Happy new week everyone.
I decided to bring this up on this platform cos I want candid and lucid advice. I be brief on this.

I am a Pharmacist working with one of the government owned health care centre. There's this girl I've been with for more than 2years now. She is a law student in her penultimate year in university. Like most Nigerian relationships, we started with lot of distractions and lacked commitment but over time it remained just the two of us.

At the beginning of this year 2021 we made relationship goals and decided to be transparent to each other. We shared every secrets, went through each others phone and asked questions where necessary. All went well until last month when I went to check on her in the university, asked for her phone as usual wanted checking her whatsapp. She didn't let me, said till she comes for weekend when we'll have good time for that. I was surprised, had my doubts but let it slide. She later came for the weekend, I acted as if I don't care anymore and that was it.

Similar event happened last night after she went through my phone (whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc) cos she has my password but I don't have hers. I unexpectedly asked for her phone too, she said it's late and we should leave it till am back from weekend call later in the evening. I kept my cool last night but was bent on seeing her chat this morning not until she bursted into tears. I ain't perfect, have my flaws but I am free spirited whenever I am around her. It normal for a lady to have lots of guys in her dm, but I think it's a problem when it becomes secretive to your partner.

Should I play along, start having secrets too or what's your thought guys.

NB: I skipped so many things, decided being straight to the point.

Lalasticla...I remain loyal, hoping you'll do the needful

deep down u know that girl is hiding something from u...so what exactly is ur problem young man?

Robertgreene1:
deep down u know that girl is hiding something from u...so what exactly is ur problem young man?

What should I do?

elisha820:

What should I do?

love her more.

If you are not fvcking her well, I mean making her cvm. She's gonna cheat on you.

To make a girl loyal you need to be great in sex and also great in mind games.

elisha820:


What should I do?

js continue loving her more like fati said..she might js take pity on u one day nd decide 2 stop manipulating u..who knows?
MUMU!!!

Love still dey shack this one

Tomorrow na you'll start Weeping and gnashing your teeth saying this girl "Used Jazz on me".... How can the girl know your password and have Unrestricted access to your phone and Privacy and she'll deny you access to hers with Idiotic excuses.

Oga are you not a Man that knows what he wants, I believe you have goals and priorities that you wish to accomplish in this Life, So why is it difficult for you to Let that girl know that you're not here to "Play games", why is it difficult for you to Express yourself and let her know with a serious tone in your voice that you will not tolerate such behavior and excuses from her.


Oga it is your type that finally gets married and start lamenting "I Made a Horrible Mistake by Marrying this Woman", meanwhile it is your Fault from the beginning because you failed to set Boundaries and stamp your Authority as a man that knows what he wants.

People won't like to hear this and I personally dont give a FÚCK, nowadays, Respect is what makes a Relationship last longer and Stronger especially when the Respect is Mutual, Love is just secondary.

If that girl had a good Percentage of Respect for you, she won't have the guts to go through your phone and your Privacy and start giving excuses when you want to go through hers.

You're seeing the "Red Flags" now and you're forming gentleman, your eyes go soon Clear

Robertgreene1:
deep down u know that girl is hiding something from u...so what exactly is ur problem young man?

Thank you for asking him.

He suspects something is fishy but he is afraid of the truth.

....guy, just go on with the relationship, there is no good girl flirt wise anywhere in d world...

If my holy supposedly good no sex relationship girl could suddenly remove her last seen history and whitened her two marks lines on watsapp, everybody can cheat......

Plz guy duck as may pussies as you can.. Even when your married. No girl is worth your faithfulness ND goodness.. Just don't care about whether she cheats or not... Always use a rubber...

Don't worry yourself about ladies, they are all the same!

DaddyRochie1642:
Love still dey shack this one

Tomorrow na you'll start Weeping and gnashing your teeth saying this girl "Used Jazz on me".... How can the girl know your password and have Unrestricted access to your phone and Privacy and she'll deny you access to hers with Idiotic excuses.

Oga are you not a Man that knows what he wants, I believe you have goals and priorities that you wish to accomplish in this Life, So why is it difficult for you to Let that girl know that you're not here to "Play games", why is it difficult for you to Express yourself and let her know with a serious tone in your voice that you will not tolerate such behavior and excuses from her.


Oga it is your type that finally gets married and start lamenting "I Made a Horrible Mistake by Marrying this Woman", meanwhile it is your Fault from the beginning because you failed to set Boundaries and stamp your Authority as a man that knows what he wants.

People won't like to hear this and I personally dont give a FÚCK, nowadays, Respect is what makes a Relationship last longer and Stronger especially when the Respect is Mutual, Love is just secondary.

If that girl had a good Percentage of Respect for you, she won't have the guts to go through your phone and your Privacy and start giving excuses when you want to go through hers.

You're seeing the "Red Flags" now and you're forming gentleman, your eyes go soon Clear

Roger that! Though you came hard on me

Thank you for your advice, it has been taken!

elisha820:


What should I do?

I was just like you about 10 years ago.

I don't know who I pity more; foolish present You or my 29year-old former foolish self

bigpicture001:
....guy, just go on with the relationship, there is no good girl flirt wise anywhere in d world...

If my holy supposedly good no sex relationship girl could suddenly remove her last seen history and whitened her two marks lines on watsapp, everybody can cheat......

Plz guy duck as may pussies as you can.. Even when your married. No girl is worth your faithfulness ND goodness.. Just don't care about whether she cheats or not... Always use a rubber...

Don't worry yourself about ladies, they are all the same!

Bad guy
At some point one need to focus all his energy and attention on one person, one can't be a player forever.

I get your point bruh, well noted!

Havesomesense:
If you are not fvcking her well, I mean making her cvm. She's gonna cheat on you.

To make a girl loyal you need to be great in sex and also great in mind games.

The former ain't a problem I say this confidently....I'll work on the latter.

Verily, verily I say unto you, only the sight of a happily derailing brother graciously strolling into the Simp's Legion of Gloom will make NwaAmaikpe toss an overload of global assignments and run to their aid.

It is so sad that in your lineage, neighborhood, work environment and amongst your everyday acquaintances; you'be been unfortunate not to have anyone train you up in the ways of men.

For men only two rules exist; Rule #1 and the Golden rule.
Rule #1: "Trust no one till you've verified".

And

Golden Rule: "No matter the amount of your verifications, never trust a female".

There's even a peculiar one for Nigerian ladies.

"NEVER EVER TRUST A WOMAN IN A NIGERIAN TERTIARY INSTITUTION" (Triple emphasis on Never Ever')

You my brother have broken the 1st rule, the golden rule and the peculiar rule with a huge smile on your face.
Of all the girls in the world to choose to commit your heart to, why go for an undergraduate?
Those fickle minded broads aren't ready for commitment but just attention thrills, infatuation whims and a race on the fast lane.

Take it or leave it, half the time you've kissed that girl, you've been licking the remnant of one diseased lecturer's semen she has been gulping to scale through in school or that of a lodgemate whose room she goes to charge her phone to chat with you.

To answer your questions.

Yes, it is normal for an attention-deficient, undecided whorre to have so many men in their DM, because that is what they do for a living, get high off flatters and spread their legs for the man with the best tongue.
Sad still, these type of girls get fvcked for free while their pharmacist boyfriend recommends cocktail of drugs to treat infections she claims to have gotten from the hostel toilet.

No committed girlfriend/wife encourages needless Social media communications with men because they know that inspite of all the detours, any man who chats up a woman is ultimately headed to one direction.

Should you play along?
No! Stop playing because you've been playing yourself all along. You need urgent help but my fear is that you are utterly unhelpable and have been condemned by the devil to be a SIMP on earth.
If a grown ass worker like yourself will let a teen in on your secrets, your passwords and worse even; be swayed by her manipulative tears, then I have no words for you and I take back my rants.

oga still insist you want to go through her phone ask for her password, if she finally gives you then it's okay , but if she doesn't then oga it's enough to call a relationship, but before u do f**k and f**k her real good. Then leave her and find someone else. But if u think u should continue the relationship with u guys keeping secrets, then plenty of tears awaits u to be shed o



by the way, who's is this guy on top of me for this easter Sunday?

dont trust just fxck and keep living



if you love totally with your heart, you can become heart broken, the less you trust, the better life is

the person you trust most is the who will betray you

NwaAmaikpe:





Verily, verily I say unto you, only the sight of a happily derailed brother graciously strolling into the Simp's Legion of Gloom will make NwaAmaikpe toss an overload of global assignments and run to their aid.

This one strong....

elisha820:


Bad guy
At some point one need to focus all his energy and attention on one person, one can't be a player forever.

I get your point bruh, well noted!

Bro am not just saying that based on Badt guy stuffs.. Av been there, even up to about to marry stage... Am telling you stop getting worked up on relationships issues... Just don't care about her privates like her phone and her social media.... And Bleep very much any pussy u find attractive. Cuz u being loyal doesn't change anything.. Your being nice changes nothing.

Even when you get married, still hit on gals u feel like hitting just respect her not to rob it on her face... But don't try to b a good or a loyal man to any lady... Dey don't value it

Girls everywhere are the same thing and all of them will never leave you once you have money

bercarray:
oga still insist you want to go through her phone ask for her password, if she finally gives you then it's okay , but if she doesn't then oga it's enough to call a relationship, but before u do f**k and f**k her real good. Then leave her and find someone else. But if u think u should continue the relationship with u guys keeping secrets, then plenty of tears awaits u to be shed o



by the way, who's is this guy on top of me for this easter Sunday?

I have no tears to shed. Meanwhile thank you for your advice

BBBells:
dont trust just fxck and keep living



if you love totally with your heart, you can become heart broken, the less you trust, the better life is

the person you trust most is the who will betray you

Love comes with pain....now I understand.
They say expect the worst, you won't get surprised

NwaAmaikpe:





Verily, verily I say unto you, only the sight of a happily derailed brother graciously strolling into the Simp's Legion of Gloom will make NwaAmaikpe toss an overload of global assignments and run to their aid.

It is so sad that in your lineage, neighborhood, work environment and amongst your everyday acquaintances; you're unfortunate to not have anyone train you up in the ways of men.

For men only two rules exist; Rule #1 and the Golden rule.
Rule #1: "Trust no one till you've verified".

And

Golden Rule: "No matter the amount of your verifications, never trust a female".

There's an even a peculiar one for Nigerian ladies.

"NEVER EVER TRUST A WOMAN IN A NIGERIAN TERTIARY INSTITUTION" (Triple emphasis on Never Ever')

You my brother have broken the 1st rule, the golden rule and the peculiar rule with a huge smile on your face.
Of all the girls in the world to choose to commit your heart to, why go for an undergraduate?

Take it or leave it, half the time you've kissed that girl, you've been licking the remnant of one diseased lecturer's semen she has been gulping to scale through in school or that of a lodgemate whose room she goes to charge her phone to chat with you.

Don't wanna say this, but this is disgusting...I mean there are exception to some things. Not all university girls are thesame. Believe it or not we have family and siblings in the system... not all of them are runs girls...get that clearly.

Thank you for your advice though

AMERICAN DOLLAR: in GOD we trust

not in man we trust

the moment you trust someone, you are digging your grave be that

game of thrones: mothet of dragon trusted jon snow, he betrayed her

trust is overrsted
some people dont even trust themsrlves

fati2001:


love her more.

asinh...love her more jaree, because bomb dey ur head abi....oga no too carry ur mind for that girl, na there way...just cruise jhooor

BBBells:
AMERICAN DOLLAR: in GOD we trust


not in man we trust


the moment you trust someone, you are digging your grave be that


game of thrones: mothet of dragon trusted jon snow, he betrayed her


trust is overrsted

some people dont even trust themsrlves

Oyel dey your head!

NwaAmaikpe:






Take it or leave it, half the time you've kissed that girl, you've been licking the remnant of one diseased lecturer's semen she has been gulping to scale through in school or that of a lodgemate whose room she goes to charge her phone to chat with you.


Sad still, these type of girls get fvcked for free while their pharmacist boyfriend recommends cocktail of drugs to treat infections she claims to have gotten from the hostel toilet.

No committed girlfriend/wife encourages needless Social media communications with men because they know that inspite of all the detours, any man who chats up a woman is ulitmately headed to one direction.

This is so horrible to imagine as a guy "in Love"

Dude is right though. I don't know why males prefer to date unstable smallies in school and still take them serious.

elisha820:


Oyel dey your head!

Bruh, don't date an undergraduate girl and expect commitment and exclusivity. Most times, they are swayed by the frivolities and gratifications coming from the guys they meet in school.

At that age, they are not really thinking about sticking to one person; they are more concerned about having a taste of each "broth", especially when the person they are supposed to be committed to is working class and not there to check them properly.

You have your fears and misgivings about her currently and I am here to tell you that they are all TRUE. Every one of them. And that's just the bitter truth.

However, as a caveat, not all undergraduate females are like that. There are obviously good and committed ones, but can you vouch for your Girl being among the exceptions?

The babe is playing you, you too play her.
It's as simple as that.
Haven't you heard?
NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE USELESS.

Sometimes I wonder the kind of simps we HV this day or is that fathers are no longer training their male child again.
Gone are the days when men had respect and authority but this day all I can see are just SIMPs claiming to be gentle guys.
Imagine the nonsense I just read, a lady has your password and u don't HV hers, aren't nonsense.
Young man, u better man up or the girl will do the man up for u. Nigerians girls needs iron hand,l.
I HV worked as a volunteer with an NGO that deals on domestic violence and from some of the cases we treated, yours really looked like one of the cases

Dating an average girl today and expecting loyalty should not be at the back of your mind save for few cases,tomorrow now all men will be the same according to them

you know what to do