I've come to the conclusion that we, ‘Africans’ have been living a lie for over the past 400plus years.
We’ve been told by the white men that the problem in Africa is because we were descendants of Ham, the cursed child of Noah.

This I will tell you is a blatant lie.

What you don't really know is that there was little or no difference between the African societies and the European societies 400plus years back. In fact, there were African kingdoms like the kingdom of Mali under Mansa Musa, richer than some European kingdoms combine.

The great disparity arose with the rise of the industrial and scientific revolution, discovered first by the Europeans. With that came an increase in sea voyages and exploration, increase in commerce, and of course, ‘gun powder’, which could propel their bullets in the heads of the black slaves who tried to rebel against their white masters.

The Europeans came with the intent of exploitation disguised as a way of establishing friendly relations with Africans, which ended up being the disaster we are still suffering from today. The Trans-Atlantic slave trade.

Our leaders had no choice but to succumb to the superior firepowers posted by their colonial masters. And whoever rebelled was exterminated immediately.
Some of the slaves, at the brink of their suffering, had to make do with the fact that: “their sufferings on earth cannot be compared to the enjoyment they would receive when they get to heaven.” A notion predominantly propagated by their master’s religion.

Read ‘Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe.

Nowadays, we dress like them, speak their languages, adopt their system of governance, religion, policies, economics, and education.

When we think about them, words like innovation, development, infrastructure, and urbanization come to our minds.

But have you ever asked yourself what comes to theirs when they think of us? I won't be surprised to hear things like poverty, underdevelopment, fertile land for agriculture, home of the giraffes and elephants, and of course, corruption.

I don't want to sound racist or against the white colonialist(there are still some positives). But my point in all of these is that:
“I know our African leaders were corrupt(and they still are), but the Europeans had a major role to play in the underdevelopment of Africa.”

Nope it’s not one sided at all, and I acknowledge the fact that men get raped too (male rape). The title says why men rape? It is specific. Not one sided.

On December 16 2012, jyoti Singh, a 23-year-old physiotherapist intern living in New Delhi India, was headed home after watching the movie the life of pi with her boyfriend. They couldn’t find a taxi to take them home so they got on a bus. Six males were on board, including the driver. Then suddenly, in the moving bus, the lights went off. 23 year old jyoti Singh was raped repeatedly and her friend severely beaten. The men violated her with an iron rod and pulled out her intestines with their bare hands. After they were done they threw them out of the bus. Singh sustained severe damage to her abdomen and intestines and was airlifted to a hospital in Singapore for treatment, but died from her injuries nearly two weeks later.
Five of the rapist were convicted and sentenced to death.
The youngest, who was 17 years of age was sent to a reform facility for 3 years and later released. One of the rapist, the driver of the bus died in prison under mysterious circumstances. On March 20 2020, all 4 convicts were hanged.
You see, The sad reality is that 1 in 5 women will be a victim of sexual assault in their lifetime. When a woman is out late, wearing a skimpy clothing or seen drinking or partying, there are many who believe that she’s setting herself for rape. But in the case of jyoti Singh, these variables were absent. She wasn’t out very late, she was traveling with a male companion, she was a city girl who knew Delhi well, she was educated and she was modestly dressed. Yet she was still raped. I think that there is little focus on the rapist here. The truth is without getting to know the rapist one cannot fully understand rape. This video is my attempt to understand what goes through the mind of a rapist. Why do they do it? But before we look at the mindset of the rapist, let us do a brief background study on rape. What is rape? In law, rape is defined as vaginal or anal penetration in the absence of lawful consent. Rape is considered to have occurred when her consent has been obtained by Putting her in fear of death or hurt.The administration of any stupefying or unwholesome substance. Or, when the age of the victim is below 16 years. Furthermore, it is important to note that consent is invalid and rape is still considered to have occurred if the woman is suffering from unsoundness of mind so that she is unable to understand the nature and consequence of that to which she gives consent. There are 6 major type of rape. They include The penetrative rape. here the vagina is penetrated by the penis, finger or any other object. Statutory rape here no penetration takes place, but the penis touches the vagina. Marital rape. when rape occurs within the marriage Date rape. This is when an intoxicating agent is mixed in the food or drink of the victim. Gang rape.when more than one person rapes the victim. Male rape.when man or man rape takes place. There are basically two kinds of rapist
The generalist and the specialist
The generalist are the ones who can steal your television, your wrist watch, your car, and occasionally they steal sex. They are the ones that usually get caught and imprisoned
Then we have the specialist: these ones commit sexual assault predominantly, on multiple occasions. Most of the time they don’t get caught. They are the serial rapist, the ones in the neighborhood. There are 4 basic types of rapist. They are. The opportunistic rapist. these ones play on the vulnerability of women. Their intent for rape is immediate sexual gratification with force as a necessary ingredient. Anger rapist these ones are driven by extreme aggression and severe violence coupled with a history of previous anti social offenses. Sexual rapist. these ones are driven by intense sexual fantasies usually as a result of paraphilia. Finally we have the sadist: these ones are not particularly sexually driven but they are driven by power and control over their victims. There are so many reasons why men rape and each reason is particular to a case.
An extensive research conducted by the United Nations for a period of 2 years, involving 10,000 men from 6 countries highlights 5 major reasons
Neurobiological impairments.
Yes, rape may be associated with organic brain damage and learning disability. A research carried out in Sweden showed that 3.9% of the rape offenders were found to have serious head injuries.
Psychiatric disorders.
The truth is most rapist are not mentally disordered. However, people with schizophrenia or other related psychosis may often commit rape or show abnormal sexual behavior.
Paraphilia. paraphilia is a condition characterized by abnormal sexual desire, typically involving extreme or dangerous activities. The sexual rapist falls into this category.
Intimacy and attachment problems. several studies show that rapist experience multiple early life adversities such as sexual abuse and physical abuse which are likely to affect their capacities for secure attachment. That’s why most sexual offenders usually start at a young age.
Cognitive distortions or CD. these are belief systems or theories used by rape offenders to justify their rape behavior. Some of these believe systems are
Women are unknowable and cannot be understood.
Women are sex objects.
Entitlement mentality.
Revenge and payback.

The most pronounced similarities between various rape perpetuators have little to do with the race, class, or marital status of the individual.
Rape is a behavioral crime, it is not about the sex per se. it stems from the need to inflict violence on an individual and uses it as a substitute for the rapist’s inability to seek consent.
They’ve been a lot of things said about rape but one thing I can vividly say is that, men who attack women are usually following a well learned social script.
Rape is endemic and affects all levels of the society. Our social scripts needs to be changed or re-engineered. We need to flip the minds of the rapist.
Right now, it is particularly difficult to imagine a world where women can feel as safe as men do while walking in the streets, but it is up to us to pave the way towards such a world.

Watch the full video here
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0KdeXplkCCQ

This is the inspiring story of Derek Redmond. Who inspired the world by giving people a reason to never give up. In the Barcelona olympics of 1992, Derek Redmond, during the 400 meters semi final race picked up an injury just 250 meters into the race. But his impeccable tenacity not to give up made that race one of the most unforgettable one in the Barcelona 1992 Olympics.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VOSIvMziPlE

This is the inspiring story of Derek Redmond. Who inspired the world by giving people a reason to never give up. In the Barcelona olympics of 1992, Derek Redmond, during the 400 meters semi final race picked up an injury just 250 meters into the race. But his impeccable tenacity not to give up made that race one of the most unforgettable one in the Barcelona 1992 Olympics.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VOSIvMziPlE

There are times when you feel you have no reason to get out of bed in the morning. you may know what you want your life to look like but have no idea on how to get there. It can be frustrating at times because it indicates a lack of purpose in life. to get a clear picture of how to live the life of your dreams you need to have goals. A goal is a dream or wish you plan to attain in life. A goal is something that takes planning and preparation. it is different from an aspiration. a lot of people think they have goals but all they really have are just aspirations. for example, stating that you want to be a millionaire is an aspiration but actually starting up a business that will get you the millions is a goal. To aspire and to dream is not a bad thing but those things never happen until you prepare and plan for it. A goal set effectively will have a plan of action to go with it. setting quality real life goals makes you the best version of yourself. it helps you measure and quantify growth in life. learning to set goals in life will leave you feeling more prepared for certain circumstances. setting goals helps you in decision making and teaches you on how to prioritize and simplify your life and let unnecessary things fall away. when you set a goal, the process in which you set it should give you a guided map. Your goal is not meant to be something that is binding but a means to help give you direction on your journey. like everything else in life, setting goals effectively is a skill set. it comes naturally to some and leaves others having to work at it, but the great thing about the skill is that it is something anyone can work on improving, if they want to. in setting goals, you must choose a goal that acts as a compass to give you the life you desire. set goals that will bring you an awesome life. try setting goals based on the journey and not the destination. instead of setting just life goals think about setting the life direction. figure out the things that would create a fun, meaningful and compelling journey. you can ask yourself,how do I want to spend my time, what daily activities make me want to get out of bed, what do I want to learn, and so on and be specific as possible. write out what you would like to achieve and get better at, write out what you are already doing to achieve your goal, write out what you could be doing better to achieve your goal and plan out time you could be working towards achieving your goal. give yourself a time limit on how long it should take you to achieve your goal. there is so much power in writing out your goals and working hard to achieve them. if you are not deliberate about the things you want in life, then the things you want will elude you. finally, ensure you track your goals. The truth is, many people feel unfulfilled because they don’t define and track their goals. when you track your goals, motivation kicks in. you become happy and confident knowing that your goals are within reach. remember, effective goal planning is only the first step. after you make your goals, it is time to turn your plans into action. It is the action that you take now, that will propel your life for a change in the future. Identifying what needs to get done doesn’t mean it actually gets done. goals are only accomplished by taking consistent actions. the more control you feel over your destiny, the more confidence you’ll have and the happier you’ll be.

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Albert Einstein, the popular scientist once said that there are only two ways to live your life. one is to live your life as though everything is a miracle and the other is to live your life as though nothing is a miracle. The first approach is to consider happiness as the most important thing in life and the other is to consider having a sense of meaning as the most important thing in life.
Much of what we do in this life is motivated by the all consuming desire to be happy. we seek happiness, we want to be happy and remain so but you can’t be happy all through your life. life is a continuous drama of pain with occasional episodes of Joy. The notion that we exist in order to be happy is an inborn error, because upon attaining the things that bring happiness to ourselves we quickly return to our previous states of being. striving for happiness is like an unquenchable thirst and we may attain some brief satisfaction but we will always return to our default state of dissatisfaction and unhappiness.
life is suffering and what we can do about it is to accept it and try to overcome it the best way we can and we can do this by finding a sense of meaning in life. sometimes life can be brutal but meaning is derived from perseverance. The one who persists is a person of purpose. In the moment of immense suffering and crisis it is meaning alone not happiness that can provide us with the resilience needed to endure the suffering. a meaningful life is one in which there is a high amount of sufficient value. There is nothing more real in life than a sense of meaning. it is important to know that you cannot find meaning through the attainment of external goods such as money fame status and so on. many people develop a successful carrier, amass wealth and social status only to discover that despite their outward success their inward existence remains desolate and devoid of meaning. walking in the path that is more challenging makes life more meaningful. it forces us to focus on cultivating character. if we focus on becoming a more complete and integrated individual, we greatly increase our chances of finding meaning in life. so there is need to set certain goals for yourself and note that these goals need to be of value to your life, that is, they must contribute to the growth of your character.
Also understand that, the process of attaining the goal is more important than the goal itself. The process changes your perspective in life and gives you a complete sense of meaning.
Just as the earth revolves around the sun,so life revolves around us bringing different faces at different stages of our lives. so your goals can change as you experience life more often. As your experience differs, you become a different man and hence your perspective changes.
The thing that is so interesting about life is that it is like a game that we must play. we are all in no matter what we do. we are all going to die someday. so why not make it the most magnificent game we can ever play, why not pick the best thing possible we could do. why not find meaning in life. choosing the path of meaning makes us abadone our obsession for happiness. In exposing ourselves to the struggles and strife required to cultivate character, we would likely attain the state of happiness far more frequently than those who aim squarely at it. let us be aware that if we live our lives without doing that one thing, that gives us a sense of meaning,then everything else we do in life is an illusion.

You can watch the full video and be inspired.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qgU2qGE5lQI

Thanks dear. That’s the little I can do

It’s hard to think that you will stop to love the person you’re in love with right now. Maybe that’s the reason why we are in pains, because we don’t want to stop feeling loved. That reality, where someone you hoped would walk side by side with you into the unknown is no longer there. The worst times are at nights when you’re alone with your thoughts. It starts with numbness, followed by disbelief, then comes the crushing pain. Red hot it curls around your entire being till it settles right around your heart, tight and heavy at the same time and you wish you could hide away forever with your little ball of pain. It HURTS. it HURTS really bad. The hardest part is that there is no cure, no medication, no fix for what you feel. The sadness and feelings of loss wouldn’t go away and you honestly wouldn’t see a time it would.time is too slow a healer.
No one ever told you that sometimes you have to get over someone that you don’t hate, that you can’t hate, and that you feel you’re totally in love with. It is frustrating because you wouldn’t want to give someone that have walked away from you that kind of attention or affection and for some reason you just can’t let go. Yes, there are somethings in life that you may never get over and yes some people will always hold a little space in your heart, but it’s funny how everyone goes through breakup and know exactly how painful it is, they’ll tell you things like “you’ll get over it” or “you’ll meet someone cute at the party” but it’s not about meeting someone, it’s about loosing a significant part of yourself that’s never going to come back and then you’ll realize it wasn’t him you wanted or it was him to really missed but it was the feelings he brought out in you and the different sides of life he showed you that you are still attached to.
That’s change. Change is the end goal of any relationship and every relationship that doesn’t work out changes you 100% for the better. So, you’ll grow, you’ll learn and build a stronger you and prepare yourself for a much better relationship.
As much as we would like to believe that time heals all wounds, time alone doesn’t heal a broken heart if you don’t address and recognize your feelings. One thing that can help us, is to realize that these feelings do not define us. But instead they flow through us, they come and go and when we try to suppress and resist them we suffer. Don’t be so hard on yourself. if you need to cry, CRY. but know that what’s meant for you will not pass you by and what passes you by was never meant for you. never settle for something less just because you are scared to be without them. You’ll surely find the one, who will love you just the way you are and know that you are not likely to fall again that hard because now you’re more aware than you ever was. also know that you are not the only one going through this and you’ll be in a better place one day. there are just so many people struggling and finding it so hard to reach out, and it can be comforting to know that a stranger is feeling the same things as you and then you’ll forget all those times you’ve had your heart broken.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4N4AL40EQDM

It’s hard to think that you will stop to love the person you’re in love with right now. Maybe that’s the reason why we are in pains, because we don’t want to stop feeling loved. That reality, where someone you hoped would walk side by side with you into the unknown is no longer there. The worst times are at nights when you’re alone with your thoughts. It starts with numbness, followed by disbelief, then comes the crushing pain. Red hot it curls around your entire being till it settles right around your heart, tight and heavy at the same time and you wish you could hide away forever with your little ball of pain. It HURTS. it HURTS really bad. The hardest part is that there is no cure, no medication, no fix for what you feel. The sadness and feelings of loss wouldn’t go away and you honestly wouldn’t see a time it would.time is too slow a healer.
No one ever told you that sometimes you have to get over someone that you don’t hate, that you can’t hate, and that you feel you’re totally in love with. It is frustrating because you wouldn’t want to give someone that have walked away from you that kind of attention or affection and for some reason you just can’t let go. Yes, there are somethings in life that you may never get over and yes some people will always hold a little space in your heart, but it’s funny how everyone goes through breakup and know exactly how painful it is, they’ll tell you things like “you’ll get over it” or “you’ll meet someone cute at the party” but it’s not about meeting someone, it’s about loosing a significant part of yourself that’s never going to come back and then you’ll realize it wasn’t him you wanted or it was him to really missed but it was the feelings he brought out in you and the different sides of life he showed you that you are still attached to.
That’s change. Change is the end goal of any relationship and every relationship that doesn’t work out changes you 100% for the better. So, you’ll grow, you’ll learn and build a stronger you and prepare yourself for a much better relationship.
As much as we would like to believe that time heals all wounds, time alone doesn’t heal a broken heart if you don’t address and recognize your feelings. One thing that can help us, is to realize that these feelings do not define us. But instead they flow through us, they come and go and when we try to suppress and resist them we suffer. Don’t be so hard on yourself. if you need to cry, CRY. but know that what’s meant for you will not pass you by and what passes you by was never meant for you. never settle for something less just because you are scared to be without them. You’ll surely find the one, who will love you just the way you are and know that you are not likely to fall again that hard because now you’re more aware than you ever was. also know that you are not the only one going through this and you’ll be in a better place one day. there are just so many people struggling and finding it so hard to reach out, and it can be comforting to know that a stranger is feeling the same things as you and then you’ll forget all those times you’ve had your heart broken.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4N4AL40EQDM

It’s hard to think that you will stop to love the person you’re in love with right now. Maybe that’s the reason why we are in pains, because we don’t want to stop feeling loved. That reality, where someone you hoped would walk side by side with you into the unknown is no longer there. The worst times are at nights when you’re alone with your thoughts. It starts with numbness, followed by disbelief, then comes the crushing pain. Red hot it curls around your entire being till it settles right around your heart, tight and heavy at the same time and you wish you could hide away forever with your little ball of pain. It HURTS. it HURTS really bad. The hardest part is that there is no cure, no medication, no fix for what you feel. The sadness and feelings of loss wouldn’t go away and you honestly wouldn’t see a time it would.time is too slow a healer.
No one ever told you that sometimes you have to get over someone that you don’t hate, that you can’t hate, and that you feel you’re totally in love with. It is frustrating because you wouldn’t want to give someone that have walked away from you that kind of attention or affection and for some reason you just can’t let go. Yes, there are somethings in life that you may never get over and yes some people will always hold a little space in your heart, but it’s funny how everyone goes through breakup and know exactly how painful it is, they’ll tell you things like “you’ll get over it” or “you’ll meet someone cute at the party” but it’s not about meeting someone, it’s about loosing a significant part of yourself that’s never going to come back and then you’ll realize it wasn’t him you wanted or it was him to really missed but it was the feelings he brought out in you and the different sides of life he showed you that you are still attached to.
That’s change. Change is the end goal of any relationship and every relationship that doesn’t work out changes you 100% for the better. So, you’ll grow, you’ll learn and build a stronger you and prepare yourself for a much better relationship.
As much as we would like to believe that time heals all wounds, time alone doesn’t heal a broken heart if you don’t address and recognize your feelings. One thing that can help us, is to realize that these feelings do not define us. But instead they flow through us, they come and go and when we try to suppress and resist them we suffer. Don’t be so hard on yourself. if you need to cry, CRY. but know that what’s meant for you will not pass you by and what passes you by was never meant for you. never settle for something less just because you are scared to be without them. You’ll surely find the one, who will love you just the way you are and know that you are not likely to fall again that hard because now you’re more aware than you ever was. also know that you are not the only one going through this and you’ll be in a better place one day. there are just so many people struggling and finding it so hard to reach out, and it can be comforting to know that a stranger is feeling the same things as you and then you’ll forget all those times you’ve had your heart broken.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4N4AL40EQDM

We wrote this poem to reflect how important trust is in the world today.

THE WORDS


I want to sail the seven seas with you by my side
And watch the waves and tides together as they collide
You’ll be my bride
And I’ll be your guide
and together we’ll have a long sea voyage along the seaside

My heart longs for a soul like yours
In a tall perfect being as yours
Like the flesh of a cat clings to its fur
We’ll grow into a family of four
And ride into the deepest part of your lures

I gave you my all
My everything, heart, body, soul, Pauline
But you let everything fall
Like a meatball on a smooth wall
Like a drunkard in the gutter intoxicated with alcohol

Nature despise our feelings
Even in evening tide cool breeze
Whilst we walk together hands in hands like sheep
Yet your heart was far away like an eel
From our proposed love like a sea

Forgive my manners, is there no trust in this world?
Perhaps all I’m seeing is blur

I’ve got a sorrowful mind
Because my trust was made blind

you can watch the full video on my YouTube channel below

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Znn1eX_KZeo

I wrote this motivational poem for anyone out there suffering from any challenge whatsoever. I want them to know that there’s always hope. Do not give up hope. Hope is all we need now in the terrible time of the corona virus epidemic. We need hope. Let us fight the enemy together. Don’t lose hope.

The words

We have a power we cannot put away
The gleam of a match in the dark
Maturing into a flame from a spark
The hope of another day
The hope of another way

And though yesterday be doom and gloom
And the rain beat upon the earth
And the women cry at childbirth
And the men, outside the operating room
Hope is our restroom

Hope is the grim reaper without his scythe
The smile of a starving child
The ears of a blind man
The silence after the boom
The son of a fallen king

And we may not speak of it
But we believe in it
We may not think it too much
But we know it’s in there
For were it is life is

And without we cease
And with increase
Like the fruits on trees
We’ll be at peace
like a masterpiece.


Here’s the video enjoy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NhcObRPZsZA

There is this idea that hell is a bottomless pit and that’s because no matter how bad it is, some stupid son of a bitch like you could figure out a way to make it a lot worse. So what do you do about that? You accept it. That’s what life is like, it is suffering. Life is suffering. So what do you do in the face of suffering? You try and reduce it. You pick up the damn suffering and bury it and try to be a good person so you don’t make it worse. The truth is if you live a bad life, you damage your society and if enough people do that, then its hell. So the pathway forward is to adopt a mode of being that has some nobility so that you can have respect for yourself as someone who is capable of standing up in the face of suffering. In other words you want to have a sense of meaning in life.
Why do you want to do that because doing nothing is easier? The answer is that you’ve discovered that it would be worthwhile first to you and then to the society.
If you want to have a meaningful life, LET EVERYTHING YOU DO MATTER. Yes everything. I mean stop doing the things you know are wrong and that you could stop doing. Look around your sphere of influence and fix the things that announce itself in need of repair. You can start by cleaning up your room. What this teaches you is that you can now distinguish between chaos and order and act in a manner that produces order.
Doing this would make you be more productive, reliable, competent, responsible, trustworthy, and not some deceitful monster. So you want to set goals for yourself.
Why goals? Because you are trying to figure out who it is you are trying to be. How are you going to hit something if you don’t know what it is? The magnitude of the reward you experience as you are moving towards the goal you desire is proportional to the importance of the goal. That is, the more the goal you pick the more possibility there is for the kind of reward that is life affirming. So you want to choose your goals wisely.
For example, you are in the middle of a football game, let’s say the world cup final, then accidentally you broke a finger. Normally it hurts and that’s a problem and you’ve got to stop, but since you are in the middle of the game you will be focused on the reward such that it motivates you to keep going and it stops the pain. So in other words, having a sense of meaning and purpose takes some of the pains and suffering out of your life, the lives of the people around you and the world at large. This is why you need to have one. Though it won’t be easy, but it would be worth it.
I’ll talk about our individual MONSTER next time.
Kema

I’ll go straight to it. Let’s take the example of a cocaine addict. There is a series of actions that occurs before he takes the cocaine. These actions are very important and we should be very conscious of them. When he actually takes a hit of the drug, a dopaminergic burst is produced which feels really good but this action makes the circuits that were active before that grow. This circuit matures each time he takes a hit of the drug as it is always identifying patterns to which they occur through constant repetition, until it become a personality and obstruct normal behavioral activities. Now the person is said to be addicted.
Addiction become a self-constructed repetitive formaldehyde needed to preserve the individual from the actual realities of life by suggesting ways and coming up with lies and excuses in order to get what it wants. Whilst in it, addiction becomes a friend not an enemy. We really see this in a lot of celebrities that die around the age of 27 (the 27 club). They fall in love with the allure of the romantic and gratifying attribute of their addictions and they can’t let it go, until it kills them.
So how can we eliminate this “PERSONALITY”? You cannot eliminate this circuit by simply abstaining from the addiction.
Let’s say you stop smoking for about a month or two but your addicted friend constantly takes it every time you guys meet. The probability that you will go back to the addiction would be enormous. Why? This is because the circuit is still very much alive. Though Inactive, but alive. So rather what you could do, would be to build another circuit to shut it down and you have to do this in all of the cases you’ve associated yourself with the addiction. So for a porn addict, creating the new personality or circuit could be, denying yourself of porn in all instances that you’ve had to look at it, think about it, when you’re on the internet, when you’re alone or maybe when you see a sexually explicit image. Doing this consciously and persistently starts the process known as ATONEMENT.
Atonement etymologically means “AT-ONEMENT”. AT mean being particular and ONEMENT mean a state of reconciliation. So you want to be reconciled with yourself. You do this by admitting to the fact that you are in trouble, and it is serious and that things could get better. Then you want to become more conscious of yourself and take yourself seriously.
In the bible, a little consciousness destroyed the original paradise but the cure for that is way more consciousness and not a return to unconsciousness. This is why the Judeo-Christian way of overcoming addiction is very effective if done properly. Their way has always been “WHENEVER YOU ARE FACED WITH A PROBLEM LOOK TOWARDS YOURSELF FIRST”. This is atonement and I think it is the first step in overcoming addiction. There are other steps that may have to follow but skipping this fundamental step can be very detrimental.
I’ll talk in details about the 27 club and what we can learn from them next time.
Kema.

There’s evil in the world of all sorts, some of it is the evil in other people and some of it is the evil in your brother’s heart but the part of it you can really do something about is the evil in your own heart.
Like I always say, there is suffering in the world. But suffering is one thing, to encounter someone who wishes that upon you and is willing to bring it about, that’s a whole different category of horrible especially when it also reflects something back to you about yourself. This is because, if someone else can do that to you and they are human, that means that you partake of the same essence. What this mean is that you have the tendency to inflict suffering on others too. A knowledge of this is way more useful than you think, because if you can face it (i.e. the evil within) then you can start to understand it and that also makes you strong enough to identify it and to fight it when you see it in the external world plus you don’t do any harm.
For example, if you have been naïve and victimized, the way out of that is to no longer be naïve and to no longer be victimized. I mean, the way you keep a psychopath at bay is to develop the inner psychopath so that you know one when you see one. So you want to have this as a set of tools at your disposal which is the full knowledge of evil.
Now the idea is that if you look at something monstrous you have a tendency to turn into a monster and most people are afraid of doing this, that’s why they don’t get what they want in life.
So should you turn into a monster? Yes you should. But you should do it voluntarily and not accidentally and you should do it with the good in mind rather than allowing it to possess you because that’s the alternative.
How does being a monster possesses you? Very easy. It can start with what you are suffering with, this makes you bitter, from bitterness it leads to resentfulness and vengefulness and once you are on that road all you need to do is to go a little bit further and then you are fantasizing on committing crimes and then killing yourself. It was from this pathological ideology that brutal men like Hitler and Stalin to name a few emerged. So you don’t want to follow this path.
So what path should you follow? Let’s look at it this way. Without the capability for mayhem, you are a potential victim to mayhem. So you need your sword which should be in the sheath but you need to have it with you just in case. Let say for example, a lion in the fields staring at a zeal of zebras and patiently waiting for a hunt. Which particular zebra do you think it will attack? The one that is alone and seems unprotected right? It is the same way with humans. That’s why you need to learn to be dangerous in a good sense and you have to do this by yourself. Only you and no one else. Also that’s why it is not a good idea to overprotect your kids, because no matter what you do the snakes are going to come into the garden. So then instead of trying to keep the snakes away, what you do is to arm your kids with something that can help them chop the snakes into pieces.
So who is a monster? A monster in a positive sense is somebody who says NO and he means it. You have to be one otherwise no one will take you seriously. You cannot have any sense of character unless you can put up a fight and to be able to say NO to something is to be able to put up a fight.
The strange thing is that developing your inner monster makes you a better person and not a bad person. Jesus said NO to a lot of things while He was on earth and He is the perfect example of good. Yes good. But not harmless. Being good and being harmless are entirely two different things. Someone who is good has the capabilities for aggression built in but he is also someone who is perfectly capable of controlling it in a civilized manner. In Jesus words “blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth”. The word MEEK is derived from a Greek word meaning “those who have weapons and the ability to use them but determine to keep them in their sheath”. So we can say that those who have weapons and the ability to use them but determine to keep them in their sheath will inherit the earth. So people who have this fierce tendencies but decide not to use them are in the sense meek.
In conclusion, given the obvious two extremes, order and chaos. I think the best place to be in is at the middle. Why? Because inasmuch as you want to have a sense of order in your life, you also want to be aware that there is chaos in the world so that you can deal with it fundamentally.
Am sorry if this was too long to read. I’ll talk about addiction next time.
Kema

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the speaker Jordan Peterson is one of the greatest scholars of our time. a former professor of psychology at the university of Harvard and currently a professor at the Toronto university Canada, he shares insight about the things you can start doing today as an individual that would change your life.
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we all know the immerse power in education and how quality education in the hands of the believer can improve ones life for the better. this is the best advice i have ever seen and heard about education and how educated persons are to act and behave. this advise changed it all for me and i know it will change your life too.
the speaker Jordan Peterson is one of the greatest scholars of our time. a former professor of psychology at the university of Harvard and currently a professor at the Toronto university Canada, he shares insight about the things you can start doing today as an individual that would change your life.
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we all know the immerse power in education and how quality education in the hands of the believer can improve ones life for the better. this is the best advice i have ever seen and heard about education and how educated persons are to act and behave. this advise changed it all for me and i know it will change your life too.
the speaker Jordan Peterson is one of the greatest scholars of our time. a former professor of psychology at the university of Harvard and currently a professor at the Toronto university Canada, he shares insight about the things you can start doing today as an individual that would change your life.
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i have always wondered how the successful men and women emerged from slumps and creeks. it has always bothered me. watching a lot of success stories and interviews from these successful persons has always taught me that no matter where you are from you can make if you have the right attitude.
how can i get this right attitude?
let me introduce you to some certain secrets which parallel all the successful persons in the world. it is called the strangest secret in the world. this teaching changed my perspective about success and money. Here is the teaching I've made it into a video enjoy


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Obo16n43O0

i have always wondered how the successful men and women emerged from slumps and creeks. it has always bothered me. watching a lot of success stories and interviews from these successful persons has always taught me that no matter where you are from you can make if you have the right attitude.
how can i get this right attitude?
let me introduce you to some certain secrets which parallel all the successful persons in the world. it is called the strangest secret in the world. this teaching changed my perspective about success and money. Here is the teaching I've made it into a video enjoy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Obo16n43O0

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SMART means
S- Specific
M- Measurable
A- Achievable
R- Relevant
T- Time bound
to know more about goals this video provides an an in-dept insight on it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3rdIOKjlxVY