Shalommy:
Are you an igbo? And are you beautiful like Chioma Davido?

Read my OP over and over again, until e enter your difficult skull😗

You guys delusion and inferiority complex always make you want t o seek validation every time.

They have it and they are proud

Shalommy:
See better food wey albino dey talk shit. Chaii...

albino? You wish When na only charcoal men your hand fit reach why you no go talk trash about premium men. The phone you are using was made by an "albino" man. Tell your charcoal men to make your own phone for you if dem reach.

She is not even all that, yet she got an Arab bag. Continue limiting yourself black pickmeishas and Barbara the builders

We all knew it would be a white Caucasian male. The conquerors, the bravest of men. Where would we all be if white men were not in charge. Thank God for white men oo 🤣🤣🤣

narite:

Can I buy it for you?

If you want o

1Sharon:


Lol they like black women, but they like us looking very specific.

Yeap

White men are not attracted to black women yen yen yen.

Waiting for your new song today. Oh white men are serial killers and useless?
Okay conquered bottom of the barrel low IQued black kangzz

ahnie:

Tell me about them,no knowledge is wasted n besides we learn everyday.

You will be foolish to take anything from a black male manasquerading as a woman seriously.

Proserpina:
Geminita1 you are right we should normalize wearing our natural hair. I miss the old days i'd rock my "into four parts" my mom plaits for me, the koroba style and shuku too . I miss packing my hair with that black rubber too . These days it's hard rocking your hair without someone asking you to go braids or someone looking at you like a suffer head. My hair is now 12 inches long at the front, 10 at the back and very full but can I just style it and attend a function without coming off as odd and not presentable to Brazilian wig or bone straight hair rockers?

That's really the point. The more relaxed we are with our hair the more stylish we would become with it. My getting familiarized with natural hair has made see the oddness in Brazilian wigs and others. It's just off. Like I'm looking at us with an "external eye" and wondering why we are okay being second best.

Being the only group of women to "put on hair" just to look presentable isn't cute. You know, we have hair, why are we acting like we don't? Hair is a huge part of femininity, why are we acting like we need other ethnic group of women's to have hair on our head when we have ours?

I'll say that women like you are just years ahead of the rest. The rest would catch on, I hope or continue being second best.

I can't wait for the day we would look back and celebrate weaves and wigs as old fashioned ways of beautifying ourselves. And laugh hard at how seriously we tried to attain some type of beauty when we were just so beautiful.

Lol we really have a long way to go as Nigerians. I know other women aren't as obsessed with covering natural hair as we are.

Thank goodness, you choose to see what is plain and not argue with it like some are trying hard to do here.

On staying fit, lol may God help me. I know the truth but I have refused to allow it set me free. Thank God for good genes if not I would have ended up a baby elephant. I talk about working out more than I really work out . I'm going to change this by fire by force Amen. *sips coke and munch solid fufu*

Amen and cheers to your effort 🥂 One thing that always keeps me in check is the price I have to pay for neglecting my looks. It's too huge. You can go from a 10 to a 4 if you let anything pass through your mouth. It might look cool but there are consequences. We all have the right to look as bad as we want but we can't dictate for society how we get treated afterwards.

I'm not going to go round in cycle with women who are refusing to see the point of this thread. I'm too smart for that!

My thread stands. I don't create threads to go back and forth with anyone that's why I always make sure my original posts are lengthy enough to contain everything I want to say cos I don't have time to argue with women who stay on their phones 24/7. My threads are for women with real life experiences not women who live in this delusion that things should be the way they think it should be.

The world outside is a different ball game and I play accordingly not blindly.

When I want to talk of intelligent women I would cite Ngozi Okonji. But my thread isn't for women like her so monikers like the above challenging me should hold their peace. Not interested in your woke ideals of what a woman can be.

In your bid to "protect women" you set them up for failure.

My thread is to correct the damage your modern social engineering has done to women.

Women need to realize they are women and operate in their full powers.

Magnoliaa:


Awesome.

Judging and insulting people more will get you faster to your goal of preaching this. 👍


Let's not talk about how you're even saying all these Beauty Codes of Conduct as something every woman should adhere to.

I have agreed that staying fit for health reasons is admirable, but baby girl, not every woman desires a Nengi's face or a Nancy Isime's body shape.

There are different kinds of women in positions of power, however small. Beauty only get you some kind of power, under conditions that are subject to its dictates.

You cannot tell me the WTO was looking at face when they picked Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala as their Director-General. Go to the national agencies of the country and see the women in high-ranking positions, and come back to tell me how they look like.

There are plain-looking executives and career women everywhere. These people wield power (economic, political), and they are also finding spouses too, I should add.

Have fun being you. Lol

Kobojunkie:
Arrrgh!! You are simply concerned about them not being grotesquely fat and unappealing to your eyes, and not necessarily concerned as to whether they are healthy at that point or not?

Also, You may have hair to show off but not all women out there have manageable hair like yours. So wouldn't this energy of yours be better expended developing haircare products/regimens to encourage women who are able to, go the route which you are agitating for? Last I checked, the reason many African women chose to wear wigs and the lot has to do with a lack of clear understanding of how to better manage their natural hair or get it to look like they would want it to(something like that).

Arguing with you is a waste of time.

You can move on🙂

Magnoliaa:


Okay.

And that doesn't necessarily negate my point.

I don't know how you want to stay fit for beauty reasons that will not first impact your health.


How do you define a beautiful look?

Before you answer, go through this guy's profile: www.nairaland.com/Infolenka, and see the different body shapes people consider beautiful. My bets are that your idea of that look doesn't match with others' ideas. It is a subjective opinion.

So there's no one way to have a "beautiful look", but any kind of looks sure can be healthy. This can be objectively measured, and it's why I think being fit primarily for health reasons should be how this is approached. "Beauty" can come second.

. Lol the problem that some of you women might have with yourself is your desire to always argue and counter everything you perceive is against women.

Go through all my threads. I'm pro women, pro Nigerian women💯

Im not about to derail my thread by arguing on what is considered beautiful to this person and that person. I don't argue on exceptional grounds, I state fact and what is generally acceptable.

My thread is for women who are willing to examine how wrong they are approaching the world and open to learning.

Not women who want to show me what one nobody likes in women. Not interested ma'am

Kobojunkie:
How exactly does one stay fit to achieve a beautiful look without actually staying fit?

The goal is to attain beauty to its fullest. And yes you will also become healthy as an add on but the focus of my thread is on looking appealing which a fat grotesque structure cannot give.

lilvicky68:

They are synonyms..

Yes they are similar but not the same. Just as finished and complete are synonyms but not exactly the same

Magnoliaa:


Perhaps you don't really understand your own point(s)?

You're addressing two things here- natural hair and staying fit.

And I said staying fit is an advice anybody should find useful.

Or perhaps you don't understand my thread. I'm talking about staying fit to achieve a beautiful look not staying fit in itself.

MrBrownJay1:
sadly, A) the standard of beauty for these women have greatly changed, therefore "to them" only someone with white looking straight hair is beautiful.... and B) too many of these women are insecure about their gorimapa, and therefore have to disguise themselves with mop on their head etc.

Yes, fortunately, our hair can be straightened too. And little hair pieces added if need be. But turning everything artificial is just off the mark.

Even bald haired can be pretty when styled properly. Or better still grown out to increase femininity.

Magnoliaa:
Wearing natural hair: no.

Staying fit: yes, and this should be a general advice to anyone, really.

I'm talking about beauty girl not general lifestyle

lilvicky68:
A lazy man can be wealthy.. wealth must not come from hardwork.

An inheritance can make a lazy man wealthy

I purposely used the word-wealthy not rich. I'm very sure they have different meanings.

Look it up

Yes. At some point we have to be honest with ourselves.

There are so many beautiful Nigerian women that even the most racist misogynist would find it hard to deny.

We are so beautiful that racists have to constantly put us down to have a chance in life.

However, the power of our beauty seems to be lost on us.

We have to understand that beauty is as powerful as power and wealth. Beauty is power. The beauty of a woman is at par with the wealth of a man. A woman's beauty alone can fetch her a wealthy man.

But!!! We've missed it somewhere. And I know what's gone wrong. We have become so overwhelmed with "what has been" that we don't know what to in fact allow and disallow. We think everything goes when it comes to looks. Nope.

Everything does not go when it comes to looks. When it comes to looks, every enhancement must not deviate from the default natural state by more than 5%. Any thing artificial that surpasses 5% minimizes our physical appeal. When you put too much on what you already have, you are diminishing your looks ignorantly.


When it comes to our dressing, wardrobe, accessories, etc, anything may go but when it comes to our face and body, nature has given us a law that we must not deviate from else we risk losing some of our appeal.

As African women, we don't have heavy wavy hair like other ethnic groups, especially the ones that rest on both sides of our face. Nature has given us a different type of hair that is proportional to the structure of our face. Any deviation from this natural order, will lessen our beauty. We may find it difficult to see this "misfit" because we have become so accustomed to these deviant hair styles. It's akin to someone with a body odour not being able to perceive himself until another points it out to him. When it comes to hair, this is our present situation. We can't see the abnormality on us but others may see it.

Relaxing our hair and styling it however we want is not the problem. The problem is the additional hair we add to our hair that is disproportionate to our facial bones.

You may say you have a different kind of skull but as an African woman I put it to you that your natural hair is like every other African woman's with the exception of some few tribes that can be found only in certain regions.

Nature still gave you an afro textured hair because whichever way you style it, it won't diminish your beauty and youth like weaves and wigs always do.

Imagine how creative we would become with our hair in 10years time if we stubbornly refuse this ancient conditioning that has stuck to us for long and has degraded us into this women "who are trying hard" instead of "the brown birds" that we already are.

We think our hair can't do much for our overall looks but that's only because we've never embraced our hair to even begin to see all the unimaginable possibilities it can create for our overall outlook.

We are the only group of women with this type of hair that can be twisted into any style. At this present time all I can say is how blessed and ignorant are we among women!


In continuation, let me just say congratulations to the Nigerian ladies who have made keeping fit a part of their regular routine.
I see more and more Nigerian women embracing work outs and gym sessions.

It really takes a strong of resolve to keep your weight in check in this part of the world. I understand slim straight women and the kind of stigma they are subject to can push them into unhealthy eating lifestyles. Yet, I still believe they can still keep their weight and maybe do squats to create some curves or go for cosmetic procedures if they can.

Generally, Nigerian women have balanced slim bodies, not much extremities. But why do we not vigorously fight to stay in shape? Why do we not fight to have this power that can make our lives easier in this already tough world? Or are we not aware that beautiful people have easier lives? Or we prefer to bury our heads in the sand away from reality? Or we are just confused on how this world works? Or we think staying fit is only for the upper class? Are excuses ruling our lives?

But the law of nature can't be cheated. The more weight we amass the more unshapely we look, the more unshapely we look the more unappealing we look.

People fight their lives out to achieve wealth and status. Why? because with wealth and status comes influence and power. Power and influence drives you to the top of society.

Beauty is power. How can we not see it?

You prefer to walk around with weaves and wigs and round bodies when you know in your heart you can do better.

Being slim with a feminine curve is a strong natural appeal that no one can deny. And increase in body mass more than an acceptable weight would disfigure this.

You know what to do to look and stay beautiful, why are you not doing it in spite of the enormous advantages it brings? Or you want to eat your cake and have it? Have you ever seen a lazy wealthy man? Good! You will never see an ugly woman on a pedestal too.

Get real!

Patriotsleague:

In other words a whoore encouraging more of her kind to join the trade.

Being a biological woman is whoring! According to Woke chapter 1 Frm vs 1 to infinitum?

Graysons:
The most beautiful women in Nigeria are the Fulanis they have no competition when it comes to beauty in Nigeria.
Igbo women sabi rub bleaching creams,eg cursade and tura.

You say

shortgun:
The haters are coming you

Lol can they dare

When we talk of beauty in high concentration, I give the crown to Igbo women. It doesn't matter where they are from, which country they reside in. Igbo is beauty and beauty is Igbo.

Igbo women are undoubtedly the most beautiful women ever! Is it their pretty and well sculptured faces, their glittering skin no matter the shade, their height and well calved bodies. Have you seen the way Igbo women walk, such grace and elegance! In short Igbo women are the major reason Nigerian women rank high in the eye of every honest and independent foreign observer!

There is just something about Igbo women!

You know, I've always wondered why their men are a bit different from other black men.

Yea, its no secret that black men are the least ranked of all groups in the world and about sealing their permanent underclass status worldwide. Its no surprise, as we can see why they are like this. Still! There is something a bit different about Igbo men!

Ill summarise with 2 points:
1) Igbo men know there place and know where to step aside for their women to shine. You will never see Igbo men fighting for the "beauty spot" with their women. They simply step aside and let their women sit pretty! They are okay being invisible here and yet visible in other ways.
Who doesnt know that Igbo men are the most handsome in Nigeria, and even Africa, yet you will never see them brag about their looks. They just let their women have that spot. They are just more secure than the average black man

2) Igbo men are "creatively industrious" Its one thing to be hardworking, its another to be creative about it. If you like throw them into the darkest pit, they will make use of their brains! Because of this culture, Igbo men have successfully closed the wide gap between the rich and the poor in their society. They behave like gods. And operate with a divine mindset. They don't start their families until they are ready!

Can we say Igbo women have shapened the mindset of Igbo men wrongly? Of course not! Its the opposite as everyone can see! In short, If Igbo men can be transparent here, they will give credit to their women for being a major factor in their clamour for success. Imagine if Igbo women were cheap, and parting legs for losers, were would the motivation that has driven Igbo men to the top among their peers come from? They would have been like the average black man: Lazy and purposeless!

Truly the only reason Igbo men have remained this vibrant and productive is because Igbo women demand for vibrant and productive men! If Igbo women should change this demand, the loss of the igbo economy would be great. They have carried themselves in such a way that their men or any man dare not bring less than expected.

I might not be an Igbo girl by tribe but I am one at heart.
I will not criticise Igbo women rather I'll praise them for being smart enough to have a different kind of men

To non Igbo women who think a man calling you "not demanding or entitled" is a compliment, no, you are being cheap! Even shortsighted! My advice, be smart for your own good!

Beauty is a currency and men know that. That's why they demand for good looking women in exchange for their material resources. No man would be happy to part with so much for so little in return.

Could it be that the jealousy of Igbo women by non Igbo women is because they can't measure up and therefore are "humbled" to demand for less from men. Whereas Igbo women knowing what beauty they possess demand for more in exchange? Or am I over thinking.

Anyway, I'm just glad we have Igbo women amongst us and I can learn everyday from them and even tap their grace!

I'll name my daughter, Obiageli cos that's truly who she is.

Nonexisting1:
I approve of your wawulence. You vaginarians can go get them simps, they are useless to my gender after all.

Simp= Alpha male

JOACHINpedro:
A broke man shouldn't be in relationship. Agreed

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Nonexisting1:
At least we can agree on one thing. Let me guess. The rights you are talking about is the right to date successful men abi?

You are not my audience

Nonexisting1:
I have never in this my life heard a successful woman or female achiever call men broke so it leaves me with only one option. This one here is definitely from Allen Avenue.

I'm no successful woman or female achiever. I just know my rights

Boomboost:
Is babygirl also broke?

Where is food and clothing coming from?

Every girl child needs to benefit from every man in her life. Her father first and then her husband. She is entitled to their provisions. Its an overflow life

Yes dummy

You are just his fall back plan.

You are not his type.

He won't bring that mess near his ideal woman.

Even if you happen to be his type, you will depreciate in value in a short while and cease being his type.

He will never want to impress you. You cheap.

He will despise you.

He will marry you and take you through hell.

If by 0.000000001 chance he makes it, he will cheat on your ass with those gold digging women he complained to you about ( You remember? )

Now baby girl,

Let no woke Buffon decampaign you from a bright future. You carry generations in your womb. Birth them in abundance or not at all.

God finished creating everything before he created us his children and ushered us in. That's the perfect precedence to follow and a strong show of love. Men have the direct nature of God and always, I mean ALWAYS do likewise to those that are dear to them.

No matter how brilliant a student is, he must write and pass an exam before getting a good result record.

Same way, a broke man must come into financial stability before getting a good companion.

Disregard the grass to grace epistles, use your intuition, they are mostly lies and exxagerations to lure naive women into stagnant relationships, is it not Nigeria that you know where people can barely feed properly, women ageing like bananas for stress and many people's children have turned e-beggers for lack of care.

Men need women, ask Adam.
God created everything good for Adam including other planets/stars to enjoy yet Adam still felt lonely.

It wasn't Eve that was lonely, it was the man Adam that was lonely.

We have this certain truth that even if you give a man the whole world he would still be lonely. Only a woman-companion can satisfy him.

The only men that don't need women are men with a higher calling like Paul. Men with a different non worldly assignment. They have this energy that keeps them afloat.

But you see the average man, the only thing in his brain is how to make money and start a family with his dream woman.

As for women there is no record of us being lonely without men. So no one can say for sure women are incomplete without men.

What am I saying, you are the prize, even nature tells you so. Pay attention, if he doesn't have it together don't let him bring you in!

Cos "nice guys" are broke or timid or ugly or all of the above.