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Education / Re: Universities Presenting Names Of Dead Staff To Collect Salaries, FG Alleges by edakedkay: 11:13pm On May 19, 2020
FG (IPPIS, OAGF), you lot should note that lecturers are not the only component of universities. Their job description doesn't include preparation of payroll. You should hold the VCs and bursars responsible for any discrepancy in payroll preparation. To the best of my knowledge, ASUU isn't SSANU or NASU.
If IPPIS had nothing up its sleeves, it would have deployed "other means" of paying lecturers as instructed by the president instead of enrolling the lecturers from the back door.
They were just beating about the bush when they claimed to have held back their salaries on the grounds that they were not enrolled.
No data not biometric capturing was done yet they were able to pay them their 2 months salaries. Who are they trying to fool?
If they had not gone ahead to get lecturers enrolled without their consent, they would have been able identify retired and dead lecturers when biometric capturing would have been done whenever this hullabaloo ends with ASUU embracing IPPIS.
I recently saw the template used by IPPIS to pay lecturers their unjustly withheld wages. In my mind, I wept. Imagine a long standing professor being paid less than 400k as monthly salary after about 30 years of service. A lecturer 2 (B.Sc, M.Sc and Ph.D in bag) being paid 130k after putting in 9 years yet other MDAs who do little or nothing (yes nothing) are better paid with even employed fresh graduate earning the 6 months equivalent of a L2 salary in just one month. Mind you lecturers have to go for conferences (local and international), seminars, conduct researches and subsequently publish their findings in reputable international (as much as $1000) and local journals. Where do you think they get monies for these? 80% of the time from their abysmally poor salaries. From this same paltry salary, they have to acquire the required tools of the job (laptops, textbooks, data for internet) personally. Some even go ahead to create their individual laboratories.
In the midst of this COVID-19 pandemic, I recently read where ASUU members are asked why they haven't been able to conduct researches and come up with a cure for Corona. Conduct researches for which labs and with which money abeg? All things being fair and equal, this should have been the case but no it isn't. Rather ASUU is always is tagged as being overly corrupt and always demanding for funds. You see how COVID-19 has exposed the extreme rut in the medical sector, e go soon be for the educational sector.
Truth is lecturers live on loans. Yes, you heard that right. The houses and cars most of them own were gotten from loans. From all I've read recently so far, lecturers salary was last increased 11 years ago and implemented 9 years ago. Whereas in other MDAs absolutely everything is provide for them to get their jobs done. Employers are sent on staff development. All local and international courses, conferences, seminars etc are paid for from the government's coffers either before they embark on these or on their return. Allowances are implemented and paid as and when due. This is not the case for lecturers. Even teachers in federal government secondary schools are better paid than most university teachers.
Regardless of the reasons for which ASUU's recent face-off with the FG is (this isn't about IPPIS. IPPIS is just a propaganda in my opinion), I think ASUU should rather be demanding for a job commensurate salary and forget about the request for funds for revitalization of the university. They've been making this demand for over 10 years now. No be who get house go decide when to refurbish am? You see the brain drain being witnessed in the medical sector, especially in recent times, same fate awaits the educational sector in no distant future. The rich class, especially the fraudulently and politically rich ones have stashed monies away. When that no distant future happens on us, they'll send their descendants (upto their 4th generation) to go school in Canada, the UK, the US, Ghana (yes, you read right, Ghana) while you, whose present and future ASUU is fighting to sustain, will be opening gate, holding their handbags and what have you, for these foreign educated, returned to rule you Nigerians.
Is our health and education of importance in Nigeria? How can it be when there's #37b to be spent on renovating the National assembly building; 674m to be spent daily on feeding school kids who are at home; #120b to be used to import cars legislators, composed mainly of past governors who have turned the Senate and House of Reps to their retirement homes, after passing into law retirement bills that are meant to permanently keep them rich after 4-8 years of corruption ridden stewardship. Yet a professor, who puts in about 30-35 years, earns less than 400k monthly.

ASUU, should have a rethink and demand for a better welfare package. Dump the revitalization idea and allow the universities collapse. Maybe this is what they want so that when they want to allocate monies for it's rebuilding, such monies will be very well padded.

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Family / Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by edakedkay: 11:02pm On May 27, 2013
Thanks all for sharing in my grief. I really appreciate.
Purposely chose to resume work today(childrens' day) it felt good and it was all fun. Funny enough,my mister was there doing what he's good at(men,when us women say we're fine,please try to believe us). I'll get there I know.
@ Bellong
I do believe in the potency of meds but...... I sort of hate to say I felt betrayed but it is well.
Family / Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by edakedkay: 6:00pm On May 25, 2013
So happy for you Seru. I'm glad it's all falling in place for you. You're done with the tribulation.it's now time for jubilation.
Madam wedding planner(winks),pls put me on that list of asoebi and anything that will identify the NL crew.
I know everyone has been anxiously waiting to hear from me. Sorry for shutting you all out. Been battling with myself the whole time but I think I'm ready to complete my epistle. I resume work on Monday after almost a year. Tried that a month back but I was still disoriented. I think I'm ready now.
I lost Leona on January 16th. So it's still just me,bobo and DD. I don't want to go into details. Maybe someday I will. It's been a rough path but I'm grateful I'm here today though it's left me scathed.Putting this down is one of the difficult tasks I've had to face but I hope to heal thoroughly as life goes on.
I had a very good support system from my husband, family and friends who knew my history; and thanks to JennyKadry&winniegirl who tried several times to keep in touch.(Sorry I didn't get back).
Thanks are also due to everyone of you here who in one way or the other supported me.
Family / Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by edakedkay: 9:07pm On Nov 13, 2012
Had her on Sunday @ approx 6 months & 2 weeks. Yet to she her though. Hope she lives to be called Leona as daddy wants. My dears, sorry for keeping you all waiting. Well,the waiting continues for us. Thanks to everyone of you for your prayers and good wishes. God bless you all. Be back later

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Phone/Internet Market / Re: Need Advice On The Type Of Phone Or Laptop To Buy? Here's The Place by edakedkay: 9:06pm On Nov 04, 2012
Hi, i'm torn between Experia Arc and experia arc S. What one will you go for and what's naija prices for both? Thanx in advance.
Family / Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by edakedkay: 8:19pm On Nov 02, 2012
Belated birthday wishes Serubawon. May heaven always be available to hear you at all times. Thanks everyone for dropping your very valuable inputs. Been off here cos i was taken in yesterday evening. Bp had reached roof top, 210/160.was knocked off with some meds &IVs.got one on my foot now. After oga had settled in y'day, we were just having our usual debate of our preferred sex of the baby. I want a boy abeg. He's been so excited,picked the name Leona already. He's so expectant. I thought about all the what ifs. I went & brought all my hidden stuff and showed them to him. Mr: why are you showing them to me? Me: i havent taken them. Mr: then take them nao. Me: as in havent been taking them. Never taken them. he stared at me without a saying a word, then i heard "you're wicked,very wicked". He grabbed his and rang the doc & told her.On our way i tried to make explanations but he didnt say a thing. He was sweating in his eyes (you know guys dont cry) all through. Forunately, dr's house is within the hospital's premises.I was immediately given injections and then the drips.Woke up 3ish this afternoon. My sister is here to relieve him. He's gone home now. He still hasn't said a word to me. I over heard him tell my sister he'll be back. You see, i've taken so much drugs & i've lost count of the number of times i've been in & out of the hospital in the last 2 yrs +. There are times that i'll go for a routine check up and then i'll end up being admitted. Even without being pregnant my life has more or less been drugs dependent since i first became pregnant(crying). I wont even mention how many needles have probed me in search of veins. So when i say "i'm tired of drugs &hospitals",i mean every single word of it. For God sakes, I'm only 29. Why should i be having issues with blood pressure? My mom never had any issues with pregnancies,my sisters as well. Dunno why mine is different. There are loads of my mates out there having the time of their life,so why is mine different? Dr says it'll only be for a while as it was triggered by the first pregnancy. I want to stay positive bcz I know I'm still in God's plan.
Family / Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by edakedkay: 11:30am On Nov 01, 2012
my sister you don enter be that o. These children wont kill us. My soon to be 3 yrs old, told daddy that he likes his car very much. That he should take good care of it so he'll drive it when he grows up. I was shocked o. Dunno where he got the idea from. CC darling,how about you tell me you'll be praying for me daily instead of me taking my meds? I know you'll do that. (((((hugs))))) Thanks in advance.
Family / Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by edakedkay: 11:17am On Nov 01, 2012
Yeah,my condition is bp related. I've had my share of meds. I do think about everything you've put up here and truly it scares me but then my faith is so strong that it can turn black to white in a second. I know God wont fail me.
Away from me, congrats SeanBell for keeping the faith. We'll all have testimonies to share to the glory of God.
Family / Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by edakedkay: 10:52am On Nov 01, 2012
hahaha@ fictitious stories.you may not know the individuals he used as examples but i tell you these things happen. My mum's friend,a SAN, was slaughtered by her only son. Guy was always high on thing or the other. How many children have you got? Have you 2 considered adoption? Yeah,about the appreciation bit,bobo don tire to hear that one o. He said i should prepare to thank him properly after all this is over.whatever that means. Ah! Marriage,the only institution you get your cert before even starting. The Lord'll see us all through. You've been such a soul lifter. Thank you
Family / Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by edakedkay: 8:38am On Nov 01, 2012
Awwa dear, sorry CC for your loss and thanks for those words of encouragement. You know there are times i feel like i'm doing something wrong not taking my meds and then fear for the worst sets in but then i just reassured myself that all will be well. One of such times was yesterday evening. We had to eat out cos i couldnt let hubby get home & then start worrying about what to fix us for dinner and then bath us after the very stressful day he had plus having to drive,stop,walk me,drive,stop,walk me to and from the hospital. I feel guilty that he's going thru all these and everything has been about me.Honestly,i hope i'm doing the right thing. He sometimes call to remind me of my meds & then i'll just lie. I almost told him not to buy my meds yesterday when i saw the amount it all came to but then i would have blown my cover.I'm happy his boss has eased up on him as he's aware of my condition.even happier his mom will be coming around next weekend to spend some time with us. Cant wait for this to be over so we get our lives back. Thanks again love
Family / Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by edakedkay: 10:03pm On Oct 31, 2012
I hope i won't be derailing this thread o. What? This thread is already a sealed deal. So derailing is in order. I've not been having easy rides with pregnancies. If not for God,i wouldn't be here right now if he hadn't proven himself. I almost didnt make it during my 1st preg. It was one hell of a journey that got terminated at the 7th month. He is a boy,my jewel of inestimable value & his dad's world.Been preg twice since then but i lost one and had the other terminated due to possible complications just when i got into the 2nd trimester. On Dr.'s advice we were asked to hold on for awhile. We've been playing safe since then but how this one came about is still a marvel to me. I'm 6 months gone and been of work 2 months now. My life right now isn't what any sane person will wish for but in all i still give God the glory. Hubby had asked for it to be terminated as he couldnt risk losing yours truly but i said no and decided to give God a task. I'm like an invalid right now. All i do basically is eat,sleep,watch tv &laze around. He wont let me lift a finger and i tell you dude hasn't had it easy since i was kind of declared an invalid. If he didnt have blood flowing in him,i'd have called him a machine. He does basically everything for us and stil goes to work. God bless you for me honey.I'm from a closely knitted large family,that's if 6 is large to you and we all had fun growing up. I had all my life created same picture for my family but from the way things are, this might just be my last attempt. We started discussing the option of adopting after i'd lost those pregnancies. We began the process infact but had to end it when we were given the criteria of my hubby & i being aleast 45 or 35yrs respectively before we could adopt. Well,like i said i'd wondered how this preg came about cos we were so careful not to get pregnant. I had an ultrasound today that didnt look so good for us. Dr is saying i might have to get admitted if things didnt change in the coming days. I dread hospitals and for a while now i've been a regular visitor. She's loaded me with meds which unfortunately i dont plan on taking. I made a pact with God that this preg is his and that i wont take any med even pcm. Hubby doesnt know that i dont take my meds. I try to take all the necessary precautions but no meds. Sometimes i get scared tho but hey why do i have God as my jazz man? You get my drift? So God the ball is in your court. Anyways you've brought me this far without a single tablet,i trust you to see me to the end come January 2013. Pls pray for me cos my worst fear now is being bound to one hospital bed any of this coming days.
Family / Re: Adjusting To Life As A Widower by edakedkay: 8:50pm On Oct 31, 2012
Wow wow wow. This piece and it's contributors has been so wow. I've learnt a whole lot from this. To the OP, you're one man that stands out in a billion. To say i'm not so happy for you will be the biggest lie i'll ever tell. Fortunately i've never had anyone close to me pass thru your predicament but i could totally feel your pain deep down. The 'gang' that got your back here at all times are indeed your e-family.aren't we all BTW? Like i said i've learnt alot, not just from you but from everyone who shared their life's experiences here. My beau & I happens to be members of my church's marriage counselling committee and alot of times we hardly had enough or should i say very significant contributions to make because to us we really haven't seen life. I still wonder why we were made a part of it. We're the youngest members both age&marriage wise. I felt this pang of guilt sometime back that i had to ask that we be off the committee but the response we got was really encouraging. They said they saw something in us that made them include us as one of the criteria for membership was being married atleast 15yrs which obviously we didnt meet. So we've been asked to just sit, learn and make contributions whenever we're up to it. So my saying this piece has been wowx3 & insightful isnt out of place. I've learnt alot that i feel i can actually to some extent relate to others. Serubowan,the Lord has been your strength all through your journey and i promise you he's never going to stop being what he's been to you so long as he gets the position he rightfully deserves in your life. As for the asoebi, i hope we'll be e-wearing it very very soon. I'll need enough for my gang and if possible this little one inside me who is making my life miserable right now. Stay blessed Seru and regards to our e-iyawo. Spoilt,CC,Jenny,Salsera & Analyst,you lot are a handful- in a +ve way sha. Bless you all
Family / Re: Great Things About Your Marriage by edakedkay: 7:11pm On Oct 31, 2012
bjcole, you wont be a houseboy per se but just a helpmate. I think the earlier you adjusted your thinking the better. Right now he's walking me from the hospital. He drops me off at a point as the road leading to the clinic is filled with potholes,and i just walk down there. The pothole jerkings isnt really good with my condition. Should have been on bed rest in the hospital till delivery (that's 5 months) but i totally kicked against it. So dr advised i avoid everything stressful. My last preg was a nightmare that nearly took my life. Had my boy at 7 months old. We are just so cautious with this one. To think he'll still have to bath us this evening just makes me pity him the more.we'll just stop by somewhere to get dinner as i wouldnt want to stress him anymore.it's really stressful for him i swear. Dunno if i'll want to get pregnant again after this.

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Family / Re: Great Things About Your Marriage by edakedkay: 12:05pm On Oct 30, 2012
MARKET: life wasnt rosy while we courted. Everything was on me then. We'd go to the market together and just buy whatever was very necessary. I shop for food stuff once a month and we still do it together. OUR SON: he's his dads vomit. I don't see any of my physical attributes in him. They spot same hair cut and most times dress alike.once he took us for sightseeing in his office,he had to get an overall for,a safety boot,goggles and helmet for him just so he'll look like daddy.Every sat'day morning they both go for a 'drive together'. Note the quote? He sits on the driver's seat with him and drives with him. The boy no gree use his car seat at all even when i'm there with them. So most times i do the driving while he sits with him papa. Hubby plays alot with him. There's a tiny table tennis, basketball, and a volleyball court in my house. Once,we were on our way out and he told his dad not to forget his pringles and ice cream. I was like DD, what should i get for you? Nothing,he said. Why? You dont keep your promises. I was shocked. Well,that was a wake up call. In all honesty,dude loves daddy more than me. He even told me this himself. TEAM: we're a team,my boy inclusive. Hubby does everything laundry,ironing inclusive.he helps out in the kitchen esp when i have alot of cooking to do. I cook 2 soups and stew every 2wks. DD packs the rubbish during housekeeping and empties the small bins. When we had just a car, i'll drop him off,then DD before resuming at work. He used to do the sch runs until we got someone. CLUBBING: we did this alot while dating and the habit still dey. We've upscaled it. I get to act as a LovePeddler and he pays for the after club service. I'm 6 months preg and i'd stopped working since 2months ago. I almost didnt make it during my 1st. Right now my life is so boring. I dont do anything other than chop,sleep and watch tv. We dont have a maid and everthing now falls on hubby.he's handling it okay.he wont even let me offer the littlest help that i feel i can. My elder sister comes to cook at weekends.his mom will be coming in 2 wks. Hubby wants a baby girl but I'm so praying for a boy so i can have a son to call my own bcz DD is his father's child, they even bath together now. Everyday i keep thanking God for the man he gave to me. He's been a friend, brother,and a soulmate. In my gut, i know you love me more than i love you.

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Family / Re: Great Things About Your Marriage by edakedkay: 10:36am On Oct 30, 2012
I call him the husband of my youth. Was just 19 when we met. He's been my first& only in that dept ***winks*** and my best male friend.3 yrs in marriage with him and i'll say marriage has been sweeeeet. Where do i start? CHURCH: our church is such that everyone practically have where they sit & ours happens to be the 2nd pew. He walks in front and then holds my hand as if leading a child. Felt uneasy initially but i'm used to it now. Now we've grown by one, i hold the bibles, he carries our boy and leads me. There are other gestures tho but i only spill this. We're the youngest couple in the church's marriage counselling committee. MY STYLIST: i know it's the othr way round for most couple. I'm not a bad stylist but i'd let down my skills when he took up the responsibility. Damn,dude's good at it. He knows my body stats like his surname. One time, i was away but i'd already dropped my material with a tailor i was going to try out for the first time. The guy had lost my measurement and needed to remeasure me. Just gave my hubby the guy's number to call and answer all ques about my stats. I wear dresses alot courtesy of him. He either buys ready made ones or get the bale ones from one guy who brings them home every friday. He then goes online and scout for styles. I've a tailor for natives and another for english wears.all courtesy of him. GETAWAYS: i always look forward to this one cos it's always fun-filled. We stay in hotels in or outside our state of residence every 3rd weekend. MENSES: you wont believe he actually keeps my cycle records. I'm very peckish and my colleagues have now capitalised on this.One time, this guy came looking for what to eat in my handbag and he found a pack of pad instead. Was surprised cos i didnt put it there. Rang my hubby to tell him and he went 'oh that? I put it there,your period starts today'. And i was like- really? Thanks love. I really dont keep track. Several times, i've had to call him to ask when my last period was when i'm asked this during visits to the hospital. He took up this responsibility when in our 4th yr of courtship we had a pregnancy scare. We didnt use condoms.just made love during my safe period. To be continued. Using my phone and its becoming really slow
Politics / Re: The Most Intelligent And Eloquent Nigerian Governors by edakedkay: 6:09pm On Sep 28, 2012
moodswing: Gov Liyel Imoke, is the most eloquent and intelligent.
Dude, you kidding me? Mehn,you really cracked me up. You sure can pass for a comedian. Did you have a 'moodswing' when you dropped this comment? That guy,in all ramificaatons, is the laziest CRS has had. He can't even make a full sentence without you thinking-did he just get outta bed? Try someone else pls. Talk of former governor,Mr. Dee and i'll still be clapping for him till today. Dude's genius
Sports / Re: Azerbaijan Vs Nigeria (0 - 11): U-17 Women's World Cup On Tuesday Sept-25-2012 by edakedkay: 7:01pm On Sep 25, 2012
uprigt_d: Make una nor worry, we don play dis match for winsh last night... We win d match 11 nil... Quote me afteq the match.
chei! You be proper,original and an unadulterated winsh. Please find the nearest MFM, Liberty Gospel Church or TBJ SCOAN make them do deliverance on top your head
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: NNPC Group: Recruitment 2012 by edakedkay: 6:09pm On Sep 18, 2012
where did you spring out from with submission of CV to this email addy? Everything is done online @ the web address you put up here
Literature / Re: Rearrange These Jumbled Words To Make Meaningful Sentences by edakedkay: 8:25pm On Sep 08, 2012
unscrambled words: 8. Future; 10. Exeperience; 13. Station
Romance / Re: Was Your Proposal As Weird As Mine? by edakedkay: 3:09pm On Sep 07, 2012
tobechi74: Spend ur whole salary on proposal . CRAZY LOVE
Yeah right. If it wasn't me,i'd say craziest love. The craziness just gets better & i'm so loving it.
Romance / Re: Was Your Proposal As Weird As Mine? by edakedkay: 3:08pm On Sep 07, 2012
tobechi74: Spend ur whole salary on proposal . CRAZY LOVE
Yeah right. If it wasn't me,i'd say craziest love
Romance / Re: Was Your Proposal As Weird As Mine? by edakedkay: 12:29pm On Sep 07, 2012
Any true love is really worth the patience. Just hang in there girl
Romance / Was Your Proposal As Weird As Mine? by edakedkay: 10:23am On Sep 07, 2012
So, i've been married three years now to the man i dated for 7 yrs. It wasn't a very smooth 7yrs of my life. The road was really bumpy and one of the bumps was me having to buy my own engagement ring. Mind you, i didn't push him into it. He wanted to but couldn't afford it. So i had to swindle some money off my mum. Well,that was my first proposal. About a yr and some months down the line,actli the day he got paid his very first salary,we went for dinner. Unfortunately,we were supposedly robbed and the only thing they took was my engagement ring. I cried,begged,cried and begged but all i met was a brick wall. I offered my phone,jelwery,money to no avail. Surprisingly,my man just stood & did nothing. Then i saw a tiny little box on my seat in the cab that was to take us home. I gave it to the cabby but he insisted i opened it and boom,there was the most beautiful ring ever in the box. Then he went on his knees, '****** (what he calls me),my life would have been a terrible mess if you weren't there to be my spine to support me while i walked,my neck to hold my head high up and my everything. Please promise me i'll have your children call me daddy'. Remember i was crying,so i continued but this time for joy. You can guess my response. So where did you get the money from? My salary all the way,he said. I'd told myself i'll spend every bit of it on you. How are you going to survive until your next pay? The same old way,he said.He'd gotten this really gooooood job and four months later we were married. Cos i loved my engagement ring, we just got the wedding bands. It still has bumps but i'll say it's been sweet courtesy of God,my hubby,my son and our families. So lets hear yours.

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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: NNPC Recruitment 2012 Is Here! by edakedkay: 7:08am On Sep 06, 2012
realsammie: For all the doubting THOMAS in the house, it is true, i have finish applying
How did you make your submission after uploading the required documents? Having issues going beyond this stage. Thanks
Family / Re: How Did You Know Your Partner Was 'The One' ?? by edakedkay: 7:43pm On Sep 05, 2012
When he decided to look pass my very many shortcomings. He always said 'God won't let the love i've shown you be in vain. You'll change for my sake'. I was completely loved by his family, he took to mine easily. The rest is history

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Michelle Obama's Speech At DNC2012: Democratic National Convention by edakedkay: 7:18pm On Sep 05, 2012
Please someone should tell mama P to take a cue from Mitchy should there ever be a next time.
Food / Re: What Food Is Your Town Or State Known For? by edakedkay: 3:24pm On Sep 04, 2012
Iwuk edesi ikong ubong, afia efere ebot (with ekporoko, nsat iyak) ye usung abia, abak atama, abak etiyung, ayan ekpang ye efere otong, efere afang, ekoki, edesi isip, ekpang nkukwo ikon, ekpang nkukwo, edikang ikon (not my fave), efere mmansang, efere ndek iyak, fisherman stew, ukang ukom ye nsat iyak ye cow leg, bust meat and plantain, dog meat & plantain or rice (yuck, never to be eaten by me and my children if possible). Mehn, I can go on and on. Come And Live And Be At Rest in my CALABAR
Family / Re: Ever Felt Like You Married The Wrong Person? by edakedkay: 7:07pm On Sep 01, 2012
@obadiah777, bloke pls change your school of thought else you may remain unmarried (i haven't forgotten that not everyone is cut out for marriage). It isn't all marriages that the partners are with the wrong person. Marriage is a union of two separate entities, most often from/with backgrounds and ideologies that are totally different. For any marriage to work,compromise plays a key role but not the detriment of the other partner. You just have to meet yourselves half way. That is why courtship is often encouraged- it doesn't solve all problems associated with marriage tho but that is when you get to decide if you can live the rest of your lives with this person. Prayers shouldn't be left out. Remember the lines in the everyday 'our father' prayers? That is you telling God to lead you. His wword says 'ask and you shall receive'. I can't have the God that i have and yet wallow in pains. Remember,there's no portion in the bible that says you'll go thru life without tribulations. How then will you appreciate your time of jubilation without the tribulation. I courted my hubby for 7yrs,married for 3yrs. He's a friend that is closer than a brother to me. He may not be perfect but he's the bestest for me. Show me a perfect marriage out there and i'll tell you they're the fakest couple to walk the earth. I'll still say 'your marriage is what you make of it'.
Family / Re: Ever Felt Like You Married The Wrong Person? by edakedkay: 12:48pm On Sep 01, 2012
I won't say marriage has been a bed of roses for me. I've experienced it's bumps but the nice times far outweighs the bad times. Ask me this question in 10yrs and i'll still say 'i don't regret marrying the man i call my husband'. Your marriage is what you make of it.

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Travel / Re: My Sister Is Suffering In London - Please Advise! by edakedkay: 10:23pm On Aug 25, 2012
@Ochi-aha, DEAL. Sorry if i pushed the wrong button
Phones / Re: MTN Introduces New Call Tariffs by edakedkay: 8:15pm On Aug 24, 2012
i'm really loving my super saver plan today.First made a call of about 20mins for #131 & some kobo, then 6mins for #38 sum'ng kobo..,10mins for #65 & just made an exactly 2mins call for #12. All on net calls.Does it mean this plan now goes for around #6/min to #6.50k/min?
Travel / Re: My Sister Is Suffering In London - Please Advise! by edakedkay: 6:15am On Aug 18, 2012
You should have told this yourself to avoid missing vital parts out,i guess your sis was only showing concern. To the problem at hand, i think you've got a very important reason to have missed submitting the hard copy. Get the student union involved and pls be very outspoken while driving home your point. A few questions for you- was it a coursework? What percentage is it capped at? How can you drop from a 2.1 to a 3rd class? What happened to the 2:2 inbetween. It's be'a than a 3rd class. If a coursework, you'll be asked to redo it and that shouldn't take you till november, when your visa finally expires. Everything can be done in a hurry if you told them you dont plan on staying beyond the expiration of your visa. on the other hand start prepping yourself for an extention in case the tide turns. Get your friends to borrow you some money to put in your account for this purpose. Try getting a full-time job so you can pay back since you're not actually living with your relatives and also pay for that particular module (you cant be asked to pay an entire term's fee). Just prepare ahead. But really,i had a friend who was asked to repeat because he failed more than 3 courses and he only paid for these particular courses while others who failed between one and three,resat the exams. Don't forget to add some serious prayers too in all of these.

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