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Kingfanak:
Hi xxxtedyxxx, i really love your thread it help, op i have a gf am on love with but is a distance relationship and she is the only girl i love but she is always asking me that how is her rivals? And i will assure her that she has no rival and she should trust me but she will be like she dont really trust me! I want to know what I can do or say to assure her that I love her


2. I want which is better calling or chatting and how frequently i should do that.?


3. Please can you also give me tips on how i can make our distance relationship work and what can i do ( i mean in times of gift) to make her happy
Ps. Am a student

Thanks in advance

cool signature...lol...nah Xxxtedyxxx fit help you, me i just be student since day 1

Berrylite:
If you keep your file using only one source, I will then believe that you are a kid.
.

Also attributing your carelessness or computer malfunction indicates you are mentally local

God bless you ma'am, what's "they can't stop us".....who are "they"?.......we(most nigerians) attribute every unfortunate thing to haters or witches or whatever.

ifISLAPYOU:
at d mention of dat name, every other OAP must bow..... He's 2mush

lol...time for anoda dose of popular side

ifISLAPYOU:
YINKA SPORT OF BRILLA FM... 88.9 WUD BEAT DIS GUY TO HIS FEET

i disagree, yinka sports knows words but he might not know how to FIX his tiles......hard to come by a brila fan on nairaland.......i don like you cos of brila....lol

you like murphy ijemba?

lmm4real:
Mode please don't move this to front page. I sincerely think no tribal post should be granted the honour of gracing the front page again, regardless of whom they come from. Including this one one from cramjones.

And finally it made front page. I think the mods of NairaLand are part of the PROBLEMS we have in this country.

God bless you sir, it seems seun enjoys the tribal abuses.

sarutobie:
hohoho..you must be new here.

I've been on nairaland since 2011 with a different account.

SEUN you need to do something about these tribalism.

Hardeyolaotee:
I taya ooo, I was in school to submit my IT acceptance form and I was terrified by these acts. If not for God, they would have succeded in letting my friends harrassed eachother while they watched. The management should do something quickly.

hi, i sent you a pm, kindly reply........#nottoasting

Olayinka8793:
ok bro,thanks for your incomplete advice sha.
*rehearsing*
hey baby what is ur name
my name is.............
I like u,I mean I fell in like with u
she :meaning?
Me: *speechless*



if she embarrassed me I will blame u bro.

lol....i love your sense of humor bro

,

ifex370:
In the flesh bro...



My IT go be next semester sha.. Wch place u get in mind abeg?

sake of say i be mech engr student, nah any industry i dey go, but no show for me and two month don go.

ifex370:
4th year computer Engineering student... where can I do my IT??

bro me i be 4th yr mech engr student......i don dey find IT since august......shey nah D same ifex for tedy thread be dis?

tr3y:
I dey tell you. Na even because I lap am inside bus for like three bus stop make me consider her. If you see as she siddon comfortably like say na the same house we sey come from ehn.

Anyways how market for your area?

market bad oo...lol.....that girl when temi4fash dey advise me about don breakup with me.....but surprisingly, i'm not sad as i thought i would be if such a thing happens,

tr3y:
Its a game of numbers, could remember few days ago, I came across this 4 and after small talk, wanted to number close since na work I dey go.
Ask for her name she said Ayo na there I don dey smell rat. Gave her benefit of the doubt and ask for number, gave her phone to type am only to discover say na fake number.

I just shake head say see person wey I dey try help her ministry.

not even a 6, 4........lol.....oga tedy i hail oo, been following you since day 1 with my other account that i deactivated.

temi4fash:
Its all about evaluation.
Oo
The truth is youncan say u care about someone and not invest innthe relationship. And u know the rule of thumb is the person who invest less controls the relationship.

In your case, she knows u like and adore her so she is definitely using it as a vintage point.

So, I would suggest give her a little space, if she comes back and ask you why are you doing these and the likes, tell her exactly how she felt when u gave her space is the same way you feel when she does same.. feed her with her own medicine.

bros i don spoil everything, i don give am voice.

temi4fash:
There are some fact that I would like to bring to the notice of the guys in the house and please it's a personal opinion and we could get to discuss about it too...

1. The major problem alot of we guys have is self worth, self importance. It is how you treat yourself other would treat you including the babes too..

2. Not all babes are worth your time. There are some babes you meet and leave while they are some who are meant to stay.

3. Never ever think a girl is doing you a favour going out with you or being your friend.

4. Learn to evaluate your options well when you are trying to get the babe. If you are the one doing the major investment and she is not investing and you talk to her about it and it doesn't improve. Your best bet and my advice is just let her be.

5. Make sure as you are chasing the babes and making sure you have control over your emotions and the likes when it xomes to women, ensure that your life is not stagnant, make sure progressing and looking for ways to better your life.

6. If you fall in love ensurr you carry your brain in working condition along. Never let emotions over rule your judgement. If you getting all emotional try to get over it b4 you make the decision.

7. Too much of everything is bad.... if you already have a babe that worships the ground you walk and is good.. stick with her good gals are not easy to come by.

8. There is no perfect babe anywhere. If you looking for one my guy u don jonze..

Lastly with women, Ensure you follow your instincts, it can never be wrong.

N.B
These are my personal opinions

Happy festive season

Xxxtedyxxx.. God bless you bro..

And to other contributors I hail..

@4, what of in a situation when it's my gf and i'm the one doing all the investment and she picks a fight when i tell her about it?

teepapa80:
xxxtedyxxx need ur help on this. there's this girl i met at the bank, so we got outside the bank the same time, and I striked convo with her, and she responded we later entered the same bike, to a bus stop, I paid for her tfare, and told her to wait a little bit for 5mins, talked to her while we stroll down and collected her number.

However, after some days she told me she is travelling back to sch, we have been talking on the phone and I have been
playing the bf role using ur technique and good enough she is responding, and I even used one of ur tricks about "asking her to open up" and it's working

but u talk about investment, I noticed am the one doing the investment, and she only flashes that is if she sees my missed call,
she does not send text, and does not initiate convo on whatsapp, and she makes it like a one sided conversation

she is still in sch, and so do wait for her to return b4 I can tell her I like her or do it on the phone.

another problem is how do I get her to invest?

I have read ur write ups on dat but i need something to break the code

smh........i have this problem with bae too, sometimes she reads my chats and wouldn't reply, i told her about it yesterday and she said she's tired of my complains. i'm always the one that initiates convo on any platform, be it call, text or chat. tedy abeg come help us here b4 i do sonething rash

Hello house, nice job @Op.... I'm a mechanical engineering student in ladoke akintola university of technology but i reside in lagos, I'm actually looking for an IT placement..email: akindeleodedoyin@gmail.com I will appreciate any sincere help/assistance... thanks in anticipation.

davidayn:
You such an idiot , what's dah gotta do with yoruba boys !
Immature goat

and to think i was praying to serve in an ibo land when my time to serve comes......comments i see on nairaland make me take back such prayers becos my safety would be in jeopardy, very tribalistic bigots most of them, they can't see beyond their nosebridge......yellow bar, dirty, stinking e.t.c shoro niyen

WailingWailer00:
Yellowbar boys and kids outta wedlock
Wizkid
Davido
Olamide
Etc

flavour, p square, geneveive, dprince e.t.c nah yoruba abi? you need to grow up bro

colossus2:
I signed Mahrez this week and the eediot not play 2nd half. Skrtel concede 2 goals. Coutinho red card. Cahill yellow card and 1 goal Sold Bolasie and the eediot come from bench come assist.




FPL is not my calling bro

bros shey nah virtual league be dat?

funlord:



Aaaaah? Funlord ooooh! The Thing don pain am FINISH! See nonsense!

guy you no try atall oo

temi4fash:
My guy cgpa dai drop oo.. neva say neva oo.. be wise..

lol.....sure.......thanks for the help.

funkyjms:

lol........what i wrote might sound stupid the way i said it. but then i nor fit dey chase woman dey chase cgpa, now wey cgpa don solid, i decide to add woman matter. I believe it was the wise thing to do though i'm open to a different opinion.

temi4fash:
First things first is yiu have to work on your self esteem.. change your believe system that you are not the lucky to have her, she is the one lucky to have you... weda she is your first or last it does not matter what matters is that you saw her, u liked what u saw and asked her out in what ever way and you got her. Sefini..

Bros every body is a plain guy and uninteresting but we all learn, and become better people. Anoda point is never say never if u get what I mean, be open to explore, no body is anything except you accept to be that thing..

When you do these, you wouldn't have d issues u think u having, even if u gonna love, love with ur head and make sure u carry ur brain along.... never think with your emotions. ? Though its not easy but we all learn till we get there.

Its ur first love most times na first love dai mumu guys pass so u gat nothing to be worried about...

But my advise to you make ur books ur priority ooo.. woman good but dem bad too.. On the short run it might look cool on the long run you be the one to lose.. As u become better handling woman and there drama make sure u try and make sure your life turn out well too...

Enjoy

Have a wonderful week..

thanks bro.....well, academically i don set for now though i'm not a first class student, that's why i decided to chase woman. By God's grace my life will turn out well like you advised. Thanks so much bros, you've been helpful.

temi4fash:
Bros on thing I know from experience never let money be the determining factor in ur paro.. if u wanna give her money give cos she deserves it or out of free will.. never give cos u want her to live u more or expect something in return cos most times u get disappointed...

As regards u initiating chats and the likes.. Put urself in a position that would make her feel lucky to have you and not other way round... make self confidence is key... don't feel less about urself..

thanks bro.....but how do i put myself in such position?

pls the experienced bosses should come and advice we smallies now.

Danny4show:
Hello nice job @Op....
I'm a student in one of the federal university studying INDUSTRIAL CHEMISTRY,I'm actually looking for an IT placement..email: ayejotod@gmail.com
I will appreciate any sincere help/assistance...
thanks in anticipation..

how far bros, pls i'm looking for an IT placement, i'm studying mechanical engineering, have you applied for any? pls reply

Hello house, nice job @Op....
I'm a mechanical engineering student in ladoke akintola university of technology but i reside in lagos, I'm actually
looking for an IT placement..email:
akindeleodedoyin@gmail.com
I will appreciate any sincere help/assistance...
thanks in anticipation..

so teddy, i met this girl this year, i wooed her but she didn't accept, one of my seniors had to put mouth b4 she accepted, here is the thing, i'm not a very interesting/intruiging guy just a plain guy who got lucky to be dating a very beautiful girl, my first girlfriend at that, i asked her severally why she accepted but she wouldn't say so i let it rest.......so, i don't know if she loves me or not, i start virtually all our chats because we are not in the same city for now, she also doesn't call as much as i do..........her family is struggling financially so she borrowed 20k frm someone to add to the money given to her to pay for her sch fees b4 i met her........after we started dating she told me about her plight and i didn't say anything. when it was her birthday, i gave her part of the money to pay the person she borrowed money from instead of using the money to take her out and waste it. after that i also gave her another money to do another stuff, my pocket money bro and my family is also struggling but not as badly as hers, when she travelled home frm sch to her parents and i was still in sch, i am always the one to start the chat, i don't know if she loves me or not seeing that she doesnt invest like me and i'm not even sure i love her, i want to know if it's sensible to continue this relationship.....i'm stuck bros.



NAH NOKIA PHONE I TAKE TYPE ALL THAT EPISTLE OO BRO, YOU BETTER REPLY ME....LOL

Oahray:
sheesh... Now I have to explain my simple analogy. I wasn't comparing persons but tactics. Bottom line, you need to be able to use tact. Know what makes sense to talk about and what doesn't, by gauging both the capacity and interest of the person. It's a skill refined by experience and the humility required to learn from it.

I'm not a chauvinist, and do not believe that someone your age would be dumb just because she's female. I've talked to girls without having to explain an analogy like I just had to do with you. If your high horse were intellect, how come my illustration easily flew over it?

You also seem not to realise that the 'genius' you claim simply means your upper intellectual limit surpasses the regular 'high intelligence' limit. It does not mean your lower limit surpasses the upper limit. Don't flatter yourself. Would you find it hard to remember your ABC just because you easily grasp calculus?

Here's the reason I wouldn't give you any tip like I initially wanted to... Maybe this illustration would help you grasp my point.

Let's say you went to play games in an arcade house. Now they have games that require a unique kind of coin. Because you have surplus money, you decide to buy a sack-full of coins. The arcade machines require different number of coins per game. However the one that first caught your attention requires just two coins... Just two! And you have probably up to a thousand identical coins in your sack.

Would you say "Jeez! I have too many coins. How do I go about emptying my sack till I have the two coins I need?"

A normal person would simply bring out two coins and play. If you have a thousand coins, you also have two coins. It's common sense. I'm not going to explain this one. Go figure.

erm, hi, give us the conversation tips, i was actually hoping you would do that without me commenting, but with what you wrote up there? i don't think you will. just give me the tips, my problem is i have no idea how to start or what to say.

PS are you a male or a female?