That guy does not stay abroad. I will advise you as a sister, kindly avoid that guy and cut off the relationship. He is simply a gold digger.
You may regret it if you continue with that guy.

Grace456:
no be US dey shack me. I can afford to relocate to any country of my choice. Just like him anyway

try to know if the man even have a Passport.... to me the guy is a fraudster okay he may have the opportunity to have travel abroad but the guy is on a mission to rob yu ...... it may takes him a year or two bfor he play his winning card on yu

Grace456:


Just like him anyway

Didn't you just like your baby father anyway? .... with a two year old child you shouldn't be on the way to make the same mistakes again. Times are hard ... you keep advertising you own a duplex and are financially independent... free to travel.... you will attract leeches. Just saying.

What I could pick out of every thing is that the OP has been dickmatized.

She dey feel the bad guy.

Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

Madam that guy/man is fake and don't let him deceive you in the name of marriage, and pls don't be desperate to get a husband to avoid making a big mistake. I think this relationship has hit the rock, but in your next relationship, don't let a man know that you have a house till two of you get married

Y'all should try to reverse the gender and read this again

should I tell u d truth? run for ur life if not that ur duplex u go sell am within 2yrs of marriage

I dont know your relationship with the yanky guy and how good he is but youbsaid he will still go back to the states, so i just feel it wouldn't be nice for him to rent an apartment if he is going to travel back .

morule20:
women and dis their selfish nature, but it will be OK for u to go and stay in his own duplex? madam if u people are planning to settle down, this is nothing wrong with dat, his is ur husband to be, unless u are not ready to marry him. his is not telling u to make him d ownership of d house is just to come and live..

Where have you seen a man going to stay with d woman? Is that how it's don in ur village?

Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

Gold diggers all, ....run

Prince4945:
Y'all should try to reverse the gender and read this again

When reversed its norm. Thats how it should b. The lady goes to her husband house and submit to him. You cant come into my house and still expect me to submit. Taa

The guy is deceiving u.


Just listen to your story, he lives in the USA, but doesn't have a house so he wants to move in with u.

To make matters more funny, someone that lives in the usa that's supposed to have money you are the one supporting him financially.

You need to be careful as you have a daughter, if u make that kind mistake it would be too late, no go marry man way go use your daughter shine o

Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

Don't Allow Him Stay In Ur Duplex. I Perceive There Things Abt Himself He Is Hiding 4rm U. Don't Be A Victim Of Ur Previous Of Relationship. Sister, Be Wise.

While seeking love, Seek safety too.

My sister, you have done very well by not allowing any of them to catch down on you.

I will like to advise you to henceforth be disguising to the subsequent suitors, that you stay with someone (like friend or uncle or family friend), and do not make them to know that you live in your own apartment.

Do also avoid showing of wealth in order to get the real love of your life and not the gold diggers.

Another thing you can do is to rent out the apartment and take up a smaller apartment, so that you will be very free.

More also, do not allow any man into your house until you people have gone very deep into the relationship. Since you would have told 'him' that that you live with someone may be in an uncle's place or friend's place, there will not be any pressure on you for such a visit in your house.

Don't allow any one to live in your house and ended up selling your house on your head.

Also, most time try and avoid driving out.

Above all, you need to be very close to God and let him direct you in all your ways.

You need to marry and you will marry, because "body no be firewood", as they use to say.


If any advice comes to mind, will let you know.

it doesn't necessarily mean that he's playing games (he could be) but I think he's broke

Here is my take.

That guy is an unserious fellow. Jilt him and move on before falling into eternal trap. On your baby daddy, move closer to him get on or two more children from him and seal up. Since you are okay you can always enjoy your life without emotional attachement.

They are fake if they try to ghost you, form quarell, or manipulate you even when they were wrong......
You should not bother. Your priority if you are interested in relationship is to use every means possible to screen off fake people. And your strategy so far is working. Stay with your gut. Don't bulge.
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If you allow their manipulation get you that u go apologizing or excusing their behavior. U will regret it. Yes.
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Face your life. If u are lonely or sex starved....u can date for sex and afterwards..ghost the flings before they become problem.
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Get busy. The right person won't fail to answer with proof simple questions like: "what do you do?..where do u work...where is your house? where are ur family?". if those simple questions become too difficult to answer...Run..Run..don't look back. He's a daylight player.
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This is an advice from a red-piller.

squash47:
Dem go soon cash out for ur head.

That bros abroad is tired of foreign games, he now wants to come Back and play local.

Like how Ahmed Musa came back to play for Local League.

Which well thinking Nigerian man will want to marry and move into his wife's house ?

There is something he is hiding from you.

Modified FTC

I dedicate this FTC to women going through emotional pains in their marriages. May God help you all.

my neighbor, just dey inflict pain on his wife and I feel very sad about it.

Nobody is ready to listen to the woman. Everybody thinks she is wrong. But na d man dey mess up big time.
I just pray she doesn't die of depression.







imagine, your 16 year old mannerless sister go dey insult ur wife and u go dey support d small girl.

some men are Cows.

Tell the man the truth to his face one day...please do it. Beasts everywhere

So what exactly do you know for sure about this man outside the things he has told you about himself?

You met him online, do you know where he is from, any of his family members, where they stay?

Can’t show you any proof to back up his claim on where he works, maybe he probably hopes what you saw on social media is enough to convince you

How long have you known him that he wants to marry you? Maybe he comes around and sees you are comfortable and wants to use the marriage proposal route to leech off you.

He sees you are being careful and starts acting up most definitely to force your hand. Maybe you let slip you were a little desperate for a man in your life?

My advice... Thank God you have your senses intact, please discontinue immediately whatever it is you have with this man. He is clearly not who or what he claims.

Nkea di kwa very risky, but na for people wey get time sha

Put ur eyes and heart on hold, open up ur Brain...
The outcome will pacify your anxiety.

There are lots of good men out there also looking out for who to settle with. Stay patient and very observant, and he will walk into your life, by God's grace. Don't fall for the trappings of flashy guys. Some have packaged themselves in order to target single (and probably successful) ladies like you. There may be a good guy somewhere trying to stay low key so as to be natural, and watching out for a good woman. I hope you are truly ready to settle down to what marriage entails.

In all of these, however, your 2-year-old us a jet factor in whatever decision you take. You need a man who will live our child like his. And don't be too quick to be captured by a man who pretends to live your child. He may be trying to use that as a window to your heart. Watch out for true love. Shine your eyes, as people will say. And put God first in this quest or decision making time.

Wishing you all the best!

PLEASE GIVE US REGULAR UPDATE

Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is...I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

NengiWIDEtoto:
But you would like to marry a man and move into the house he built right?

God Bless You for this Question

SweetCunt97:
Where have you seen a man going to stay with d woman? Is that how it's don in ur village?

Yes o. After the wedding, they escort the groom to the wife's house. That's how they do in his village.

Just be careful of the wolves in sheep clothing

Dump his sorry ass.He's a scrub and a freeloader.
He probably lives in Agboyi-Ketu and is forming Yankee returnee.
Focus on your daughter and your mental health and leave men alone for now please.

Midas01:
If it's a man wi you give him the same advice? So because it's a woman she shouldn't move on with her life?

that's why it's difficult to be a woman. The game is rigged in favor of a man from day one

Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

See don't try it.
Besides you are single mum. That secure your child's future o. Some men are just there to drain you and take what belongs to you under the guise of love.

Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

You made the right decision to be careful, if he can prove that he is who he said he is then be extra careful