I understand that not every relationship should end up in marriage but the psychological effect of break-ups can change you. How about getting it right at once?

The person meant that one must be ready for marriage before considering a relationship.

Someone I know said these words to me and it actually got me thinking. Generally speaking, do you think this method makes sense or it doesn't. If you think it doesn't, can you please state your reasons.

Ps THIS IS A HONEST POST, I WOULD APPRECIATE KIND AND POLITE RESPONSES. THANKS IN ADVANCE!

livedit:

Having your heartbroken is devastating and I'm sure it's not easy for anyone to cope with.  Most of us has experienced it sometime throughout our lives and some can even write a book.  But unfortunately, that IS apart of life.  People will come and go in your life. And whomever was meant for you will be the one that stay.  For those who are not, won't be.  As another poster mentioned earlier, you just have to try to pick your self up and dust yourself off and keep on moving.  Try to keep yourself preoccupied with family, friends or an hobby you enjoy.  But I do believe you should allow yourself time to grieve, because this person was once apart of your life and meant alot to you.  So you are suffering a lost.  You can't stop living your life just because someone chose they no longer wanted to be apart of yours.  Everyone has choices in life, no matter if you agree or not.  But I know life won't end just because this person chose to leave.  As I've said before in many of my posts, everything happens for a reason.  Just like the seasons change, so does people.  It's a strong possibility this person wasn't meant to be your "rib" or "Eve".  That means whomever she is, she is still out there waiting for her "Adam".  Don't give up hope, she maybe closer than you may think. 

What more can I say than it hurts and it even hurts more to move on. But, I have picked up a lesson or two from the above post.

And I consider NIGERIA a FAILED state. If the all governors and president can do nothing up till now, then it has just proven that we have leaders with very very LOW IQ.

Hypertension and high blood pressure will be reduced significantly.

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stop picking her call & stop seeing her.

tbh, I think this is quite immature.
@OP if someone wants to break up, he/she should speak to his/her partner about it. It makes more sense that way.

@OP are you sure another girl is not involved? #justsaying

oluchy:

Why are Nigerians so pretentious and diehard Pharisees. If we are so holy why is Nigeria among the most corrupt countries in the world.

I will tell you my story. When I was about 17 years old, I had to stay with a couple at Iba Estate Iyana Oba as a maid. The man was working in the Island while the wife had a provision shop in the estate. She used to watch romantic Nollyword videos and even blue films during the day. That was my first time of watching such films and it was arousing me very much. To cut the long story short, the wife turned me into her sex slave. I was doing things I cant post here on her and she also drove me toheights of passion I didnt know existed. After about six months, her husband got to know and joined instead of stopping her. Many many times I slept with them in their bed making love. Even their sales girl confided in me that the man used to sleep with her when she was living in their flat and not in the shop. Herself also was doing things to me. I was liberated when a distant uncle benevolently sent me back to senior secondary school and all the way to the university.

This couple were so pious and holy, always pontificating that you will never guess what they do in the nighttime (Kenny Rogers - Daytime Friends, Night time lovers).

So folks please stop all this holier-than-thou attitude and help her with pratical advice.

Girl my advice is this: if you cant take control of your emotions, you will never make it in life. You are not in love with him-just infatuated. They are merely exploiting you. Get yourself your own guy who will love and cherish you. You can stay on in the house but you will have to be very strong willed to succeed. The best option is to go and stay with other students in hostel or offcampus.

God bless you and help you.

Cheers.

Very touching story. To everyone judging the poster, please stop! You all sound like the Pharisees in the bible.
@OP, some people have pointed to you very good ways of coming out of this situation. The rest is totally up to you. Like some people suggested earlier about going for deliverance, I second that. Please make it a top priority.

@OP I'm not going to call you names or insult you because I believe at this point, it's already bad enough for you. However, please slap yourself for saying you LOVE your sister's husband. Don't you get it? Do you think a married man would forsake his home just for you? Wake up to reality and act fast. You need to leave the house asap and turn to God. He is the only one that can get you out of this web you are caught up in.

@OP, Please slap yourself. You said you don't love your woman but don't want her to go you must be very stupid. What are you doing with a woman you didn't love in the first place.?

tbh, I hate small bags.

olodo ni e oo @OP

orgasm:

Is about being meant for each other or not. Not about long or short term. So to ans your question,they break up cos they not meant for each other in the first place.

RIGHT ANSWER!

Big deal if a woman wears padded bra
iT is high time people stopped focusing on trivial things .

It is clear that Sex after marriage is the proper thing to do. Trust that man will always find a reason to justify his wrong doings. Test drive whatever? I am more concerned about the spiritual aspect of sex. A lot of people tend to ignore this, thinking it is just sex, it is not just sex, it has a root, it is a BOND (soul ties). Many people lose their destiny just because of sex. Abstinence is a thing of the mind achievable by grace. One big mistake many people make is making sex the basis of their relationship. BIG MISTAKE!!!! It clouds your sense of reasoning in a relationship and it doesn't guarantee you a 'happy ever after'.

Deep Soul:

The same reason men disappoint women that truly care about them.

Vicious cycle. It's a dog-eat-dog world. Deal with it

Right answer!

The girl in red flip flops killed me . Death at the entire look coz d flip flops ruined it.

violent:

Bleep you!

@poster, All you should do right now is slow down and work on yourself as you have the time to do so right now. Self development is essential and you attract the right set of people if you have that sorted. A Relationship takes a lot, ask yourself questions before you enter one. Have you got love inside of you that you are willing to share with someone else? You cannot give what you don't have. I'm going to derail a bit. I also believe a relationship should be God-centered. So why don't you let God dictate who you should be with.

Girl, just look at yourself in the mirror and say you are beautiful. It is not your loss, but his. I believe there is more than one person for everyone, so if it doesn't work out there definitely another person out there for you. You need to spend time in doing things that you love, don't try to think about him no matter how great the urge is, and never lose your self esteem (highly important).

Farxiya:

Why would anyone want to date a girl with fake hair in the first place?  

Just find a nice girl who's all natural. I'm sure things will be much more easier on your wallet that way.

Go and sit somewhere jor! Who is not fake?? Even celebs and people from other races. I am tired of all these natural this, natural that talks. Like deepsoul said, there is fake and there is fake. Each to their own!

@POSTER, I strongly suggest that you and your girl sit down and redefine your relationship. If you can't afford it, does she want you to rob a bank? Sincerely, you guys need to talk about this coz money issues in a relationship could ruin it.
jeeez! I'm just surprised at  some ladies' ideology, If I want brazillian hair, I would buy it myself because it is for my own use. *justsaying*

This is dedicated to violent Merry Xmas

I actually laughed aloud at this, i think it had to do with the whole sentence structure and how the event was explained.
OP, the deed has been done, now you shall live and not die to face the consquences of your action

Jamb question, it is even better to have more than 2 gfs

The bahamas.

livedit:

Because it is written in the bible. Because I've met the man I truly love and that loves me and we both decided we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together as one union. Since I can remember, I've always had the desire to get married and start a family as God intended man to do. Marriage is suppose to be sacred. So I want to do it the right way that's only pleasing in God's eyes. With my spouse, I am able to have a friend, my partner, confidant, lover and a brother in the Lord without going against God's commandments. As the bible says: "It's not good for man to be alone". So He knew what he was doing when he invented marriage.

Word, my sis!

@violent why
@poster sorry, accept my sympathy, but this your wife is very wicked oo. 3years is a long time. Please call for a family meeting ASAP

inception. brilliant movie, pure genius!

mohawkchic:

~Canary Yellow! I was feeling adventurous SoOoo I stepped out of my dark/light shades & crossed over to the Bold!! I only applied one thin coat tho. . . wasnt so sure about trying out bold colour on my fingernails. . . I LoOve it!

~Been getting compliments on it too. . .

I av also got yellow nails too. My sister said they are quite pretty

hi people, just wanna say I love this thread and I really feel bad for the sorry state of our healthcare system in Nigeria. I moved out of Nigeria when I was 16, and I had always dreamt of being a doctor. I finished my waec at 14 yrs old and started writing jamb but couldn't get into med school. I secured myself an admission into a private uni to study biochem hoping i would take the graduate entry route but God had other plans. I only spent a semester and I had to move to the u.k with my family. I'm at uni now studying Medical and pharmacological sciences, a 3yr course and I'm going to enter for post-graduate medicine afterwards. When I tell people that I don't think I would even go back to Nigeria to practice pharmacology not to even talk of medicine, it's not arrogance neither is it because I'm resident in the u.k but because I do understand a little bit of how the system works. It is even no use getting all the professional training done here and no way to utilize it in Nigeria because they lack the facilities. As much as I feel the need to help  turn tables around in Nigeria, I have come to realize that change over there is not automatic. Realistically, I can't see it. I feel bad for all the doctors out there. But let me leave you with something, you have the power to change your destiny only if you will key yourself into it. Surround yourself with the right things (information, friends, books) and also God is the Most important factor most of us Rule out of it.You CANNOT rule the GOD FACTOR out of your life because if you do, life will make no sense, or little meaning to you. He says everything is READY for us, it is only left for you to TAP into his promises.

@meadan, it's over a year. They have a son now.