Edopesin:
Let it reflect in our lives is all we're asking for

Really?

Ok, Buhari doesn't know how.

Oya please tell us exactly what he should do to reflect it in the lives of the ever growing impoverished masses. Just lay it out for us........I said this because too many Nigerians only know how to criticise. Prove me wrong sir.

Braindealer:

My age and experience in marriage doesnt change the fact.

If you judge that way, you would be comitting the fallacy of Argumentum ad Hominem; attackin a persons character rather than the point.

But for what its worth, am 20 and obviously not married.

20? Ok, no more comments from me.

Ogunji? How?

This flat head? I mean look at that head.....this one is definitely a biafran!

OFFICIAL336:
You can never silence an Igboman.

Congratulations to Eze

Igbomen dey get better slap from me everyday and nothing dey happen!

bigfish3k:

Are yorubas now against one nigeria?
That means you are now an IPOB

Shut up!

BASTARD POLITICIANS AND POPULACE!

DONT WORRY THE CHINESE ARE COMING!

They will take over our land and dirty unintelligent stupid black people will be eliminated for Good!

Keep stealing humongous money to spend on frivolous consumer products we should be able to produce ourselves - if we had any brains.

Foolish masses!

Omoluabi16:
Thats because you realise you probably never loved her as you thought you did.One could get blinded by some 'virtues' which turns out to only be temporal, or the love for that things wears off. If you truly love a spouse, you can never get tired of her.When there is a defect in one of her xtics, other pleasant things will suffice. People do 50 years and are still crazy about each other.

Let's be honest, how many do you know?

I am not talking about what you perceive but what you KNOW for a fact!

humilitypays:
This is number 1 reason, followed by bad attitude of the wife, nagging and lousy attitude.


But the most frequent reason is lack of sex appeal due to deteriorating physical looks after childbirth , bad character + zero financial contribution to the man's growth or family welfare!

The main reasons!

Braindealer:
The only and main reason why marriages dont last is notin but childishness; lack of self decipline and ignorance.

Marriage is a union of two MATTURED adults. Every other little reason you think causes faild marriages; like cheating, money, sex all fall under not being matured enough.

ONLY MATURED MINDS REMAIN IN MARRIAGE!

How old are you? Are you married, if yes for how long?

Lexusgs430:




Again you're the bigger idiot, for not minding your business......

You loved my post so much, it's turning you on......

Okoro! Bleep off!

THE ALMAJIRIS AND THE YAMLEGGED DEMONS FROM BARREN IGBOLAND should leave Yorubaland.
YORUBALAND is Yorubaland. There is nothing like Soythern Nigeria or "Southerner"
Igbo people get lost!!!!

Lexusgs430:



Game identifies game..... It takes one stupid, to identify another stupid........

Why you could not skip my comment, and simply make yours, beats me!!!

Very stupid jobless human being......

Shut up idiot, putting forward statements you cannot substantiate.

jameel6:
Though I know women are wicked and devilish, but I sincerely believe that the poster has done unspeakable things to this woman, no matter how a married woman with kids are angry or hurts your efforts to make amends would've softened her heart a little. My advice to you is to be calm, go on quite holiday with her and begged her for forgiveness for the sake of the children. My uncle in abroad lost all his properties to his wife cos of problem like this, now he is starting all over. May the good lord bless you.

Olorikori!

emmaodet:


It is really saddening that our so called beautiful angels, african queens with african cultures are really not what we think they are.
Also, i noticed there is this Deep seated hatred for men by women but they quietly and silently mask it by been submissive and respectful when in nigeria but abroad you will see a full blow lion ready to pounce on you at any minute.
Oooohhhh nooooooooo
This is not what i envisage in our dear women, how did we get to this stage? Which devil is inspiring our women aginst us? They have become Rebellious.

Nigerian men - learn to leave women alone, DONT MARRY!

TechSpot:
The issue with some men is that they rush into marriage due to societal pressure, they get to marry a stranger cos time is not on their side or cos their parents kept comparing them to their peers or cos they don't want to fornicate and have to get married to 'hit it'.

How will you not be able to please someone that you got married to, made children with and went further to actualizing her "porting from Naija" dream by relocating her to the dream country of most Nigerians, Canada... How!?

If you will look inward you will find the solution to your problem. Stop feeling depressed, stop competing with an angry woman instead make her happy. Little things go along way in pleasing a woman except the woman has finally ran mad that's when she wont appreciate those little gestures like a warm massage, a wink, a forehead kiss, a leg rub, sweet names calling, occasional gifts, surprise dates, helping with meals, taking care of the children and more and more compliments; These are some of the few things those "whatsapp boys" does better to get their attention... If you want to have peace you need to learn some of it too... Stop taking everything your woman does to you so personal, try and develop some humor and be a bit flexible.

Women after giving birth usually feel they are less wanted by their man/husband cos he has seen them before the changes to their body occur so they start to resent the man and sometimes they want to do likewise to the baby that has brought changes to their body that now affects their once high physical beauty and high self esteem... You owe such woman alot of commitment and constant reminder that despite all the changes childbirth caused her body she hasn't lost her beauty or that you still value her same way you did pre-childbirth.


Learn to live in love with your woman and she will replicate the love and if it has gone beyond salvageable then you need to leave for a while, give her all enough time and space to experience differently from what she is used to then she can compare, contrast then decide.


Time heals everything.

And who has the time for all these rubbish?

I should start worshiping her nau.

The only solution is to leave her on Nija....&I we should start marrying the women abroad. You don't NEED a Nigerian wife to be happy and fulfilled. Haba!

tonididdy:

It's not messed up, she isn't doing anything different from "anyone arriving Eldorado" for the first time.
I am pretty sure you were a social media and pics worm during your first months.

Obviously you guys already had issues and you taught distance was the problem, so you brought her closer and issues are still there.
Anything she does now will be tied to your pending issues.
Just let her enjoy settling in... There is massive difference between living in Nigeria and living abroad,
The instant eye opener is so shocking and hard to believe.

I still tell everyone that gives me an ear, you haven't lived life if you have never being outside Nigeria, Africa in short.

Fucking RUBBISH!

Candanyl:



Sir i quite agree with some of the points you raised especially the fact that feminism has failed in Nigeria because the kind of comments i read these days on social media doesnt signify what true feminism is about .Feminism doesnt mean you should be disrespectful to your hubby esp when the going gets tough, it encourages that both patners work together to the common good of the family. But I disagree about your stance on our women not bringing anything to the table in marriage.Based on what i have seen in todays marriages,most nigerian women are responsible for large part of family welfare while the man is laid back ..Very few homes is where the hubby contributing 100% for upkeep..The idea that women doesnt bring anything to the table most time ends at Courtship. My perception

Thank you for the balance!

You are also very correct about women supporting their families and in fact being the breadwinners. Unfortunately the majority of the young, prospective women are in the category the man is referring to.

Lexusgs430:


It's not me that caused your problems with ladies o.....

Try to be more responsible, updated and couth, they might start liking you again ........

You are not making sense. Stop making stupid outlandish statements you cannot back up!

Osu, they need your charity in Abia state!

Akinbahm:
You mean when I'm ready to marry or what?

Hmmm .......when you are ready to have peace of mind, you will give yourself peace of mind!

Hope you get it.

Mandela27:

Die without even a child?

And so?

Where is it written that you must have a child or children?

lincs25:
I have to use wisdom, the parent has been so good to me. The girl in question kai she is not ready to be a wife.

Are you planning to marry the parents?

You decide, good luck.

cnonyechi:


Sorry to dissapoint you he wasn't poor in fact the house he lived in was sold after his death for 20m in 2010.

Look around you Sister! Many married men are dying a worse death than your uncle. Your uncle did not die lonely, he died normally of old age and natural causes. He was not killed by lack of marriage.

ojasweb:


Your understanding is low. Did you read my post or your temper is controlling you.

Is there any part of my post that says women should not work?

Young lad, you are on the right track.

Best of luck.

Jezking:
All these guys saying Nigerian girls are gold diggers don't know what gold diggers are.
A Nigerian girl gets into a conversation with you and you can tell instantly whether she is in for your money or not.
But in Europe and America, a gold digger comes into your life and showers you with excess love, and gives you children. You give her a share in your will or you start running broke and boom she starts planning divorce or even plans to kill you.

My brothers Nigerian girls are not gold diggers, ask european footballers/stars why they aren't married.

As for the people talking about what we are both bringing to the table, lemme just not shake that table tonight.

Nobody (men) is getting married in Europe, not just footballers/stars. Only sissys and emotional men are doing it

Richsquad:
Bro forget if u get money u wont be bothering if ur wife na working class or not..better get money o,so u like a girl madly but cos she is broke u cant marry her cos u dey fear liabilty?make money online even in the lockdown,yes its possible with the right info and tools,im rich already but money no dey ever do person so i keep getting and u can too,what i stand to gain from sharing my knowledge?more money from u ofcourse and what u stand to gain?wealth and financial freedom..Dare to dream it,dare to live it,if u no be man biko no just contact me,cos sometimes na our over born again dey keep us poor..

How much do you have?

lincs25:
You are on point. I am in the shoe though we are not married but i do her virtually every thing the moment I slack it turns insult. I want to backout.

You need a slap? What are you waiting for?

Mandela27:
God created the man for the woman and the woman for the man.
Its necessary to get married and have kids as per heir to ur name.
Only a psycho and a mentally derainghed man will be okay with fucking multiple girls all his life without thinking of having a family of his own!

We should only wish to prosper so that we can take good care of our families and share the family love.
I'M A MAN AND I WANT TO HAVE A VERY PRETTY WIFE AND RAISE BEAUTIFUL KIDS AND HAVE A HAPPY HOME.

Oga, please remember each one to his own. You've stated what you believe and your preference, Good!

Let others make their own choice. As for me I love to avoid stress and do like new ladies. I will do until I die!

ojasweb:
My wife has not been working since we got married 3 years ago. I don't have any problem with that. However she was to start a business around April this year, but i had to stop her due to COVID19. Prevention is better than cure.
The most important thing, for me, is whether you can take care of your home or not.
And in addition, having a mature and understanding wife.
Am not talking about Twitter and Instagram wives.

Married for only 3 years pe re! You are here talking like a marriage don. I dey laugh you

Oga come back and talk after 20 years and 4 children.

Eulalia:



Tell them.
They know they can't do without us no matter what they say. The smart ones are Manning up and getting married and today they happy and fulfilled at least to some extent. while the weak ones are wailing here but still feel empty and depressed cos no woman to make them complete and the fear of the unknown has robbed them of this wonderful experience..

Big! Big! Lie!

comradeMOSHOOD:
it is a man's responsibility to take care of his family. it's not a mistake to marry a woman that is not working. don't run away from your responsibilities brothers
honest opinion though

Keep your opinion to yourself sir.

Ibechris2:
One of the guys here said,the worst is to marry Nigerian women...I just laugh!

Am not joking,Nigerian women are trained to tolerate shit from men and that is why men like that fellow could spew out his frustration.
Our women are the best in Africa...they love u even when u know no one cares.

Make una remain single and to all those who believe in marriage,do not despair,that what God has framed for humanity, shall not derail because of civilization.
Old age is real and can be devastating if not well planned,specifically,I am talking to all those who prefer to be single for life, u might be towing the wrong path. Is it the child u didn't nurture or emotionally contributed to his life that would be there for u at old age abi what are ur plans.

Let us be careful what we chose to represent in life because,although time shall reveal our outcome in life.

There are no guarantees in life. All these manipulative stuff you are vomiting in support of marriage. Abeg!
Who told you your wife/children will be there to wipe your bum when you get old? Oh, just because you were there abi?