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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Nobody: 7:01pm On Mar 31, 2021
abbey621:


Is it tho? Human psychology is very interesting especially the psychology of males, most men are jealous naturally, common boyfriend dey get jealous because his grilfriend was seen with another guy, not knowing he has no cliam to her becuase she's a free woman. Marriage often solves this problem because a married woman in our society behaves according to certain expectations.
You are naive my friend.

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by FatherOfJesus: 7:05pm On Mar 31, 2021
abbey621:


Is it tho? Human psychology is very interesting especially the psychology of males, most men are jealous naturally, common boyfriend dey get jealous because his grilfriend was seen with another guy, not knowing he has no cliam to her becuase she's a free woman. Marriage often solves this problem because a married woman in our society behaves according to certain expectations.
Lol, this one na sabi men game. Lol
You Bleep and I Bleep, as long as string no Dey.
Sha no give her belle, no spoil our fucking

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by omoharry(f): 7:07pm On Mar 31, 2021
Ournolly:


The bolded hardly happen.
Like one in a million.

Any home with woman as the financial backbone is like hell to the man.
The women will always broadcast it to any ear that cares to listen.
You are either a very ignorant person or from a bad home, where you didn’t see your mum support your dad .
My sister is an example of a good wife . She supported her husband all through when things were tight for him . I knew about this, becos he was out of job for three years .
Even after he was able secure a job, she still supports him with rent ,children school fees and everything that is required in the home .In-fact , they do things together . Yet there is that mutual respect between them .He respect her and she respect him .
When she had issues with her work, her husband was by her side to helped out in whatever way he could In resolving the issues .

They are partners and see things from “our” pointy of view rather than “My ‘.They are a typical example of what marriage should be .Respect from both end and not one sided .Generosity from both end and not one sided .Honesty from both end and not one side. Faithfulness both end and not one sided .

All through my stay with them ,I never heard him disrespect my sister nor she him ...They have never quarreled openly . Though ,they argue. w indoor which I suspect .
This is their 10th year of marriage and I have never head that they had an issued that required families to settle .
They have never fought physically, nor have I heard then engage in any open verbal confrontation in the house .

Sometimes when you guys open your mouth and start talking, it makes me wonder what part of world you guys belong to. That give you the impression that a woman can not support or keep the home front running, in order to cover her husband shame without announcing to the whole world of her deeds or turn the man to a doormat .
I have friends that are equally matured ,responsible & hard working and good wives to their husbands. I have seen many support their husbands and their business until the business pick up . You won’t know it becos they do not announce it .
So, Pls broaden your horizon about strong women in our society that are quietly running their various homes and supporting their husband without anyone knowing about it .
We still have good & responsible women all around and they should not be painted with the same brush you use are using for your N500-2000 cheap immature girls that you pick by the road side or meet online .

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Onyxunlimited(f): 7:08pm On Mar 31, 2021
Escabado:
If you say s. ex : currently s.ex is the cheapest commodity you can buy now as low as N500 to N1000

If you say a child : how can a woman have sex with a man give birth , and she seats back waiting for the man to bring money for feeding, clothing , house bills . Which is called financial slavery

If you say been responsible : how can only a man be responsible for the children, and a woman who is a grown up adult . We're as both of them are supposed to be responsible for there family expenses.

Have u noticed when a man takes up all the financial responsibility of his home till the kids grow they only buy gift and cars for there mom.

Have you also noticed when a woman bear financial cost for raising her child , she will spoil there minds towards there father and make them see him as evil .have u ever seen a single mother that speaks good of his baby dady ? We need to use our head here .think very well men



So tell me exactly what a man stand to gain in marriage .
He gains a baby maker, baby nurse, child nurturer, home maker, housekeeper, cook, laundry woman, prayer warrior, supporter, helper, household errand runner, home manager, nurse, the list is endless.
Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Onyxunlimited(f): 7:10pm On Mar 31, 2021
gudvibz:
Truth be told same can be asked of some women. I mean if u truly are honest you'll see that there are homes where women are the financial backbone yet you don't hear them crying or screaming for the world to hear.

I have seen homes where the men where just figure heads ,the women do everything yet the man takes the glory and they aren't dead.WHAT DO U SUPPOSE THE WOMAN IS GAINING FROM SUCH OGA POSTER
True. These days many women are breadwinners but they are expected by the society to be quiet about it and pretend that it is their husbands' money they are spending.

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by OriginalZombiE: 7:16pm On Mar 31, 2021
cococandy:

all your logic and you’re still on the internet whining.

Just because that poster had an (f) attached to their moniker, you decided the post was an emotional outburst . What if I tell you the poster is a man like you?
Then you’ll start to see the logic in his post?

Smh.

Enjoy your 5 minutes of fame.

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by ogbonti: 7:20pm On Mar 31, 2021
Constant se . x you seek in marriage becomes elusive after you exchange vows 2 years down the. road you continue hustling to lay spinsters as if you are a bachelor

The friendship you seek in a wife after marriage becomes absent because she becomes your biggest adversary


The Helper you seek by getting married becomes a mirage as she becomes a liability asking you to care for her every need including buying pant and brassiere


The comfort you seek becomes a pipe dream as she becomes an agent of stress upon your life


The freedom you craved through marriage becomes unachievable as she hovers around you like a monitoring spirit checking your every move and sabotaging them unnecessarily


The blessings of wealth you want from marriage becomes utopian as your Nigerian wife is a constraint on your budget than being an asset - requesting you take care of her extended family as if you are a beast of burden created to care for her family


The good health you hoped for is unrealized as constant nagging becomes the order of the day which creates blood pressure issues which may lead to cardiovascular illness


The enviable social status you hoped for becomes social embarrassment as she will subject you to public ridicule especially in this age of social media - if you don’t know go ask FFK and Churchill Olakunle


The kids you hope to raise and be happy with may actually be the offsprings of some other man and if you are not smart enough to “count your teeth with your tongue” and run a DNA test, you may actually end of sweating and laboring all your life raising another man’s kids hence the lineage you so much crave to establish as your legacy becomes the legacy of another man


I am not for or against marriage but men think- and understand that nature has rigged marriage against men and it is left for you to do what is best for you, simply enjoy life and move on - THERE IS A REASON WIVES OUTLIVE THEIR HUSBANDS FOR AN AVERAGE OF 25 to 30 YEARS- Don’t be a fo ol



God bless you all

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by richie240: 7:34pm On Mar 31, 2021
deeva2:
HE WHO FINDS A WIFE, FOUND A GOOD THING AND OBTAIN FAVOUR FROM THE LORD...OUR TRADITION AND RELIGEONS SUPPORTS MARRIAGE..ITS NOW YOUR CHOICE
I love and concur with wt u said......in as much as its 'wife', not 'slay queens'.
majority of modern day women fall into d 2nd category.
Most modern day women just want the 'mrs' title but not d accountabilities and responsibilities that go with it.
sorry.
cool

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by richie240: 7:42pm On Mar 31, 2021
isthatso:


if you analyse the whole situation, a man's happiness in life is down to being in good standing financially not down to being married. No matter how good a woman is (and they are scare) you will see hell if you are not financially buoyant. If you are financially bouyant, you will get all the trappings of marraige without the agggro because no Nigerian woman will leave a man who is financially bouyant even if you have 2 or 3 women!!!
Kosiro nibe!
Even d teenag actress - Regina - didn't mind being d 'ancient-of-days' - Ned nwoko's 6th wife!

Bible don torkam:
"....money answereth all things...."

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Pharaoh4rin(m): 7:43pm On Mar 31, 2021
DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Na only toto meanwhile you don't even need to be married to have access to unlimited supply of fresh toto grin

Diced pineapple-Rick Ross
Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by mmsen: 7:47pm On Mar 31, 2021
Poor health.

Stress.

Debt.

Mental abuse.

You will gain the above in spades in the average marriage.

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Eastcoastboy(m): 7:54pm On Mar 31, 2021
ibedun:


There is no king or kingdom to create heirs for.

Our ancestors knew nothing about any biblical demands (more than 75% of the world are not Christians)

Anybody can be a companion, it does not require a legal marriage.

None of what you said is necessary!!!

Shame on you o ye! King. You think it's only traditional rulers that have kingdom? What happened to the investment you leave behind for your children, the family name and heritage.

Be liberated o ye! Kings.
Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by yeman1(m): 7:58pm On Mar 31, 2021
Raalsalghul:


Chai!

You dey suffer oh. embarassed


Wetin man go do ??

My friends advice me to look for beautiful chick ,, na me dey doll myself

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by niyidenrele: 8:05pm On Mar 31, 2021
If I may ask , who do you like most between your father and mother, am sure your mother comes first , same as many , it's natural, but come to think of it , we men only start complaining on how we felt cheated in a marriage relationship, but while still young and unmarried, we always believe our father through their actions, are wicked , the thought we carry not until when we married and may have lost our father to the cold hands of death , then we start appreciating their pains and efforts
And cycles continues

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by mayberry1(f): 8:06pm On Mar 31, 2021
CamusMidas:

For your tiny mind you don off everybody with this silly point, dumb girl.



Hey boy! Marriage isn't meant for everyone, so why the fuss?

Stay away from my mention retard...
Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by weddingchannels: 8:08pm On Mar 31, 2021
Imagine you were not born, this senseless post won't have come to be.

ibedun:


The children are no longer necessary!
Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Ayo2004: 8:11pm On Mar 31, 2021
Op,the disadvantages greatly outweighs the advantages (if there is any)There is a reason most Nigerian husbands die before their wife.After struggling day and night to provide for the wife and children by even doing things that are detrimental to his longetivity,he may not be able to live long.The funny thing is that if he has had any small issue with his wife before his death or he doesn't provide up to her selfish expectations,she derides,insults and demeans him to her children and almost anyone that cares to know

The constant nagging,low sex libido,financial slavery,in-laws drama, emotional bondage are enough reasons to live your life as a bachelor.Even if the wife is a bad one giving constant problems and even refusing the man sex for months,the man is expected not to cheat and suffer till thy kingdom come.They deceive with the "marriage is happiness" narrative meanwhile it is the exact opposite.Many times,she would even force u to side with her over your parents and siblings

In Western societies,it is even worse,if u don't have a pre-nuptial agreement and u guys have a serious falling out,she can frame you by doing stuffs like inflicting injuries on herself and blaming you for domestic abuse.Once she has a good divorce attorney,she would take the house,the car,the kids, half of your bank account and half of your salary till u go 6feet into the ground

Man wey no get sense,na him long life go suffer am

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Votukpa(m): 8:12pm On Mar 31, 2021
Marriage between a man and woman is the MOST powerful social institution in the cosmos. It can literally create life and nurture life, which the most impossible task on Earth (without marriage). If marriage can do this, then there is NOTHING it cannot acomplish. Any wonders why there is great warfare on that terrain?

This warfare became increasingly pronounced, starting from the turn of the 20th century until now and I don't need to go into the historical details. However let me emphasize that our lives here on Earth is spiritual. Life is spiritual and more so than we think. Marriage is spiritual. This simply means that it has its foundation (manual) from a place we cannot see.

Consider the following:
1. Women are spiritual gates. Every woman. This is the reason why life can only come to earth via the womb of a woman.

2. Everything on Earth (effect) has a spiritul origin (cause). This is a universal edict we all know. This Nexus is based on LAW or legality, and this established the workings or design of anything created.

2. If women are spiritual gates, life is not the only spiritual thing that comes through them to manifest physically. Other things may follow the same pathway.

4. There is good and evil in the world (see) because there is good and evil in the spirit (unseen)

5. The EASIEST way for these to have expression In the world is women. Women are very important, especially to Kings (men) as well as spirits. They can be destructive too. Depends on how the 'horse is mounted' or 'gates are opened'. I say they are the easiest way because women are numerous in the world and so good or evil spirits can manifest en mass through women. There are other gates as well but this is about women.

5. The right way to mount the horse is marriage to good woman. A good woman first of all is a woman who fears God i.e principled and as such is trained as one who will be. She is also a gate that has not been ilegally opened.

6. A woman who has been ilegally opened becomes a doorway for evil to come into the world to find expression. Any man who goes into her or marries her is greeted by evil and death in their varying magnitudes of manifestation.

7. A good woman will bring ONLY good to her King, all the days of her life. This is a Law.
Why? She was trained to be a good woman and was legally opened. Only a good fruit can grow and fall from a good tree. No woman can pretend to be good at all. Is she principled and acts it out? Is she still 'closed' and seeks to be opened legally? She is a good woman.

8. There are few good women because there is much to be gained from the evil that can come out through these numerous spirituals gates called women. To birth evil into the world, the numerous gates (women) in the world MUST to be INVERTED or corrupted, sexually and morally.

9. Men of wisdom and knowledge are men who understand that life is spiritual and behave accordingly. These are the Kings. Kings know that the world is predictable and they work the predictability to their advantage.

Woe unto the rest.

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by YelloweWest: 8:13pm On Mar 31, 2021
FuckThaMod:

CR7 first son was through IVF and he's happy with life.
He has a wife now doesn't he?
Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by AvalonSpace(m): 8:14pm On Mar 31, 2021
Nothing.. we're not gaining anything

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Klass99(f): 8:38pm On Mar 31, 2021
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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by FatherOfJesus: 8:44pm On Mar 31, 2021
Votukpa:
Marriage between a man and woman is the MOST powerful social institution in the cosmos. It can literally create life and nurture life, which the most impossible task on Earth (without marriage). If marriage can do this, then there is NOTHING it cannot acomplish. Any wonders why there is great warfare on that terrain?

This warfare became increasingly pronounced, starting from the turn of the 20th century until now and I don't need to go into the historical details. However let me emphasize that our lives here on Earth is spiritual. Life is spiritual and more so than we think. Marriage is spiritual. This simply means that it has its foundation (manual) from a place we cannot see.

Consider the following:
1. Women are spiritual gates. Every woman. This is the reason why life can only come to earth via the womb of a woman.

2. Everything on Earth (effect) has a spiritul origin (cause). This is a universal edict we all know. This Nexus is based on LAW or legality, and this established the workings or design of anything created.

2. If women are spiritual gates, life is not the only spiritual thing that comes through them to manifest physically. Other things may follow the same pathway.

4. There is good and evil in the world (see) because there is good and evil in the spirit (unseen)

5. The EASIEST way for these to have expression In the world is women. Women are very important, especially to Kings (men) as well as spirits. They can be destructive too. Depends on how the 'horse is mounted' or 'gates are opened'. I say they are the easiest way because women are numerous in the world and so good or evil spirits can manifest en mass through women. There are other gates as well but this is about women.

5. The right way to mount the horse is marriage to good woman. A good woman first of all is a woman who fears God i.e principled and as such is trained as one who will be. She is also a gate that has not been ilegally opened.

6. A woman who has been ilegally opened becomes a doorway for evil to come into the world to find expression. Any man who goes into her or marries her is greeted by evil and death in their varying magnitudes of manifestation.

7. A good woman will bring ONLY good to her King, all the days of her life. This is a Law.
Why? She was trained to be a good woman and was legally opened. Only a good fruit can grow and fall from a good tree. No woman can pretend to be good at all. Is she principled and acts it out? Is she still 'closed' and seeks to be opened legally? She is a good woman.

8. There are few good women because there is much to be gained from the evil that can come out through these numerous spirituals gates called women. To birth evil into the world, the numerous gates (women) in the world MUST to be INVERTED or corrupted, sexually and morally.

9. Men of wisdom and knowledge are men who understand that life is spiritual and behave accordingly. These are the Kings. Kings know that the world is predictable and they work the predictability to their advantage.

Woe unto the rest.
Story, we are talking what happens in reality, you are here giving motivational speech.
Go around and do research on what men pass through in marriages.

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Saintdan0421(m): 8:46pm On Mar 31, 2021
God ordained marriage so your question should be directed to HIM...


Las las na for only marriage you fit dey give your wife doggy Sunday morning still go church dat same morning dey shout Halleluyah without guilt or remorse.
Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Nobody: 8:53pm On Mar 31, 2021
Onyxunlimited:

He gains a baby maker, baby nurse, child nurturer, home maker, housekeeper, cook, laundry woman, prayer warrior, supporter, helper, household errand runner, home manager, nurse, the list is endless.
it's not only baby maker, its baby manufacturer.

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by DEMZEE(m): 9:06pm On Mar 31, 2021
cococandy:


grin
It’s your fellow men that will revolt against you when this your unrealistic internet-incel-redpill-hogwash or whatever it is actually happens in real life.

“HiGh vAluE mEn yen yen yen. All pooR men don’T thinK about woMen unTil you beCome rICh thEN yOu caN haVe as manY as yoU wanT becausE wOmen are obJects bla bla bla.”

yet millions of you are dead rat poor. The remaining few millions are barely getting by and will remain that way until death calls in their ripe old age. when will they ever get a chance to have the harem of women sex objects that they deserve?

But what do I know? If point out how it’s rooted in the imagination of an egotistical foolish male perspective,
You’ll say I’m emotional and you’re the logical one grin

Life isn't fair ma'am, men know this.

U are a vagina person so Wat do u know about having a penis. U don't and will never understand masculine problems bitch!!

And yes u are stupidly emotional and u lack logic

Women don't and can't think, they can only emot-think

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by FatherOfJesus: 9:11pm On Mar 31, 2021
Saintdan0421:
God ordained marriage so your question should be directed to HIM...


Las las na for only marriage you fit dey give your wife doggy Sunday morning still go church dat same morning dey shout Halleluyah without guilt or remorse.

Dont look at everything from a religious point of view. Not everyone share your religious sentiments

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Saintdan0421(m): 9:22pm On Mar 31, 2021
FatherOfJesus:
Dont look at everything from a religious point of view. Not everyone share your religious sentiments

Hey the afforementioned is my personal opinion, can't remember enforcing my belief on anybody. And you advising me against looking at everything from a religious point of view makes you *Stupid, otherwise poof me wrong by defining "everything".
Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by FatherOfJesus: 9:24pm On Mar 31, 2021
Saintdan0421:


Hey the afforementioned is my personal opinion, can't remember enforcing my belief on anybody. And you advising me against looking at everything from a religious point of view makes you *Stupid, otherwise poof me wrong by defining "everything".
Does your religion teaches you to insult strangers online?

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Saintdan0421(m): 9:25pm On Mar 31, 2021
FatherOfJesus:
Does your religion teaches you to insult strangers online?

Proof me wrong now or forever remain stupid.
Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by FatherOfJesus: 9:27pm On Mar 31, 2021
Saintdan0421:


Proof me wrong now or forever remain stupid.
No wonder the country is the way it is. When we have rude people who talk about God.

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by dontai(m): 9:31pm On Mar 31, 2021
YelloweWest:

He has a wife now doesn't he?
no, she's a girlfriend/partner.

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Re: What Does A Man Stand To Gain In Marriage by Saintdan0421(m): 9:31pm On Mar 31, 2021
FatherOfJesus:
No wonder the country is the way it is. When we have rude people who talk about God.

Oops, Mr atheist now playing the victim anyway enjoy your night.

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