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Gokoyer1401:
Mark it down, he will start using 'sir' for you as soon as you starts getting change in your pocket.

Thank you

cassyrooy:
Anything that cannot make you happy should have no hand in your unhappy state.

Forget your brother, he's simply ignorant of this unprecedented time in your life. Ghost the hell out of him and concentrate on you.

Him go learn the hard way.

Thanks for the advice.

Greenback:
What!!!!
You are 26 and hes 17!!
Wait o,do you have any physical structure less than him? I mean,is he taller or bulky than you are?
Guy beat the hell out of him seriously. Don't mind those peeps saying buy this n that for him,for what nah,are you born to be pampering your junior?
See what should be more of a concern to you and everyone is your education and him being into internet scam cos one day,he might end up caught and disgracing you your family.

Stop doing petty things,keep studying to be a better person,keep a group of bright acada guys and if possible,get something doing for the time being.

Thanks bro!
Yeah he is taller than me that's why he feels he is in control.

BlueKiddo:
@op how old is this brother of your's

17yrs

teedoxman89:
Bros no vex oo.. first. The yahoo he is into has he been cashing out a lot,

No he hasn't

does he gives ur parent money?

No he doesn't

Does ur parent support his yahoo

Yes they do cos the last time I cautioned him they got angry at me

[qoute]What kind of friends does he keep?[/quote]Many of his friends are far below his age

Is he a bit supportive at home?

No

And you have you been staying home a lot due to the strike?
From morning till night does he sees you?

Yes

If yes then bro it will be very hard because if you aren’t involve in providing little at home, no one will respect you if you don’t have money. But if truely your home is a very strict one, don’t beat him at all. Seize his phone and laptop that he uses for the yahoo he is only doing those because of the 25$ to 100$ gift card client Gives him.

quentin06:
Are you a lady or a guy? Why will your younger brother hate you so much? Is he sponsoring your education,? your data is incomplete need for info for better advice.

I'm a guy.
He is still in secondary school and does'nt support me in anyway.
I don't know why he disregards me that much cos I do advice him and mind my business often.

legacystore:
First how old is your younger brother?

How many years u take senior him?

If he insults you publicly to ur face pls don't ignore, always caution him and remind you are his elder n demands some respects from him.

Overall kw that u can't force respect u earn respect. Are u being a true elder brother to him, beyond giving him advice how many times have I given him a gift even if na boxers n singlet?

U need to act like an assist father to him to earn the respect u seek n show him love.

He is 17yrs old and I'm 26yrs.
Whenever I caution him he looks for another way to make fun of me.
I do give him money sometimes.

Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

Ginaz:
It hurts me , this is my only blood sibling, I wouldn’t have cared much if it wasn’t so. Well thanks for your encouraging words.

Trust me I know how it feels when you truely desire to be united with your sibling but she acts indifferent and unconcerned.

I am currently experiencing the same thing with my elder sister. I tried calling her to order and making her see reasons that we're one family and not enemies but she got angry the more so I kept my distance.

Do not cut her off just let her be and give her the space she craves for. As time goes on you'll discover a friend that sticks closer than a sibling so move on.

halogate:
..toh!!
...my brother, move on oooo.
..move on!!
..na one life person get, no waste am on the wrong matter

I hear you brother. Thanks for the advice!

halogate:
hmm...

..my 2coinz?.

.. ask her if she has anything against u...she should let u know so u can make amends.

... whether she voices out or not is left to her...
..tell her ur sorry if uv offended her in the past in anyway.

..and with a clear conscience....

..MOVE THE FK ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!!!!...

.. na she sabi wetin dey worry her.....but let her not use it to frustrate ur life.

#peace

I did ask her what wrong I did but she's always in the habit of shouting and saying I have no right to ask her anything.

frozen70:
Am very glad she made it known to you that she doesn't care

You know what, don't excommunicate her but bear I mind that you don't ha e a sister in her person

Struggle very well so that you don't ever depend on her

Make sure you take your junior one along as you go

A time will come she will news that unity, by then it's your shell she will be dealing with

She is I her own world, wat h and see how she is going to swim with out a life jacket

Just ignore her and move on

You don't know her agreement with her gods

You've spoken well!
Thanks for the advice.

eliash:
it seems like you are really have vast knowledge in this aspect would love I could get a medium to chat with you

You can learn more about Fiverr here:
https://www.nairaland.com/2947212/exclusive-how-make-level-2

zeenaman:
You have experience, man. I got a job with one big man then just within a few months of my coming to the city. I came to stay with my sister and her husband in the city back then. I thought I had a good and loving sister, since we only spent the early parts of our lives together. I never knew that envy can turn people into the worst unimaginable monsters. My sister was like.. Even married men with families who have been in the city for four years are not earning what the man was paying. She said this bitterly but I didn't take it too seriously ; that innocent trust was still there. Guess what? My sister told somehow that the man will soon sack me because I was too slow and unsmart. I didn't believe that when the person she told related it to me. When I didn't get sacked, my sister called me and was advising me. She said the work looked too stressful on me that I should quit. Hahaha..


Secondly I got admission into polytechnic and university, she advised me to go to poly. I really have a sister o. But
now she's forming the best sister to me. I'm just observing her with interest


Another time, while having serious tasks ahead of me back in school, she insisted I come home for treatment because I was having little fever. Not like she cared o. This life is full of things. You are extremely lucky when you have loving siblings. I have lost trust in her completely. She can never make up for her flaws. She's not even aware that I know her so much. I just act normal
She always wanted to unite with others so that they can hurt me. She told my uncle who was my only pillar when I was in school to stop helping, that I was not the only that needed help in the family. She even said I won't be useful to the family when I make it. I don't understand what I did to her but I never cared to ask or know. Life goes on. But I still love her from my heart. I pray for her always

That's deep. Thanks for sharing!

eliash:
Sir I wish the motivation was there...I could not find any company where I could drop my CV

Try to set up an account on Fiverr or Upwork.

zeenaman:
Your case is better. What if she smiles with you but secretly wants you to fail utterly in life? She sees you as a rival. Maybe she didn't have the chance of going to school and you want her to sponsor you. My own sister once told me that. But when she saw the determination in me, knowing that I was going to make it with or without her, she shamefully supported me with lots of grudges though, and I don't even really value her help. She won't have helped if my success solely depended on her. But she's taking the glory of seeing me through school now.
In life, we have to give up all sense of entitlement. No one is owing anyone anything, except maybe one's parents. But whatever you do, don't break the family tie. Always be peaceful with her

Well thought out!
Thanks for contributing.

femi4:
These days , siblings don't get along especially when their parents are no more e.g psquare. Worry less, yours will not be the first or the last, mind your biz and concentrate on yourself and nuclear family. Last last, everyone will be alright

OK I'll definitely mind my business. Thanks!

spiralwedge:
Kenwills, you are lucky she showed her attitude and vocalised it now. Not when you start having kids, and you send your kids to spend a few days with her.

See, cut all ties and ensure to block her on all SM, otherwise she will monitor you. If you end up being successful, she's the type who will, out of envy, write false accusations to your company or church or wherever you are held in high esteem.

However, the reasons i can reckon for her attitude is probably some things that happened while you were growing up together.

Since she's the eldest, she would have been old enough to know those things and you were too young to know or care. Might be some struggles between you lot or it might be parenting defaults or it might be some info she was privy to about your parents. It might also be that a spiritualist has said something about your family and she's trying to do away with further misfortunes by identifying with you lot.

So, find your path bro. Be prayerful and be focussed. Dont forget to watch your back too.

Alright thanks for the advice.

poiunt:
Dont be there for anyone that wasn't there for you.

Since you called a meeting and she didn't agree to your suggestion, leave her, block her and move on with your life.

You guys are now strangers...never look for anyone not interested in you even if they are siblings.

If you become successful tomorrow, the only reason they will come for you is to be entitled and give you lot of bills, once you go broke, they move away.

Avoid that sister of yours when poor or rich.

Alright thanks for your contribution.

Annwrites:
Your relationship with your sister is presently not healthy. Give her the space she desperately asked for. You deserve better.

Not all relationship with ones sibling is rosy. Go about your life on your own. You could call her once in a while to check up on her. But try not to ask her for anything.

However, try not to hold this against her. Be ready to be there for her if need be in the future.

Thanks for the advice. I appreciate!

Abdulhakeem78:
@Kenwills, accept her the way she is and be more focus on your achievements. I believe if you make it to the top she would definitely love to be around you. Money calls people to your presence while poverty distances them from you. Work on your success, I believe she will come to you either directly or indirectly.

Thanks bro!

Righteousness89:
This is where you Consult My DADDY who Has the Heart of Man in His Hands..

Be the Instrument that God will use to bring your Family together..

It's Very Important that we Know God and Surrender to JESUS, not Just in Mouth but indeed..

When there is a Problem we stand in the Gap to pray.

Problems like this goes on for long when there is no one to Stand in the Gap in Prayers..

OK I'll pray over it. Thanks!

Ugaboy:
you have to live your life without her, make sure u build a life in such that she wont resist to get reach you.
look i started with with you & ended you, cus only you can do it better, she owe you nothing.

Alright thanks

Tocynone:
I believe everyone has their own challenges.
She may be going through a lot without informing you.
Just give her more time

OK thanks for your input.

Hello nairalanders, I've been on this forum for a longtime but I decided to create a new account to remain anonymous.

We are just 3 but my elder sister always feels unconcerned about I and my younger brother to the extent that if I don't call to check on her she never does, she ceases any opportunity to talk bad about me to anyone who cares to listen and since I've been in school, she has never bothered to know who foot my bills, pays my fees nor how I survive. I felt uncomfortable with this attitude because she has been like this since childhood.

So I approached her recently, and asked her why she behaves as though I'm an enemy to her. I made her see reasons why we should lookout for each other and hold no grudges against one another, seeing that our parents is no more. But she flared up suddenly and started shouting at the top of her voice, that we have no business at all and whatever I become tomorrow is none of her business either, that I should stay away from her henceforth cos she's never going to support me in any way.

I was heartbroken to hear what has been on her mind over an unknown issue because I only wanted us to be united as one family. Pls I need your advice, if you were in my shoes what would you do?