lilvicky68:
Maybe she went to do send forth..

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Edusouls:
So he should go on and marry ashawo without senses, at 33 to 35 God gave her a second chance to marry at the last minute, still her stupidity and wayward behaviour that kept her single and almost approaching menopause still haunts her, no problems make she go marry her ex boyfriend nahh, tufiakwa ufodu umunwayi Ndi nzuzu..

Godbless3:


So his fiancee visit to her ex-boyfriend house and refuse to change number is ok to you?
I always tell my gf, if you're married, don't come to my place because e sure say we go fvck.
Nah so one girl was about to wed and a day to her wedding, she came to my guy who is her ex to fvck last time and thats how my guy run leave house and the girl went home in the morning.
Some Girls gat no brain

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

andronite:

saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

chinchum:


You seem to be projecting your level of "morality" on the average person, which is the first fallacy in your submission. To help you understand your submission, i will use an analogy, if you pick up a misplaced phone on the floor, what are the chances you will return the phone back the owner, now reverse that if you misplace your phone what are the odds the phone will be retrieved. If you will be honest with yourself at least 8 out of 10 times if you misplace your phone in an environment like Nigeria, it is gone for good.

When someone is naive /gullible, it may signify immaturity.

If a lady ready to marry goes to have a hangout in an ex house, the chances that they were entangled in sexual affair is high. you know this if you will be truthful to yourself. It is only fair that most peoples comment will mirror the scenario with the highest possibility.

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Juliearth:





Honestly, you shouldn't have brought this here because some of the "kids" here would give you wrong advise. I am not going to say this because I am a woman, so consider this an objective approach. Was that her first time visiting this ex? Asides this issue has she been showing any bad character? How did her fiance find out? Has he been tailing her? Does he trust her?


I think its possible that she was truly bored, reason why she visited that ex. Some people break up and still maintain the chord of friendship and Okafor's law is an exaggerated patriarchal happenstance. My grouse with her is , she should have informed her fiance before making such a move, but is that a good enough reason to break off an engagement?

What I think he should do is to get the marriage plans on, but in slow motion so they can get to settle this difference and further study themselves.

I wish them all the best!

Yoighaman:


Really? But your comment doesn't make you pass as someone who stays in Nigeria....or perhaps, you are oblivious of what is rife in the Nigerian society....the more reason why you see so many comments which are in tandem, the many, many, many bad girls have given the very, very, very few good ones a bad tag...

od501:


Mumu advice. Oya since e don't red now, who is losing?

Mozegee:
As far I am concine u are not on point here.i hope u know what is marriage.it is different from doing boy friend and girl friend. It is another institution. Let me tell u one thing,as far as the lady in question is still communicating with her ex.she will never be truthful to the guy.if care is not taking she is just accepting the guy to enable her get American citizenship,to enable her elope with her ex. The best thing is for the guy to leave her and look for ex where. U are entering into marriage while communicating with ur ex. Sometimes I see how foolish some girls are.if u are good to ur ex,what is he waiting for to put the ring in ur hand.

Fiscus105:


Inform her fiance that she bored and it's her ex that can wipe out her boredom?

Aunty you are old but reason like kid clown.

You ask urself out of hundreds of females in neighbourhood it's only ex that she can visit to whirl away time?

Fiscus105:


You see some girls are devil incarnate and many of them just marry because of tag....Mrs

Little wonder marriages are falling like pack of cards on hourly basis

Sebgajere:
Ma Dem be dis. So bcoz am meant to forgive I shul see no wrong in someone knacking my wife

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.
He made the right move.What kind of boredom will make a lady recently engaged to visit her ex.Also,why is she refusing to change her phone number?Meaning she will give him problems when married...as she is actually stubborn

What should he do?

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

eazzzy1:
How did he find out she visited her ex?

HRHQueenPhil:
losing? None of them are, God saved them from a disaster

Edusouls:
So he should go on and marry ashawo without senses, at 33 to 35 God gave her a second chance to marry at the last minute, still her stupidity and wayward behaviour that kept her single and almost approaching menopause still haunts her, no problems make she go marry her ex boyfriend nahh, tufiakwa ufodu umunwayi Ndi nzuzu..

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery