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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Calitoscassius(m): 1:55pm On Jun 09, 2021
debbydams:
your signature says it all
Yes! grin lick my bum!

Anything else reasonable you would like to add? tongue
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Magnoliaa(f): 2:03pm On Jun 09, 2021
Cannicus:


Doesn't have to be monetary all the time.

Could be time, money or effort.

The greater the battle, the sweeter the victory.

For some at least.

This is in no way has any bearing on the act itself. You might spend a lot (of time, money or effort), and still find the sex unfulfilling at the end of the day.

But the fact that it took scaling several hurdles to clinch it can rank the trophy (the girl, not her vjay) higher up in your list of conquests.

Remember, males are hunters by nature.

Ehenn? cheesy

pocohantas:


Lol. This makes sense. I hope my fellow sisters are reading. They like when you suffer them.

I am taking notes oh. But these male genders can be... what I don't know. Shey they will still tell us they will move on fast, or will drift to another lady as per no time to check time, women are plenty and men are the prize. So if I'm getting that brotha right, we have to form now without forming? Be on the left track while going on the right track? We might eventually give it up but not initially? Torh. Just enough to keep them hanging around. O da na.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by AnanseK(m): 2:25pm On Jun 09, 2021
Kalapizim:
My girlfriend and I hardly see because of work for both of us so she comes over on Thursdays till Saturdays.
This arrangement works fine for us.

Same thing bros, it is not marriage
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Rossy12(f): 2:42pm On Jun 09, 2021
Bitter truth!
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Urchmantete: 2:43pm On Jun 09, 2021
Please note: All ladies want to belong somewhere.
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by AuroraB(f): 3:07pm On Jun 09, 2021
debbydams:
lol u are right but nothing can keep a man that want to cheat o,
I came to visit my friend, she is so nice nd her bf use to cal her every seconds, video calls nd all that..I'm not jealous tho because I know men are scum..so yesterday her bf came to take us out because she has bn sick, we came back late nd he decided to sleep over.
I was playing with my phone while she's trying to cook for him can u imagine this guy Is asking me out telling me he will give me everything I want I left the room it was when my friend came in before I could sleep in peace..this a guy that showed my friend love nd my friend can vouch her kidney for this guy oo..I now believe that men are scum..the worst part is the guy promised her marriage,,he has even introduced her..men men chai
Chai
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by streamsofjoy(f): 3:31pm On Jun 09, 2021
PeaceJoyLove:
Poverty is the reason topics like this come up. Poverty is why a woman chooses to live with a man.

Na u nail am pass!
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by djon78(m): 3:31pm On Jun 09, 2021
RodeDindu:
At the end, most end in tears.
We are just battling with a case of a Security boy, co-habiting with a Delta state girl.
Third child birth, the girl gave up the ghost.
No drink , no dowry paid on top the girl's head.
She is in the morgue as we talk now.
The frustrated boy has been told to come and marry the corpse with a date ultimatum.

They will not hear, they will not listen to advice. They will keep falling victims of circumstances.
Life is all about planning


That's how the story always ends
At least I know of several cases like that

A Yoruba guy cohabited with a Calabar girl, they had two kids, the third one the Lady does
What that dude went through
He married that Lady before her burial
It was horrific

Another one same cohabitation
The Lady got pregnant with twins
She died during delivery
The girl family launched out a man hunt for the guy
They even went fetish
Guy later died too

All these happened in Abuja

Cohabitation is bad
If you want to live together
Go and do the needful legally

It never ends well

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Nobody: 4:26pm On Jun 09, 2021
donogaga:
When single ladies choose to cohabit with men, yielding to free sexual servicing, domestic chores and the likes, what exactly goes through their minds?

This is love?
This will make him marry me?
I am married and this is my duty?
This is what it takes to hold a man?

Which?

More importantly, why is it difficult for women to see this at this point.
Chances are many are reading this now telling themselves "no, this is not me. My own case is different. We are in love."

Okay then. Love.

What is love? What to you is love?

We cannot understand, you think.

Welcome to the journeys that led to the pregnancies that led to undesired marriages that became toxic and ended up in very hurtful divorces having one person bearing almost all the physical, financial and social cost of it as a single parent.

Welcome to the realities many of us currently live but then, maybe we don't understand.

If he truly loves you, he'd do the needful and marry you right. Don't be mistaken. When the right one comes along, he'd do away with all the excuses he's giving you and marry her. Unfortunately, many learnt this lesson the hard way.

The choice is yours.



https://www.facebook.com/100047151253398/posts/322131562701883/

Those will ears will hear those without will Chioma.
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by nextstep(m): 4:36pm On Jun 09, 2021
donogaga:
When single ladies choose to cohabit with men, yielding to free sexual servicing, domestic chores and the likes, what exactly goes through their minds?

Did I just see "free"? 99% of the time she's exchanging these services for staying someplace without paying rent, or light or gas, or feeding. All these are provided by the guy.

If I hear angry
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by toyinakin(f): 4:58pm On Jun 09, 2021
Vision101:
@Kalapizim
My girlfriend and I hardly see because of work for both of us so she comes over on Thursdays till Saturdays.

This arrangement works fine for us




@me
What do you usually do when she comes?

Lolx dey do praise and worship

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Gfskw: 5:09pm On Jun 09, 2021
Your choice
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Cannicus: 5:11pm On Jun 09, 2021
Magnoliaa:


Ehenn? cheesy



I am taking notes oh. But these male genders can be... what I don't know. Shey they will still tell us they will move on fast, or will drift to another lady as per no time to check time, women are plenty and men are the prize. So if I'm getting that brotha right, we have to form now without forming? Be on the left track while going on the right track? We might eventually give it up but not initially? Torh. Just enough to keep them hanging around. O da na.

pocohantas:


Lol. This makes sense. I hope my fellow sisters are reading. They like when you suffer them.

Lol! Not really.

Not everyone likes it or has the patience.

However, in cases where it plays out that way, that conquest is not easily forgotten.

For good or bad.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Magnoliaa(f): 5:26pm On Jun 09, 2021
Cannicus:




Lol! Not really.

Not everyone likes it or has the patience.

However, in cases where it plays out that way, that conquest is not easily forgotten.

For good or bad.

See, no worry. We get. Or me at least, I understand. I get it even to the point you made no mention of. I know it's "not really like that." It's not here nor there. Neither this not that. Not yes or no. Not for everybody, sometimes, some ways... in short, na to become contortionist for inside relationships now or when dealing with your gender like these people below.

I completely grab what you're saying! Thank you for the tips, ehear? cheesy I picked things from your response.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by DrayZee: 5:38pm On Jun 09, 2021
pocohantas:


Lol. This makes sense. I hope my fellow sisters are reading. They like when you suffer them.
Yes. He obviously represents all the men on earth.
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Cannicus: 5:55pm On Jun 09, 2021
Magnoliaa:


See, no worry. We get. Or me at least, I understand. I get it even to the point you made no mention of. I know it's "not really like that." It's not here nor there. Neither this not that. Not yes or no. Not for everybody, sometimes, some ways... in short, na to become contortionist for inside relationships now or when dealing with your gender like these people below.

I completely grab what you're saying! Thank you for the tips, ehear? cheesy I picked things from your response.


grin grin grin
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Nobody: 6:06pm On Jun 09, 2021
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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by sirjamesjnr(m): 6:18pm On Jun 09, 2021
pocohantas:
What exactly is free sex?

I keep seeing men use that word.

Either they say sex is free or they say she is cheap and can be fcked with ordinary indomie.

Does it mean subconsciously, men love to place high value on the pussy? Like they would rather pay a lot for it?
. The op mentioned it and it is very disgusting. Women are not object of pleasure that you pay as you go.
Two grown adults can decide to live together and chart the course of their lives, nothing bad in it.If there are boundaries and respect.it even cut costs, I think it's common sense arrangement but I don't encourage it because of see me finish from some irresponsible men.
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Magnoliaa(f): 6:25pm On Jun 09, 2021
DrayZee:

Yes. He obviously represents all the men on earth.

You could have simply shared your own view or answered her question, na. Hian. And that view is NOT peculiar to that guy alone. Maybe there's a place where you commented on or spoke about the "free sex" idea, tag me to it. I'm a very diligent student and I like to learn. Tanks.
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by larryking540: 6:43pm On Jun 09, 2021
PeaceJoyLove:
Poverty is the reason topics like this come up. Poverty is why a woman chooses to live with a man.
it's called getting to know ,this is how most people marry the wrong person ,so u day wait till honeymoon before you spend the night with him ?
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by larryking540: 6:50pm On Jun 09, 2021
hush15:


In life, nobody wants to be lonely or alone, male or female. It's just that many haven't realized the with great sense of belonging just like power, comes with
great responsibility, be it male or female too.

There is nothing wrong in companionship, but you must be also be ready to take on responsibilities responsibly
loneliness is a term most people fail to know untill 30years+ or 40years + and many times we start wishing we had given a trial of those things we did do , Bec last last we all want to avoid the life of loneliness
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by larryking540: 6:52pm On Jun 09, 2021
hush15:


In life, nobody wants to be lonely or alone, male or female. It's just that many haven't realized the with great sense of belonging just like power, comes with
great responsibility, be it male or female too.

There is nothing wrong in companionship, but you must be also be ready to take on responsibilities responsibly
loneliness is a term most people fail to know untill 30years+ or 40years + and many times we start wishing we had given a trial of those things we did do , Bec last last we all want to avoid the life of loneliness
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by larryking540: 6:55pm On Jun 09, 2021
djon78:



That's how the story always ends
At least I know of several cases like that

A Yoruba guy cohabited with a Calabar girl, they had two kids, the third one the Lady does
What that dude went through
He married that Lady before her burial
It was horrific

Another one same cohabitation
The Lady got pregnant with twins
She died during delivery
The girl family launched out a man hunt for the guy
They even went fetish
Guy later died too

All these happened in Abuja

Cohabitation is bad
If you want to live together
Go and do the needful legally

It never ends well

it's best the girl parent be aware their daughter most times comes over to your place ,it is not bad ,cohibiting is not bad ,
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by DrayZee: 9:33pm On Jun 09, 2021
Magnoliaa:


You could have simply shared your own view or answered her question, na. Hian. And that view is NOT peculiar to that guy alone. Maybe there's a place where you commented on or spoke about the "free sex" idea, tag me to it. I'm a very diligent student and I like to learn. Tanks.
“Not peculiar to that guy alone” =/= All the men on earth.
I’ve also heard that POV from guys who go further to say they dump such women once they get what they want, because interest is gone.
Yet that is the one view she deemed fit to broadcast as the way forward for womenfolk.

As for the “free sex” ideology, I’m quite sure women use that term much more than men. It’s also well known that women in general see sex as something they give, and men (in general), see it as something they take. Anyone trying to put this “free sex” term on a single gender is just a comedian looking for a joke.
I’d say, if you’re going to follow her advice, at least make sure you keep being “wicked” forever. The guys who don’t have time for such frivolities will move onward, and those who love the “chase” will always be around you.
Win-win.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by ImaIma1(f): 9:50pm On Jun 09, 2021
I never liked the idea because I don't like see finish. Some even did it right from university. I don't think it's a wise thing to do.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by TwoTalk(m): 11:23pm On Jun 09, 2021
Marriage is to a woman what money is to a man. Women feel Insecure and incomplete without marriage, hence the craze to settle down by any means possibly.
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Magnoliaa(f): 11:30pm On Jun 09, 2021
DrayZee:

“Not peculiar to that guy alone” =/= All the men on earth.
I’ve also heard that POV from guys who go further to say they dump such women once they get what they want, because interest is gone.
Yet that is the one view she deemed fit to broadcast as the way forward for womenfolk.

As for the “free sex” ideology, I’m quite sure women use that term much more than men. It’s also well known that women in general see sex as something they give, and men (in general), see it as something they take. Anyone trying to put this “free sex” term on a single gender is just a comedian looking for a joke.
I’d say, if you’re going to follow her advice, at least make sure you keep being “wicked” forever. The guys who don’t have time for such frivolities will move onward, and those who love the “chase” will always be around you.
Win-win.

Leemaoo. This one seems personal and bigger than my small head. I leave am for God's and the ancestors' hands.

Daalu. grin grin grin
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Nobody: 12:28am On Jun 10, 2021
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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Fiscus105(m): 5:04am On Jun 10, 2021
debbydams:
lol u are right but nothing can keep a man that want to cheat o,
I came to visit my friend, she is so nice nd her bf use to cal her every seconds, video calls nd all that..I'm not jealous tho because I know men are scum..so yesterday her bf came to take us out because she has bn sick, we came back late nd he decided to sleep over.
I was playing with my phone while she's trying to cook for him can u imagine this guy Is asking me out telling me he will give me everything I want I left the room it was when my friend came in before I could sleep in peace..this a guy that showed my friend love nd my friend can vouch her kidney for this guy oo..I now believe that men are scum..the worst part is the guy promised her marriage,,he has even introduced her..men men chai


Learn how not to too close with a friend in her husband/guy house.

The beast wanted to take advantage of you, believing you melt already for all caring you see from him to ur friend.

So many guys enter pants of female friends of their gf/wife if they caring and rich
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by DrayZee: 5:34am On Jun 10, 2021
Magnoliaa:


Leemaoo. This one seems personal and bigger than my small head. I leave am for God's and the ancestors' hands.

Daalu. grin grin grin
You should’ve done this when you saw my first comment. Asked for my view, now you’re telling me it’s personal sad
Then again, I don’t think you’re stupid. You know fully well everything I’ve typed. You’re just here to blame only men, like the other one.
Goodluck in your endeavors.
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by kriss27(m): 10:07am On Jun 10, 2021
debbydams:
lol u are right but nothing can keep a man that want to cheat o,
I came to visit my friend, she is so nice nd her bf use to cal her every seconds, video calls nd all that..I'm not jealous tho because I know men are scum..so yesterday her bf came to take us out because she has bn sick, we came back late nd he decided to sleep over.
I was playing with my phone while she's trying to cook for him can u imagine this guy Is asking me out telling me he will give me everything I want I left the room it was when my friend came in before I could sleep in peace..this a guy that showed my friend love nd my friend can vouch her kidney for this guy oo..I now believe that men are scum..the worst part is the guy promised her marriage,,he has even introduced her..men men chai
Asking you out like he wants to have a fling with you? Or that’s he loves you? I don’t think I will like any of my girlfriend’s friend or sister around me. Don’t want no extra financial burden!

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