Oh wooow
She looks amazing �
So beautiful and younger than her age.
Happy birthday to a legend

He has no time for anything...we know

We are our own problem in this country
We drive on one way
Buses will leave designated bus stops and drop and pick passengers right on the road..Berger bus stop in Lagos is an example

Later we will start blaming government

We are all mad in this country and deserve all we get

I am Leo Ogor's kinsman from Ozoro
Let him commit suicide, we will throw his body into the evil forest....the place is called Ahun, towards NDC road...Urhuto

Nonsense

Just when I thought the useless tribal war on nairaland is only btw some disgruntled element of the Igbo and Yoruba race, these two idiots have brought the fight to Delta also

I am Isoko, Ozoro precisely, however I refuse to be drawn into this senseless bickering by the two of you

I really don't care anymore

I just hope GEJ will maintain his retirement and peace of mind and not stupidly fall for this trap

Knowledge is the first step to freedom
I am happy you know you are dealing with a fraudster
Like someone said, u don't need to outsmart her, just send her a birthday message...her reaction will do the outsmarting and lead to an amicable end of the relationship

Gold diggers everywhere

By the way, you met a girl less than six months and you have proposed marriage already?
Abi na me no understand you?

Woooooooooow
May we not be associated an unfortunate fellow.
Akosi be ero deputy gov elect

Is this not University of Benin....abi is my eyes is turnioniown

Silly beliefs
They should not have taken the child home since he got well after admitting blood transfusion.
They should have rejected the child

And you are not ashamed that your President went to Kano to raise the hand of Gandollar as APC "governotarial" candidate

Hypocrite

Elder0001:


She spoke the truth but you a typical Nigerian alpha male will never agree.

What truth exactly? that people that have my kind of opinion do not have a money to build one brick. How would she know?
You are pathetic
Now you have her attention....can you leave my front?

ifyalways:

This is as "good" as buying in both names .

If the marriage produced children, use your children as next of kin o. The whole point is security for you or your offspring when you or your spouse is not there . Reality in this your scenario is that if you unfortunately sign out before your husband, he will move on fast, remarry and control the proceeds from the house. How will the children fare? Shipped out to stay with grandma in the village, at the mercy of the new madam of the house or treated fairly as they should?

Reality 101, method to my madness.

Spot on

scholachatcopyw:
Will you as a man be responsible enough to share your property equally or you'll leave it for your brothers and family members while your wife and kids starve and live in poverty after your demise? I think couples should have properties in their own names just in case the above occurs, the man should even support his wife because she's only trying to ensure that the quality of life of herself and her kids does not decrease if her husband dies first

Madam....make sure you do not marry a mad man.

Get it right from day one

Me...leave my property for my brothers while my wife....as in, the woman i marry, the love of my life and my kids stay out in the cold?

Sorry, i do not belong to that class of Men.

I do not wish that you marry such a man either.

splendid2:

I don't think OP is against anyone acquiring property,what she's saying is that it should be in the family name, it should be acquired with the intension that it is a family property and not individual property. It should be Mr & Mrs ....... And not individual names. In your case your mum did the right thing since she built it in the family name

Thank you Jare.
You Sabi book
Please am a man o....for the record
Lolss

Joromi12:
Let me tell u a real life story. My father was a rich man who believed in helping people. Sponsored many of my mums siblings abroad, his driver built a house in ogun before my father built his own in the early 1990s after much persuasion. My father carried church matter for head and all that. Bot the land the chuch used for the building. GIVERS NEVER LACK WAS HIS WATCH word. The apprentice who used to repair our lister gen then my dad encouraged him to go back to school even spons him at some point. Invest invest my mother screamed the man no hear. From her business frozen food my mama built 2 flats. All hell was let louse at home . My father felt insulted. 5 years later my mama don add 2 more flats and 2 mini flats for back. Then my father got duped and business began to crumble. The bus that used to carry us to school was sold. 4 cars became one. From first to pay school fees we became those that paid during exam. It only got worse. The same house my papa kicked against was what we used to survive. 80k rent per flat around 2002 . Bros am angry. Lemme stop there. Ladies if the money dey abeg build house. All the pple my papa waste money on no even send am again hahahah

You totally missed the point bro
My argument is not that women should not own properties....but there is something like planning together.... marriage for me is US and not you and I.

Your dad's case is a toxic situation...at best, a display of insane confidence... investing in others and living yourself out in the cold.

Your mum did the right thing.... however did she build the Houses in her name alone or the two of them? Did she carry him along before building?

If she did not...and probably the marriage crashed because of that...your mum should be solely held responsible.

Bottom line is that your example does not follow

ifyalways:
LMAO.

When reality sets in, I hope your religious views will take care of you.

Nothing ever is wrong with either spouses buying properties in their names individually. Anyways, I have come to notice that those who debate on such issues are either single or don't even have money for ten blocks.

People that matter know what to do and needs no turenchi

Typical of you dear....you already concluded about my status...

You can't make an intelligent opinion without throwing tantrum.

Continue

merahki:
For all my “independent thinking stance” on life, I agree with this
Don’t marry when there is little or no trust, there is simply no point to it

Actually marriage many times is proving to be sparring matches, always crack me up, the stories I see
The oyibo way is better oo, roll with the feelings till they disappear, if can’t be managed we go our separate ways and possibly find love again with other people, and so on

Here, (there is also a case for cohabitation, shacking up, single parenthood/baby mama-ism being made here on some level , well, if marriages continue to be shamfests) there is a dividual marriage of kindreds and families as the couple unite, so even when hatred is the only thing left, the marriage continues, with attendant mistrust and acquiring property in different names, preparing for the worst
Also, the dividual expectations make people who don’t share a deep soul bond get married, why would the involved parties not do stuff behind each others’ backs as a result? But then, what do I know?
IMO

Very insightful contribution
Buying properties in individual names is like preparing for the worst.... definitely fueled by a feeling of suspicion, distrust.....you have not business being in that marriage I tell you

Spot on bro

I want to make this as short as possible.

There is a topic at the front page about whether or not it is okay for a woman to acquire property in her name.

https://www.nairaland.com/4970457/there-anything-wrong-wife-buying


I feel strongly to respond especially as I feel alot of the responses failed to address what I consider as the core of such a scenario.

PS: my views are heavily guided by my beliefs as a Christian.

This word "Two shall become one" says it all

To start with, when a couple starts acquiring properties in their sole names or in secrecy, then something is fundamentally wrong with the UNION... Something that is not sudden but has always been there with them either as individuals or something about the marriage.


That marriage is defaulted right from the beginning

Such couples have no business being married from day one...they should sit together and sort out whatever it is that is the issue or see a counselor.

Why are we married if you have your own properties and I have mine...means we should not even live under the same roof, or we sleep in different rooms, I don't tell you what I earn or how I earn it and you don't get to know what goes on in my life.

While the idea of having properties in your individual names may sit well with the proponents, I dare say such its only permissible in a TOXIC marriage...but in ideal situation where you got it right from day one.... Couple should NOT acquire properties in their individual names

It breeds division, suspicion and disaffection.



In a family..the man and wife are supposed to plan together, do things together, grow together, face their fears together while helping each other to become better each day.... marriage is not a competition

That is the kind of marriage that I know.

The fact that you are in a TOXIC marriage does not change the standard.

Happy Sunday

MOD... kindly move this to the front page

Let us come together and salvage our country
BacktoDaura is a goal

As everyone is pushing you so....just know karma is a bitch...some guy will also do the same to your girlfriend that u claim you love so much

Discipline bro Discipline

Apparently Bubu does not know the meaning of fairness.

Abeg make i face my life

Karma has everyone's house address

I wonder how President Jonathan will be feeling in this days of defection.

Karma has everyone's house address

I wonder how President Jonathan will be feeling in these days of defection.

nowpresence:

I am urhobo

Nice one sis.
I sent you an Email

GoTV:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, i think Leah and her handlers are risking the young girl's life to gain public sympathy. For God's sake what is the big deal in denying Christianity, wearing hijab and regaining your freedom after which you return to the same Christianity? Even Job had to curse God in the bible when the devil tempted him so he can be healed. This fanatical beliefs is what is holding Leah in bondage. I hope she do the needful and return to her family. Even Jesus Christ will be shocked at her for risking her life this long

You don't know what you believe bro....not at all. That's if at all you actually believe anything
The girl knows what she believes.

I really wonder what will be going through the mind of GEJ this defection season.

That old saying "what goes round comes round"

nowpresence:

are you an Isoko person

Yes I am...are you?