Some Nigerian traditions allows for ones mother-in-law to stay with her daugther helping her out to nurse the baby.
As the man of the house,how long can u allow her to stay with u?As the wife if the reverse is the case,how long will u allow your husband's mother to stay with u nursing the baby?

Depends on how nice she is -- but if she's nice she'll take the cue and leave after a while.

No thanks. I'm tired of not being the most important figure in the house. No one older than me is welcome in my home, thank you very much. if we need help, we will hire a nanny!

No one older than me is welcome in my home, thank you very much.

So you're one of those men who use age in determining who to marry -- are you sure when the love bug strikes you, you won't go for someone older than you?

as long as u she wants.

It depends on how nice and loving she is.

very short visit,nice or not nice i do prefer to avoid wahala.

u cant make the decision when ur wife is there. Infact that is ur wifes mom so just stay away and let mother and child do their thing,

one week,afetr one week
park her bags staright to the village

i think there should be a forum/ thread for the married so threads like this dont get lost

If is she nice then she can stay as long as she wants

I think it really would depend on the r/s that I have with my MIL.

My xMIL was a real bitch and I could not stand her more than 6 hours at a time.  But my mom she came for each baby, her and my dad and would stay 3-4 weeks.  It was great having my mom and dad there with me when I had each of my children.

My mom would let me rest the first couple of weeks home and would bring the baby to me for feedings.  Dad would do necesarry repairs around the house (my exH could not figure out which end was the head on the hammer) and he would play with the older children to keep them occupied.  My mom would also prepare meals before she left and freeze them for easy thawing and heating after she left.

sistawoman:

I think it really would depend on the r/s that I have with my MIL.

My xMIL was a real bitch and I could not stand her more than 6 hours at a time.  But my mom she came for each baby, her and my dad and would stay 3-4 weeks.  It was great having my mom and dad there with me when I had each of my children.

My mom would let me rest the first couple of weeks home and would bring the baby to me for feedings.  Dad would do necesarry repairs around the house (my exH could not figure out which end was the head on the hammer) and he would play with the older children to keep them occupied.  My mom would also prepare meals before she left and freeze them for easy thawing and heating after she left.

mmmmm you couldnt teach him

JJYOU:

mmmmm you couldnt teach him

He did not want to learn.

sistawoman:

He did not want to learn.

that is why he is an ex. thank God for small mercies.

As long as her mouth comes with a sticky tape which she knows how and when to apply, WHY NOT, she can stay as long as she wants

I always made an effort to get along with any potential MIL before taking things serious with any guy to guard against situations like this.

HMMM, my parents in law have been living with us for 4 yrs now, tried everything to get them out of my house especially my MIL, and the woman refused to budge. Now that my children have started school, she has nothing to do, she is now pestering me to have another baby, WTH COS THAT AINT HAPPENING. I guess so she can stay for another 3 yrs abi.
My FIL still works so he is hardly ever home, but u know how it is with women. 2 can't live in the same house without one bickering about something which is usually her. It used to hurt me b4 but i have developed a think skin and it hurts her more now that I don't give a damn what she thinks or says.

God willing, I vow never to stay with any of my married children for more than a month (invited by them) at a time. I can't put another young woman thru what I ahve been thru.

hotstuff06

Four years And the FIL is there too Is there an end in sight? I cannot even pretend I know what you are going through, but I know God is your strength

@BIG BUMPER, no end in sight oh. I really can't even tell. I don't care anymore though. I go out with my hubby anytime I please. I used to be depressed about it but not anymore. God gave me the strength to overcome the drepression and now I live my life like there is no tomorrow. She knows now I dont care for her or her wahala so she is the one hurting now 

Between my wife and myself, we'll be more than capable of taking care of any children.

Don't want MIL living with us for any length of time.

Siena:

Between my wife and myself, we'll be more than capable of taking care of any children.

Don't want MIL living with us for any length of time.

NOT ALL MA INLAWS ARE EVIL SIENNA.

hotstuff06:

@BIG BUMPER, no end in sight oh. I really can't even tell. I don't care anymore though. I go out with my hubby anytime I please. I used to be depressed about it but not anymore. God gave me the strength to overcome the drepression and now I live my life like there is no tomorrow. She knows now I dont care for her or her wahala so she is the one hurting now 

good for you. this is one thing that always baffle me. why on earth women victimise other women.

JJYOU:

NOT ALL MA INLAWS ARE EVIL SIENNA.

I never said they were evil - a question was asked, and I gave my answer.
It's just my preference, which is what a discussion board's all about, different views.

hotstuff06:

@BIG BUMPER, no end in sight oh. I really can't even tell. I don't care anymore though. I go out with my hubby anytime I please. I used to be depressed about it but not anymore. God gave me the strength to overcome the drepression and now I live my life like there is no tomorrow. She knows now I dont care for her or her wahala so she is the one hurting now

What a relief to hear that you have managed to put her in her place, some of them can be soooo

I remember my parternal grandma always trying it on with my mum, when I grew up, I showed her ehn, I did not even send her that she was my grandmother

i want my  MIL with me but for a short period of time

stay with me as in helping with baby? i prefer Siena's idea too, TIY/DIY.

2 weeks is the max i can take. i'd like to see the roundtrip ticket she got 

2 weeks?

Nice or not she is staying for 1 week, even my own mother will only stay for 1 week. i would rather pay for a hotel room for her than have her stay in my house for more than 1 week, cuz when they stay for more than one week, they start getting all up in ur business.

depending on how nice the mother-in-law is.
a few weeks maybe?

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2 to 3 weeks and they are out, i no want wahala. Th next thing you know she will want to run your house and tell you the meat in your soup is too big.