there are happy polygamous homes..... it's only when there's no money you see strife and raw anger. i used to have an asian boss with 4 wives. the wives work as a team with mutual respect. they even go camping with the kids of the other wives for days!
They are no happy polygamous homes. Even with money. I come from a wealthy one- i can tell you that for free
Brownygold002: Hey, n.landers. Sumtin has really been eating me up, I think I need 2 share. M a young gal of abt 17, m brown, tall, slim, Have a long curly hair(m from a mixed race_lebanon and nigeria), brown eyes and nice lips m endowed(no be mouth). M a fresher at UNIZIK. I knw am attractive which I don't deny, I don't boast nor make anyone feel inferior. I have 3 roommates. I respect them cos m d youngest amongst them. Buh they don't seem 2 get along with me. Av tried everything I Can. Each time we go out, m usually d center of attraction which is nt new 2 me nothing special. They just hate me. I don't boast. I try 2 look as simple as possible. Buh guys do come for me and they get jealous. Av tried talking 2 them buh they said they're fine buh deep down I Knw they don't like me. The other day they intentionally frustrated me, they hid my assignments and burnt a new gown a guy at church got me. M tired of all these attitude everyday. I feel lyk taking my life d hate is much. I didn't make myself. Help me guys!!
I’m sorry but you need to accept your blessings. It’s really hard for beautiful women. People will forever hate you for no reason, especially females.
Highways: Please help a brother. I want to send her flowers online from Nigeria to be delivered to her in Georgia this valentine. Do you think she will like it? Or prefer money like my naija babe?
1 rose and money. The rose dies after some days but she can use the money to do something.
They say this on the forum but most men will go for these girls. Men talk about how they want a decent, natural girl but normally these girls are the ones that normally get the guy.. am i lying?
ednut1: They cannot make good wives most times, travelling and luxury is their hobby. Taking care of the home kids and husband. Any reasonable person will go for the first option. Avoid them so you wont hear this is my lifestyle when una fight. Also many of them are olosho sleeping with musicians and arab men
What makes you arrive at that conclusion? Why does a woman enjoying life always have to be accused of having a blesser. Women make money too in this generation. So if someone models they no longer have nurturing skills? Oga just think about this your comment
First question, why will you expose your body for me to see? Did I ask you? Is there something you are trying to show me about your body? After I see your body does it make you a better person?
They are all prostitutes, people advertise their goods and that's exactly what they too are doing..... only mad people expose their body for nor reason, all others who do have something off their sleeves.
Kobojunkie: Really? So every white woman who posts pictures of herself in bikini also falls under those labels or is this a thing you have against black girls?
jeffizy: I try hard not to judge when I come across such pix online. Some are more comfortable exposing their skin than others.
But to answer your question, such pictures promotes and invokes lust in the mind of most men and I won't accept my girl to be a source of lustful desire for thirsty men.
Even if a girl doesn’t post . She could be walking down the street, men will still lust. Would you marry someone like this or would you expect them to change after marriage?
NovesaTillie: Good morning and merry Christmas everyone.
Please I'm in dilemma and really need some good advice. This guy and I have been on this relationship thing for 5 months now with occasional misunderstandings here and there. The first one was because he visited me and refused to go after the time he said he would leave, when he finally left I got back home from work only for the security to call me that I have a visitor at the main gate and behold it was him. I allowed him stay the night because he's a nice guy, really good in bed and also helps in the house to do stuff like wash the dishes and cooking.
Fast forward to December 15th we agreed he comes over and we spend the Christmas at my place then go to his place from 27th so we can enjoy the new year there. As we agreed, he came to my place on 17th of December and has not made any moves to leave or for us to go to his place. I am moved to create this thread because I got home from work yesterday and noticed more of his things have been arranged in the wardrobe with his shoes arranged by the front door..
Please how do I address this? I can't go on like this. He eats a lot. Snores also. Is relationship not supposed to be the other way around why is he moving into my apartment like I'm going to marry him We both stay in Abuja.
24brains: I saw her at the filling station in a GLK benz. i summoned the courage to approach her and she gave me her contact. i waited for a week before calling her.
i hosted her to a dinner and she showed up. i woo her and she fell. now she has given me her heart to love and to nurture, to cherish and to adore.
for this our love, we dey show ourselves and E dey shack us like gin and spirit drink. if i send her a gift, she doubles it in return. and if i doubled it, she triples it in return. she takes me out and clears the bill.
this is my first time with a rich babe and i decided to drop it on nairaland. my fellow nairalanders, there is peace of mind dating an asset oo. enough of liabilities with entittlement mentality.
Dabronze: If you are just getting into a relationship with a woman above 25 yrs or you are already dating these are the things you should know abou them. EXPERIENCE The women of these stage experience with many guyz in thier past relationship some have a lot of fun some bitterly damage PRETENDS These women a very good pretender in order to get something frm men they understand so much about psychology of men so use it to their advantage to get thing done their way by displayin kind of niceness to be on good side to get men's commitment they would facade the good girl mentality aslong as the men continue to fall for it THE WALL Women of these stage are already approaching the post-wall stage where their beauty will started fadiin away with tym. MARRIAGE Women of these stage are dying to settle down as a retirement after their hoeing phase when they are still hot they will be looking for men to provide them with nothig to offer and remain homestead. Loading..................... "please scroll down to continue"
This is very misleading. Make sure you don’t pass up a good woman due to silly theories. No one person is the same.
T3ndrils: Yes, probably what he said might be true I will not argue.
But are black/white women the only options in this world? Nah I don't think so—Philippines, Asians, Isreali, Greeks, Ethiopians and the rest what happened to them? (plus be reminded that there are actually more women in the world than there are men—so that's alot of options to cycle through)
Black woman are free by all means to date whoever they want—it's a free world after all.
I even know this cos truly most black American guys are raised to be weaklings (by high number of single mothers in the black community)
The only reason you'll see things like this is due to how guys make relationships their priority AND NOT THEIR GOALS which is wrong. Cos if relationships na your goal as a guy, you'd be subconsciously going to put your partner in a pedestal—and y'all know what that sh!t does to a woman.
I constantly live by this truth—"strong men build good times, good times breeds weak men, weak men cause hard times, hard times breeds back strong men"
So what do YOU do? Focus on GOALS Become addicted to it Sacrifice alot for it Take care of yourself ALOT TRAVEL OUT ALOT — This is actually where the fun is...cos you'd meet women that are neither WHITE NOR BLACK.
Solomon could man 1,000 women (princesses from high ranked kingdom) cos he was only focused on being the best king (his goal) which is why he asked for Wisdom from the Most High.
Two things to be learnt from here; Wisdom—read books and acquire knowledge/experience 1,000 women—abundance mentality
All i wanted to pass is good and bad people exist in every race and country. Don’t let the disappointment you may have experienced block you from your blessing. The grass isn’t always greener in the other side. Good luck
NuCypher: I have to say that Nigerian girls are about the most entitled lot in foreign countries. My experience with this bunch of people is, what can I say, completely underwhelming. Like what are you feeling like? This is what I also hear from some of my friends who are here in the US and Canada, and based on their experiences, they have decided to not touch Nigerian girls with a long spoon. This then is why most of them are very lonely in these countries. What are the problems you ask?
1. They believe they are the ones to "give" you sex. And that after having sex with them, you should show committment. I mean, biatch, you enjoyed it too. And I was working myself out for you to enjoy this session. What do you mean you "gave" me sex? 2. They expect to say "yes" first before you guys starting dating. After some romance here and there, the next question is "what are we?" Really? Okay, we are the world! I mean, come on!, you are in a foreign country, not Nigeria. Wake up, madam. 3. Once you say "hi" to them, they start to think you have ulterior motives. Just "hi" o! Nothing else. Abeg, madam, na your textbook I wan borrow o. I no even get interest. Yet, they start strutting up and down , thinking you have an agenda. 4. When, or rather if by some miracle, you get their number and start talking to them, they expect that you should be the one buzzing all the time, asking after them, checking up on them, in other words attention! Like you are not a human being yourself who needs to be checked up on. And when you don't bother to text them regularly, they just don't look your side anymore, don't even care if you are dead. This attitude is something they have imported from Nigeria, and only God knows how far they have taken it in the west.
In short, some of the most archaic dating practices is what they have stuck in their head. Somebody needs to tell them the truth. Little wonder, most naija guys here don't even look their side anymore. I have extrovert friends who are sexually active and who will tell you for free that they will never touch a naija girl. Very sad.
The strange part of this whole thing is that if the guy involved is not Nigerian, come and see how these girls will be running up and down to check up on the guy and act totally non-Nigerian. This part is something I'm still trying to understand.
Anyways, Naija girls una need to wake up. Unless una go grow old for Yankee without boyfriend and husband.
PriceNow: Please nairalanders, both male & female i need a little advice.
Inasmuch as i don't like disclosing my relationship problems to anyone, sometimes i have to let it out cos my personal judgement might not be entirely right so i seek your advice.
I have been dating this girl for 3 months now and i noticed she's an introverted person. But what bothers me is that i feel like am ignored in the relationship cos she has only called me once. i have confronted her before concerning this but she said it's very difficult for her to call anybody.
I have asked her if she has another boyfriend she said no, just that her ex is still disturbing her.
i really don't know what to do cos i feel like i'm the only one taking the whole thing seriously, like if i stop dragging this relationship it will just die off and i'm now tired already. I have asked her for a breakup before explaining my predicament but she was very sad at it so we made up. I myself I am an introvert too so i don't know how this will work out.
This is the issues i'm having with her apart from that we are happy more than we're sad and this is the only i have dated and wished to marry cos she's different. Please talk to me honestly.
If you don’t receive the same energy you give..fall back. Relationships are about to people running toward each other than one putting maximum effort. Good luck
blessingchinny: had issues with my guy. I was literally at fault as I sent him a hurtful message over an assumption without clarifying from him.
He blocked me on both WhatsApp and Facebook. I changed a number and chatted him on WhatsApp, he still blocked it. I finally got through him with my friend's WhatsApp number. After several attempts, he finally picked my calls. He talked so calmly to me, and asked why I reacted that way, I said nothing, but was only apologizing. He said he will talk to me later. He expressed how hurt he was, and reminded me that it wasn't the first time I was doing that. I kept apologizing, promising him that it won't happen again. I waited for his call,, to no avail. I texted again, he still blocked me, and left the message. " I need space for now, I am sorry. Is that a good bye message?
Yes. Understand that I do not believe in that point of view either. What I did was to present the biased beliefs most men have on the matter, as basic as they are. I am not viewing this matter from a moral point of view. Morality has its own biases.
Can a Man have a reason to cheat? Whether flimsy or serious? The answer is Yes. Can a Woman also have reasons to cheat? Whether flimsy or serious? The answer is also a Yes. Can they each decide not to cheat if they want? The answer is Yes. The violent, religious, societal and cultural ''gates'' imposed on women and the slut-shaming are no longer working as effectively as they used to.
Let no one therefore claim that they have the monopoly of being sluts.
I acknowledge your own point of view though. Your statement that ''A cheat is a cheat, a man loses value just as a woman loses value. Imagine one submitting themselves to all those soul ties''.
Men feel that cheating is worse felt by them when a woman does it. To men, when they cheat they don’t do it with their full emotions. “It is just sex”. They don’t secretly sneak another woman’s baby home for their partners to nurture. Men feel a cheating woman bruises their pride and their egos. Men also claim when a woman cheats, she does so with so much emotion and does not love her husband or spouse or mate anymore.
So you have to understand where these men you are bantering with are bringing their logic from. Clearly, from a point of view where what is good for the goose isn’t good for the gander.
Like I initially posted, who says women need to write to the senate to cheat? More women are getting bolder. Women are becoming more economically independent. Women have access to Apps like Tinder, etc. I am not here to discuss morality. MEN CAN CHEAT AND A WOMAN CAN ALSO NOW CHEAT IF SHE PLEASES. It was societal pressures and culture and tradition that hindered women. The societal double standards are now being destroyed right before our eyes. The rights to uncontrollable and unhindered pleasures of the flesh are no more domiciled with the gender bearing brute strength.
No single gender should claim absolute rights to cheat. Nature did not create a gateman to stop one gender from cheating and allow another to freely do so. Does a man have sexual desires he wants satisfied and can he get it from women(or perhaps another man)? Yes. Does a woman have sexual desires she wants satisfied and can she get the satisfaction from men (or perhaps another/other women)? The answer is a resounding yes! Both genders have the brain and free will to give their bodies out. Let no one see the other as “more shameful”.
Let everyone decide to cheat or not to cheat. But please remember no one owes you anything. Eventually people will do what they want to do.
I don’t want to cheat. My personal decision. Not because I am a saint and not tempted. But I value all relationships I get myself into. I take time to chose and I invest in it. If she cheats. Then so be it. Relationship over. Wetin dey this life wey we dey stress sef? Who has the fundamental right to use their peni ses and vaginas with whoever, whenever and however they want? Both genders can and do.
Thank you for passing your point without aggression. I agree with your write up except the part you said men cheat just to and women cheat with emotions. Whoever came up with that is misinforming people. A cheat is a cheat, a man loses value just as a woman loses value. Imagine one submitting themselves to all those soul ties.
I doubt you have a mother, but if you do i guess she will die soon. Because having a poison like you will definitely kill her.
Now down to tbe matter, I can't exchange points with a mind on emergency. I never expected more from a slut, i didn't expected less and you didn't disappoint your clan. You will always support your trade, since your pot is itchy let men keep scratching it lol.
I pity any man wifing or planning to wife you. Bastard fly.
Its nice being behind a keyboard. From your mouth to Gods ears. I pray you heal from the rage you feel. I understand when people have no point they tend to insult people. I was going to wish you everything you wish me but I will leave it to God. Be blessed �
You made a valid point but your misandry got the better of you, sadly. Y
Yes, we can all agree that brideprice is a masculine thing, which some see as some sort of oppression. No one should argue that with you. You made a valid point there.
However, on taking responsibility, in Africa here and Nigeria in particular, in 9 out of 10 marriages, men take more than 90% of the financial burden. Don't come and start saying bullshit that women do bla bla bla too. Men do most of the givings, financially. Far more so. I know and I'm talking from experience. I have met many families but I have not met one female breadwinner. Even if she was, it is wholly temporary It is never a long term thing. It is rare.
The average Nigerian man deserves his wife's fidelity more than she deserves his. I am serious. Men like to win a woman's heart with money, but whose heart can't be won with money? Answer me?
And if the person is gotten with money, you'd expect extreme fidelity - that's why your employee would talk to you anyhow and you would be off to work very early the next morning.
Imagine that I got married to one of Bezos daughter and she brings the money, don't you think that she deserves my 2000% loyalty? Yes, absolutely she does. I mean, it's common sense.
Wow.. fidelity based on who has more money. God help us
3plet: If this was a general view trust me we would have less divorce in our society...but then religion and tradition has destroyed the ability to rationalize.
I swear love is easy, humans on the other hand are so complicated
silibaba: am sorry I sound like that, it wasn't intentional. for a married woman cheating? mehn, is so disgusting to me. I hate indecent dressing in women/girls talk more extra-marital affair.
am not taking side in men, but I abhor seeing married women doing nonsense.
if I get married and find my wife in the act, I will set her ablaze, I wont bother about the law that will hang me later
If you’re caught cheating. Should you be set ablaze? Who has not fallen short of God’s glory?
obyrich: I am not pained at all. I made my point and have no I'll will towards you. I have also made my observation about your comment and advised you. This is a faceless forum and I expect you respond with decorum to people. Make your points without insults. I hope you don't expect me to continue haggling on this over-flogged topic?
I just don’t understand some of these man babies we have left in society. If someone doesn’t agree with their perspective they resort to name calling or sexualizing you. So sad the society we live in today. Some men are not even mentally stable to want to be in a marriage
silibaba: if you are married, please come make i fvck your punana pls nah. dont mind that your stupid boy you keep at home as a husband. i will do you fine sha
Just by reading your comment I can tell sometimes people can read/listen but fail to comprehend.
Family / Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 1:36am On Jan 02
