rain21:
Well, I think human nature made women to be more caring and accommodating towards kids more than men. in the animal world, the female species are known for tending to their young..lyk the mother-hen protects it's chicks.
Not absolving the men totally tho they can do better, but comparing the male and female gender on child care is totally uncalled for,cos women are wired to adequately cater for their babies with or without their fathers that doesn't necessarily mean that the man is dead-beat.
I would rather pick a woman tending to a kid less than ten than a man doing so no matter how good the man is as a father.

In this case, op should let the grandma have her(as I suggested earlier) while the dad visit very often and financially assist.

Human nature does not make anybody more caring. There are still men that refuse to marry and take care of their kids as widows do. These things are choices that people make.

Kylekent59:


Woman that is not a black necked spitting cobra. Do you know how long I had studied snakes before?

Do you know how many I have killed when I at work at a construction site?

I know a spitting cobra when I see one and non spitting ones.

Spitting cobra would like curving its neck backward when cornered, just like if you wanna throw a cough in your throat, you raise the cough up, move your head backwards with the help of the neck, and then you spit it out. So does spitting cobra does.

The non-spitting ones would keep their head to the ground. They pretend to be dead or wrap themselves up.


There are many ways to identify a snake

1. Colour
2. Shape of head
3. Fangs
4. Tail
5. Type of body; thick, shinning,smooth
6. Eyes
7. Neck
8. Belly
9. Belly lining wall
10. Mouth( e.g black mamba has a black mouth inside)
11. Environment
12. Shape of egg
13. Speed, movement
14. Climbers
15. Skin (like pythons and Anacondas have spots)
16. Scales
17. Position of venom gland
18. Heat sensor
Many more

How can you differentiate between a green mamba and a black mamba

A boomslang and green snake

Spitting cobra and a non-spitting cobra

A puff adder and a viper

Yellow bellied snake and a red bellied snake

A cotton mouth and a water maccuson


A Zoologist brought back home a green snake not knowing it's a venomous boomsland thinking it was a new specie, he even gave his children to play with but they were scared. The snake bit him, immediately after that, he started feeling uncomfortable, he rushed to the hospital, but it was too late.

He died.


You can Google about a zoologist that brought back home a boomslang thinking it was a garden green snake

Bask in your ignorance.

guiddoti:
Red bellied and black necked is equal to snake? I am still searching for the real name, Lala Crobra.

Oga the real name is 'black necked spitting cobra'. It can't get any 'realer'.

Kylekent59:
That's a red-bellied snake. It's not venomous but they could constrict their preys.

I wonder why someone who has seen the snake's stomach lining being "red" and still calls it a black mamba and illiterates line up to support him


Olodo youths, that's not a black mamba. A black mamba is grey in colour, sometimes light brown, others could be black but rare.


When you wanna kill or corner a black mamba, it opens it mouth and keeps hissing. The inside of its mouth is very black; it is trying to tell you to see inside of its mouth, that it is black and it can kill you; move away from me, don't come near me, I can kill you, I don't wanna kill you, I won't chase you, just go your way or else I would bite and inject venom inside you.


Even a normal human being, when he or she or even any animal sights its mouth, moving away is the best option.

You are also an illiterate and an olodo. This is a black necked spitting cobra not a red bellied snake.

arowolo:


You are totally wrong. You said a black neck cobra.

She is right.

MicroSweet:
Isn't that a Koala?

How are thy similar? Did you even look at the ears?

sassysure:

It's not bitterness but the truth.
Threads here have shown countless times that our men are seriously lacking and yes, it has affected their reasoning and initiatives as role models.

E.g., u see a British man doing what he is supposed to do for his family as a man. He works, wife works and they both take care of the house and child.
Now, if he is an administrator, he will help sponsor a family oriented bill cos he knows what it takes to be a family man. If he is a biz man, he will know that it takes more than money to make a family so he has to create room and time for his family.
The child grow up balanced. Not loving mother more. Cos of the way that child was brought up, he uses the same format, changing more rules to favour parents and child.

But look at all the laws we have in Nigeria, none is family oriented. Cos the men don't see child bonding with his father as an issue. It has churned out very aggressive and anti female men all over who believe that when u make the money, u will get the lady and extend the treatment to their kids unknowingly.
And the circle continues.

Very pathetic situation. A man loses his wife and has to look for where to dump his daughter until when?

Came4amod:


I know why u r saying it not a mamba and u r wrong.. because of the eye .. when a snake is dead .. it looks different.. I need the owner of the picture to tell if inside of the mouth was black
. And we can be sure its mamba

The inner pupil is getting shut because it's dead.. all the pictures you are using for comparison are living snakes .. madam this is a mamba .. the pupil is half shut its eyes are round
.

No black mamba in Nigeria. Even if there were, not up to twenty in one particular location.

Acidosis:


A man can't do much especially when he has to leave his house in the early hours and return late at night. I think it's better (and safer) to have the child live with a trusted sibling than hire a live-in (female) nanny.

A man can do much. Widows leave the house early and return late at night as well and still take care of their kids. This is no excuse.

Came4amod:


U are passing information that you know nothing about .. and something that can cost people's life
That's a black mamba and it's a highly venomous snake .. it has a neurotoxic venom can can kill a grown man in mins .. so next time use your head

Here we go again. This is not a black mamba.

Dehindepgenius:
That's a sloth.

Modified-- It is a slow Loris like some have postulated and not a sloth. I just read up on them. The world is an amazing place.

It is a potto actually.

virago:


Bush baby ko bush adult ni , that is a sloth

Sloth ko sloth ni. It is a potto.

jizzyfarms:


Was there a reason to be insultive??

This is not an insult. You sounded so sure when you were very wrong and this black mamba issue has been going on for a while. That was the only way to get to you.

jizzyfarms:


The picture posted by op is clearly a black mamber, d one posted by byteem is a Mozambique spitting cobra

Try to help yourself sometimes. Read stuff, use Google. A simple google search will tell you that there is no black mamba in Nigeria. Even if there is 1, it will be impossible to kill 20 in a particular location.

eduman365:

Ok... What snake is it then, educate me pls, with facts! Thanks.

Most likely a rat snake. You can't find a black mamba in Nigeria.

eduman365:


That's not black... It's dark silvery... I made a mistake with my description. It is a black mamba actually.

It is not a black mamba oooo!

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents. My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor , they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money , he drinks and smoke but he is a good guy , he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water. So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again. So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October. She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened. Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house. I’m
Feeling helpless

You said your guy is a good guy. This is what good guys do? Good guys impregnate 15 year olds? Good guys frame people up?

safarigirl:
so, she's one of thise pageantwhores that hop from one pageant to another and hope the next one clicks?

A lot of these sort of women are only looking at pageants as a way to find one rich mugu that will marry them and put inside house as beauty Queen wives.

I hope this one that she has won will help her achieve her aim and she can stop the pageantwhoring. Amazing how many pageants she has applied for and been in at the age of 20, I wonder what time she has to actually study

Good for her

All this hate for someone you don't even know?

1Sharon:


Pls use your common sense, you can fluff it out with your fingers

And if it's short, just leave it:

Use my common sense? The picture looks like an African baby's hair fluffed out with fingers? Okay

1Sharon:


Yes !

One size fits all? What if the hair is short? pressed at the side she slept on? Just tie it everyday? okay

1Sharon:


All you have to do is tie it

Without combing?

tot:


Your hair type must be 4xyz in that case
I am yet to see a hair type that would be hard after it's well moisturized.

Some of us do o. So its just better to braid to prevent it from breaking and pain.

fieryy:


You're supposed to add a leave in on damp hair before combing and comb from the ends to the roots to gently remove any knots in the way.

I do all that and my hair is still hard. So speak for only yourself.

fieryy:


Water, leave in and oil is all what you need. I packed my hair in a bun/puff almost everyday last year. The daily styling itself took me ca. 5 mins. What had really been time consuming was the weekly washing and conditioning

Please speak for yourself. People use that and still have hard hair.

Ipheeoma24:
Must everything be about marriage in this country imagine i just finished my nysc and my neighbor's r already singing it in my ears none of them have asked me oo what are your dreams and goals especially igbo people I just tire that hw one stupid guy was also telling me that more respect r accorded to married women so if u dey find respect better run go marry ....mental slavery

My dear. I'm just tired. Deeply ashamed that we are still on this level in almost 2020.

bukatyne:


You think marriage & dream chasing are mutual exclusive, I don't. In fact, some dreams would never be fulfilled until marriage. Imagine someone who wants to be the president of Nigeria: he/she must be married.

You also think marriage should come whenever they choose without preparation.

Why do you think there are a lot of happily never afters?

Because they let marriage happen and did not prepare for it.

And I do not necessarily think a teenager should be married: I said they should be prepared for marriage.

And I do not believe in people living loose, purposeless lives in the name of freedom or growing up.

Most of them never recover from the damage inflicted on their body, spirit and soul.

The person you marry is the 2nd most important decision you will make in life.

Not everyone wants to marry. Young adults that want to marry should prepare for it. Your purpose on earth is more important. I wonder the kind of preparation that starts from teenage stage. Lack of preparation for marriage makes people live loose, purposeless lives? And yes, some marriages can slow down/kill your dreams. It is always better to be on something or on your way at least before getting married. My last comment on this.

bukatyne:
Teenagers should be prepared for marriage.

They should also be taught and be guided on the journey of self discovery.

That way, they automatically know the spouses food for them.

They marry early, fulfill their dreams and live happily ever after

Please, teenagers should be taught to pursue their dreams with all they can. Marriage should come whenever they choose or when they have some things in place. How many people live happily ever after when they marry?

bukatyne:
Teenagers should be prepared for marriage.
They should also be taught and be guided on the journey of self discovery.
That way, they automatically know the spouses food for them.
They marry early, fulfill their dreams and live happily ever after

Is this sarcasm?

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Simple yes or no would have been enough. Stop being erratic.

You have comprehension issues.

luminouz:




There it is,the inability to process humor or being able to take life at face value without getting ticked off.


You have self control issues babe

After being rude you want to try to be funny? Who has your time?

livebyday:



You confuse supporting each other with adopting a child in the name.of your girl friend.

Fix your own damn life, I am here and have my responsibilities too, I have got sibblings, cousins and other extended family , sick family members but you also want me to add drawing up a life plan for you to all that?

Don't forget work, I have so much work load and because I can't help you plan how to fix your life it makes me a bad person ?

Because I realize you are too lazy to fix your own life and I want to move on then I am a bad man?

Go figure

Nobody can fix anybody oga. You don't even understand. Abeg bye.

luminouz:



You are the local hen babe

I don't understand this post please. You have to live with local hens or be one to know how they behave. Are you or your sisters and future or present daughters hens? What is a local hen? Do we have foreign hens?