Klass99:
Less is more and simplicity is bae. I like what I see ;

1. Baby girl is well covered up, zero nudity and indecent exposure of private parts, in the name of slaying wedding gown.

2. Bride and groom look good together and individually.

3. They seem to know what's important - quality over quantity, a lifetime together ahead of them and not a fanfare wedding ceremony for just one day.

4. They kept it short, sweet and simple. Indicative of people with a mind of their own, who actually think and make their own choices.

Zero nudity with that cleavage up there?

Tripitaka:
So, I plan to propose to my partner of 2yrs before the end of the first quadrimester.

I must say she has been a blessing to me and ticks 90% of the boxes in terms of what an ideal partner is. Even though I haven't proposed to her, overtime she believes we will get married some day.

Now, in the lead up to this proposal certain thoughts have been running through my head and these include:

● How will my first meeting with her parents be? What if the dad doesnt like me? Heard he is very strict.

● How much do I need to budget for a proper but modest ceremony? She is the jewel in her family and honestly deserve a proper ceremony, even though not expensive.

● How do I pop the question? Yes, it doesnt have to be exquisite, but I want to give her a memory.

● How many kids will we have and what if we dont get the genders we want amongst this number?

● What if she becomes a different person after the wedding? I can say that I know her to a high degree; but then she is another human.

● How will the logistics for the wedding be done considering I stay in the North Central, my family lives in the SE while hers live in the SS.

● Will she expect me to post her on my Whatsapp? This is considering that I haven't posted a picture there in 4yrs.

● Will I still be able to get my usual alone time?

● Will she always trust my judgement just as she does now?

● What if she is influenced by her mother? I'm aware that most mother-in-laws have a huge say in their daughter's marriage with the man being ignorant of this.

● Will she love my family?

● What if we have financial difficulties?

My question is this, do women have these same worries as men do before their marriage or do they just believe that everything will be fine?

Please this thread is for women to chip in the thoughts that occupied their minds the most in the lead up to their marriage.

No need replying if you're not a woman.

Some of you are just weird. Why not take time to study her and ask her some of these directly? Am I supposed to tell you the number of children you should have or if she will love your family?

NOC1:
Simple question you should ask yourself is this.

How and who dogged the grave?

assuming the grave was dogged by the help of an excavator, why did it not sunk in the process of laying the supposed lawyer to rest?

was the grave reinforced during the digging process?

Your Grammar will discourage any intelligent response.

muller101:
Oga the way he wrote it was as if all 3 security protocols were activated.

All are activated on my phone. I can unlock at anytime with any of the three. Hide your ignorance.

muller101:
One phone having face recognition, finger print and code lock. I won't say anything.

My phone has all that as well.

reiddecuti:
Don't know how to play that game or understanding the roles that govern it.


RIP sir!

Rules

yesloaded:


She made her choice, wish her well instead of speculation

The likes of Mercy Johnson, omotola jalade etc married young men and are enjoying their marriage to the fullest

Do you live with them?

loffyloffy:
The assumption that if you marry your specs everything after will turn out perfect is a mirage.

No matter who you marry, there will come a time when the attraction won't be like the courting days again, and that is when your commitment will be challenged.

Your marriage is what you make it, and choosing to appreciate and nourishing your wife is a choice.

When you appreciate her, you will see her appreciate in value.

Also don't be too prudish to not wanting to try out new things. Dresses , Toys, etc can really help to renew things between you and your wife.

The problem with cheating is that it never ends..you will find yourself moving from girls to girls...there is no end to it.. Until you catch a serious disease.

Cheat with your wife instead..drop the kids with your parents and book yourself and wife into an hotel for the weekend...you will be surprised at how hard your it can be

The most reasonable comment here. Op listen to this.

koolib:
I am in Uyo and I can tell you that the girl took a bold step. There are many ladies here who seek attention by walking almost naked. Sad enough, many young guys are not ready for marriage due to economic constraints. Marrying in Akwa-Ibom comes with a lot of responsibilities. I think the way out is to encourage polygamy so that many beautiful young ladies will be dignified with marriage.

So marriage dignifies people?

meobizy:
Humans come in all shapes and sizes. Though, if I was God, I'd create a world consisting of 5'8 men and 5'2 women.

Thank heavens you are not God.

naturefellow:
court wedding isn't soluble?

Did I say it wasn't? The op said one week to her wedding... I only informed her that she was already married.

naturefellow:
Divorce Irreconcilable differences?

I'm sure you are attempting to communicate. Keep trying.

Dee60:


Where did you read that court wedding has been done?

Lady, speak to your parents or your pastor (if you are a Christian) and get counsel.

If you were my daughter I wont let you run into what looks like a snare.

It only becomes too late after you have taken your vows. before then, use your senses.

His third point. Learn to read thoroughly.

Johncuppa:

Court marriage is a formality and allows for divorce, only church marriage put covenant into marriage and divorce forbidden as commanded by God.

She can still call it off before putting God as a witness

By the way, I didn't read the court marriage part.
Where is it?

Stop twisting the Bible to suit your desires. God hates divorce. Divorce is divorce no matter where the marriage took place. So God lives only in the church? I hope you also realize that they pray and sing in the court before the marriage? God was very much a witness there. Finally, learn to read. Read his third point to see where Registry marriage was mentioned.

timota:

No,they are not married ,the only marriage recognized by God is traditional wedding,what we call court wedding is court registry ,while white wedding is mere marriage blessing in the church.

Oga they are Legally married. Nobody said traditional wedding is not valid. All the forms of marriage are recognized. The whole point is that they are already married according to the law.

Eddodoh:
I stop work today. I am very hopeful that better opportunity will soon come up. I feel like I am being released from prison.

Many people asking where have I being cos I only went for off once this year.

I wish you all the best.

SegFault:

Well, she still has to seal it in the church. So...

The registry marriage is the one with the real certificate. The church marriage in this case is just to fulfill all righteousness. She is already married. She can even get a divorce.

SegFault:
All this nonsense self, auntie tell your friend this.
Marriage is a union that is meant to last till death, the worst is thing is when kids come in, separation would be disastrous. Living with someone ain't easy talk more about living with someone for the rest of your life, this man is obviously terrible and is showing early signs of a catastrophic failure, she should call it off and have her peace of mind but it is all her choice after all, our choices will always be regrettable but the weight of such regrets differ and the fruits of such choices different. Living in a polygamous home I'd terrible forget ned nwoko you don't know what they face internally, you only see what people want you to see on social media.

Am I the only one that read that they already had a court wedding? Doesn't it mean she is married?

CSoul:
(Created this new account to post for a sister)



Please help advice a sister in confusion.....


Background:


"I reconnected with my old school toaster who always spoke marriage and love.
Got serious in 5 months.
I've met a lot of people from his end within this period.
He shows me off.
Introduction was done and wedding date fixed."

Issues:
Traditional is barely a week away; yet she's bleeding and scared of the future because of her discoveries:

1. The husband to be has anger issues. Ok, he's all nice and good when in good mood. But once something triggers him, all hell is let loose. The trigger can be a simple missing his call(while at work/meeting). No amount of sweet talk or explanations calms him down.

2. The shocker is that he cheats/has a fuckmate living nearby. She discovered this with evidence from their chats and hasn't been herself. The chat is detailed description of their exploits right up to the present and future plans how they'll continue after he's married. (From same chat, the other lady is aware he's getting married.
He tried denying it; when it didn't work he started making excuses/begging he'll change.

3. He doesn't want any third party intervention in their affairs, not even counseling.

She's scared of the future and yet feels stuck as court marriage is done already, most preparations have been done(publicity and most of other physical arrangements), both for the traditional and wedding.


Kindly give your mature advice; she'll be reading every bit of it.
(Admin kindly push to front page)

Too late for all this talk. I read the court wedding has taken place. She is already married. Let her carry her cross.

eedimo:
when has it become a norm to "rock baby bump" in our culture?
I'm really behind the latest trends.

If my wife try this sh!t, she's gonna give birth in her father's house.

Live and let live. Will she be the first to give birth in her father's house?

How does a husband give his adult wife curfew at 4pm for that matter? OP you saw these signs before and probably thought it was love. I pray he changes. This makes no sense whatsoever to me.

Irennediva:
That's the only thing the Olosho sabi.
It's like Olosho get levels.
She's low budget Olosho.
While this one below is high budget Olosho.

The future is Female

I hope nobody on this Forum ever mistakes you for me.

tuzle:
same thing I wanted to ask, how was a student able to part away with 150k?

Are you really serious? In 2021? Wealthy parents, side hustle, school fee, money for rent

princemillla:
He better make it private otherwise he can be arrested.

If his hands is clean how come he parted away such amount ? But then I thought police has learnt their lessons? What’s has changed ?

Learn to read. The policemen have been arrested already. So don't you think the case is already under investigation?

post=98908786:
Take this from the man of God.

The women below are at the Top of their career, with beautiful families and they all still respect their husbands at home.

You live with all of them?

mabeni:
Funny thing is that she did introduction and the Pastor is aware of it. And in all honesty the guy's wants to marry her

Is introduction marriage?

Stockquality:
The question to be asked is,what it a benz that was towed to their office. Cos thats the only car that gave her the right and odasity to lunch a slap,or is she a supermarket owner??

Audacity not odasity.

pocohantas:


The house is not too bad to be honest and I like that she has gotten a mastery of how things work. I like the part where she said they take turns to pump water with their generators, lol. Typical Nigerian arrangement.

The problem here is that the ease of life in her country isn’t in Nigeria. To have such a life, the guy must have money. If he had money, he won’t be with a midnight newspaper for papers.

Last last, contrary to popular (Nairaland) opinion, most young Caucasians won’t follow a struggling negro because of some fairy tale love. That is why even black entertainers peak in wealth before they go for white women.

Calling your fellow woman 'midnight newspaper' sounds great to you, right?

phantom24:
Take gud care of this one pls. Thoug i dnt really support advertising private/ family activities on social media.

Who cares about your opinion?

BeautifulGee:
i love her dress sense... descent and creative. happy birthday honey.

Decent not 'descent'.