southniyikaye:
It was hard letting go the feelings I have for my wife...
Now that have gotten over her, I now hate women extremely to the extent to hold simple conversations with them is now hard..
She has made me a cold blodded hater of the female gender...
This is not a part I wish to tow in my life but the more I try to change into who I was before, the more I hate them so I have decided to steer clear anything relationship for now till I am back to my normal self..

If you are good to them, they tag you as a weakling..
If you are hostile to them which wasn't my default, they tag you aggressive..

To maintain your sanity, deal with them with your brain at alert

tydi:

What should had made me more happier??
Remember I said exxxxxx

SoftP:
Dude, kindly change the headline;

How to get over ur Baby mama or girlfriend’s trauma Not wife,
Whatever u wrote up there is for real Men, not small boys with teddy brains

Presently u’ve no moral right to question her fidelity, besides u didn’t met her a virgin’
I’m sure she was only considering ur emotions, the reason she lied to you initially.

You’ve had a kid with her for 3years and she didn’t dump u to forge ahead!
& her mum is still calm enough to pamper ur feelings,
O boy u get mind.

I guess U’re just fetching reasons to dump her; u need serious flogging

southniyikaye:
It was hard letting go the feelings I have for my wife...
Now that have gotten over her, I now hate women extremely to the extent to hold simple conversations with them is now hard..
She has made me a cold blodded hater of the female gender...
This is not a part I wish to tow in my life but the more I try to change into who I was before, the more I hate them so I have decided to steer clear anything relationship for now till I am back to my normal self..

If you are good to them, they tag you as a weakling..
If you are hostile to them which wasn't my default, they tag you aggressive..

To maintain your sanity, deal with them with your brain at alert

southniyikaye:
It was hard letting go the feelings I have for my wife...
Now that have gotten over her, I now hate women extremely to the extent to hold simple conversations with them is now hard..
She has made me a cold blodded hater of the female gender...
This is not a part I wish to tow in my life but the more I try to change into who I was before, the more I hate them so I have decided to steer clear anything relationship for now till I am back to my normal self..

If you are good to them, they tag you as a weakling..
If you are hostile to them which wasn't my default, they tag you aggressive..

To maintain your sanity, deal with them with your brain at alert

GeneralPula:
Seems you’ve mistakenly got married to a Hoe, the sad thing for you is that hoes don’t retire..

This is what you get when you form a mature boyfriend by not running the necessary checks on your woman..

My advice is toxic. Don’t let me give it..

Casham:
I always bragged about how I can't bear to even touch a lady that's been bedded by another man. But recently, shawty just told me about a man she dated not more than three years ago(we actually saw him passing by) who was twice her age at the time and married. She was eighteen then. Ok I was/am so heartbroken about it and I just withdrew myself from her. But, instead of hating her for that (I am dissappointed), I hated the man. Why would you just sleep with a girl that you know will be someone's joy some day? So you see, it is a Human problem not limited to one gender. Humans are weaklings when it comes to sexual purity. Even as a man, I wish never to have more than five body counts. But just put it in your mind that "every lady is DEFINITELY getting cocked by someone. The next lady you will meet is probably having an orgy with two married men right now. Nobody is a saint; the world don rotty already. With my shawty, there's nothing to forgive; she's still my joy. I understand how you feel, but this is life.

Bola146:


Of three years of relationship with a child Your foundation is so faulty!!! You took who? And her parents accepted? That is Iyawo saara You too get some faults please.

frozen70:


You are the one hurting yourself not her

Some thing she did long ago before meeting you and you are still casting back over it

How are you sure she doesn't have any secret lover especially now that you have not married her

Every one has a past just move on

If you are not convinced of her, then let her go dont marry her

anthonyuncle:
get a side chick

DissTroy:


Not everyone wants to be with a woman who has a very promiscuous past, or didn't respect the institution of marriage enough not to date married men. A woman who doesn't respect it enough to draw that line has no qualms cheating when married.

Most of the married woman cheating slept with married men as singles. The have a warped way of justifying the adultery.

Stop gaslighting men into accepting and dating/marrying damaged women. You wouldn't be with a damaged man yourself if you have better options.

SoftP:
Dude, kindly change the headline;

How to get over ur Baby mama or girlfriend’s trauma Not wife,
Whatever u wrote up there is for real Men, not small boys with teddy brains

Presently u’ve no moral right to question her fidelity, besides u didn’t met her a virgin’
I’m sure she was only considering ur emotions, the reason she lied to you initially.

You’ve had a kid with her for 3years and she didn’t dump u to forge ahead!
& her mum is still calm enough to pamper ur feelings,
O boy u get mind.

I guess U’re just fetching reasons to dump her; u need serious flogging

TheUndercover:
The fact that you asked her about it and she denied is a slap to your face. She's waving a big red flag right in front of you. The real paternity of the kid is to be questioned. Another reason to marry a known virgin. Thread carefully.

TWLifestyle:
you have serious problems- only a man can be so silly and egotistic ! Cos of one woman u hate all women - it's the disregard for women that they raise you people with that is making u misyarn . Are you the first person who had a bad relationship ? Better dust ur self up and stop behaving like a child .

baralatie:

you are seriously doing yourself

baralatie:

So the op that says he believes in the institution of marriage is considered to have fulfilled all duties by getting the woman pregnant with a kid outside marriage?

sircrabo:
Everyone has a past, there is no need to dig into people's past to judge them. Most of the Pastors we see today, if they tell you about their pasts, you will Marvell. Some were cultists, murderers, rapists.....

What about you, did you marry as a virgin ? If most married women tell their husbands what they did when they were single, their husbands will regret getting married to them. Judge people from the time you met them, that's what I believe.

Remember things you did in secondary school, university..... I know men can be jealous. the thought of seeing your wife or GF under a man moaning is enough to make one lose trust; even if it happened before they married. My pastor's wife used to tell us about the life she lived before meeting Christ and getting married to a pastor. She wouldn't say everything, but some of us can imagine the extent she had gone.

Take heart, you are not alone

DissTroy:


Marriages are in different forms, man. The parents or guardian acknowledging their union is valid enough. All they need do is walk into a registry to get a marriage certificate if they need to process documents. Never heard of customary law?

Promising to marry a woman is a good as being engaged to her. Even the Lagos State Government has begun prosecuting men who engage and dump women without just cause.

I don't care how long I've been in a relationship with a female, the moment I discover she's knowingly dated/slept with married men, everything begin to die and would never lead to the alter. If I discover when already marriage, I'd resent her.

By subtle means I've always made this obvious to the women in my life. I also won't be with one who's had to abort for no reason other than medical complications. I've never made any woman abort so I don't deserve to be with any. Just like I've never gotten sexually intimate with a married woman even though I get accosted online and in person daily.

southniyikaye:
am seriously working on myself to become a better person.

Getdabag:
that na complete rubbish u dey tlk so imagine say I be keep mysef till marraige as a man oh ...hustle to be comfortable..while the the future wife dey chop life, chop preek chop ppl money till she jam Christ. na him u wan tlk oldthings are past away? baba e no go fit wrk..I no dey judge o but somthings cant be overlooked..

p.s
I be baller bet I no fit marry woman wey don tear eye reach back never

kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy .

Baiser:

The girl u slept with before you married your wife, no be person go marry am too?


Point is, the only worry you have to worry is the bloody lying....

kenoyad:

And the guy is older, married at the time and a player.

baralatie:

A live in the house boyfriend and girlfriend known in the community does not equate to a legally married couple

DissTroy:


Except you want to argue for the sake of it, the OP clearly stated he had done marriage introduction with his friends and family members (except his parents). At these introductions, there's "breaking of kolanuts" and "uncorking of drinks'. Juxtaposed that with customary marriage. Next find out the legality of customary marriage and statutory marriage.

Tonto Dike and Churchill had customary marriage but they were still referred to as man and wife. If they had to relocate together as a couple, they would have had to do statutory marriage.

Still, I believe what is worth doing is worth doing well.