I don't know if the topic perfectly represents the post but well...

Firstly note, If you have a problem with my threads, well it's your problem not mine. You have the choice to leave and go do you or remain and get ignored. I'm not telling you what to do with your life, I'm bringing to light abnormalities in some Nigerian women that soils the image of other innocent Nigerian women. And also helping unsuspecting young women to avoid being misled.


Some of these abnormalities are:

1) Lack of poise, classless, crass and loud: The ugliest thing about women like this is that, they have this unhealthy desire to be seen. To be noticed. They want to be in everyone's face. They are the biggest users of social media.

Always in front of a camera dishing out some weird advice with either a masculine voice or shouting. And some don't even try to look good while at it!

If transgender women can work on their voices, why can't you a full biological woman? Why are you comfortable talking with a male voice and sometimes forcefully? Ughhh.

You see some making over exaggerated gestures with their hands and faces, curse words slipping out, fake awkward accents, dancing like toads on drugs. Clowns.

The saddest part is these women are always trying to "Nigerianise" their complete lack of class.

Why can't you just be the classless female without tagging all Nigerian women along. There is nothing Nigerian or African about women acting poorly. It's just gross.

2) Being savage queens: Whoever told some women that giving it back hot hot looks good on them definitely has no heart for anyone.

The moment you begin to talk back, argue, exchange words, even fight, you are just exposing your lack of a proper upbringing and education. And if anyone thought you had some class prior to your response, you only proved them wrong.

People don't just know you from your actions, they also know you from your reactions.

The number of women that I've seen calling anyone with a heated opinion online, "fool, mumu, etc" have amazed me. And I always say to myself when I come across them. These women would have just disagreed respectfully and kept their dignity. Or replied sarcastically or not at all. Why present yourself in such an awful manner on a public platform because of one or few obnoxious persons that don't matter in your life at the end of the day? What kind of impression would you leave on an admirer or helper watching from afar?

This reminds me of a matchmaking show I saw on YouTube. Very toxic shows. I managed to watch one till the end.

Some ladies were being brought forward in turns to be picked by any male that found them a good match.

A lady will step up to the first guy that rejected her to know why he did. He will be so rude about it and the lady will react bitterly and start cussing back with so much 'savageness' She would have words for all the guys that don't want her(right in front of the guys that want her). When done with them, the host would usher her to the guys that want her, and they would politely inform the host that they don't want her anymore.

And the savage queen acts dumb. Like she doesn't understand why they changed their minds.

Some women are just toxic, you won't know until they open their mouths. They may look well put together but the moment they open their mouths, you will just dislike them.


Why would a woman choose to be a savage queen? How? It has to be a masculina.
No feminine woman would stand exchanging words with men. She will simply excuse herself out or smile and be tactful with her responses.

No one can be your ambassador but you. How can you think insulting, not "greeing" for anyone, physically fighting back, etc are putting you in a good light?

You are just exercising your femininity away. And are there consequences? grave ones.


3) Embracing toxic women as role models : Doing this is embracing toxicity and telling everyone the kind of person you are or hoping to become soon.

Foolish women are women who don't seive what they see and what they hear. They are like open windows and doors, allowing anything or anyone to get through them and shapen their lives most times for the worst.

Wise women know that every human is a product of what they hear and see. As a result they don't take in everything they hear and see. They decide most times what to hear and what to see.

A wise woman has her instincts and basic understanding of the world, she doesn't need to sleep on negative news feeds day in, day out. Yes she can be informed about incidences but she doesn't have to crave for them.

Foolish women are always fishing for the worst to mourn, complain, argue, insult fight about the wrong people and systems. And overtime they realize, their femininity has been exercised away. They can't even care for or nurture the right people in their lives.

They use all their minds and strengths to fight the bad people and bad traditions that they have no strength left to care for their "loved ones"


I write this epistle to the women that still care.

Femininity is your protection, your cover, your hiding place. The road is rough already, why make it rougher my lady!

Jakumo:
I know that I only speak for the discerning few but in my humble opinion, obesity is plain ugly, repulsive, and nasty to look at. The pictures at the start of this discussion are typical examples of very unhealthy grossly overweight women who are paradoxically PROUD of their hideously deformed bodies to the extent of wearing skin-tight attire to highlight their disgusting overloaded potato sack physiques.

To each his own but the sight of fat women with gigantic commode-shattering cottage cheese buttocks kills my sex drive instantly, and so to prevent that depressing mood from taking over, I quickly avert my eyes when I am around fat women, and over time this visual pollution avoidance therapy has become fully automated to the point where such displays of obesity become completely invisible to my highly selective eyes.

Nothing lights my fire of desire faster than a fit and toned woman between 20 and 23 years old, who is blessed with a nice succulent pair of firm jiggly tits that are 100% natural and without excessive sag.

Oooooooooh LOL. That's basically most men too.

I hope they don't take my thread down though cos those photos 😁

Gerrard59:


Then your claim is false.

Next time, don't make outlandish claims on a public forum without supporting them with reputable evidence.

It's the general fact against your stubbornness 😁

1Sharon:


Thick is not the same as big sis !!!


Put some respect on thick women's name.

Oh okay. I thought they were same but we learn everyday. HNY!!

Gerrard59:


Show us a scientific paper to support the bold 'cos those are very audacious claims.

BTW, if black men don't like their women to be thick, what kind of women would Southern African and black Brazillian men date, marry and copulate with?

Someone will explain tire but it won't be me

DaTruths:


Well i would pick you over the first 3

The bottom line is that anybody can be cute in their frame.
I have seen sexy chubby women, and also sexy slim women.
One can be chubby and still not be sexy, just like one can be slim and still not be sexy.

Vast majority of the world population would always go for a slim girl.
But Africans, especially Nigerian men would go for the thick one, no fat anyway.

Lol how would you know. Most men are not expressive about their choice but their actions are enough for everyone.

But you thick women lovers won't let us drink water and drop cup. Where do you guys get this confidence to announce your preference everytime. 🤣

ednut1:
why are ladies doing BBL costing 3m to 5m and risking their lives 🤣

Tell me who BBL looks best on. The slim or the thick lady. If your answer is honest, there would be no need for further argument

DaTruths:
Which minority OP?

Well lets use a poll.

If you like picture 1,2 and 3 over picture 4 click like, otherwise click share.

The vast majority of men globally will pick the 4th girl.

Majority of black or African men would pick the 4th girl if she has a larger boobs or butt on that frame.

Girls 1-3, will do well with a slim base. They are a little bit weighty on the eyes. Except maybe Pic 3 cos she looks slim from the side

ednut1:
Why are women speaking for men Different men of different races have different preferences generally. The European standard of a beautiful ( slim) was never our preference in many African societies. In some cultures even in the current Nigeria , women were fattened before going to their husbands house. The average black man prefers women with flesh 🙄

So untrue. Maybe it was true in the last century but definitely not this current one. I hope young girls and women aiming for a better and comforting life are not listening to misconceptions like this cos they are misleading

ikeno:
Men like to present slim beautiful women to people and the society but in actual fact they prefer to bed chubby women cause these type of women give them a thrill especially if she has big butt and boobs. That's the reason some women go under the knife to get cosmetics surgery for larger boobs and butt

They are getting surgery to increase their boobs and butts not their bodies.

A woman can have these features and still be slim. Many women are built like this.

And no, men are not fronting slim women, they actually see them as easier on the eyes because they are.

Gerrard59:
The majority of sub-Saharan women are thick or fat or chubby however you define it. So, how can the men suddenly change their preference away from what they evolved with? Even in the US, African American women are thick or fat or chubby. The same applies to the Caribbean. The problem happens when it becomes a health issue, but black men like their women to be thick or fat or chubby.

We are not white or Chinese men.

I can't speak for other African countries but the average Nigerian girl from 25 downwards isn't big.

The average young woman in any society in the world with the exception of maybe African Americans, starts out slim.

Women usually start getting thick from 25 upwards.

And no, black or whoever men don't like their women thick or big, that's a myth.

Majority dont

A response to a post I saw on instagram yesterday.

It's good to be positive and love yourself quite alright but know when to stand back when your chunky limbs are reaching for the delusion line.

For starters, men all over the world are attracted to a similar build in Women-which is the ever youthful Slim built. Some like theirs flavourless(no curves), others flavourful or very flavourful. As long as the base remains slim.

Almost all men including African men are attracted to slim women. Don't cross the delulu line yet.

Men are first attracted to youth in a woman even before her beauty. Since slim is mostly a youthful attribute, it's no wonder men price this figure the most among other figures. The extreme opposite of slim is "unyouthful" hence, less appealing to the male gaze.

Thick and chubby women are too much to take in for the average male. They are just a bit extra no matter how pretty she is. But a pretty petite girl is an instant male magnet. Na dem dey tire.

I've had some pretty friends let themselves go because some big mouths online kept priding themselves as meat eaters and not bone eaters. Too much of that kind of needless takes online to maliciously bully slim women can make a beautiful unsuspecting girl gradually let herself go to appear "acceptable"

There are men who love big women but they are in the minority and very loud about it online(because they are few?). The average Joe isn't checking for the aunty that looks like the aunty.

So if you are a girl or lady that enjoys male attention, don't be fooled by the internet. Reality is a different ball game. Happy new year in ady! 😘

1Sharon:
They're about to call you a pick me.

The problem isn't that BW wear wigs/weaves, the issue is that the hair usually preferred isn't our natural textures. Bw wouldn't be mocked and it wouldnt be so controversial if they wear wigs that matched their natural hair.

Wear hair that look like you could have grown it. No lavish colours or ridiculous lengths.

BW could actually be the best looking race of women if only we become at peace with how we naturally look like. Our beauty is unique.

We need the right mirror to see how beautiful we are.

Shalommy:
Are you an igbo? And are you beautiful like Chioma Davido?

Read my OP over and over again, until e enter your difficult skull😗

You guys delusion and inferiority complex always make you want t o seek validation every time.

They have it and they are proud

Shalommy:
See better food wey albino dey talk shit. Chaii...

albino? You wish When na only charcoal men your hand fit reach why you no go talk trash about premium men. The phone you are using was made by an "albino" man. Tell your charcoal men to make your own phone for you if dem reach.

She is not even all that, yet she got an Arab bag. Continue limiting yourself black pickmeishas and Barbara the builders

We all knew it would be a white Caucasian male. The conquerors, the bravest of men. Where would we all be if white men were not in charge. Thank God for white men oo 🤣🤣🤣

narite:

Can I buy it for you?

If you want o

1Sharon:


Lol they like black women, but they like us looking very specific.

Yeap

White men are not attracted to black women yen yen yen.

Waiting for your new song today. Oh white men are serial killers and useless?
Okay conquered bottom of the barrel low IQued black kangzz

ahnie:

Tell me about them,no knowledge is wasted n besides we learn everyday.

You will be foolish to take anything from a black male manasquerading as a woman seriously.

Proserpina:
Geminita1 you are right we should normalize wearing our natural hair. I miss the old days i'd rock my "into four parts" my mom plaits for me, the koroba style and shuku too . I miss packing my hair with that black rubber too . These days it's hard rocking your hair without someone asking you to go braids or someone looking at you like a suffer head. My hair is now 12 inches long at the front, 10 at the back and very full but can I just style it and attend a function without coming off as odd and not presentable to Brazilian wig or bone straight hair rockers?

That's really the point. The more relaxed we are with our hair the more stylish we would become with it. My getting familiarized with natural hair has made see the oddness in Brazilian wigs and others. It's just off. Like I'm looking at us with an "external eye" and wondering why we are okay being second best.

Being the only group of women to "put on hair" just to look presentable isn't cute. You know, we have hair, why are we acting like we don't? Hair is a huge part of femininity, why are we acting like we need other ethnic group of women's to have hair on our head when we have ours?

I'll say that women like you are just years ahead of the rest. The rest would catch on, I hope or continue being second best.

I can't wait for the day we would look back and celebrate weaves and wigs as old fashioned ways of beautifying ourselves. And laugh hard at how seriously we tried to attain some type of beauty when we were just so beautiful.

Lol we really have a long way to go as Nigerians. I know other women aren't as obsessed with covering natural hair as we are.

Thank goodness, you choose to see what is plain and not argue with it like some are trying hard to do here.

On staying fit, lol may God help me. I know the truth but I have refused to allow it set me free. Thank God for good genes if not I would have ended up a baby elephant. I talk about working out more than I really work out . I'm going to change this by fire by force Amen. *sips coke and munch solid fufu*

Amen and cheers to your effort 🥂 One thing that always keeps me in check is the price I have to pay for neglecting my looks. It's too huge. You can go from a 10 to a 4 if you let anything pass through your mouth. It might look cool but there are consequences. We all have the right to look as bad as we want but we can't dictate for society how we get treated afterwards.

I'm not going to go round in cycle with women who are refusing to see the point of this thread. I'm too smart for that!

My thread stands. I don't create threads to go back and forth with anyone that's why I always make sure my original posts are lengthy enough to contain everything I want to say cos I don't have time to argue with women who stay on their phones 24/7. My threads are for women with real life experiences not women who live in this delusion that things should be the way they think it should be.

The world outside is a different ball game and I play accordingly not blindly.

When I want to talk of intelligent women I would cite Ngozi Okonji. But my thread isn't for women like her so monikers like the above challenging me should hold their peace. Not interested in your woke ideals of what a woman can be.

In your bid to "protect women" you set them up for failure.

My thread is to correct the damage your modern social engineering has done to women.

Women need to realize they are women and operate in their full powers.

Magnoliaa:


Awesome.

Judging and insulting people more will get you faster to your goal of preaching this. 👍


Let's not talk about how you're even saying all these Beauty Codes of Conduct as something every woman should adhere to.

I have agreed that staying fit for health reasons is admirable, but baby girl, not every woman desires a Nengi's face or a Nancy Isime's body shape.

There are different kinds of women in positions of power, however small. Beauty only get you some kind of power, under conditions that are subject to its dictates.

You cannot tell me the WTO was looking at face when they picked Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala as their Director-General. Go to the national agencies of the country and see the women in high-ranking positions, and come back to tell me how they look like.

There are plain-looking executives and career women everywhere. These people wield power (economic, political), and they are also finding spouses too, I should add.

Have fun being you. Lol

Kobojunkie:
Arrrgh!! You are simply concerned about them not being grotesquely fat and unappealing to your eyes, and not necessarily concerned as to whether they are healthy at that point or not?

Also, You may have hair to show off but not all women out there have manageable hair like yours. So wouldn't this energy of yours be better expended developing haircare products/regimens to encourage women who are able to, go the route which you are agitating for? Last I checked, the reason many African women chose to wear wigs and the lot has to do with a lack of clear understanding of how to better manage their natural hair or get it to look like they would want it to(something like that).

Arguing with you is a waste of time.

You can move on🙂

Magnoliaa:


Okay.

And that doesn't necessarily negate my point.

I don't know how you want to stay fit for beauty reasons that will not first impact your health.


How do you define a beautiful look?

Before you answer, go through this guy's profile: www.nairaland.com/Infolenka, and see the different body shapes people consider beautiful. My bets are that your idea of that look doesn't match with others' ideas. It is a subjective opinion.

So there's no one way to have a "beautiful look", but any kind of looks sure can be healthy. This can be objectively measured, and it's why I think being fit primarily for health reasons should be how this is approached. "Beauty" can come second.

. Lol the problem that some of you women might have with yourself is your desire to always argue and counter everything you perceive is against women.

Go through all my threads. I'm pro women, pro Nigerian women💯

Im not about to derail my thread by arguing on what is considered beautiful to this person and that person. I don't argue on exceptional grounds, I state fact and what is generally acceptable.

My thread is for women who are willing to examine how wrong they are approaching the world and open to learning.

Not women who want to show me what one nobody likes in women. Not interested ma'am

Kobojunkie:
How exactly does one stay fit to achieve a beautiful look without actually staying fit?

The goal is to attain beauty to its fullest. And yes you will also become healthy as an add on but the focus of my thread is on looking appealing which a fat grotesque structure cannot give.

lilvicky68:

They are synonyms..

Yes they are similar but not the same. Just as finished and complete are synonyms but not exactly the same

Magnoliaa:


Perhaps you don't really understand your own point(s)?

You're addressing two things here- natural hair and staying fit.

And I said staying fit is an advice anybody should find useful.

Or perhaps you don't understand my thread. I'm talking about staying fit to achieve a beautiful look not staying fit in itself.

MrBrownJay1:
sadly, A) the standard of beauty for these women have greatly changed, therefore "to them" only someone with white looking straight hair is beautiful.... and B) too many of these women are insecure about their gorimapa, and therefore have to disguise themselves with mop on their head etc.

Yes, fortunately, our hair can be straightened too. And little hair pieces added if need be. But turning everything artificial is just off the mark.

Even bald haired can be pretty when styled properly. Or better still grown out to increase femininity.