loteliz:
This is the only person that actually read the post so far. OP is indeed hurting himself.

anthonyuncle:
get a side chick

Orelafintun:
My man, please get it quickly out of you mind and love your wife. You are feeling like that because you know about it. Others outside there might even slept with demons not to talk of older men. Your wife may even be better than others. Therefore, love her the more.[b] In fact, remembering how she was being bleeped might set you on and you then cane her well. [/b]That is jokingly. Pls love her

Laideabdulahi:


Gbam!!!
Op, no need to search for answer.
This is it
Or
F.. k another sweet younger lesss body count babe.

And the equation will be balanced
Infact you will find yourself less worried and. Smiling each time u come home

baralatie:

How is she a terrible person?
When she dated other men before they met?

Baiser:

She dated married men, then lied and when caught she still dey form

kenoyad:

No, I didn't turn up for the traditional introduction cause I only went with my younger brother and three friends to her family house for introduction, I didn't go with my parents and family. Ii just don't want to have kids with multiple women but it's like a sore on my heart.

DissTroy:


Not everyone wants to be with a man who has a very promiscuous past, or didn't respect the institution of marriage enough not to date married women. A man who doesn't respect it enough to draw that line has no qualms cheating when married.

Most of the married men cheating slept with married women as singles. The have a warped way of justifying the adultery.

Stop gaslighting women into accepting and dating/marrying damaged men. You wouldn't be with a damaged man yourself if you have better options.

baralatie:

Explain that part of been caught?
Op never said he caught her with the man?

HigherEd:
What you need is a therapist to help you deal with this.
I can recommend a therapist for you from Medicbird Nigeria. It's just 6000 naira per hour.

baralatie:

I think the op is not revealing much?
I am even wondering how the woman now came out to tell him
Was it as a result of constant pressing on the issue for the 3 years and she finally gave in!
Then the mother pleasing on her behalf means it has become a known issue between the woman,her mom and herself.
Therefore the op has deliberately tampered with the story of what actually happened?

kenoyad:

I didn't alter the story, it's just a summary, psychologically, I saw the guy on her friends list on Facebook and I challenged her then, she denied, I forgot it, then just early this year, i was seeing the guy and we just greets, hey, hey. My mind just started telling me what i felt before about them had flirt together before, what gave me the motive was, the guy na oshomo and my baby mama na flashy, happening sisi then, one morning, we both on the street cause she's travelling and the guy was passing on bike, we greeted and I noticed my woman eyes changed and said who are you calling egbon and the guy also looked back at her. I confronted her that you think I didn't knew you both had had fling in the past, she then admitted, I was mad but kept my cool. I couldn't sleep that night. How her mum knew: since then, I always yab her, insults her and even told her to pack and leave severally but her mama don't want that for her cause she also had kids for two men. She called me one day that she wanted to see me, and I told her but she'd been briefed by her daughter before. She apologised and beg that I should let the matter go off my mind and count it as when she don't know what she's doing.

baralatie:

What was the sole aim of you going about looking for yours woman's past for the past three years!

1: you went on a stranger's phone and pick the man's face and linked it instantly bro your woman

2: you developed familiarity with the man.only for you to fuel your fears

3: you now ended with a near miss between you,the man and your woman

4: at end she told you what you wanted to hear after 3 years.and what did it result into?

5: you are kicking your woman with child out of your house
5b: you are nagging
5c:you are Fighting
5d: you can't sleep
5e:you are still not happy
5f: you are worse off

So my question to you is this? What has the information about your woman past that you have been pursuing for over three years solved

baralatie:

She dated a married man.did tat relationship lead to her getting married to the man in question.did she have a child for the married man.how does a single woman who dated a married man make her a terrible person?

She said in the beginning that they were not dating and you guys say she got caught!
How was she caught because there is no where the op said he caught her cheating with the married man!

Baiser:



You are supporting nonsense.
Dating a married man means you want to destroy a home, unless of course you intend getting married.

Destroying a good thing makes one a terrible person.