blank:

Do not fall for all these guy men that are not worth it!

bros856: I guess nobody has written exactly what this lady will love to read. Its not easy for a lady to come out this open. A lot of people interpret it as she being desperate but i tell you guys no, she is not desperate but an honest person. So many men go begging women that are not willing to settle down peacefully in marriage and When they encounter an honest ready to stay house wife like this lady they disregard them and call it names. Well my dear lady send me a mail on umo.benson@yahoo.com. My Cousin want to settle down too, so i will recommend you to him. I have intorduce a lady like you before who came out open to me on same issue and today they are happily married in USA now.I like your courage, it shows you know what life is all about. I know you are there already. Problem shared is half solved.

bennyraz: na wa o. Frontpage please!!! We have to manufacture husbands for this women o. Another thread again on desperation. @ Op, i will come back to advice on what to do

rokiatu: Damn another marriage thread, I am beginning to worry. What is happening to our young men?

You telling me they are all turning gay?

tim_jones: Firstly,I admire ur courage.. Stepping up like dis or taking a bold step of this height is not an easy task.. Secondly,at 28 is not quite pretty for lady to still be turning tables in the name of searching for her priceless treasure.. But I must say dis.. Who said the normal age for a lady to marry is 25? Who talk dat one.. It's an extralarge nonesense.. Don't add more salt to ur wound my dear.. Be a nice lady,live ur nice life and behold ur unending happy married life sooner dan later.. From Tim Jones

eyenCalabar:

For me  would only recommend her to a friend if she was still a virgin at that age but she is not and  don't know the number of guys that have done it on her that's why  decided to recommended her to a place in my last post so that she can just go and select any man of her choice.

dazzle37:

eyencalabar, Affo edi idad, uyom ke mkpo ofon ye eyen awan emi, nsi nam odgoho de enye aka nam akpara ke flour mill ?

Amaka G29:
Don't you have goals for yourself? I believe in marriage and I know the pressure you are feeling is palpable, but men can sense desperation and it's a turn off. If you focus on being the best you for yourself, the husband will come. Focus on being well read, well dressed, and well traveled...really anything that makes a happier and better you. People who take care of themselves and are genuinely happy attract others are them. Focus also on building strong friendships and family ties. Creating good relationships with others will make you better at navigating romantic relationships. You never know who may know just the right person for you.

From a practical stand point, putting yourself in situations to meet quality, serious minded men without hunting for them could be fruitful. It won't be the club, but it may be the library, cafe, or friend's wedding. A smile and pleasant conversation goes a long way (even with a nice older woman who has a son.)

You have a whole life ahead of you to be married, have children, and be tied down. Why not explore the freedom you have while you have it?

dafetta: I wud like us to get to knw our selves .my mail is dafetta4luv@yahoo.com

careytommy:
Yes I agree with you. I have a cousin who said she must get married @ 25. Well, she did. The guy later moved abroad when she had a child and totally shunned her. After about five years, she sought a divorce and is now married to another guy.
So OP, don't just get married because of societal perceptions.

lucrecia: All my sisters have gotten married, and i am the only one left behind. Meanwhile the right time for a girl to settle down is 25yrs. My question is at my age can i still settle down? i'm desperate to settle down, but i am not in any serious relationship. what should i do?

odiaero:

Leading dumb post of the day, lets see if anyone will overtake you, recommending you brother to who you dont even know, you must be from Afganistan

eyenCalabar: Visit Calabar asap and come to Flour Mill along Highway from 11pm. Real men are always there waiting for real women to fall in love. Stop wasting your life in a place where there are no men. Before you know you are old. Sorry baby!

maasoap:
I'm of the opinion that you've overtaken him already. Is this mean you can't propose to a girl you just meet for the first time and see if it'll go well? They will meet, introduce each other. And if they like each other at first sight, they will wait and see if the thing will work out, most especially, compatibility. Or are you telling us that you haven't witnessed or heard things like this before?

buJu-234:
Re: I'm 28 Desperate To Settle Down. by rokiatu(f): 16 hours & 35 minutes
Damn another marriage thread, I am beginning to worry. What is happening to our young men?

You telling me they are all turning gay?[s][/s]

my dear; its jst cash that is holding many Nigerian matured men...

and also u ladies dont help matters too;

a friend got married to this lady who told him that she will manage with him; after 1yr..
the wife started:-
this house is too small
i can stay in this kind of area any more (sango-ota)
how can i b using 150k per mth for chop money abeg its too small
my mother needs some cash (HOW MUCH? 300k)
i need to change my wardrope;(BUT U JST DID 2mths ago?)

etc etc etc

meanwhile; my friend boss is planning to downsize because of the economy; come and see this bobo now;;; thinking wan kill d guy

so when single guys see people like this... o boy its better that that lady remain a single woman
in her father`s house than to come and give me High BP...

Stop wasting your life in a place where there are no men. Before you know you are old. Sorry baby!

2buff: And another one. Karma is quite the b[i]i[/i]tch.
What were you doing since that you didn't find a correct man since your prime years (21-25)? And don't spit that BS about "there were no good men around" cuz that would just be a terrible lie.
After snobbing all the guys that said hello to you or asked you for directions, here you are now lonely and rapidly approaching menopause
You see yourself now?

lucrecia: All my sisters have gotten married, and i am the only one left behind. Meanwhile the right time for a girl to settle down is 25yrs. My question is at my age can i still settle down? i'm desperate to settle down, but i am not in any serious relationship. what should i do?

odiaero:


Am sure you are the one it happened to, think b4 you write, not in Op condition

warrior01: mtcheewwwwww!!!! @Op, the time wey ur two oranges dey kampe, you dey do shakara for all the nice guys out there, believing sugar daddies and other material things is the way but now that the boobies had been sucked dry, misused and has now fallen, you are now on nairaland begging the good guys whom you, the op, rejected to come and marry a quarter to go product. Anyway, the few remaining good ones are wiser now as they like it fresh, young and still standing (you know what i mean). Anyway, I like ur guts & am wishing you the very best of luck and in case if you don't mind, am ready to accomodate you as a mistress as half bread is better than none.