Recently my friend complained to me that once he had any misunderstanding with his wife, she goes into her shell, stay indoors all day and wont bother serving him any food. Is this right for any reason

It is very wrong because if care is not taken, the day the guy goes out and find some other food appealing, she is likely loosing him faster than she can think. Food, money, intimacy amongst others are not right to deny one's partner.

So he and his wife have a quarrell. She gives him the silent treatment and your complaint is that she does not serve him food. SMH. So if she serves the food will that solve their probelms. Sometimes I don't believe the crap I read

Same way some women deny their husbands sex after a quarrel

It is not Good, the Woman is give way for competitor and she may not have the capacity to compete

Very immature way to handle misunderstanding

otheloze: Recently my friend complained to me that once he had any misunderstanding with his wife, she goes into her shell, stay indoors all day and wont bother serving him any food. Is this right for any reason

So the man cannot go to the kitchen and serve his food abi? if cooking was the issue here, i will say No it is not good for her not to cook, as long as there is food in the house, how many seconds will it take a man to go to the kitchen and dish himself a plate of rice and ten chiken thigh in the pot? People should start learning how to do things on their own. Kai!!!

Yes, it is normal afterall there is a restaurant across the street that serves one of the finest dishes, their service is quick and fulfilling.

@Chaircover, you spoke so maturedly, may God bless you . @Outstrip, you spoke so childishly, may you learn from Chaircover before you get married

ronkebp:

So the man cannot go to the kitchen and serve his food abi? if cooking was the issue here, i will say No it is not good for her not to cook, as long as there is food in the house, how many seconds will it take a man to go to the kitchen and dish himself a plate of rice and ten chiken thigh in the pot? People should start learning how to do things on their own. Kai!!!

ronkebp:

So the man cannot go to the kitchen and serve his food abi? if cooking was the issue here, i will say No it is not good for her not to cook, as long as there is food in the house, how many seconds will it take a man to go to the kitchen and dish himself a plate of rice and ten chiken thigh in the pot? People should start learning how to do things on their own. Kai!!!

You hit the nail on the head. People are having marital conflicts that includes ignoring each other for days and someone is whiningover the small issue that he was not "served" food. Foolishness of the highest order. The most annoying ones are the ones who say that the man will go someone else and enjoy someone elses cooking. I mean are they even aware that that statement make them seem like they are mentally and physically disabled? If food is what will make you cheat on your spouse you truly need to go for deliverance. That statement always rubs me the wrong way

and what of situations where he waits for her to serve the food and he says he wont eat nko

It is not normal.But it would help if the man takes the initiative to settle the misunderstanding.

The coco will be if later at night she denies me real stuff. We both know...we have normal issues & settle. Sometimes we get upset & want to vent it. If she doesn't feel like joining me in the kitchen because I ran my mouth........that is fair.

But we must settle before night.

Hehehehe.

its not cool but dts not enough reason for him to eat out, he can dish his food and call for reconciliation by ironing things out with his wife. Peace

@topic

It is not the proper thing to do. It is like a husband not dropping 'chop' money because he is angry with his wife.
Our being angry should not make us shirk from our responsibilities at home.

Unique!:
Very immature way to handle misunderstanding

I totally agree with you.

Hbab, where have u been since?

Outstrip:

You hit the nail on the head. People are having marital conflicts that includes ignoring each other for days and someone is whiningover the small issue that he was not "served" food. Foolishness of the highest order. The most annoying ones are the ones who say that the man will go someone else and enjoy someone elses cooking. I mean are they even aware that that statement make them seem like they are mentally and physically disabled? If food is what will make you cheat on your spouse you truly need to go for deliverance. That statement always rubs me the wrong way

My dear I didnt even want to comment when i saw the ones on how that will make him cheat. My Lord, I am dealing with mood swings now and I didnt know how i will react so i just kept quiet. Is a wife so valueless in Nigeria now that any small issue will automatically be an excuse for the man to cheat and will be justified? Is that what we have reduced our wives too? I had to de-learn every thing I previously thought I nknew about marriage and re learn, When I read somethings here my heart just sinks, haba, How does a human being who is meant to be a partner and helpmate get reduced to the level i see here. If you dont give hime s3x everytime even when you are sick he will cheat, if you do this he will cheat.
I am not in anyway tolerating the womans actions whioch i regard as totally childish but I am just so sad that everything is an excuse or a reason to cheat.

Yes it is wrong. If she has been the one always dishing out his meal and all of a sudden stops after an argument, then she is mightily sick. The same way I dislike women that punish their husbands with sex. You have issues with someone and you think that very immature way is the way to deal with issues?

Women need to work on their insecurities. The fact that you dished out his food does not mean he won't apologize to you. I hug and slightly kiss my husband's cheeks when he comes home even though we had an argument earlier on. It doesn't stop him from apologising when he is wrong and vice versa.

ronkebp:

So the man cannot go to the kitchen and serve his food abi? if cooking was the issue here, i will say No it is not good for her not to cook, as long as there is food in the house, how many seconds will it take a man to go to the kitchen and dish himself a plate of rice and ten chiken thigh in the pot? People should start learning how to do things on their own. Kai!!!

I think you lack the intellectual ability to comprehend what is happening here. How would a wife for whatever flimsy reason refuse to serve her husband meal. This is how marriages crash. He starts eating from outside, next he sees other beautiful ladies or some lady woos here, next sex follows, He is already gone. Then you start crying and running for deliverance that a witch is in your family or someone has used "juju" to charm you husband. When a simple maturity from the onset would have saved the day will you women always learn the hard way. na wah for nigeria women self

free2ryhme:

I think you lack the intellectual ability to comprehend what is happening here. How would a wife for whatever flimsy reason refuse to serve her husband meal. This is how marriages crash. He starts eating from outside, next he sees other beautiful ladies or some lady woos here, next sex follows, He is already gone. Then you start crying and running for deliverance that a witch is in your family or someone has used "juju" to charm you husband. When a simple maturity from the onset would have saved the day will you women always learn the hard way. na wah for nigeria women self

Very lame. Are you Nigerian men this low in your thinking or is it just you? is this why you people cheat? how degrading for you men and I thought women were the only ones called "Cheap s**ts"

Outstrip:

You hit the nail on the head. People are having marital conflicts that includes ignoring each other for days and someone is whiningover the small issue that he was not "served" food. Foolishness of the highest order. The most annoying ones are the ones who say that the man will go someone else and enjoy someone elses cooking. I mean are they even aware that that statement make them seem like they are mentally and physically disabled? If food is what will make you cheat on your spouse you truly need to go for deliverance. That statement always rubs me the wrong way

Outstrip go and read the Post again and evaluate the comment before you dey run ya mouth for here.

jennykadry:

Very lame. Are you Nigerian men this low in your thinking or is it just you? is this why you people cheat? how degrading for you men and I thought women were the only ones called "Cheap s**t"

@jennykadry, you can call it lame if you like an you get ya mouth when all you do here is gossip. If you understand marriage in nigeria you will know that it is flimsy issues such as this that snowballs into home breaking. If you like marry and dont serve ya husband food stay indoors for days ok. it is people like you that encourages such nonsense when in your own house you be Bolo. Abeg try front

free2ryhme:

@jennykadry, you can call it lame if you like an you get ya mouth when all you do here is gossip. If you understand marriage in nigeria you will know that it is flimsy issues such as this that snowballs into home breaking. If you like marry and dont serve ya husband food stay indoors for days ok. it is people like you that encourages such nonsense when in your own house you be Bolo. Abeg try front

Eat my faecal discharge. I repeat, do all Nigerian men think this way or is it just you? your cheap thought got me thinking, maybe nigerian men are not eligible for marriage anymore

@ Topic, it is childish to deny your husband or wife of food or s3x because you are quarelling, settle your issues like adults. If you are not mature enough to handle marriage please no marry, The husband should be more concerned about settling the fight than about food at this point. Same way i cant stand it when men feel ignoring thier wives is the best way to make them "sorry", talk to her, sort your issues out for heavens sake. Stop acting like kids, keeping malice, refusing to serve food, refusing to have s3x. I taya

jennykadry: Same way some women deny their husbands sex after a quarrel

Are you saying its not good as well? Cos i wonder how one can make love when angry .

jennykadry:

Eat my faecal discharge. I repeat, do all Nigerian men think this way or is it just you? your cheap thought got me thinking, maybe nigerian men are not eligible for marriage anymore

Your comment on this issue is chidish and to encourage it shows a high level of immaturity. abeg go F**k ya sef. I m b e c i l e

freecocoa: Are you saying its not good as well? Cos i wonder how one can make love when angry .

Have s3x when you are angry, make love when you make up but never punish a man or a woman with sex.

free2ryhme:


Your comment on this issue is chidish and to encourage it shows a high level of immature. abeg go F**k ya sef. I m b e c i l e

Ahn ahn, na we we nowwwww. We know ourselves. OR you don forget say na me and you dey do the imbechile work together?

Answer my question joooo, is it just your slow brain that thinks this way or does every naija man think like you?

free2ryhme:

I think you lack the intellectual ability to comprehend what is happening here. How would a wife for whatever flimsy reason refuse to serve her husband meal. This is how marriages crash. He starts eating from outside, next he sees other beautiful ladies or some lady woos here, next sex follows, He is already gone. Then you start crying and running for deliverance that a witch is in your family or someone has used "juju" to charm you husband. When a simple maturity from the onset would have saved the day will you women always learn the hard way. na wah for nigeria women self

Really?? Free2rap, this is all you have to say Couple dey 'taage', you are hear talking about food, oh now!!! i know the calibre of ''tifun lorans'' FFF (friend for food) only, wobiya!!!! so naa fodd konsign you for the whole matter. OLE!!!!!

jennykadry:

Have s3x when you are angry, make love when you make up but never punish a man or a woman with sex.

@jennykadry you just shout your sef in the foot. If you must not deny him sex or make love when you are angry then you must not deny him food also. Just as the former is good for the soul so also is the later for the body.