the person you plan on losing it to is someone worthy. And as for the fear, most people go thru that dear so you are not alone. If you haven't experience something before, you are most likely to be a bit scared, anxious, and bit embrassed. Thats fine, is only human nature. Don't sweat it. Even me, I am so freaking scared of childbrith you have no ideal. My hubby always tells me "relax baby, when you reach to that stage as in when you are actually pregnant, your fear will lessen a lot more". And he is right. When I reach to that stage, nature will take it cause. The same goes with sex, when you are actually in the act, trust me it just goes on naturally. Even though first time sex can be a bit painful for some women, a bit awkward, that is only natural.


I advice you don't expect anything super great out of it. It will probably be the most wack performance in your intimate history, but hey, remember is your first time, you have a whole lifetime ahead of you to learn. You will look back on that first night and always laugh, hence the reason it is so special.

When you actually decide to lose it, make sure pre-intimacy goes on for hours. Because that is actually when you will have all your fun because during your first time, penetrative sex ain't all that pleasureable trust me. And don't forget about the setting, the setting should be calming, relaxing, and romantic. It make a big difference trust me. It will hel take things off your mind and relax your senses.




All the best darling.

^^^ nice rokiatu. Good advice
And i would like to stress the importance that person you plan on losing it with is worthy and respects you!

thanks Talina. And yea good point.

tellwisdom:

Give me your number and i shall help you out

SMH

it means that you are not ready. don't do something you will regret 30 min later.

When you did it, did you regret it?

who are you asking?

Thanks rokiatu,obowunmi,talinaa and everyother person that gave me great advice.am 28 n I ve been told that the longer you wait the more painful it will become.that's another reason I want to get it done

That's a lie that the longer you wait the more painful. Before u engage in sex 1) know ur status and that of ur partner. Who has HIV?

2) Use a condom
3) Sex is sweet but there's no guarantee the man will marry you.
4) Make sure he's not impotent

scaredy:

Thanks rokiatu,obowunmi,talinaa and everyother person that gave me great advice.am 28 n I ve been told that the longer you wait the more painful it will become.that's another reason I want to get it done

28
you don do shakara tire??

The thing don dey shack am, obo tin yun

op, 28 and stil a virgin! Girl, u rock! But from the way u sound, its like the virginity has become a burden and its preventing u from enjoyin ur man. If thats the case, then drown ur fears in a bottle of Night train and get rid of that burden.

Laotang:

@ this stage of ur life, keep ur virginity intact till d vow is cast i.e.marriage. It is ur pride, dont lose it anyhow.

A woman's pride is in her heart, not in-between her legs.

scaredy:

Thanks rokiatu,obowunmi,talinaa and everyother person that gave me great advice.am 28 n I ve been told that the longer you wait the more painful it will become.that's another reason I want to get it done

babe,if you had waited this long,then i'd say you should probably wait till marriage b4 you do it.
dont just give it to someone who'll take it and scram/not appreciate it.
btw,big ups to you for keeping it this long!

Goldieluks:

Ask your pastor / parents.

mobf:

Another virgin? Be like them go begin do test to know virginity status as evry bodi dey claim am so

lol

obowunmi:

That's a lie that the longer you wait the more painful. Before u engage in sex 1) know ur status and that of ur partner. Who has HIV?

2) Use a condom
3) Sex is sweet but there's no guarantee the man will marry you.
4) Make sure he's not impotent

whao good advice

If you are 28 why not wait till you are married, and if you are going to marry the same guy let him wait till your wedding night.

your virginity is your birth right, don't give it to some one that will run away with it.

After all, we are all blaiming Esau in the Bible that he sold his birthright because of food.

Genesis, Chapter 25, 032: And Esau said, Behold, I am at the point to die: and what profit shall this birthright do to me?

You just have to come over your fear