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Family / Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by nyovest300(m): 7:35pm On Mar 26, 2021
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*




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#EFCC no fit spell under false pretence well�
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instead of them to focus on their reasons of going there and make mama proud
Crime / Re: Lady Escapes From Ritualist Den In Delta After Being Hypnotized by nyovest300(m): 7:24pm On Nov 14, 2018
Kalashnikov102:
Thank God for rescuing you from all those hungry lazy youths shouting If We No Buy The Benz Wettin We Gain
. truthful sayings grin
Kalashnikov102:
Thank God for rescuing you from all those hungry lazy youths shouting If We No Buy The Benz Wettin We Gain
. truthful sayings

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Religion / Re: Would It Still Be Tithe If I Pay It To Someone In Need Rather Than The Church? by nyovest300(m): 11:43am On Nov 04, 2018
paxonel:
The poor deserves the money more than the church, give it to the poor
who told you? pls dont confuse him the tithe is Gods own now this is why we sre usually caught up in the middle cause we do the right thing witha a wrong means.....God said we should give i/410 of our earnings that is to say into the church so if you want to help others do it out of your own money and not the one of God so if you have been doing that ever since my bro you have not been paying your tithe so SIT UP and do the right thing
Crime / Re: Huge Arms And Ammunitions Consignment Delivered To Nigerian Army by nyovest300(m): 1:12pm On Nov 03, 2018
na now day break for thier eyes? dem for still continue to use hunter guns day fight boko haram
Celebrities / Re: Nigerian Soldiers Reportedly Forced A Lady Who Wore A Camouflage, To Pull It Off by nyovest300(m): 10:22am On Oct 31, 2018
Fierce11:
They are not good at anything except at harrassing innocent civilians.. If its to remove the hijab of a suicide bomber, you won't see them in that particular state. The Nigerian Military are just a collection of vagabond bastards that deserve to die gruesomely. (spits)
you are nothing but a mad man....why would she wear a camour before? and mind you you will die thier gruesome death......lazy youth
Crime / Re: Girl Thrown Out Of Pool Party, Unclad, For Resisting Sexual Harassment In Lagos by nyovest300(m): 9:52am On Oct 30, 2018
wetin she find go there before?

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Romance / Re: Wow I Never Knew Yoruba Women Love Igbo Men This Much by nyovest300(m): 11:23am On Oct 29, 2018
igbo amaka

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Romance / Re: See This Landlord's Wife Bleeping Her Tenant by nyovest300(m): 11:09am On Oct 29, 2018
sherylng:
08030875413 call me
wow you re damn serious
Crime / Re: Man Secretly Buries His Girlfriend In Ogun After She Died During Sex (Photo) by nyovest300(m): 10:38am On Oct 29, 2018
afonja skull miners hymen rippers.............Rip to the dead
Celebrities / Re: "You Look Pregnant": Simi Slays In Denim Shorts At The Beach, Fans React by nyovest300(m): 10:23am On Oct 29, 2018
everything bout this girl looks fake....smile fake pose fake absolutly everything FAKE

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Celebrities / Re: Lynda Ebigwei Bare Butt In Swimsuit (Photos) by nyovest300(m): 10:19am On Oct 29, 2018
apart from me who else sees kro kor in that ass?
Politics / Re: Nnamdi Kanu Featured On Israeli National TV, Reveals What He Told FG. Photos by nyovest300(m): 10:16am On Oct 29, 2018
ThugCheetah:
why can't kanu just die in peace and allow we ewedugerians to rest grin
the news o f his reemergence really struck a devastating blow to our skull mining buisness In abeokuta where I've been working as an apprentice.
mad man lol
Phones / Re: ***** Infinix Discussion Thread ***** by nyovest300(m): 11:53am On Oct 28, 2018
krattoss:
factory reset.
m have tried it already
Phones / Re: ***** Infinix Discussion Thread ***** by nyovest300(m): 12:51pm On Oct 27, 2018
pls my infinix phone hangs every two seconds just recently here my phone that has been working fine automatically stopped working
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only you posted something only you have filled the comment box...........werey, oloshi hungry blogger

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Celebrities / Re: Tboss Is Against Calling Ladies "Bitches" by nyovest300(m): 11:45am On Oct 26, 2018
grin where is nicki minaj? pls tell her to come carry her title
Celebrities / Re: Nicki Minaj Shows Off Her Curves In New Sexy Photos by nyovest300(m): 3:30pm On Oct 24, 2018
her age don born finish she still dey here dey show off her curves abegi where meek mill or nas make dem kor tell me how the nyansh really be......... who slap me?
Celebrities / Re: Simi Flashes Her Side Boobs As She Steps Out In Her Boyfriend's Shirt by nyovest300(m): 11:11am On Oct 23, 2018
youngest85:
She flashes one side of a chest coz I can't find any boob there o
lol keep searching
Celebrities / Re: Tonto Dikeh Talks About Her New Man & His Performance In Bed (photo) by nyovest300(m): 11:08am On Oct 23, 2018
what do you expect from a b.tch that has pussy as a middle name?

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Romance / Re: See The Photos Of Actress Juliet Ibrahim That Make My Wife Broke My Phone by nyovest300(m): 11:04am On Oct 23, 2018
lawman88:


I have long understood that sadism and unnecessary bitterness are symptoms of depression and frustration. so there is no reason to tango with you. I and my wife wish you quick recovery!
yes ooo he needs quick recovery infact speedy recovery no no wait o lets use this term sharp shaarp recovery pls

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Romance / Re: I'm Losing My Girlfriend To This. (graphic Images) HELP! by nyovest300(m): 10:58am On Oct 23, 2018
TheOdd1sOut:
op is a one minute man
Op is a one punch man
His sex tapes are as fast as gif images
lol some people get badmouth shaa
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fallen heroes...........thank me later
Romance / Re: Man Resting His Head On His Fiancée’s Chest In Beautiful Pre-wedding Photos by nyovest300(m): 10:24am On Oct 22, 2018
she go sabi cook o
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no wonder fulani herdsmen and the benue*s and 5&6
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how much?
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all i see is hairs everywhere......if you know you know
Celebrities / Re: Tatiana Dikeh Attempts Suicide: Tonto Dikeh's Sister Drinks Hypo by nyovest300(m): 3:33pm On Oct 20, 2018
OgogoroFreak:
No resemblance at all. It's like tonto dike papa dey fvck toto up and down.
yes na, that is what the TONTO stands for........ lol

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Culture / Re: Okrika Iria Ceremony For Virgins Commences (Photos) by nyovest300(m): 12:58pm On Oct 20, 2018
Uglymugg:
What is fattening room?
where they are being fed with sperm

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