The first year was an experience. We made love, fought, made up, played, laughed, danced, yelled, cried, had a baby and did many other things. At the end of it all we came out a stronger team, more understanding and tolerant of our strengths and weaknesses, we are more relaxed and at home with each other. We still have our challenges but we are facing them with joy, peace and commitment.

mo2raur:
Hummm...what a wonderful thread, i read all comment, i wnt to b maried too, u my husband where r thou? Locate me this year, im ready to b call Mrs. Life is a coin

I'm now Mrs.. Next year Jan by God's grace I'll be here to share my first year experience.

mo2raur:

I'm now Mrs.. Next year Jan by God's grace I'll be here to share my first year experience.

I Thank God For You Dear

Awwww. Nice thread. I am learning quite a lot which will come in handy when I get married. May God fix all shaky marriages.

ronkebp:


My dear i was in the same shoes as you were, I don't know why i felt the way i did, immediately i got married, for some reasons i felt i had made the wrong choice (maybe because i had few guys that wanted to marry me then too), but i had this thing'' when i was much younger that '' i would marry the person i told my inner most secret that no-one knew) and my hubby was the one, then he was just a friend, and i divulged everything to him, he was just giving me so many signs that this is just the right man for me, then we got into a relationship which was rosy and beautiful, though we argued alot.
But that 1st year was just the most difficult for me, i was beginning to find it difficult to really love him, it was just so different, i would snap at every little thing, but i kept on praying that this should pass, because this was not how i envisioned my marraige to be, all the problem we had was from me.

my hubby loves me so much, he was just patient with me, and i started loving the man i married, infact, i was seeing all the good sides of him, how much he cares for me, (he tells me how much he loves me at least 4 times a week, since we got married, very demanding though, he wants to always be with me, on the phone with me 24/7, my lunch time at work is not free ooo, we have to talk ni oooo, even if am taking a nap, he would want to be on the phone, am grateful to God, i was patient enough during the first years of marraige to start reaping the benefits now, wouldn't have made a better choice.

So you mean you never loved him before marraige?

Interesting thread. Learnt some stuffs. Will be back when I'm married.

rokiatu:
Please this goes out to all the married peeps out there. How was your first year of marriage? Was it the toughest, easiest, normal, how was it? Did you face any problems? How did you resolve them? In short how was your experience in the first year of your marriage?

Your contribution will be appreciated.

Hmm not a year but we're close . to be honest it's been normal were still adjusting and getting to know each other more with each and passing day ..yup

Such a lovely thread. Thanks to all who shared. I learnt three major lessons: Patience, Perseverance & Prayer helps. Been so scared of marriage but due to societal pressure and expectations, I was almost about to just settle for the sake of being married. After reading all these, I choose to wait for God's will and I hope to share my story here soon.

This topic is incomparable,not married though but enjoy every bit of it,thumb up op, God bless U!

papatosibe:


Kini big deal, 13 months and 26 miscarriages here, and I aint complaining.

Are U praying 4 it?

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marriage don dey hungry me

Me too but still have a long way to go

Hmmmm...this thread sha!!

Sagamite:


Personally, I would not say I have a fear of marriage. I would rather say, I am comfortable being single.

I would do whatever I need to do to make sure my life is a happy one. And I will only change the current status if I see a woman that makes me judge being with her would make me happier than being single. Not because culture/society expects me to be married at a certain age or a girl I am seeing is desperate to get married.

Just saw US CBS news yesterday, only 49% of marriages survive beyond 20 years.

I would not waste my youth and be in my 40s wondering how I can get it back. I shall be a happy person for majority of the rest of my life, no compromising that. No plans to quarrel consistently or compromise on my lifestyle because of some silly vows. If I married someone, I am sure they would not be perfect, but hell, they have to be well-rounded and worthy of marriage based on personality, attraction and compatibility. Otherwise, for me, there is no point or sense in getting married when being single can give me happiness.

Men! Thank fcking God that I still STRICTLY live by this mantra.

Sagamite:


Men! Thank fcking God that I still STRICTLY live by this mantra.

And happy I presume?

Na wa o...

Well, my first year of marriage will be filled with plenty sex and talks and foods and perhaps a baby . May I not marry a vampire

sisisioge:
Na wa o...

Well, my first year of marriage will be filled with plenty sex and talks and foods and perhaps a baby . May I not marry a vampire

plenty gini, babe pray for something wey nor go tire you oo

Martin0:


plenty gini, babe pray for something wey nor go tire you oo

I can't wait for those things jare

sisisioge:




I can't wait for those things jare

Don't worry..you fine well well so it won't be long.

sisisioge:


I can't wait for those things jare

I say make i holla you oo, see as you dey tashebor everywhere

Winter4:


And happy I presume?

How could I not be happy when I stick to the mantra that anyone that comes and remains in my life must make me happier than I was before them?

Sagamite:


How could I not be happy when I stick to the mantra that anyone that comes and remains in my life must make me happier than I was before them?

Okaaaay...I didn't understand the "Mantra" before ni. Hope you're making them happy too sha..life na give and take o

like ds thread.

Winter4:


Okaaaay...I didn't understand the "Mantra" before ni. Hope you're making them happy too sha..life na give and take o

I am a cool guy that does not stand for nonsense and selfishness.

A great man, not a mumu "real man".

Majority of women are inherently selfish. "Me, me, me, me, me, me...."

This thread is so insightful,learnt a lot from it
Dear Lord I have seen what you've done for others
Please do mine,Thank you.

Such a great thread I'm really happy to have storm over these Op God bless you for this great topic

sisisioge:
Na wa o...

Well, my first year of marriage will be filled with plenty sex and talks and foods and perhaps a baby . May I not marry a vampire

Amen

mylove4God:


Amen

Thanks darling... I wish you same.

sisisioge:


Thanks darling... I wish you same.

you are welcome

I remember reading this thread during those years when I was to waiting to get married. So it is give back time. The first year of our marriage was a joyful one and full of blessings too. We went on honeymoon (Dubai) came back and I was able to buy a car for my wife. I also got assigned to a more favourable role at work. We conceived after exactly a month and we had sex almost every day of the pregnancy, until she had to travel to have the baby and we resumed as soon as I was able to join them up till the day before the baby was delivered. We were celibate until the wedding so this was so fulfilling. God blessed us with a bouncing baby boy and we have been back to love making since 13weeks after the baby. Our relationship has gotten better, we communicate well and neither of us has difficulty saying sorry. I do not want my wife to get mad and she avoids getting me mad too. To someone else, my wife may be such an incompetent wife and to another woman, I may be too finicky for a man but we have been ok with each other. She is fast settling down to the wife role and we are completely opened to each other about everything. God indeed answers prayers. I thank God I did not make the mistake of letting her go and I am trusting God to continue to help us.