acidtalk: If one expects a partner to possess some certain traits like the one listed below and they do, how can one also actually tell if the are pretending and acting it all up just to ensure the relationship ends in marraige?

Characteristics of a Wife/Husband are;

*One who Understands

*A Patient one

*A Conversationist (this is extremely important in every and any relationship)

*One who makes Sacrifices

*Someone who see your dream just as you see it or even clearer than you do (not a pessimist to your whole believe)

*A Comforter (who who will always pray for you and never use any negative or curse words on you)

*A friend (a true friend will correct you on things other people are scared, shy or reluctant to tell you I.e, "honey I bought you this body spray or mouth wash because I think you should use eat because I felt you sweated too much yesterday / your mouth felt dry while we were talking - no one else will tell you this only someone who really scares for you).

*A listener (someone who isn't quiet just because he/she is waiting for you to pulse so they can take over. But one who is really listening to bring about a positive impact in your conversation.)

*A Giver (a generous one who isn't weighing what he/she has given to you and expecting the equivalent or something better)

*One who shares your interest (Sports, fashion, current affiars, music, geography, movie, Sport, History, Politics, Religion, events, lifestyle - if your partner doesn't have at list 3 of these interest with you then please move on to the next because marriage goes way beyond the sex and food. There MUST be other similar interest to always keep communication going).

*Fear of God (this means differnt things to different people so sort yours out).

*Love (this came last because one must have 2 or more of the above triats before you can love them. And note; love rises and fades in every relationship and marriage but only the above will reignite the love you crave for).

A good partner should possess at least 3 or more of the above traits before you should consider him/her for marriage.

Idowuogbo:
Acid, how many friends u get sef,all ur threads or comments na my friend dis my friend da, it's neva U!

God is watching o!

ijebabe: Pretenders will always like attention on themselves, sharing too much irrelevant details so you are distracted by what they are saying and not what you want to hear. Doesn't discuss much about your dreams, career plan and other such interests. And worse criticize men/women in general or their last boy/girlfriend, sharing your exes personal details that was meant to be a secret, complaining and being abusive that it was the other person's fault that the relationship ended, bla bla bla.

I will create scenarios, discuss alot of issues (general and family) and judge by the response, introduce to my trusted circle of friends because I might miss something they won't. I think the only way to find out is to spend time with the partner. No matter how good a liar the person is, if you spend enough time you will notice certain behaviours that don't feel right to you or add up. We are all imperfect but the problem is we tend to ignore the 'signs' and make excuses for them hoping its a one time thing and even worse we can change it. No love without sacrifice. Some people possess alot of positive traits but there is that one thing that will not just cut it. Anger is a very clear sign for me to know that if he doesn't work on controlling it now I will end up being a punching bag in the future.
There is no 'ONE WAY' to catch a pretender just take things slow and shine you eyes well.

laykhorn: Isn't this the same Acid who said his father-in-law decided not to give out his daughter to him because of his notoriety on NL. We lose taste for ur lies. I've stopped believin them lng tym ago. Mor0n buruku.. Iro e lee wo ile

slimyem: you dey mind am?
Person wey go watch Nollywood movie come dump the story for here...
Only the gullibles believe those tales of his!!

acidtalk: A closed friend just called a few minutes ago to lament (and cry inbetween) that the girl he has been dating for 18months and was deemed fit to marry by all members of his family and friend was discovered to be a mother of a 7years old boy.

She kept this away from my friend all this while and it is only 5 months to their supposed wedding.

When he confronted her about it last night, she denied it for over 2 hours until when he started to dish out evidences she could no longer deny.


She swore she would have told him before their wedding day, but this friend is adamant saying he is over with her because only God knows the so many other secrets she is keeping from him.


He swore he would have almost thought she was even a virgin if he hadn't made love to her before. She looks so innocent and loving.


Human beings and pretence.

Idowuogbo:
Acid, how many friends u get sef,all ur threads or comments na my friend dis my friend da, it's neva U!

God is watching o!

cowgurl: Perfect pretenders my sexy foot! One can tell a pretender if e/she is damn Observant instead of bein carried away by distracters such as sex n money.

acidtalk: ya yes na me and I advice you to also go through about 180 other threads of mine before finally committing suicide. To the last word of yours, na your papa papa be slowpoke buruku.

I aint that nice you know?

Idowuogbo:
Acid, how many friends u get sef,all ur threads or comments na my friend dis my friend da, it's neva U!

God is watching o!

acidtalk: If one expects a partner to possess some certain traits like the one listed below and they do, how can one also actually tell if the are pretending and acting it all up just to ensure the relationship ends in marraige?

Characteristics of a Wife/Husband are;

*One who Understands

*A Patient one

*A Conversationist (this is extremely important in every and any relationship)

*One who makes Sacrifices

*Someone who see your dream just as you see it or even clearer than you do (not a pessimist to your whole believe)

*A Comforter (who who will always pray for you and never use any negative or curse words on you)

*A friend (a true friend will correct you on things other people are scared, shy or reluctant to tell you I.e, "honey I bought you this body spray or mouth wash because I think you should use eat because I felt you sweated too much yesterday / your mouth felt dry while we were talking - no one else will tell you this only someone who really scares for you).

*A listener (someone who isn't quiet just because he/she is waiting for you to pulse so they can take over. But one who is really listening to bring about a positive impact in your conversation.)

*A Giver (a generous one who isn't weighing what he/she has given to you and expecting the equivalent or something better)

*One who shares your interest (Sports, fashion, current affiars, music, geography, movie, Sport, History, Politics, Religion, events, lifestyle - if your partner doesn't have at list 3 of these interest with you then please move on to the next because marriage goes way beyond the sex and food. There MUST be other similar interest to always keep communication going).

*Fear of God (this means differnt things to different people so sort yours out).

*Love (this came last because one must have 2 or more of the above triats before you can love them. And note; love rises and fades in every relationship and marriage but only the above will reignite the love you crave for).

A good partner should possess at least 3 or more of the above traits before you should consider him/her for marriage.

laykhorn:
I ain't any nicer either. Didinrin wan lari mo ogiri cos i open him nyansh. I'm so gifted traumatisin joy o0o... Na ur Papa u dey refer to.

acidtalk:

Who is this clown?
You have spent your entire life following me on nairaland and I never and don't even know you exist. So who cares what a worthless fellow like you thinks or says.

Didinrin wan lari mo ogiri- Give this to your dad who refused to train you.

Idowuogbo:
Acid, how many friends u get sef,all ur threads or comments na my friend dis my friend da, it's neva U!

God is watching o!

code_0: Catching a pretender is not in all these because he can still pretends over them. But the best way to catch a pretender is in his relationship with other people. Here, a pretender would always be exposed because he cannot pretends with everybody except you and you should know those areas you can use in checking this. Example maybe the way he talks to others, his reaction to issues with friends, manners with neighbors and a whole lots. If the way he deals with you is different from the way he deals with others especially in these few areas, knows that he is a pretender. You can never catch a pretender just between you and the person.

yuzedo: 1. If he/she uses his/her thumbs to type on his/her phone, na pretender (s)he be!
2. If when answering call, the 1st thing the person says is "hello", na babanla cheat!
3. Does he/she enter the toilet sometimes? What dyu thing he/she is going to do inside there? dump his/her arzzzze!! I hope I have been able to help u, cheers!

Yomieluv: A pretender is very difficult to fish out,except by stroke of luck,cos most of them are master of oerfectionist, I know a guy that dated a girl from a church,who look innocent,but a pro in lying, stealing the guy stuff,the guy neva believed till she was caught red handed.
A pretender always appear tOo possessive,and try to build the relationship around themselves.
They appear too nice,and always suspect their partner of things they themselves are guilty of.
Most ladies are guilty of this,they are nothing but wolf in sheep skin.