london2lasgidi: are you in love with an online character? lmao........................ you must be really not good looking to fall in love online lmao...

fall in love with me..... and I'll supply all your needs.

claremont: People who "fall-in-love" online are not attracted to a real human being, they are attracted to the online alter-ego being presented to them. Unfortunately for these sad souls, their desperation for "love" is so much that they have lost the capacity to differentiate between a real human being and an online alter-ego. So they pursue this online alter-ego with reckless abandon, because it gives them something they desperately lack in the real world.

In addition, most people who go online in a desperate search for "love" do so because they lack the self-confidence to pursue meaningful relationships with people in the real world; this abject lack of self-confidence may be as a result of several failed relationships in the past, or it may simply be because they consider themselves physically defective as far as beauty/handsomeness is concerned i.e. (f)ugly, fat, flat-chested, skinny, e.t.c, or it may be due to a fast approaching old age and its attendant cultural consequences on a single male/female.

I'm totally against any form of online relationship, I believe human beings are social animals who can only form meaningful relationships via physical contact with one another. I would seriously question the sanity of those sad souls who ignore their fellow human beings in real life, and then choose to pursue online characters. Surely, they may have deep-seated psychiatric issues IMHO.

OFF-TOPIC, where have you been hiding?!

emöfine2:

Well currently I perhaps “need” you to vacate my thread so yes I will fall in “love” with you if you’ll oblige

emöfine2:

Admittedly I too am cynical about "falling in love" online but wow your language is quite harsh...or shall I say delievered typically in claremont fashion...

By the way some people are rather open online...wouldn't that affect some of your conclusions then? ...and even in real life people may be ambiguous...or is "falling in love" offline to you more noble?

emöfine2:
I've been "hiding" or set up camp rather in the religious board.

sweetcocoa: Come emofine,why are you blowing too much grammar this hot afternoon? This matter is supposed to be simple but your english is make am hard now.

london2lasgidi:

I'll oblige if you're good looking, and since you live in London; the 'love' will get deeper quickly lmao......... pardon my ebonics lmao.....

claremont: Human beings have evolved primarily via physical contact with one another, the online pursuit of romance negates this very important characteristic. The question really is where would it all end?! I would argue that if this worrying trend is not controlled by those who are into it, we might start having online husband/wives, online kids e.t.c in the near future!

"By the way some people are rather open online": Exactly my point, their so-called openness online is due to an abject lack of self-confidence offline. Ideally, their behaviour should be the same in both spheres, but the mere fact that they prefer to 'open-up' only whilst hiding behind a computer keyboard may reveal deep-seated psychological, psycho-social, and/or psychiatric issues.

"or is "falling in love" offline to you more noble": I think everyone knows my sentiments about this madness called falling-in-love by now, no need to start flogging a dead horse. My infamous thread aptly titled "Love does not exist" refers.

These days, the religious section seems to be devoid of thought-provoking topics. It seems to be more or less a portal for religious goons to showcase their ignorance, rather than being a portal for logical and rational debates.

emöfine2:
So Londoners don begin converse in ebonics eh...so back to the theme of the thread...so even you fit delve in this online wantintin depending on some variables - location and looks?

Dey there my friend who knows we've probably brushed shoulders before...you kno say London na small area before

london2lasgidi:

Basically, I don't think falling 'in love' online is real.. Online is different from real life; and judging an online character based on their online "intelligence" or superficial personality won't give you a comprehensive assessment of who they really.... We're humans, and we all have egos; and I believe most people come to forums like this to find a niche where they can endear themselves to people.......

emöfine2:

Interesting....as regards to your last sentence I somewhat suspected that motive as well...well at least with certain individuals/forums....

london2lasgidi:

Basically, I don't think falling 'in love' online is real.. Online is different from real life; and judging an online character based on their online "intelligence" or superficial personality won't give you a comprehensive assessment of who they really.... We're humans, and we all have egos; and I believe most people come to forums like this to find a niche where they can endear themselves to people.......

Many are moved by words.

emöfine2: I appreciate your insightful comments Pendo and that point you made about daring was rather interesting...

“but online relationship if not followed up with offline is a waste of emotional energy” - very valid point.


You are correct but then again that is all or largely what we have to go by online – at least in the initial stage.

So Pendo, would you say that those who usually fall for words as opposed to actions are more likely to find "love" online?

And even if one does try and prove their selves online wouldn't that be seen as character flaunting?

london2lasgidi: are you in love with an online character? lmao........................ you must be really not good looking to fall in love online lmao...

fall in love with me..... and I'll supply all your needs.

emöfine2: Sometimes in real life we are guilty of repelling against another even through no fault of the individual(s) in question....we may not like another person even for doing right...

Then here some people meet online...the people one may have otherwise disliked or ignored offline or may have never given a chance may be the ones to hold such people’s interest....I guess sometimes when there is a veil of anonymity we are all for that limited existence on a balanced podium (no one is above another and no one is below another) until we talk...
That's why I love forums because they give all an equal platform without having to gauge them by their physical looks.
They give voice to the voiceless or looked down upon by the society.
They also silence the noisy.That way everybody is helped.

And it’s true some of the vibrant characters online may be timid offline and vice versa...and it is true that some people indeed tailor their personality to appear more popular or even unpopular...but for the fact that there are some people online that we may have never had the chance to speak to or even wanted to have shared conversation with due to some personal bias or even witness their thoughts as a spectator...for those instances is it thus understandable (excluding caution for now) that romances occur at such a rate online?

Yeah I would say so. This is what emofine.
Some love seeking characters online are on a revenge mission while others are truly desperate.Hurt by the world sorrounding them,hurt by the people they interact with daily.They want to explore the unknown world.They dare to give it a try.Now these type care less about the outcome.
Caution lies with the person being sought not the seeker.
There is that other category that we may admire because of their online personalities.We assume their online character is equal to off.
I don't think its difficult to tell cz patience and cover wears off in the long run and the true person comes out.
In that case, I will stick to what I said which is, people who are moved by words are likely to fall in love FAST with such people before knowing their true character.


But can one have genuine chemistry online and even if it may appear so will that necessarily translate offline?
Depends on what they seek,their motives and determination really. Like I said,caution must be exercised when dealing with people online.
Not all are fakes.Some truly deserve a chance.But work hard on moving it to the next level.If not,then don't start it because you waste so much time which should have been spent pursuing a meaningful relationship.
Before it gets intense make sure there's possibility of meeting each other.

And should that in which we call “love” have a barrier?

Why should real love have a barrier? I believe that real love can cross any.The Romeo and Juliet kind? That is what,so it's shallow to judge the depth of one's love online. You wanna test online love? suggest it goes off.
The only barrier can be distance so work hard at bridging it.

Finally, do some people look down on the online romance?
Why do those seeking online look down on offline romance?

sweetcocoa: Come emofine,why are you blowing too much grammar this hot afternoon? This matter is supposed to be simple but your english is make am hard now.

pendo89: I asked a married person why he was teasing me and he said he was trying to be daring! whatever he meant. He likes trying risky unreal things.
Reason I doubt that people seeking love online are single .Most are in serious offline relationships.I think they prefer something exciting, out of the ordinary,something they can't get but still want to explore. What do u call that if not waste of energy.Primitive energy actually.

Now this is a new one emofine> 'online character flaunting' (I love the way u choose words)

lefulefu: . She dey in love wit me

lefulefu: why dU u always sound like market woman?gramma no dey always smooth 4 ur mouth