I decided to make this post because of a post I saw about sex on a first date making a lady look cheap. For me that's absolutely bullshit and obviously it all depends on the people. I don't believe in all those sex before marriage is a sin while you sin in other different ways. Whether you have sex before marriage or not, a relationship or marriage that will last will surely last and that which will crash will still crash because relationship or marriage is not built on sex but understanding and trust.

I met a lady on a Tuesday at her work place, we chatted and flowed well then exchanged numbers. The next day being Wednesday was her off day from work so we booked it for our first date. After hanging out that Wednesday she followed me home, spent the night and we made love. From that day whenever she closes from work she comes to mine place and pass the night then goes home very early to prepare and go to work. Then she later introduced me to her family and we started building a stronger relationship from there and as I type this post, we are married with two lovely kids and she has been the best wife, mother and friend in my life.

I can travel to anywhere and leave her at home knowing fully well that sex is not her problem and I will come back to my beautiful family intact. Life is all about people's choice and personality so you only just have to pray to have a good partner be it sex before marriage or not.

It is very rare to find this happen.

Xscape1993:
It is very rare to find this happen.

Yes it might be rare but it happens and it's my personal testimony not a story I got from somewhere.

Let me sit down and listen to what elders will say to this

Sure

God bless you OP for this.



Sex on first, second, third or last date is nothing! Sex happens.



Only a naive, evil and devil incarnate of a girl prioritize when and how to offer the smelly kpekus.


Most guys detest sturbbon kpekus. Surrender the kpekus without much hurdles and watch how the guy will adore you.


I Cum in peace.

Imagine if you go for 20 dates and have sex with all of them on the first date.

One guy will now ask you your body count, if you tell him the truth, he'll call you Olosho.

I don't subscribe to sex on the first date or premarital sex at all.

It is not a solid foundation for a relationship.

OP, as old you as are, I expect you to understand something about life.

And that is the fact that, there are times when a person will go through a wrong path, but due to some circumstances, he will still end up in a right place - AND - the fact that he ends up in a right place doesn't necessarily justify the wrong path through which he went.

There are women out there who could have met their husbands through prostitution. They were prostitutes, giving out their bodies for money. One day, they find a "client" who after sleeping with them, falls in love with them and marries them. They got the love of their lives and settled down through prostitution.

Does that now necessarily mean that prostitution isn't a bad thing?

There are people out there with good degrees. They used that degree to get good jobs. They used those jobs to gain money, cater for their family and help the needy. All of these wonderful developments stemmed from those degrees that they have.

But they actually got those degrees by cheating in school!!!!

So does the fact that the story ended well for them necessarily justify cheating in school?

You see?!!

Such is life!

The end of a journey doesn't necessarily justify how the journey began. A person could start something wrongly but some circumstances will bring him to a fruitful end.

So the fact that, what happened to you that night with your woman ended up in marriage doesn't necessarily mean that your woman didn't give herself away so cheaply or serve as a credible counter-point to the point of those who say so.

Such is life! The end doesn't always justify the means.

All what I've said is according to my very tiny knowledge sha.

Zip up is the best solution.

Like if you agree, dislike if you don't agree.

Say no to premarital sex.

Romanoff:
Imagine if you go for 20 dates and have sex with all of them on the first date.

One guy will now ask you your body count, if you tell him the truth, he'll call you Olosho.

I don't subscribe to sex on the first date or premarital sex at all.

It is not a solid foundation for a relationship.

Romanoff:
Imagine if you go for 20 dates and have sex with all of them on the first date.

One guy will now ask you your body count, if you tell him the truth, he'll call you Olosho.

I don't subscribe to sex on the first date or premarital sex at all.

It is not a solid foundation for a relationship.

Why would you think of going for 20 dates in the first place. That means your eyes are with 20 different people probably to know who is real. I think you are only suppose to go on a date with someone you already want to give your attention and build something with. So giving 20 people such attention in the name of searching for which one will favour you is very wrong and not a good foundation.

Romanoff:
Imagine if you go for 20 dates and have sex with all of them on the first date.

One guy will now ask you your body count, if you tell him the truth, he'll call you Olosho.

I don't subscribe to sex on the first date or premarital sex at all.

It is not a solid foundation for a relationship.

Did you marry as a virgin?

E nor mean ... But there is difference between sex and making love.

If you have sex on the first date .. well nah you sabi.

But you can make love on the first date. And pray you don't go back home with shit you will be needing medications for.wink.

NickNyce:


Why would you think of going for 20 dates in the first place. That means your eyes are with 20 different people probably to know who is real. I think you are only suppose to go on a date with someone you already want to give your attention and build something with. So giving 20 people such attention in the name of searching for which one will favour you is very wrong and not a good foundation.

The 20 dates can be at different times in your life. Movie dates, strolls, hikes, swimming, etc.

Tales by moonlight. Believe this tall tale at your own risk. The curse, n witch that will play ping pong with someone ....

Kriss216:

Did you marry as a virgin?

That is not your business.

To the ladies out there who have lost their virginity to premarital sex, it is not enough reason to continue in fornication.


You can still ask God for mercy and stay away from it, the man God has for you will wait cause he Loves God and knows it's the right thing to do.

Shalom.

Franzinni:
E nor mean ... But there is difference between sex and making love.

If you have sex on the first date .. well nah you sabi.

But you can make love on the first date. And pray you don't go back home with shit you will be needing medications for.wink.

You are right. There is a big difference between sex and making love which is why I used the phrase "made love".
Having sex is not from the heart and it's just like having fun for whatever reason. Making love comes from the heart and it's more like you want to adore the person for who they are.

Romanoff:


The 20 dates can be at different times in your life. Movie dates, strolls, hikes, swimming, etc.

Whoever you go on a date with is probably someone you want to build something with so it will definitely take time to do that. Making love on a first date should only be with someone you have already placed in your heart you want to be with and build a good relationship with. Then if you try your best to build it and it doesn't work you can move on and that doesn't make you cheap or anything. It only shows you tried finding love in the wrong place. Love is built gradually whether with sex or not.

Romanoff:


That is not your business.

To the ladies out there who have lost their virginity to premarital sex, it is not enough reason to continue in fornication.


You can still ask God for mercy and stay away from it, the man God has for you will wait cause he Loves God and knows it's the right thing to do.

Shalom.

I want to believe this advice is not for Nigerian girls.

A closed leg will bring hunger and starvation.


Shalom.

Romanoff:


That is not your business.

To the ladies out there who have lost their virginity to premarital sex, it is not enough reason to continue in fornication.


You can still ask God for mercy and stay away from it, the man God has for you will wait cause he Loves God and knows it's the right thing to do.

Shalom.

Some men can marry a virgin and that marriage will not still last dear. At the end if the marriage crash will she not still remarry as a non virgin and that marriage could probably last.

NickNyce:


You are right. There is a big difference between sex and making love which is why I used the phrase "made love".
Having sex is not from the heart and it's just like having fun for whatever reason. Making love comes from the heart and it's more like you want to adore the person for who they are.

on point like full stop.

blackboy:
Tales by moonlight. Believe this tall tale at your own risk. The curse, n witch that will play ping pong with someone ....

Meaning you haven't known much about life and relationship.

Well said

DDDEnterprises:
OP, as old you as are, I expect you to understand something about life.

And that is the fact that, there are times when a person will go through a wrong path, but due to some circumstances, he will still end up in a right place - AND - the fact that he ends up in a right place doesn't necessarily justify the wrong path through which he went.

There are women out there who could have met their husbands through prostitution. They were prostitutes, giving out their bodies for money. One day, they find a "client" who after sleeping with them, falls in love with them and marries them. They got the love of their lives and settled down through prostitution.

Does that now necessarily mean that prostitution isn't a bad thing?

There are people out there with good degrees. They used that degree to get good jobs. They used those jobs to gain money, cater for their family and help the needy. All of these wonderful developments stemmed from those degrees that they have.

But they actually got those degrees by cheating in school!!!!

So does the fact that the story ended well for them necessarily justify cheating in school?

You see?!!

Such is life!

The end of a journey doesn't necessarily justify how the journey began. A person could start something wrongly but some circumstances will bring him to a fruitful end.

So the fact that, what happened to you that night with your woman ended up in marriage doesn't necessarily mean that your woman didn't give herself away so cheaply or serve as a credible counter-point to the point of those who say so.

Such is life! The end doesn't always justify the means.

All what I've said is according to my very tiny knowledge sha.

Narnah:
Well said

Your quoted message is well stated.

There is really no manual to live life, just be yourself don't imitate.

Kriss216:

I want to believe this advice is not for Nigerian girls.

A closed leg will bring hunger and starvation.


Shalom.

L L

Kriss216:

I want to believe this advice is not for Nigerian girls.

A closed leg will bring hunger and starvation.


Shalom.

That will make them work hard.

NickNyce:


Some men can marry a virgin and that marriage will not still last dear. At the end if the marriage crash will she not still remarry as a non virgin and that marriage could probably last.

A marriage whose foundation is built on God and not fornication will withstand any storm, virgin or not.

Shalom.

Romanoff:


A marriage whose foundation is built on God and not fornication will withstand any storm, virgin or not.

Shalom.

God will not come from heaven to help you build it. A marriage built with a good heart, trust and understanding matters alot.
The Bible says "he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God".
From this you already know God has given man the chance to find a wife for himself regardless of how he finds his wife. After finding that wife then man needs to seek the face of God to obtain favour from God because he has put it in his mind that this is the woman he found as a wife and wants to spend the rest of his life wife.

NickNyce:


God will not come from heaven to help you build it. A marriage built with a good heart, trust and understanding matters alot.
The Bible says "he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God".
From this you already know God has given man the chance to find a wife for himself regardless of how he finds his wife. After finding that wife then man needs to seek the face of God to obtain favour from God because he has put it in his mind that this is the woman he found as a wife and wants to spend the rest of his life wife.

God intended for sex to be between a man and his wife.

Not a man and woman sampling randomly till they get married.

We are to be undefiled before we get married.

Don't twist the word of God abeg.

Romanoff:


God intended for sex to be between a man and his wife.

Not a man and woman sampling randomly till they get married.

We are to be undefiled before we get married.

Don't twist the word of God abeg.

You seem to young to understand the Bible. God didn't intend sex to be for man and his wife but for a man and a woman who he made to be a man's helper. That was before it became marriage.
Joseph had a girlfriend named Mary and it was his choice to keep her a virgin till they got married but then she got pregnant. If you study the Bible well you will see that Mary was not the only virgin per say and there were other ladies who had boyfriends like Mary and was having sex already and even bearing children for their boyfriends before they married them. Mary was chosen for a purpose not because keeping her virginity was the main point but because of her personality and believe in God. The Bible makes you understand that the moment you are born, you are already born into sin so it is your responsibility to identify sin and flee from it but many of us fail to understand what sin really is especially when it comes to relationships and sex.