A friend of mine just confided in me that he is into a business partnership with his ex-lover.Though he is now marriedand the lady is still single.I asked him if it's going to be a safe game with no strings attached to it.He said no.But to me it's a dangerous game.What advise will you will give this my friend.

Hmmm! It's a dicy situatuation.Many are backing you to jump into it.You had better be careful and play it safe.Love is not blind.Have u really tried to investigate what led to the collapse of her marriage? For even planning not to tell or parents is something else.All I will tell you is to put all in prayers.if it's fate things wl work out fine but don't force the workings yourself.Be wise.

Been temperamental and been brutal are two different things.if you are the cucumber type and shameless type you can go ahead.but if you truly love her and believe she can change go ahead.but let your heart direct you and seek for God's direction.one thing is very clear shine your eyes.

My wife does it all the time for our babies until they are mature enough to do it themselves

Life can be strange and full of surprises.What we need and what we want may not be the same thing.We need to make decisions base on the consequence not on the thrill or pleasure of the moment which many have done to their future detriment.

Love can be unfair a times but we must base it on the fear of God.God help you my dear brother i know how you feel.LOOK WELL UR  HEARTTHROB IS OUT THERE WAITING FOR YOU-GOODLUCK.

People are free to make comments on their beliefs.The only problem is when you want to force such on others which is violating their human right.Christianity is still then in thing.You cannot fight for the true God.The truth can not be conquered has many have f ailed while trying.

For someone to say that this nation belong to a particular deity is just being enthusiastic.No one can Islamise Nigerians.

You don't know what you want.If you knew you won't post such here.Check your value system if they are not faulty you should no the answer to your question.

May God help this nation.Their is no time this nation will split,it is only a matter of time.Let them continue with their secret agendas.With time they will have their own country to rule,then they can decide to Islamise it.Till then God will frustrate all the evil ambitions of the haters of this great nation Nigeria

It's not that easy.It depends on so many factors.If the partner made a mistake and fell into it and is willing to make a u turn,if their is strong love and respect it can be mended with time.

On the other hand if the spouse has made it an hobby such can never be mended.The other partner may decide to stay due to many reasons base o internal and external factors,but the spouse can never be forgiven and if forgiven such will be be a strong grace.

The bottom line is his our society has become s evil that many things that shouldn't be is in vogue.So many marriages are only a shadow of the past to due to infidelity.The bold ones were able to break free from such marriages. While the fearful ones are dying in silence.

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I have made many bad choices especially in businesses that cost me a lot of.Also in relationship with people I thought were good guys only to discover that they were wolves in sheep clothing.

Big Happy fun filled xmas to all the positive contributors on Nairaland especially those who have given great godly counsel to the married and singles.I pray for more grace and wisdom on your intelligence

That is a funny question from the African point of view.It is more than compulsory.Any lady who doesn't want such is not ready for marriage and is a sure sign that such will not be a god wife at home.

You can go to google.com and search for christian widowers base in Nigeria.

Their is no big deal if that happens as long as I am still he one feeding the family.Se can assist when am broke but she cannot determine how the family should be led.

If she is humble that will not cause problem between us.If she does otherwise she is preparing to get married to another man.In all it means nothing if their is mutual understanding and respect for each other.

The story is true it not a fiction

It is a tough and painful one.I know you have your sister's interest.Why not ask the man why he is hiding it from the wife.Discuss with him with wisdom and pray for God's guidance on how to go about the whole issue

Is easy to blame them.But what kind of training did they receive at home? I believe children's behaviour are a reflection of the home whether by omission or by commission. God help us to give our kids a solid moral training.

God will help us parents.The best way to train your kids is to live right and talk right.The worst way to train them is to TALK RIGHT AND ACT WRONG.

Wonders will never end.A woman just because her man was discovered to be unfaithful killed herself through self medicated poison.Now the families of the woman wants the head of the man at all cost.Is this to much love on the part of the wife or mere foolishness.

The case is getting out of hand.Please great nairalanders what advise can you give this guy even though he is now sorry for the wife's death but cannot accept he killed the wife

Some people can be very hypocritical and live in self denial. No one needs to tell you whether demons are real or not.Why is America forcing Nigeria to legalize ma lover and woman lover.Is that not madness(demon inspired and orchestrated plan)

Why have they legalize bestiality for American soldiers which is just an experiment and a test-run plan to do it openly for all Americans.Say I told you so.

Why  do our ladies dress like insane people all in the name of fashion?

Why the great degree of immoralities and crimes if their are no evil influences behind such?

Anyone saying they are not real is possessed by such spirits.The painful thing today is that we are doing exactly what they want us to do.DENY THEIR EXISTENCE.

While the white may deny such,we Africans know better.No one can tell an African Traditionlist that there are no evil spirits.I have seen them many times.

Let our leaders be told to take oath into their offices with Ogun(god of iron) or Sango(god of thunder). You will see changes in this nation.Because they fear those things more than the Almighty God.

Or if you doubt their existence do one of the following and your beliefs will change.

1. Sit down on a mortar as from 12-2 at night.
2. Put the mucus from the eyes of a dog and rub it on your own
3.Go to a grave yard by night with a live cock in your hand by 1-3 at night and kill it putting the blood on one of the grave yards.
4.Go and secretly demolish the shrine of a god in a village setup.
5.Go to Esan land precisely Ugboha or Ubiaja and sit under an Iroko tree by 1-3 at night.

If anyone who denies their existence can do all these things let him come back to nairaland and testify

I don't know why some people want to kill Pastor Bakare.They should live the man alone.At least he dared to take the risk to be involved in what can change the nation.Failure is not final.

He is still far better than many men of God who keep silence on the issues killing Nigerians while at the same time they receive big tithes and monetary rewards from our political leaders.Bakare is still a man of God no matter what anyone says.(I AM NO MEMBER OF HIS CHURCH)

As per the oil subsidy our leaders are only being hypocritical. Greed and selfishness will not make them to do the right thing.God help Nigerians from their hands.

According to the late Papa Awolowo prohesies which I heard from someone close to him them that the person that will change this nation will be in His forties.Until then we should stand for the truth and not allow our government to take us as fools and cowards.Let them beware that they are breeding up dangerous youth with the hardship in the nation of which Niger militants and Gboko Haram are just a fraction of their breeds.

I ONLY PRAY THAT OUR PRESIDENT WILL FOLLOW HIS GOD FEARING HEART TO LEAD US AND NOT SOME ECONOMIC WORRIES SORRY THEORIES THAT WILL NOT WORK.God bless our president and God bless NIGERIA.

So man answers.Let me just summarize it.

It's due to vanity,friend's influence,hereditary,monetary wise and just for the fun of it.

I will not want to argue with such a fact.

The area am living many married women don't see anything wrong with extra marital affairs.

Some of them even told my wife about it. But whether the case is general is a different thing.

I just pray God will touch the hearts of our leaders to have human compassion. With the vast resources in this nation,I wonder while we so much dwell on fuel alone.I don't want to sound pessimistic,removal or no removal of oil subsidy is not the solution to our problems.We are too hypocritical in this nation.

Let's face fact how much are our leaders earning in a month? Let them cut down their salaries and so called allowances and let such be invested in the nation. Someone said the FG cannot build refineries.For God's sake let us be real.They can build as many as possible if they WILL to.

As far as I am concerned there will not be a great change in their new agenda which is going to compound the woes of Nigerians the more.

How did I feel? I FELT EMBARRASSED IN MY OWN CASE. I took an Okada to a partcular destination of about 4km.It was even in the night.On getting to the park to pay the guy I discovered my wallet ws missing.To make matters worse it was even raining.I was just saying my purse my purse.Can you believe I started behaving like an insane person.

The okada man seeing my dilemma just left me alone.D o you know I had to treck back al the way from where i TOOK THE OKADA THINKING I WILL FIND IT ON THE ROAD.To make my temporary insanity worse I started checking the flood on the road maybe I could find it.

What made it more dramatic was that I had to treck that 4km back to the park and an extra 7km to my house.The money was #1,000 plus and it was in the year 1994.You should now understand while I became a temporary lunati, You know what I mean.

RIGHT FROM THAT DAY i STOPPED USING WALLET.

You have to learn what turns her on. Develop more interest in her hobbies than yours.Learn to talk on her subject more than your own.Inflate her ego and see her open the gate unto in less than two weeks.

What an interesting question! This is the most important question someone must ask himself or herself before going into this institution you can never graduate from.

Your personal conviction of why you want to get married will go a long way in helping face all the marital crisis you will ever face because it is FOR BETTER FOR WORSE.

My reason for going into marriage is to have someone that will complement my strength,help my weakness and together we can achieve great things together,fulfilling our God given purpose on earth.

This has nothing to do with the status of the person,her physical appearance,her level of education or even the background.Someone that we can both grow up together learning from all our mistakes and still move on with the MARITAL LOVESHIP.

That is my major reason all other things are secondary.That is why with all what we have faced in the marriage we are still together as strong as ever and even growing stronger. Some of family folks even accused her of using charm on me.WHY? i DID NOT GIVE ANY OF THEM A LEG IN MY HOME TO COME CAUSE WAHALA.Besides they have not seen us quarrel one day for them to come and settle.