Say 'No!'

Just say a simple...no. James 5:12

When you don't learn to say no, you end up disliking yourself, as well as the people you are trying to please. In some cases we have difficulty saying it because we're afraid people won't like us. In other cases we believe that to be 'a good Christian' we must always say yes. Jesus said, 'Let...your no be [a simple] no, so that you may not sin' (v. 12 AMP).


Only when you have the courage to say no will you mature, be able to address your own unmet needs, and start respecting yourself. And in time, others will too. So do these three things:

1) Think before you respond. If you need to, say, 'Can I get back to you?' Don't make commitments without consulting God, your calendar, and your family. 'If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and He will give it to you...' (James 1:5 NLT).

2) When your plate's full, say so. Responding to so-called emergencies caused by somebody else's poor planning and sloppy habits won't do either of you any good. Limit what you say yes to, then stick with it. Don't take on more because you feel pressured, guilty or indispensable. You'll discover that you're only indispensable until you say no-or die!

3) Go with your gifts. God has given each of us unique talents. If you've to choose between singing in the choir or sitting on the finance committee, go where your talents will be best utilized. Is this always easy? No, but unless you learn to do it you'll end up investing too much time and energy in what seems urgent, and neglect what's important.


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Criticism is equivalent to the fuel that makes a vehicle move,if the fuel dry off,well the vehicle has to stop thus making a journey to be delayed.Criticism makes you to achieve your goal faster.

TODAY'S THEME IS- BRAVERY

kariolality: Criticism is equivalent to the fuel that makes a vehicle move,if the fuel dry off,well the vehicle has to stop thus making a journey to be delayed.Criticism makes you to achieve your goal faster.

love it!

Nice

Jamesmelbin: Nice

Won't you share a quote?

The true test of the American ideal is whether we’re able to recognize our failings and then rise together to meet the challenges of our time.
Whether we allow ourselves to be shaped by events and history, or whether we act to shape them.
Whether chance of birth or circumstance decides life’s big winners and losers,
or whether we build a community where, at the very least, everyone has a chance to work hard, get ahead, and reach their dreams.
Congrats President Barak Obama —

‎
...today, we are all Americans!
Nigerians yearn for a political system that will see us having free and fair elections!
That will produce leaders who will have as their priorities; education, health, infrastructures
and those other things that the developed world have come to take for granted!
I look forward to when we will get there, with tears in my eyes cos the future looks bleak....


Come 2015, we want a president who can talk to us intelligently and convincingly
about his policies by going on a public debate not a president based on ethnic, zonal or religious sentiments ,
who will demand for " expo" first, bamboozle us with an emotionally laden " I had no shoes" speech
or go kneel before a popular man of God. It should be about who will make positive changes.
So as you all have shown so much enthusiasm following the US elections , many even lost sleep,
so should you also follow our elections come 2015 because it's about us and any decisions we take then will directly affect us, so be geared up.
Congrats to Obama on his re-election once again.


Who God has chosen no man can oppose. Congrats to President Obama! God bless America.


If USA was Nigeria, today's headlines will read:
Don't celebrate yet, Romney tells Obama (TELL magazine)
· Concede defeat, Obama urges Romney (Punch newspaper)
· 20 opposition cadres riot (The Sun newspaper)
· Romney Demands Vote Recount (Vanguard newspaper)
· Elections rigged (Guardian newspaper)
· No evidence of manipulation (NTA news)
· The Church declares elections free and fair (News Line)
· There will be violence if we lose; Romney declares (LTV 8 news)
· Election results for Arizona awaited (Channels news)
· Trucks with suspected ballot papers crosses into USA from Mexico (Tribune newspaper)
· Romney is an opportunist - Go back to your farm (AIT news)
· I will not accept results, Romney tells Obama (STV news)
· McCain heads to Election Petition Tribunal (MITV)
· White Majority rejects results (PM News)
· Kenyan Big Boy Senator Obama Throws Lavish Party to celebrate Election Victory (City People)
· Free for all fight at Obama rally in Grant Park (Channels TV)
· Northern elders, Arewa and Sultan rejects results (ThisDay)
· Republicans and Democrats supporters clash in Ketu and Ajangbadi, 14 dead, Romney threatens more heads will roll
· The people behind Obama's victory: True story uncovered... Newswatch
· Ope baje fun Romney, ijoba te siwaju lowo arakunrin dudu Obama, gidi gidi ba oyinbo....Alaroye Newspaper

That sorrow which is the harbinger of joy is preferable to the joy which is followed by sorrow - Saadi.

Long One: That sorrow which is the harbinger of joy is preferable to the joy which is followed by sorrow. -Saadi.

Nice!

^^^ thanks!

Long One: ^^^ thanks!

OMG...I was meant to wish you happy birthday. I totally forgot!
Happy Birthday in arrears

Found this somewhere. Don't know how relevant it is but I couldn't resist the lady.
She looks cute, clean and fresh!

Besides the beauty I see, you might learn something from the quote

Now look what I found again.
A very dumb post from a man.
This post is conflicting with the first one.
What do some men take women for?

‎10 WAYS TO MAKE A GIRL HAPPY

1) Give her money.
2) give her money again
3) You should give her money.
4) Pls give her Money.
5) I said Give her Money
6) Again, Give Her MONEY
7) Continue giving her money
Repeatedly give her Money
9) GIVE HER MONEY! Are you a learner Nii??
10) give ha money oooooooooooo, Abi u no dey hear? U must be a Learner!!!

Do women like money? Do they? Do we?
Something worth pondering on! Probably, we are giving the wrong signals to men.

Cuddlemii: Now look what I found again.
A very dumb post from a man.
This post is conflicting with the first one.
What do some men take women for?

‎10 WAYS TO MAKE A GIRL HAPPY

1) Give her money.
2) give her money again
3) You should give her money.
4) Pls give her Money.
5) I said Give her Money
6) Again, Give Her MONEY
7) Continue giving her money
Repeatedly give her Money
9) GIVE HER MONEY! Are you a learner Nii??
10) give ha money oooooooooooo, Abi u no dey hear? U must be a Learner!!!

Do women like money? Do they? Do we?
Something worth pondering on! Probably, we are giving the wrong signals to men.

Haba...funny though

CrazyMan:
Haba...funny though

No one leaves here free of charge.

Drop a quote or two.

C'mon! You Know you want to!

Cuddlemii: No one leaves here free of charge.

Drop a quote or two.

C'mon! You Know you want to!

My signature should be a fair price...right?

CrazyMan:
My signature should be a fair price...right?

In that case, zoom it for all to see

I stumbled upon this. Read it, you might like it

CULLED FROM A FRIEND'S WALL.......COULDN'T HELP BUT SHARE!


HE PROPOSED.... AND SHE GAVE HIM A STINGING SLAP!!!
THE SEARCH FOR A LIFE PARTNER!
ROTFLMAO!

(At a table in a candle-lit restaurant overlooking the blue ocean, a man and woman sit gazing longingly into each others' eyes.)

Man: (Taking her hand) Baby, I love you, and each time I look into your eyes I see forever and a day, hold my hand honey,
let’s walk this road together, be my wife, the mother of my kids. Baby, would you please marry me?

Woman: (stands up and lands a stinging slap on his face) I knew it!

Man: Babe! you just slapped me?

Woman: I just knew it!

Man: You knew what?

Woman: So it was you?

Man: Me? what did I do?

Woman: (Pacing back and forth, pointing at him) So it was you all along?

Man: Babe, you are scaring me!

Woman: Ha! and pastor said it!

Man: Pastor said what?

Woman: Yes, pastor saw it! Even I (beating her chest) saw it in my dreams! So it was you?

Man: Babe! are you alright?

Woman: Keep quiet and let me talk.

I have waited more than two decades, I have prayed, fasted, sowed seeds, bought books and listened to tapes,
even went out of my way to be nice to every male specie of marriageable age!

Every Saturday was a different mall, I went from the galleria to city mall, from the Palms to E-center,
looking for you! I left my "chick-lit-flicks” for sci-fi movies that I didn’t even understand,
just so I could learn how to enjoy the things you love.

I took up new hobbies, watching football and play station.
I went to Daystar, from Daystar, I went to House on the Rock, from House on the rock I went to This Present House,
from there I went to Guiding Light Assembly, looking every where for you like I was looking for a needle in a haystack!

(Turning around suddenly to face him)

Are you a needle? Did I have to buy a microscope or telescope to see you?
I lost weight, went from a size 14 to a size 10, so that when you see me you’d love what you see.
I took a short course at Lagos business school, worked for all the Multi-nationals.
I even opted to be seconded to Australia, I said to myself, "maybe he is white.” I came back empty handed!
Then I left Lagos, went to Abuja, from Abuja I went to Port-Harcourt, then I went all the way to Kano, abi?
I didn’t even mind if you were “malo!” I joined hi-five, from hi-five to faceboook,then I went to twitter,
I even had a blog on which I ranted, hoping you would show up! for where?

I uploaded only my best pictures on Facebook, in fact I took photo sessions to look my best, all for you o!
My friends ended up match making me with every Tom, Dick and Harry, at first I didn’t like it, but as I grew older,
I embraced it! I attended all the weddings, whether the invitation was direct or indirect!
You know what they say about meeting your life partner at weddings?
The next place I was hoping to check was the moon, before you crawled out, crawled out from the house directly next to mine!

So it was you all this while?
The neighbour I said hello to every morning?
Were you trying to destroy my faith?
You almost rendered my prayer life useless?
What were you doing HIBERNATING in that house all this while?
What were you waiting for?
What sign where you looking for?
Do you want to kill me before you reveal yourself?!!!

(Man is speechless and confused, almost in tears)

(She then turns and sits with a mischievous smile on her face. Lowering her voice, she said softly).
I have waited almost three decades for you, and all along you were next door.
I have loved you in advance and missed you even more.

(She holds out her hand) and says, with a seductive smile:

Now be a gentleman, get down on your knees and put that rock on my finger!!!

I am feeling quite generous today, I might as well dish out one more.
This should serve as a reality check.

If you are SINGLE and keep on saying "I DON'T TRUST MEN OR WOMEN!"
remember... your mates are getting married every Saturday.
Let me ask you, are they marrying spirits? Wise up!

If you are MARRIED and keep saying "I HATE THIS MARRIAGE!"
OK! Are there not married people celebrating Gold, Silver and even Platinum jubilee?

If you keep on ranting, "I'M LEAVING MY MAN, HE CHEATED ON ME!"
Please, go to town and see all the fine, cute, hot, hungry and desperate chicks waiting to snatch your man's money and property,
they don't even mind sharing. Make it work, my dear!

Stop saying "I HATE MY JOB!"
Look! 20million people are without job and can't even find any not to talk of keeping it!
Do you want to join them?

You keep saying "I HATE WHERE I LIVE!"
Oh please! *tears* Try visiting those locations that are flooded now,
people leaving in tin/zinc shacks in winter or people living/ sleeping under the bridge at night and you will be grateful to God that you even have a place to stay!

Some say "I AM TIRED OF THIS LIFE!"
Well, go to the hospital and see people fighting for their lives!
Go to the mortuary and take a look then tell me what you feel after that!

My point is, be positive and believe in God, that's all that matters.
AS FAR AS THERE IS LIFE, THERE IS HOPE. JUST KEEP TRUSTING IN GOD, EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT...GOD'S GRACE IS SUFFICIENT!


Be proactive and optimistic as you set into the next week, See you at the TOP!!!

Good Stuff!