I think I got married for the wrong reason, I think I was not even ready for this marriage to begin with. Well you all know my story very well, the up and down and the scandal I have had with this 2years of been married. I’m one person who is very open about my life here and as mush as some many of you are always against me showing and telling so much about my life. I have noticed that we Nigerian are always very secretive and private about things that might be eating us up, be it in our marriage, health and even career. It’s height time we bring this to the table and have this conversation because it’s long overdue.

So I might this cute, rich and loving man who I found out that he was HIV positive, yes!! I was very much open about his health has much has I have protected him I also bring everything to the table so we can also have a conversation. Did I love him at that time?? Did I go through this wedding all before he was super rich? Did I get carried away by the millions he was earning? Honestly. No wanting to sound like a broken record. I feel I was all about the security he was giving me at that time. I feel knowing the fact that I was able to access everything. Vacation trip, and the beauty of having my own family needs taken care of was all the fantasy I was living. I was all about that live and I totally forgot that: I will not go this far just to get this far.

I loved my husband and Heaven know this but there are times when after all the luxury, glamour and money. I still want more, someone I will go out with. Every other day to the gym, someone that will support me emotionally, someone that I will always have conversations with, someone who understands that I really want to be a tv girl and will support me putting everything out there. I was built for the tv live. Last year I got a slot for the BBN like I was given this and my husband had to pull me out. I don’t want this life I want more.

I remember when I met seun, and he said and I quote: you are built for camera and he asked me why have I not pursued that.

I think I have given my all in this marriage and I want a break as much has I love my husband. I WANT ME

Having gone through your write up, I'm constrained to ask you this: how do you cope with your sex life judging from the fact that he is HIV positive?

There is a saying, "you cannot eat your cake and have it". You cannot choose a life of your dreams: vacation trips, meeting your family's needs and in the same breathe speak about wanting a life meant for a TV star. You should have stuck with your dreams and kept your rich husband out.

Godada:





Having gone through your write up, I'm constrained to ask you this: how do you cope with your sex life judging from the fact that you succinctly states that he is HIV positive?


There is a saying, "you cannot eat your cake and have it". You cannot choose a life of your dreams: vacation trips, meeting your family's needs and in the same breathe speak about wanting a life meant for a TV star. You should have stuck with your dreams and kept your rich husband out.

Thanks for this comment, at the time I met my husband he was already zero-negative meaning his virus load was very low. So that was how I was able to walk through this 2years and also staying negative. Thank you

Casalindal:


Thanks for this comment, at the time I met my husband he was already zero-negative meaning his virus load was very low. So that was how I was able to walk through this 2years and also staying negative. Thank you

Yeah. Thanks for the clearing that up.
From what you have said so far, it seems your man doesn't want you to be in the spotlight. Have you discussed this with him?

Godada:





Yeah. Thanks for the clearing that up.
From what you have said so far, it seems your man doesn't want you to be in the spotlight. Have you discussed this with him?

I always bring it on the table. He knows deep down that I was built for the tv. But he doesn’t want any of it. That makes it really sad that nobody is concerned about what the wife wants?? It’s always want the husband want the society is a mess already

Casalindal:


I always bring it on the table. He knows deep down that I was built for the tv. But he doesn’t want any of it. That makes it really sad that nobody is concerned about what the wife wants?? It’s always want the husband want the society is a mess already

Has he given you reasons for his stand on this issue?

Godada:




Has he given you reasons for his stand on this issue?

Yes, some reasonable reasons. But how about what I want? I’m sad to say the least

Woman , you ought to have gone for yourself already .
More reason it is very good to discover yourself first before other things . It helps open ones eyes to things he/she needs to know , do or ought to have done .
More like this discovery now .
Your essence of being ..
Woman , go .......
When a purpose of a thing is not known , misue and abuse is inevitable ....
Now you know !!
Go baby !!!! ......

You this useless Biitch you've come again with your numerous cooked up stories for clout obviously. I doubt if there was any husband but say there was sef then you are nothing but a shameless and Senseless Gold digger. It's now you want all that? It's now you remember your (husband) was HIv positive, it's now you want more abi? To crown it up you posting one Ugly picture to depict what exactly?

You just a bastaard cos which normal thinking person comes to a faceless forum and drops all her family problems there? only a few can read between your shenanigans, kuku come out straight with your bambiala and stop going through corners to do so. No be only BBN, even if your husband was in a cave someone somehow, somewhere must have told him about your stupidity and exposing your family out there but it's crystal clear there's none so just come out straight in what you really want that cutting corners. Eleribu.

TossTos:
Woman , you ought to have gone for yourself already .
More reason it is very good to discover yourself first before other things . It helps open ones eyes to things he/she needs to know , do or ought to have done .
More like this discovery now .
Your essence of being ..
Woman , go .......
When a purpose of a thing is not known , misue and abuse is inevitable ....
Now you know !!

Go baby !!!! ......

Thanks I keep hearing a voice in my head telling me to get up and run..

Miss305:
You this useless Biitch you've come again with your numerous cooked up stories for clout obviously. I doubt if there was any husband but say there was sef then you are nothing but a shameless and Senseless Gold digger. It's now you want all that? It's now you remember your (husband) was HIv positive, it's now you want more abi? To crown it up you posting one Ugly picture to depict what exactly?

You just a bastaard cos which normal thinking person comes to a faceless forum and drops all her family problems there? only a few can read between your shenanigans, kuku come out straight with your bambiala and stop going through corners to do so. No be only BBN, even if your husband was in a cave someone somehow, somewhere must have told him about your stupidity and exposing your family out there but it's crystal clear there's none so just come out straight in what you really want that cutting corners. Eleribu.

I’m not useless, none all those name you just call me. I could understand that you don’t have to agree with my choices and that is fine. Has much has I’m open for love I will not take out criticism. So there are rooms for everyone

Beauty fades.

Makeup finishes.


Filters depreciate.


Live for life.

Casalindal:


Thanks I keep hearing a voice in my head telling me to get up and run..

Woman , get up , run as fast as possible .
It is not too late ...

Pls. Update me when you're free... You could as well need company... Do you have kids?

Attentionbyforce 1 of nairaland...

MajesticKris:
Pls. Update me when you're free... You could as well need company... Do you have kids?

I do have a child �

Bitch have gotten all she wanted, she now seeks true freedom and happiness, you should have worked hard and make the money yourself instead of through someone's else success.

Certified bitch

Do the needful....

Casalindal:


I do have a child �

TossTos:


Woman , get up , run as fast as possible .
It is not too late ...

You are the definition of a useless man. Shame on your stupidity. Useless Simpleton. So your best advice is that a woman who has digged gold from a man going through it all and stolen from him should Run away? Sense is very far from you.

Casalindal!casalindal!!

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Casalindal:
I think I got married for the wrong reason, I think I was not even ready for this marriage to begin with. Well you all know my story very well, the up and down and the scandal I have had with this 2years of been married. I’m one person who is very open about my life here and as mush as some many of you are always against me showing and telling so much about my life. I have noticed that we Nigerian are always very secretive and private about things that might be eating us up, be it in our marriage, health and even career. It’s height time we bring this to the table and have this conversation because it’s long overdue.

So I might this cute, rich and loving man who I found out that he was HIV positive, yes!! I was very much open about his health has much has I have protected him I also bring everything to the table so we can also have a conversation. Did I love him at that time?? Did I go through this wedding all before he was super rich? Did I get carried away by the millions he was earning? Honestly. No wanting to sound like a broken record. I feel I was all about the security he was giving me at that time. I feel knowing the fact that I was able to access everything. Vacation trip, and the beauty of having my own family needs taken care of was all the fantasy I was living. I was all about that live and I totally forgot that: I will not go this far just to get this far.

I loved my husband and Heaven know this but there are times when after all the luxury, glamour and money. I still want more, someone I will go out with. Every other day to the gym, someone that will support me emotionally, someone that I will always have conversations with, someone who understands that I really want to be a tv girl and will support me putting everything out there. I was built for the tv live. Last year I got a slot for the BBN like I was given this and my husband had to pull me out. I don’t want this life I want more.

I remember when I met seun, and he said and I quote: you are built for camera and he asked me why have I not pursued that.

I think I have given my all in this marriage and I want a break as much has I love my husband. I WANT ME

gold digger, stay in the marriage

obinna58:

Bitch have gotten all she wanted, she now seeks true freedom and happiness, you should have worked hard and make the money yourself instead of through someone's else success.

Certified bitch

I will pay a blind eyes to Thisbe comment simply because you don’t know me and my hustle. So will just allow you stay ignorant

josh123:
gold digger, stay in the marriage

I feel the right word is goal getter

donbachi:
Casalindal!casalindal!!

donbachi!!

Miss305:


You are the definition of a useless man. Shame on your stupidity. Useless Simpleton. So your best advice is that a woman who has digged gold from a man going through it all and stolen from him should Run away? Sense is very far from you.

Throwing insults to someone who you basically don’t know only point you in a darker light. How do you comfortable insult someone just because he/she is not on your same page? Like how do you guys do this things. I can imagine the need to criticize me here, but why reduce yourself to this on a platform that clearly doesn’t care about your opinion. This is really sad to say the least.

we african are always fast to draw conclusion to a story ,and forget the lessons involved ,

her story's are not new in town ,we pray we meet those who express their self why they left their marriage ,...why am I saying this ,i basically know of a woman ,not them say ,them say ,I know her personal ,her story is almost similar to the op story but abusiveness was also part of it ,and her candid advice when i ask her for one for ladies even to her fellow younger sister is never rush into the arms of a man Bec he is financially stable , (which was wat she did at a very young age )the marriage don end ,,,with 4 kids all with the man .


let the young ladies finish her story ,even if it's fake or original pick something out of it

Our Madam don use guy man achieve her dream fantasy, she now looking for how to break him..lol..These people no dey ever disappoint...She even geh mind say she loved him..Choi..lol.
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.Now she's gotten another achievement using him to get TV slot....it's nothing new..don't beat ursef...we know u are gonno leave him soon under the pretext of any fussy excuse that appeals to ur fancy....Sha let us rest and go and enjoy ur next chapter of diick riding fantasy.....
Pele. One day, men will be wise enough to screen well enough before marriage, so that they can Dodge opportunistic hypergamous disaster like this. Hmmm Enjoy ya BBN path to fame and elite dickson

But on a serious note, how do you enjoy telling this story over and over again? Loneliness I guess.

mabea:
But on a serious note, how do you enjoy telling this story over and over again? Loneliness I guess.

How do you except I get tired telling my story? Make it, make sense

FreeSpirited:
Our Madam don use guy man achieve her dream fantasy, she now looking for how to break him..lol..These people no dey ever disappoint...She even geh mind say she loved him..Choi..lol.
.
.Now she's gotten another achievement using him to get TV slot....it's nothing new..don't beat ursef...we know u are gonno leave him soon under the pretext of any fussy excuse that appeals to ur fancy....Sha let us rest and go and enjoy ur next chapter of diick riding fantasy.....
Pele. One day, men will be wise enough to screen well enough before marriage, so that they can Dodge opportunistic hypergamous disaster like this. Hmmm Enjoy ya BBN path to fame and elite dickson

On a different notion I never used my husband. I just want him to be happy, I want him to be with someone who support his decision. I am not that person but I will always love him always